Any real guys in here?

Yes once again agree Sorillo ..

Maybe we are just lucky or outgoing but BOTH had high profile jobs where we had to talk in large group settings, planning of large events with opening remarks, and well I guess just are BOTH A Type personalities.. even now we both manage a Tennis/ Pickleball fun groups with parties , events and fun times.. so many just have no clue , afraid, or shy in taking a lead, speaking and organizing public events..

It does transfer over to the bedroom and on SLS ... as we have seen. People either have some game or not.. some are also just lazy to even apply themselves in life and in the bedroom .

It's not just us single guys who make conversation like pulling teeth. I went through a long streak of monosyllabic single women awhile back, most of them were actually the ones who initiated contact. Never got any further than a couple of messages, in most cases, this comment was longer than the whole conversation.

KUDOS PW.. KUDOS !

"... 3 - Hold a conversation without "yo, yo, yo" or lots of foul language..."

How about actually holding a conversation? I get so tired of answering "hi, how are you today?" with a comment or two and usually a question for them and receive a very bare bones answer in reply. No interesting comments, no follow-up questions, no attempt to move the conversation forward.

I've got toys if I just want an orgasm - we're looking for sex with well-rounded, interesting people. I'm not a dentist and pulling teeth is not my idea of a good time so if little effort is made at conversation I tend to lose interest.

I have never flaked on a couple, but it is hard for me to make time given my work schedule. Of note, I had to cancel once because of COVID.

YM....We're ok with guys contacting us. We say so in our profile. My wife's complaint, therefore mine, since I've seen it recently with my own eyes, are the guy who are rude, crude, and have no manners. She won't even entertain a poorly dressed/spoken/behaving man, or woman for that matter.

If guys want to date these incredible women in the lifestyle they need to do a few simple things: 1 - Dress nicely, maybe overdress; 2 - Treat the women as ladies; 3 - Hold a conversation without "yo, yo, yo" or lots of foul language; 4 - Pay a lot of attention to hygiene. Most, if not all, of the ladies on here want to meet guys or couples and have actual sex, but they are not cheap or trashy in most cases. Lady in the streets, freak in the sheets.

OMG is YK still here!

Franhubby- the reason you get assaulted by intellectually challenged horny SM after contacting a SM might be this site sending your profile to SM's as a match, because you showed interest in a SM. I don't have proof that this site does it, but I do get suggestions from this site and every one of them is never looking for a SM, or my age or race or distance .

Fh68 can't let everyone know the secret knock into the club then all kinds of scoundrels will come in .. Rk I'm hoping to be your way in early May. As always wine, food and adventure awaits in the Pacific NW care of your personal guide.

and Ponyup.. does make the CUT!!!!

And your next trip is when?

Ah hah. I thought so! Probably costs $500/year on sls!

As a single male, I cannot confirm or deny that there is a secret triple zero dot one code that sends an alert on possible magical opportunities with amazingly lovely women! Smiles and positive waves of energy to each of you.

I saw on the Babylon Bee that in MT "Wife Accidentally Opens Trans-Dimensional Portal Trying To Find Power Button On Remote".

So yeah, stranger things have happened :-)

“So, are some dudes finding a way to sense we are connecting with single guys and wanna jump in through some special access system or algo? ”

There may be a triple double secret Jedi mind wave that passes on this information to single men when they pay the extra double secret fee.

#1 - RonnKathy are our heroes. Funny as heck and seem to have their finger on the pulse of the lifestyle.

#2 - Suspicion - Does this forum think there is a secret algorithm or special fee-based access for certain types of sls members, especially for singe dudes?

We sense a pattern on sls. Every time we reach out to or chat to a single guy, for the next several days or weeks, we are inundated with "yo," "how's it hangin'?," or "nice titties" one liners on messaging. So, are some dudes finding a way to sense we are connecting with single guys and wanna jump in through some special access system or algo? Or, do they just have good long-distance noses for horny wife cycles?

