Obituaries
Did not know about Ed Shames passing. RIP Easy Company.
delvalleyguy
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How many certs is too many?
This subject has been talked about so many times on SLS just look it up. Actually, in the 3 years of "achieving Single Male success" posts I looked through this is only the second one with "Certs" in the title. The other one asked if peopl…
Long term SLS members, ZERO certs
All of my certs are from people I've played with. Honestly, I wouldn't even think of asking for a cert from anyone I hadn't. I also don't recall reading many certs where the people involved merely met at some point. They all seem to be lin…
Long term SLS members, ZERO certs
Do certs matter more if its a single guy's profile? Asking for a friend, of course ;-)
Coronavirus Covid-19
SumTime4Us: 17,200 EXTRA deaths over last 5 weeks in NYC than last year. What caused them? If you don't have an answer different than COVID19 please for the love of God stop rambling about the NYC number of dead somehow being a conspiracy.
Coronavirus Covid-19
17,200 more people died in NYC from Mar 11th to April 18th this year compared to last year. That is additional deaths. Not total. There is a pandemic going on so my theory is that would be the cause. Is there something I missed that could…
Coronavirus Covid-19
RonKathy: "lung problems are not typical" Probably meant the lung problems are not presenting in a typical way. For example, there are COVID19 patients in the ER with a pulse ox showing their p02 at 50% (normal is over 94%, typically 98%+)…
Coronavirus Covid-19
NYC is at a 298% increase from last year at this time (Mar 11th to April 18th) which is an excess of 17,200 deaths. NYC has reported 13,242 Covid19 deaths in that time. So, there are still 4,000 extra deaths unexplained. They could also be…
Coronavirus Covid-19
Several southern states are re-opening many businesses including heavily populated Georgia and Florida. Depending on how many people venture out, these will be test locations as to how much social interaction society can tolerate without o…
Coronavirus Covid-19
"The Gish Gallop is a technique used during debating that focuses on overwhelming an opponent with as many arguments as possible, without regard for accuracy or strength of the arguments." In this case, giant paragraphs with multiple claim…
Coronavirus Covid-19
I see some good discussion in here about a vaccine for COVID19. While I hope there will be one soon, it's damn hard to pull that off. Typically it takes up to 10 years to develop a new vaccine. There are so many things that have to go righ…
Coronavirus Covid-19
eroticamazon: Thanks for doing the math again to illustrate what keeps those of us at or near the front lines up at night. We are at max capacity in some areas, and without social distancing and all the measures taken, we would have blown…
Coronavirus Covid-19
This is going to take a lot of research to tease out the answer. There are so many factors that could be involved when figuring out why a certain gender (or race or age, etc.) is more susceptible than another. It could be as simple as test…
Coronavirus Covid-19
SumTime4Us: Here's a timeline of what the World Health Organization was saying and what Trump was saying. February 11th the WHO was sounding a huge alarm and two week later Trump was saying it's under control. Down to zero in no time. It g…
Coronavirus Covid-19
SumTimeForUS: I am confused- you have said this virus is just like the other viruses. Then you said the fault was 90% with the Chinese but since you said it's just like a regular virus what exactly is their fault? Then you said it was crea…
Being Blocked for No Reason
I block all the time. I didn't use to but it got to the point I was clicking on profiles months later that I had already ruled out or been ruled out. "If you are under 6', she's not interested. Her preference guys." "BBC only" "Only intere…
Obituaries
Loved Brian Dennehy (as well as John Spencer, Raul Julia, and Paul Winfield) in Presumed Innocent. RIP all.
Coronavirus Covid-19
Seen a lot of horror with this pandemic that I'd never thought I'd witness. I'm near the front lines but my good friend is actually on them. People dying every 10 minutes 24 hours a day and there is nothing he can do to save them. Their lu…
Coronavirus Covid-19
There are some positive developments recently and some tantalizing possible treatments emerging. Did not ever think I would use the word tantalizing on SLS and be talking about a pandemic of all things... There are several new antibody tes…
2020 Bitch of the Day
Single males are messaging us again, in spite of our interest settings. Great. I clicked on your profile just to see what happens and it does say "Sorry, this member has chosen to have their profile hidden from Single Males" so the only wa…
Obituaries
vabeachcouple33: I get that you are frustrated with self-diagnosis crunchy mama bear thinking because I get frustrated as well. Her symptoms did suggest COVID19 and, if the test was accurate, she didn't have it. There are multiple cases of…
Avoiding weight gain during quarantine
I do something similar... 1) One drink of alcohol with dinner. Try to eat only moderate portions of healthy meals but cheat sometimes. 2) Skip breakfast 3-4 days a week when I run. Running gets me outside. Did 5 miles on a trail near the h…
We got punked - lesson learned!
