We've had several 3somes while the kids lived here. We just made sure they knew we had guests and had to stay 1) with their dad 2) with their friends. They had pretty active teenage social lives anyway, so they weren't home much on weekends and during the summer. We all knew who was where pretty much all the time
My ex hotwife carefully screened our mfm amd mfmf "prospects". We would meet most of them at restaurant bars for drinks . When there was 3 way or 4 way mutual desire and chemistry, we delighted in inviting other couples and men of mutual interest to come to our home and into our marital bed. When we had swinging guests, we would start out on the deck or in the den with drinks and sexy chat. WIth couples, My wife would brazenly strip to her lingerie while seducing the hubby/bf as I less overtly made out with and seduced the wife/gf. Most times it was 4 way bliss which led to the 4 of us into our master bedroom with very few inhibitions. But there were times when other wife/gf became jealous of my wife's bold behavior toward her hubby/bf. This created buzzkilling party-pooping drama and ended the intimate evening. With men as 3some partners, my wife took over the whole show ! I loved it and so did she and he. Because she had coaxed and encouraged me to be intimate with our male guests, I tried it and realized I was bi-comfortable and it only added to the 3some fun and excitement. I became more bi each time. Wife and I reached a point where we both lusted for bi men in 3somes. We still sought true swinging couples, especially bi couples. But they were few and far between. We were more than content to meet mostly bisexual married men and make their fantasies happen and satisfy our sexual appetites.
Thanks Travelers, that is some nice insight.
~Allen
The blogs on another site (similar to forums here) has an option to do a poll, so out of curiosity I posted this marital bed question there. After three days, here are the responses.
Yes we always play on the marital bed. (votes 13)
No, we never bring others to our bed. (votes 1)
It has never come up, but we have no problem with it if it does. (votes 7)
My home has a spare room designated as the “play room”. The bed frame custom made with the idea of playing, set at a height for standing doggy, room for feet to be under the bed, etc. The mattress is perfect firmness for some bedroom gymnastics, outside of missionary and has 2 mattress covers, just in case. In a few instances partners have stayed over and slept in the Master Bed Room in my bed- not marital bed as I’m single.
Mayhem: MP was ranting while making an untrue statement declared as fact.
I thought I was telling them nicely too that they were wrong by saying to keep telling themselves that, then having to explain to an adult after a request of “WTF” I meant. I thought it was obvious.
~Allen
Re: MP and 888 _ There are a lot of factors that come into play. Size and arrangement of the home, as well as the number, age, and how kids were raised. Then there is how loud/quiet the people playing are and how sound proofed the play area is, and timing of play (i.e are kids/other adults in bed for the night). I'd guess that more often than not, the situation with kids/adult parents is going to be more like MP's than 888's, but obviously that won't be the case every time.
Though I think MP was mostly right, I get 888. ShareBBW made a blanket statement in a diiferent thread about how they couldn't understand why everyone didn't like cuckolding. When I explained in (what I thought was) a nice way how that doesn't apply to everyone, they blocked me. Oh well. Neither is something to lose sleep over.
Was thinking of another way to answer the OP's question. The marital bed has no special significance in our house, but the marital partner definietly does ;-)
In fact, if there was something sacred about the marital bed, that may make things hotter for some because many find things considered to be taboo even hotter. Interracial sex is an example of that for some people.
“ I was just asking if it’s common to bring guests home while the kids are there.”
There is not easy and fast common answer because there is more to it. The smart people don’t bring just anyone home and expose their kids to inherent dangers and they sure as hell don’t swing in front of their kids neither, as MP assumes. MP just puts a bad spin on it so it seems like something it isn’t.
We don’t invite just anyone into our home that cannot contain themselves while family is around, so it does help when people know how to read ques and respect when boundaries are established. I imagine it would be disastrous for those that play fast and loose, as some are just there to have mechanical sex and cannot control themselves.
We’ve been to other’s homes and others have been to our home while family is present and we have yet to have issues.
