FFM threesome advice

My first ffm was with a hotwife that I was dating. She invited her mature lady friend to share my gorgeous cock.

After I left, the hotwife sent me a nasty txt message that I didn't pay enough attention to her during the ffm threesome...

We have local single ladies contact us in sls. I’m sure most of them are in committed relationships of some sort but they have a single profile and contact us as single women.

We don’t have many rules, if any, but try to avoid an angry SO at our door as best we can. That’s a tough one.

Otherwise, it seems easy if you are each interested. We’ve found not being too thirsty goes a long way.

And entertaining ladies as a third from a couple we’ve been with is an option as well.

Communicate openly with couples in the type of play you are seeking. You may be surprised in finding a couple or two where the wife is open to play without husband present ..... or the husband can just take lots of pics and video of the evening ;)

Fantasy Fem!

#1 item I can’t stand is being called a unicorn. I truly wish this term was not used.

@wercurious...apparently, R&K are prolific blockers.

SINGLADY.. we too have seen the same with single guys and couples who claim wife knows but does not.. many fakes here. But once you find the good ones its well worth it and fun!

I’m the elusive woman: I’ll tell you how it is on my end: barrage of messages. Then they drop off the planet. I wonder if it’s guys. Who knows.

If you’re real, offer to meet locally and publically. See if we click. Take it from there.

I’m frustrated with the picture requests and just chat chat.

I wonder if it’s guys who’s wives aren’t on board. I’ll
Only meet with a couple. No singles.

So thsts how it is on the “unicorn” side LOL.

Oh hell NO.. LOL but a good one!

But.. many others here will

RONKATHY

So if I dress up like a lady, will you dance with me and take me home?

RonKathy said it correctly!!! Make it a fun night for all. Make the other F/Unicorn feel appreciated, respected and excited by the fun and attention. THEN throw open the bedroom door.
My wife plays solo with a guy and has loved the attention of another couple. In our definition we call that being a Unicorn.
We talk to a number of couples whose females play solo and consider themselves to be Unicorns.
With so many women as part of a couple who play solo and are Unicorns we are surprised that RonKathy block couples from contacting them. We wanted to say hello but couldn’t.

<<<<<yaaaawn>>>>>

I’m sorry, what were you talking about? I fell asleep.

~when I was a SF, if you called me a unicorn I’d stab you in the spleen-rabbit~

As someone whose comments regularly exceed Flip's maximum... ;-)

Yeah, that was a lot of words, but I read them all. I think you could skip a lot of that and still be successful if you just focus on this: "Always remember to respect her and treat her like you would your own lady/man."

The people that find it hard to find a single/solo woman to play with are generally looking for an ambulatory sex toy and while that's fine, there's a reason there are escorts, who are paid for being your fantasy object. The rest of us are in it for what is in it for us. Decency, mutual respect, and an understanding that people are valuable pretty much erase the 'omg, it's so hard to find single women' problem.

OMG are you kidding way too many dos and dont.. for us and we do these both ways... for ladies, we find one on SLS invite them to dinner, shower them with real compliments, open the door, dance with her, make it about her.. treat her as someone special..

Then go home and all have fun sex!

Its that easy.. why all these rules// why complicate things.. its sex no ones taking your marriage for GDs sake.. wow!

Pass The Popcorn!

Way too windy

Still too windy. Third part.

Hygiene is imperative. Be sure you and your lady are clean and fresh. You may not know if your unicorn is clean, but if you have any doubts, start off in the shower. That’s always a hot place to begin things, running soapy hands over each others’ bodies…

The other method to find a unicorn is to go to rendezvous, play parties, events, etc. It’s much easier to meet someone there and play with them on the spot. No dinner or drinks beforehand, no awkwardness--just ask if the two of you can touch her and see where things go. We’ve met and played with several women that way.

Also consider another couple with a woman who likes to play more than her man. It’s been discussed elsewhere on forums: “why can’t another cock be in the same room?” Sometimes men just like to watch their lady play with others. We once played with a hot woman while her husband sat in a chair and watched from across the bedroom. There’s a couple we’ve played with twice recently where my wife and I played together, other couple played together and my wife and lady played.

So there is my advice based on my experiences. Others may have different ideas based on their experiences and you should consider them too, but I’m sure that most will agree that the key secret to finding a unicorn is tenacity. Keep trying and don’t give up. Evaluate your listing/bio and modify it based on any feedback you may receive and keep trying!

Best of luck.

Evidently, I got too windy. Here is the second part of my reply:

Finding a Unicorn
I look at some sites like Doublelist under the “Couples for Her” category and laugh when I see things like “Hubby and I want to have a lady over this weekend. Message us.” Yawn. That’s like advertising “car for sale.” You’re competing against hundreds of others for the same few women and you need to stand out by listing something different and sexy that is going to draw their attention. I’ve used the hot and sexy approach with explicit erotica and it’s worked (I’d share some of it here, but a couple of women shot me down labeling it as “poorly written amateur porn”). My strategy might not be for everyone, but it’s worked for me. Regardless, you need to think like a unicorn—what does she want to hear? I can tell you that she probably doesn’t want to hear what she can do for you or what you’re looking for; she wants to hear what the two of you can do for her. Remember, the brain is biggest sex organ and that’s what you need to focus on; how you can attract her to the two of you? I would suggest being honest and describe yourselves and what you’re seeking. Then tell her what the two of you can do for her and how you’ll treat her. How you’ll massage, caress, kiss her body, and make her feel wonderful… Always remember to respect her and treat her like you would your own lady/man.

