[LOCKED]Any really single guys????

I am truly single and find it difficult to get many responses just being nice!

I am truly single and find it difficult to get many responses just being nice!

The best way we have found is to require them to be able to host occasionally at their place of residence. First meet in public and ask them to meet near their place of residence because you may want to pop over there after the meeting.

We have found there is a large amount of "single" married men out there. This is a huge problem in fact we consider it the biggest issue in finding a true single male because if your spouse finds out it can get ugly with the least problematic thing being your activities coming up in the divorce proceedings. Of course there could also be violence in the form of physical altercations, cars damaged, house windows broken, etc. This has led to the least possible hint at a guy being married or just involved with someone (beyond simply sex/swinging) he gets a hard pass. We think one of the biggest things that is a tell is the fact we cannot host and bring it up rather early in communication as well as having it on the profile. Of course any objection to this from a guy is very telling unless it is a "roommates" thing. Then we say we don't mind chipping in but the room has to go in your name and it is surprising how many "single" men have an issue with that.

Does Tinder have a section for girls like me???/Mary jo....

Phoenix, it is indeed on the couple to vet those they come in contact with. Also, if you haven't run across any good singles in Nashville then you have had a run of bad luck. We have met several there when traveling through. Once you get the hang of it, there are some obvious tells with cheaters that aren't too difficult to spot. Although it isn't bullet proof, we do say we don't want to meet with cheaters a few times in our profile. It did cut down on some of the messages we got, but not all of them. There are many types of cheaters out there. The ones you may not catch quickly are ones who were once in the LS and the wife has decided to pull back because of a child, medical reason, family, got bored, got burned, or got tire of the flakes. At any rate these guys have an excellent handle on what to say or not to say when chatting. The easiest way to vet someone is to vid chat with them. Find some of the folks from Club Chemistry or Menages and get in touch with some real people to help with the frustration of the online circus.

...single ...yes.... but the situation is ever evolving....

......people meet other people... things change.... people don't usually stay single forever....
....but honesty keeps all that out in the open....

Fantasyescape, trust me, it is much more than just "bad luck". If you cannot imagine a person managing it, then I will simply say that your imagination is VERY limited. Maybe they eventually get caught, but there are certainly many, many (perhaps a majority of supposed "singles" here on SLS) who are attempting it.

(13) If illicit drugs are expected to be used during the meeting.

(11) Are the pictures posted on the profile actually the person with whom I am chatting and making plans, or are they copied from somewhere; (12) Are the age, height and weight listed on the profile reasonably accurate:

If a married guy wants to "play", then that is up to him. Not our cup of tea to be his playmate, but he is free to do as he chooses. My point, perhaps missed, is that being married is a serious enough issue, IMHO, that merits proactive disclosure on the profile on a married man's profile. Why should it be our responsibility to interrogate him to learn this?? There are certain significant factors that simply justify forthright disclosure. A few others that I can think of......(1) If a person knows that he/she has an STD; (2) If a person is knowingly trying to get pregnant; (3) If a person expects to have their parents or minor kids present during the sex; (4) If a person expects to have their dog present and involved during the sex; (5) If a person expects to receive $$ after the sex; (6) If a person does not shower daily; (7) If a person does not practice reasonable hygiene; (8) If a person expects to use BDSM during the sex; (9) If a person has a reasonably full set of teeth, either natural or dentures; and lastly (10) IF A PERSON PRESENTING THEMSELVES AS SINGLE BUT IN REALITY ARE MARRIED. I wonder how many people have such an extensive questionnaire for every one that they begin to make plans to meet?? If the guy hides his marital status until interrogated, then what else are they hiding that I have not thought to specifically question them about??

I'm sure there is a lot of married guys ruining it.

I'm married in a open relationship with my SLS profile is listed as a single as my wife has zero interest in couples or group play, she prefers meeting men through dating apps such as Tinder and Feeld. She encounters a lot of married men claiming to be single on those apps too.

I tried dating women, single and married, via Tinder though they are nice and sex can be good its not as fun for me as group play. Plus some get attached even though they already know I'm married, yikes!

Or the single guys that you chat with for a couple weeks and decide to give them a chance with a meet for drinks and they just go ghost on you and quit messaging all together. They seem great till it’s time to meet. There a reason single guys have a bad rap. It’s because they create it. I’m sure that there’s a few good ones out there but who has the time to weed through all the bad

We have run across countless single married guys. The tell is usually can only meet during the day, no weekends, certain times. Only have an hour to play, the list goes on. Even had one guy who had a pic posted with his wedding ring on. He was a sharp cookie!

i just ask early on if they are married. often the answer is yes, and it clears things up.

Those of you who are truly single are having a significant hurdle placed in front of you by the married "singles". I assure you that there are enough of them that it creates suspicion on all single guy profiles.

Of course.

Apparently the Nashville area is different from the rest of the world. I have encountered three different guys in the last few guys who have absolutely no indication on their "single guy" profile that they are married, but when pressed on the question admit that they are. Lying by omission is the same to me as lying by commission. Those three are just in the last few days; I have encountered many others in the same deception previously. I should not have to interrogate every guy about whether they have made reasonable disclosure about highly relevant facts.

Sure there are, I can't imagine managing this type of activity and being married.

perhaps you have had bad luck

Last time I checked, I was single ;-)

There are plenty of truly single men. Just more men that aren't actually single.

I'm am single

Are there ANY truly single guys here on SLS??? It seems that everyone we cross paths with here on SLS defines "being single" as being able to walk through the doorway solo..........the new 15-minute single guy!!!!! And amazing how many of those 15-minute guys totally fail to think about even mentioning their wife on their profile. GEEZZZZZ