~Allen
We have enjoyed our marital bed for cuckolding many times.
I guess if you’re looking at a 7 bedroom home the kids are hanging in a different wing. We have a decent sized home, 4br 2 1/2 bath, however, we’re still not risking getting caught half naked in the hallway by our adult children. I was just asking if it’s common to bring guests home while the kids are there.
Some of us don’t live in a matchbox for a home and a reality like Musical Pair obviously.
MP blocked me. If his sore ass didn’t ask in such aggression, he wouldn’t have gotten an aggressive answer back. What his holy roller ass believes how others can/can’t have their fun and what is reality are two different things.
Like one answer about different level separation of play area to family, it’s very well a possible in a 7 bedroom home as well, so when someone rants like a little baby about it, it’s funny.
Luvrman seems to have a good working knowledge of the guest room adventures:
https://1drv.ms/u/s!AhOaXF-VbgZsgmkZM1dI6rftTL24
~Allen
I kinda thought MusicalPair was dead on. We don’t host for the same reason, so I gotta ask. Is it common to host in your home while your children are also in the home at the same time?
“ WTF does that mean?”
Musical Pair: It fucking means you’re wrong to assume that others swinging in their marital bed or “basement” are childless. That’s WTF it means.
To also think people would be swinging in front of their children just makes you that much more clueless how to keep your privacy and makes me even wonder how well you can conceal your own mischiefs from your own offspring..
~Allen
We don’t play in our bed.
We have some hotels and out boat.
We have a 19 year old that pops in all the time with friends... so our house is a no go.
Even if not for him, our bed is ours....
I'd say 50 / 50. It depends on the couple. Many Vixen/Stag or Cuckold couples prefer the marital bed as it adds spice to the event.
The more traditional/mainstream LS couples invite me to their guest room for the wife's easy access during the evening while entertaining at their home.
Nope, our bed is for us only. We’ve only broken that rule two or three times.
We use our king bed ... couples, singles, whatever ... its a bed ... it was made to fuck on. Our bedroom is in the basement, 2 floors away from the kids (when they are here, dont have them every night)
Wife & I have used our king bed many times with couples, singles.....It has no sacred meaning other than just being a bed......and a place to fuck on.
@888 "You keep telling yourself that!" WTF does that mean? Yes, we WILL keep telling ourselves that, because we don't bring our swinging playmates home to play in front of our children.
We do not and tell our kids.. we will be busy with friends tonight.. call you in the morning!
You can be envious of our basement guest space but we are also care-givers for my 89 year old mother-in-law. ;-)
We cannot host most of the time and cannot leave her alone for long either - our opportunities are extremely limited. Since we've all lived together we've played about a half dozen times in maybe eighteen months (I'm tossing Mar 2020 thru Mar 2021 out of the equation) and twice we got a motel room. We haven't played since Jan 2020 and have been trying to make scheduling magic happen with several single gentlemen for several months now.
Everyone has obstacles to overcome.
Musical Pair: You just keep telling yourself that.
~Allen
All of those who play at home, or even have a special basement (which sounds wonderful,) you obviously don't have at-home children (even adult children.) When there are other family members in the home, hosting is not an option.
Exactly.. and as a joke we always tell our FWB or whoever.. hey you made the wet spot you sleep in it... just kidding we always change sheets !
While we sometimes played in our master bedroom in the past we now play in our basement guest space - it has a queen size inflatable bed (24" tall).
Both our master bedroom and our main floor guest room have double beds and that just gets a bit crowded for three. ;-)
While traveling we only had one bed in the RV so there was no choice but to play in the marital bed - it was a queen with precious little space around it. On those rare occasion when we've gotten a motel room for playing we've had a king - which almost feels like too much space after years of playing MFM on a double bed.
I understand why some want to reserve the marital bed as their own private retreat but it just has never mattered to us. My biggest concern is which bed has clean sheets on it as a sign of respect for our guest.