We're interested in your opinion or knowledge. Because this happens like clockwork on sls for us.

-Cheers!

By the way.. are we real.. our XXX photos tell all... not just Certs for breathing, meeting for lunch, and never playing like so many brag about on SLS.. and YES we travel with our single guys and gals frequently!

Hilarious.. just one more single guy on sls who looks like a thug, mad at the world and one no one would invite to ones bed.. just had a long conversation with another guy about same.. whats with these tough guys look.. its not appealing at all.. can they smile, are they fun.. WTF.. oh wait they are on a swing site and demand to get laid!!!!

Well that goofy profile pic certainly isn't helping you attract anyone. Might want to change it up and see what happens then.

I'm pretty real but from the lack of responses I'm questioning if everyone else is lol. I get that they probably receive several messages from several other people but when they'll view my profile and still nothing. The another view days later still not having replied. Are you interested or what ??

Good men are hard to find and if you do find a good man hold on to him and keep him happy”

I thought the saying was “A hard man is good to find “

I am definitely real and interested in meeting a fun female or couple. The problem with most parties are that they do not invite singles for me to be able to meet otherwise interested people. i am in Virginia but also travel a lot. If you have any advice and/or interested please let me know. have a great week!

Latin:

You're not the first to suggest a "rating system" for single guys. I doubt that would happen or be accurate anyway. But, while we're far from experts, we have had some success with single guys and here's how we do it now. Some of this is based on Front Porch Swingers' advice and their podcast. It seems to work.

-Punch up one's profile to reflect what you want, including specifics about guy guest stars.

-Conduct a gentle but probing questioning of the guys who reach out to you.
--How much experience do you have with couples, hot wives, or groups?
--What are you seeking from the lifestyle?
--What are seeking by playing with us/her?
--What rules or guidelines do you have?
...and so on....

-Then a few key questions:
--Are you single? ..or...
--If the guy is claiming a hall pass: When can we chat with or meet your wife to make sure this is ok?
--Can you host us/her?
--Do you mind meeting us for a chat to see if we click?
--My husband chats with guys who want to date me, when can he meet or talk with you?

If a guy will answer most of these with some verification, then he's probably legit and will show up. We have enjoyed quickie fun, but we much prefer to build friendships with guys. For us, repeat performances seem to lead to great erotic fun and friendships. We've had good luck on sls in particular.

On logistics: We try to be explicit on times, places, and attire. We confirm and reconfirm the day of. But in the DC region traffic is truly the worst in the nation and people do get delayed often. We like to entertain on our boat, so we publish a "sailing time." Some guys miss this and that really perturbs us, since we could have been out on the water relaxing, rather than waiting at the dock. We write them off after they blow us off.

The good gentlemen on here will have some or lots of validations or endorsements. We've not really been disappointed in guys with endorsements. Hope this helps. This process has cut way down on the flakers, fakers, guys who don't know what RSVP means, and creepers.

-fnh

I hear the same responses from a lot of couples and I just can't understand why a real man would flake. I really enjoy meeting couples and really like meeting again and again because it seems to get better and more relaxed every time we get together. Why be on this site if you want to play games. I really like the feedback from the couple post playtime. Last night I had a great time with a beautiful couple and got this response " John, as expected you were a perfect gentleman. You made me feel comfortable and sexy! We had such a great time! There will be another time!!" . Since I really like these people and they play hot, the feedback is like getting an A on the single guy report card. I hope to meet more just like them ( I have met one other great couple) but just like some of the couples here have said about flakes and fakes, it can get very disappointing.

Good men are hard to find and if you do find a good man hold on to him and keep him happy

It is always best to meet people at parties or clubs events Etc this way people are right in front of you and you know that they are true or you can turn around and walk away. People can say anything online and what I mean by people couples/ single females/ or single males. And if you do decide to meet out in public say a coffee shop. never meet in private settings. Certifications can say a lot about a person and you can actually do detective work to see if a person is real...