Hopefully you will have written a few paragraphs and edit for grammar, spelling and flow. Next, search for women in your area that are seeking couples and forward the message to them. Note that some have labeled this technique as “spamming” but I don’t see any difference between sending out one message a day for a hundred days or a hundred messages in one day. Just don’t send unsolicited messages to the same person more than once. I’ve used Doublelist, AFF, SLS and Kasidie and had luck on all four (AFF has become ridiculously expensive, so I dropped them long ago). This type of “cold calling” will likely get you a 3% or less return, so you really need to reach out to many women before you find one that might be interested.

Once you receive an interested reply, the lady should reach out to her. Most unicorns like to communicate with the woman to ensure she exists (some solo guys pretend to be a couple) and that the attached lady is truly interested in a woman and not just doing it for her man. Once you establish communication, you need to make sure both the man and woman are interested in her. Also, it’s best to be prompt with your replies to keep the interest going. E-mailing every other day doesn’t show much interest.

When you do meet up, do so at a public place like a bar or restaurant to get to know each other and make sure you’re still interested. Sometimes people aren’t as they make themselves out to be and/or use outdated photos of themselves. We once met a woman on line and chatted it up a bit. We invited her to our hotel room only to find that she was a nasty tweaker. It was awkward trying to get her to leave.

Be prepared to be ghosted too. On a few occasions, we’re communicating with the lady, all of us seem to be interested and we may even set up a meeting then poof! She disappears. Lots of fakes and flakes out there, so be forewarned.

Oh yes, the elusive unicorn--many a man's fantasy, including mine. It’s hard to land a unicorn, but it can be done. My wife and I have three strikes against us: we’re in our 50’s, we fall into the “few extra pounds” category and we don’t do full swap, just soft swap between the ladies. Despite these setbacks, we have played with several different women in the past couple of years and continue to have the occasional threesome. There are two challenges to overcome and I will address them independently, largely based on my experiences.

Rules.
Long before you reach out to another lady, post a message, etc. you need to think it through. Most men are up for most everything and it's the woman who sets most of the boundaries. Is the lady comfortable enough watch her man have sex with another woman? What are your comfort zones? Is there any act that is not allowed? Are the ladies expected to play together? What about protection? Do you have safe word that can be used should one of you become uncomfortable for any reason? Are you looking for a one time fling (check off your bucket list) or do you want to establish some type of relationship between the three of you?

Here are some of our rules:

My wife has reserved our home as our sanctuary and no other woman is to play there unless there is some type of long established friendship between her and the lady. I am not to penetrate the woman, at least until she’s comfortable with her. I am not allowed in the same room with the lady alone, nor am I permitted to contact her independently. I do the initial contact footwork, but use an e-mail address we both share so she can see our communication. When it comes time to meet, my wife reaches out and takes over as the point of contact.

Unicorns being sought after makes them the ultimate choosers of the swing world. But beyond that, I'd say most unicorn hunters, even if both are cute (which seems to be the case), get a bit of a stigma in swing circles. It's kind of assumed the guy in the relationship is a jealous paranoid type.

So, my advice is go to events and be approachable and chill.

Very good start! Kudos..

See you guys look like FUN and love FL water photo.. One of us also "Dives".. but "both" always go down!

Finally someone who gets it!

You all have gotten a good start on getting the pics updated. Like Molly I still have this feeling that it probably isn't the lady writing the profile. There's just something odd about how some things are said or it could just be the high volume of bogus profiles written like this that has jaded things. It may be better to write things in first person plural so someone may not have the suspicion that you all are a one woman/ man show.

You may also consider meeting couples as well. There may be a few that would willing to give you all the ffm experience while doing a full swap or with just the lady. As mentioned, parties and gatherings are your best bet and where we have connected with fabled unicorns most easily.

Try Bumble

Yes, clubs are a better option than online, but you're also fishing with entirely the wrong bait if your aim is to find a woman for FMF/FFM. Everyone is different, but generally women that are interested in playing with couples are interested in them as couples. You have ten photos of you alone, none of your husband, and a line saying, basically, don't bother asking for more pics. That kind of comprehensive lack of awareness of what a woman would be looking for would lead me to believe a guy set up and was running this profile, potentially without the knowledge of his partner.

I mean, guys like boobs, so women must like them too, right?

The answer is a qualified yes. As in, yes, definitely, but I have my own and photos of other women's boobs are not an attraction if what I'm looking for is a couple. How about some photos of the two of you together, wearing clothing and looking like you're in love? Far more interesting.

That and cleaning up the typos in your profile would help. Also helpful, since a lot of us avoid unicorn hunters like the plague, would be making it clear why you're interested in women only (because it makes a difference if it's for her reasons rather than his).

Clubs are still going to be better though. Look for those that allow single men, particularly if they give single women a price break, because clubs that allow only couples and single women generally have fewer single women in attendance.

Lol, the professional remark was kidding. Its not an ethical option we would ever consider. RonKathy- Thanks for advice on the clubs and such. I will definitely take a look at the ones you mentioned. We will also work on getting some additional pictures which is also good advice.

I know what I seek is apparently very difficult, hence the word "unicorn" . I'm hoping for some advice on things to try, places to look, etc. We've had some intermittent success a few years ago but have had a very very long dry spell. Obviously our location makes it tough but we are willing to travel hours away for the right match. I'm not interested in being with another man so the full swap thing is out and lately, it feels like the only option is to find a professional! Can any couples or even single ladies out there offer any advice on what we can do to "make something happen!". I really love to watch my husband with other women so finding someone who is "bi" is not crucial although I love being with women. I've been searching like crazy lately and figured I would throw out the question to the SLS universe and see what happens. Between covid and our location, I need all the help I can get!