Bi Sexual Men

"Nova, very well said. 90% of the guys that contact me are married and there spouse does not know! "

In other words, they're cheaters.

To answer the OP: because they're dishonest about their sexuality among other things and they find that there are plenty of other bi-men who will accept that, as the last 2 responses indicate.

Nova, very well said. 90% of the guys that contact me are married and there spouse does not know!

The question asks "why don't you want your wife to know?" Who says their wives don't know?

Isn't that special?

Very good question since I am Bisexual and love cock just as much as woman do. Guys do lie I can see since I have blown many that said they were straight!

Welike- to clarify, if the post is signed “rabbit”, it’s the female half posting.

If you “get it” then please explain the purpose and meaning of your mis-quote.

We never used to have anything against bi guys but statements and actions we’ve experienced have caused the few to ruin it for all.

~rabbit~

rabbit... "It never fails. Some mouth breather" ...

I don't think you're bi in a closet... don't believe if you tasted cock you'd like it... understand that you don't like it if someone who is bi doesn't disclose that information before getting together to play. Got it. Everyone gets it. Move on. And please try not to throw a blanket over all bi men and women because a few are dishonest.

that7girl: I think any of those would be game-enders for us. I think that a lot of people think it's ok to try to get by on a little white lie when they should know that they will be found out when you meet. Those sort of violations put people on our no-fly list immediately. It's just our preference, right?

How about these before-and-after violations of honesty or respect -

Always use condom . . . prefer not to really
never play alone . . . well why not
it's 8 inches and thick . . . it's not that big
49 years old . . . 63 actually, but I feel like I'm 49

Del- I’ll bite

1- would I be angry? Not certain. I would be dismayed someone wasn’t honest about their orientation. We’ve had it happen and certainly weren’t happy about it.

2- If he didn’t realize he was bi until after we played I can’t see how I could be angry. He wasn’t dishonest about his orientation at the time.

3-would we play again? In the past, yes. At this time, no. As we’ve said, the rampant belief we see posted in these forums that bi guys think straight guys are only “straight” because they haven’t tried bi has ruined all bi guys for us.

We expect honesty and respect. Lying about your orientation isn’t honest and springing bi play on us during sex is disrespectful.

I’m sure there are bi guys that would respect that Scamp is straight but we no longer have any desire to find out.

~rabbit ~

Three questions:

If you played with a guy and had a great time in a straight MFM or MFFM encounter only to later find out he was actually bi would you be angry at him?

What about if he was straight when you played but then he found out he was bi after experimenting later on. Would you be angry at him then?

Knowing he is bi, would you play with him again since you've already played before and he clearly respects your limits.

That's exactly what choice is all about. What I prefer is what I prefer, what someone else does is their own personal business. Sometimes never the two shall meet.

And there it is....

It never fails. Some mouth breather just HAS to show up, use a quote, which they mis-quote, to try to imply that straight guys are actually bi because they state they have zero desire to try bi play.

This rampant disbelief and lack of respect is exactly why we no longer play with bi-guys.

~rabbit ~

What's the saying? ... Oh yeah... It seems that thou doest protest too much. lol :-D

Current rider- you need to read it again, I was quoting traveler and then responded to him.

My point is that’s have no tolerance for people who are deceptive about sexual orientation or STDs, and that it’s not ok to simply not mention it in the hopes that someone won’t think to directly ask.

@DNLB

"NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER......EVER"

Well, I guess you need to read more profiles. I've seen several that disclose exactly that.
Still have no idea whatsoever what your point is. That not disclosing an STI proactively is the same as affirmatively lying about your orientation?
The real analogy would be of a couple says "D and D free, we test regularly and expect the same" and then, after the fact, disclosing that one or both of you is HSV positive.

So rider..you are str8 as your profile indicates

Travelers: "don't believe they should have to. I'm sure people in this lifestyle have STD's. Lifetime STD's like herpes, HIV, and more. Shit you can't get rid of and some maybe you can. But I have NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER once seen a profile that has that info on it. EVER!!!"

So you're not alone, apparently many here feel like you, revealing your sexual orientation, presences, disease, etc is completely yours to decide,
regardless of the other party.

This is exactly why we decided long ago that we will be extremely disgressionary about who we play with, and disregard anyone who shows the slightest indication that they feel its ok to risk other peoples preferences or health as long as they get laid when they want to. There really should be a warning on some peoples profile.

@openminded. My profile should be open to all. If not please advise. If so, read it.

@billnsuzie. Near Seattle. Very occasionally get ims from illiterate or clueless bi men. In the email years maybe got a total of two or three emails from the same. There seem to be a fair number of openly bi men around here. Doublelist is full of them. I would guess 80% of the couple's looking for males posts on there are seeking bi men. So I suppose it varies by community as well as geographic location.

Lots of posts; lots and lots of words mostly written by straight people. In a nut shell, my opinion is that my (our) orientations, our likes dislikes limits desires etc. are not the business of EVERYONE on SLS. I think we owe that info only to the people we truly intend to interact with and they owe us similar info. A clearly written profile with the wants and desires portion filled in should eliminate most of the unwanted traffic . I have to chuckle at the people who "can't be bothered by all the dozens and dozens of bi men who congest their mail boxes. Where do these people live that there are so many bi people?? I don't like liars any more than anyone else and we have filtered out a few over the years. It just comes with the game we all play.

@DNLB
That was a good question.... And no... I don't believe they should have to. I'm sure people in this lifestyle have STD's. Lifetime STD's like herpes, HIV, and more. Shit you can't get rid of and some maybe you can. But I have NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER once seen a profile that has that info on it. EVER!!!

This goes back to what I keep saying.. When you begin a conversation about meeting and having sex, that is the time for that person to share with you. You now are speaking. You are getting to know them 1 on 1 or 2 on 2 or whatever. You are making plans to actually do things that would bring their status into question. Now at that time, they have a moral and lawful right to tell you the full story.

I'm just simply not a person who believes everything is everyone's business. There's "Hundreds of thousands" of profiles on here. Why do people need to explain to all 100k plus people, instead of just the ones they plan on dealing with?

You keep bringing up being tricked or to get invited.... I'll say again.. Trick me into anything, and we are going to have serious problems. If you sent a couple a message and they replied back "Hey we have HIV just to be fair" Did they lie to you?

I'd just like to thank you all for keeping bi men at the top of your attention

2much: We have conversations. That isn't the point, really, we have conversations whether we meet at a party, at a sanctioned sls event, at the pool at Temptation in Cancun, all the other places we meet couples as well as people we meet that have a profile here where they can (but obviously may not) list their preferences, sexual orientation, age, weight, etc.

We really do have conversations. Seriously. We have texts, telephone calls, emails, we have actually conversed every possible way except signing, which I should learn. That isn't the problem.

Not questioning your preference... it's my preference, too. We've just never had the situation that you describe happen.

We communicate our preferences with potential playmates beforehand and haven't had anyone go beyond them. We don't necessarily post all of our likes and dislikes in our profile, though. Most couples have rules about condoms, about kissing, about anal, etc. that might not be on their profile. That's why communication is the key to success. Same sex contact should be on the list of what you should talk about.

If you met someone at a party or other event but hadn't seen their profile wouldn't you do that? Seems like basic common sense.