SM's are only hard to find because there really isn't that many, most that pretend to be are just guys looking for side action. It's not a mystery. And for those of us that are somewhat older truly single guys... even if we are very open t…
We got punked - lesson learned!
Onehorneywife, so sorry that happened to you. Once I know what a couple looks like from initial pics I never ask for more. At least not until we've met and played. If people press for pics that is a red flag. There are so many scumbags out…
We got punked - lesson learned!
HollyBlue, I definitely believe them. I've heard it from enough good lifestyle friends that I know it's true. It does counter the myth that it's so easy to find a single guy. I think a lot of that myth comes from those who don't play with…
We got punked - lesson learned!
Serendipity21: Sounds like you have a great approach but the math seems really difficult to overcome. Let's say you start out with 30 SMs you like enough to want to engage. Requirement to talk on the phone and text for 1-3 weeks (which I t…
Some single males are gross
so there's also the risk of footing the bill for a hotel room for no shows. I always reserve and pay for the hotel room. It seems like a common courtesy if a couple (or a single woman) is nice enough to agree to play. Is that not the norm?
Some single males are gross
goodgollymsmolly: It was meant to be silly. It does show that the attitude toward SM is due not only to the fact that a lot of single guys are just terrible at how they approach the lifestyle but also that supply and demand influence views…
Some single males are gross
I'll let it go. There's a lot of insults thrown at single males in general in the lifestyle along with implications we are somehow less than. Probably that's what triggered me. Before I move on though I'd like everyone to think of the foll…
Some single males are gross
Rabbit - It doesn't matter what the race of the guy who wrote them was. They say in their tag line that single guys should not contact them. They would reach out. However, this lifestyle is not for meek men waiting for their message tab to…
Cruise industry in deep trouble
Should they get bailout money? They are all registered in Panama or other similar countries to avoid US taxes and they hire non-US workers to avoid US employee regulations.
Some single males are gross
We thought of them as solo men rather than single men. I like your viewpoint, cuttin2dachase. As someone who was married for 20 years, I understand and respect the couple dynamic. I think that knowledge and my reliability help me to more e…
Some single males are gross
it gets instant block and then they wonder why Or, you know, he is actually a fully formed person and not a commodity. So he messaged you first... You can either clutch your pearls and head for the block button or you can look at his profi…
Some single males are gross
There is nothing personal in it and is obviously just a cleverly written mass message Ok, I went to your profile. First of all, well done. Funny, personal, fun engaging pics. It did leave me with one question though. Would you two consider…
Some single males are gross
MO: That message is over 650 characters. How does that actually appear with the message system. I used to write some in-depth emails but I try to limit what I say now so it fits in one message (250 characters I think)
Advice on when couples visit your profile but don't message
The most common message we get from SMs now is, "How are you guys doing? Because most single guys are using the shotgun approach. I can't do that. I know. I know. Shocking if you've read my posts. I wish that low effort never resulted in s…
Keywords in profiles that make an instant yes or no decision?
"Looking to spice up our marriage" Am I just too much of an optimist for envisioning a couple having a great time fucking each other while being totally connected, who then say afterward "You know what would be even better? Doing this same…
Adderall
Adderall's known side effects included decreased interest in sex and difficulty getting and/or keeping an erection, as well as prolonged erections in others. Note that not everyone has these effects but enough do that they are mentioned on…
What has happened to the Calender
Does hovering over a profile to get more details work for anyone on the new calendar? It's not working for me at all but works on the SLS main page just fine.
What has happened to the Calender
funwithmargeandhomer wrote: DelVal guy did you really forget the spy gate Super Bowl the Pats stole from the Eagles? . After Commissioner Goodell issued record fines and then destroyed all the evidence we in Philly decided that one didn't…
What has happened to the Calender
Fokkers: "You still have to play the full season out and who knows if catching a ball on your head makes the difference makes all the difference." Found the Giants fan. At least the Patriots have never beaten the NFC East in the Super Bowl…
What has happened to the Calender
How hard is it to do a system-wide email to all members explaining the changes and suggesting members tweak their settings to assist in making the new Hot Date area continue to run smoothly? 1) You need to tweak the age range on your profi…
Advice on when couples visit your profile but don't message
Ronkathy Now the single males attach dick photos to an opening IM.. real classy! I don't do that but I agree with TallMark45. There are a lot of couples who are, shall we say, really focused on that part of the anatomy and demand immediate…
What has happened to the Calender
Looked again tonight and it just doesn't seem like there are nearly enough Hot Dates on there. I'm looking 1000 miles from Philly and it says there are 45 for Friday and 36 for Saturday. They are all blocked to me (except a few single male…
Advice on when couples visit your profile but don't message
"so when you open your photos without being asked. and it has happened to us plenty of times and we do not keep our views open" Ronkathy, while I respect your view on things, I think you are in the significant minority here. The vast major…
What has happened to the Calender
Wayne- could you tell us if the system wiped out some of the past hot dates during the upgrade. I did a search for any couples within 1000 miles of Philadelphia looking for a single guy and there were none on any day this week. That seems…
What has happened to the Calender
hotluvrs, Did you set it to show to couples only? I changed my location to Teaneck, NJ and checked for the entire week. Your hot date never came up. In fact, only 2 dates at all displayed in a 150 mile radius (both were bi men) and all the…
What has happened to the Calender
So I clicked on change location and you can change your mile range there. Changed it to 500 miles and there was literally one hot date 350 miles away looking for a single man. Hoping when they did the change they wiped out all the current…
What has happened to the Calender
I've met all but one person on here through the hot date section. I look in Philly, the entire shore, NY, Eastern PA/Allentown. Today I click on it and there are 4 hot dates for the weekend, all in Philly only, and all blocked to me. There…
Viagra
RusticMagic: Honestly it is a big reason for our age preference cap. Curious if a better option might be certs? I can't see your profile due to being blocked but I would imagine I'm above your age preference. I have never had an issue desp…
Bi Sexual Men
People are certainly entitled to their preferences. However, we should be careful about citing a percentage taken out of context while ignoring the overall numbers. Lumping gay and bisexual men into one category is also misleading. From th…
Profile recheck- have visits but not a lot of people messaging .
Ok, ok. I moved the period outside the parentheses. In my defense, writing is the fun career. Got a whole other one that's far more serious and didn't involve any English classes in college. I do love a good critique. Makes the writing so…
Profile recheck- have visits but not a lot of people messaging .
Thanks for all your terrific suggestions. I've modified the profile based on your input. PhoebertAndWife: I cringed at the "mirror selfie" line since that was not a mirror selfie. Was shot by a friend sitting on the bed and it still looked…
Profile recheck- have visits but not a lot of people messaging .
I know that's probably due to couples or single women looking for something different which is fine. If however, there's a part of my profile that comes across the wrong way, I'd like to know. So, six months in, I figured I'd ask for a rec…
Bi Sexual Men
Three questions: If you played with a guy and had a great time in a straight MFM or MFFM encounter only to later find out he was actually bi would you be angry at him? What about if he was straight when you played but then he found out he…
Bi Sexual Men
DNLB: If a person shows up to a M&G and looks like Sasquatch the couple would feel deceived and that the offender has lied to them. But that is not the case here. To be more accurate in your analogy you are fearful that someone will show u…
Bi Sexual Men
Straight people are like I'm not gonna play with bi people because when you play with someone else you do things that I'm not interested in doing... Bi people are like I'm not gonna play with you because you ain't out and proud on SLS and…
Advice on when couples visit your profile but don't message
Thanks for the input everyone. The consensus is pretty clear. Pay no mind to the Who Viewed Me. Just reach out to singles and couples I like and see who is interested.
Advice on when couples visit your profile but don't message
I have had several couples visit my single guy profile but never message. Up to now, I avoided messaging them since they only visited. I figured they were not interested since they didn't reach out. Recently I had a couple tell me that the…
cuckold couples
If only you were 1900 miles closer, Billybump. It's hard to believe you can't find a respectful single guy who wants to participate in your fantasy with your limits intact. I got that sort of wording right in my profile. I can't be the onl…
HUGE guy for threesome
Did you actually meet the guy? Yes and was he really 13 inches? I'm guessing 9 inches tops but I guess he could be one of the many who are over 12 inches but seem to have a pic clearly showing their size ??
What's up with the Distance Calculation on SLS
I responded to a Hot Date weeks ago from a great couple saw the mileage and said I could meet up easily since I was only 40 min away. In reality, I was 2 hours away. SLS had the mileage significantly lower than what it was. We met up halfw…
SLS KILLED email? WTF!?
I found one part of the email system that is intact and still working. My membership renewal is due. I got an email reminder of that rather than a message.
Non prescription Viagra
I use Viagra recreationally and it is fantastic. It has some side effects. I get a low-level headache. Others will complain of nasal congestion. Each of those symptoms can be treated (Motrin ahead of time and Afrin nasal spray work well.)…
SLS KILLED email? WTF!?
As a single guy my one shot at contacting couples and other single women here is presenting myself in a sane, smart, funny, well-written way. That only works in email. IM you can't even format it. It's a block of text if you want to do any…
New here. Would appreciate a critique
I just joined. I'm a single male (I know that's pretty rare here :-) There's so much to absorb on this great site! Please comment on whatever you feel needs a change. Not sure how, other than individually, I grant access to the the private…