Any real guys in here?

Once I make a commitment to meet with a couple or anybody for that matter, I show up,
I have more of a problem with folks who just don't bother to show up and then ghost me.

Yes, it is a bunch of crap that SLS won't allow it but it is understandable as you may get some assholes that would just do it to be just that an asshole.

We have so much problems with single men showing.
We finally decided to post the men's profile names in our profile and what happened.
We tried this for a year but just last week SLS blocked our profile because of this.
So, no, there is no way of letting other couples know which single males ghost, gas or are rude.

The fact is...
People Are People no matter if there single or attached or married..
Any real couples out there? That don't treat singles as a piece of meat??
LOL.. I have personally had more problems with couples than singles but that's me..

Any real singles in here?? That would like to meet??

This past Friday we had the pleasure of meeting and playing with a younger guy that certainly put many of the other younger losers to shame. He was articulate, well-educated and could actually fuck really well. Kept the wife very satisfied for a number of hours and again the next morning.

In our opinion the singles on here , men or women are most likely married or in a stale relationship that have the fantasy of being a third. However, when it comes time to meet they don’t follow through as you can imagine. In turn it only ruins it for the remaining singles that actually want to meet and play. It’s frustrating, but part of the weeding out process. Their loss!

Desertdiva, after being on here for many years. I have came to this conclusion people and I'm not pointing at single men. People do not read profiles and give respect there is lots of assuming that profiles are here just for the photos and the more photos you have the worse it gets it's like feeding the fire if this makes sense.

I personally do not meet privately and this is clearly said on my profile. except for 100% single females or females that are married or attached with no Male involvement. I will gladly meet people at swinger events House Parties conventions resorts Etc and there will always be someone by my side male or female and this is for my protection. Unless I'm meeting privately with a female and female only.

Desertdiva, you made a huge tactical error.

Assuming that people will host at their home is a bad assumption. Do you want to invite the complete stranger into your home? Many of us, including single men, will never meet people in our homes unless we know them well and trust them. Blocking people who will not host in their homes eliminates a lot of people. Why aren't you hosting? Why expect them to host?

Single men in your age range often are divorced and have children and grandchildren. Do you want to explain to the neighbors who the new people are? What if one of kids just decides to stop by? Are you going to take away their key to the house? Expecting others to host in their homes is completely unrealistic. This is doubly true in a world where you cannot completely trust anyone at first blush. Unblock a few and video chat with them and see if there is decent chemistry. Are there tons of flakes and wannabe singles that aren't? Yes. Just don't create a filtering criteria that doesn't mesh with reality.

Get yourselves out to a club or a party or two.

I created a profile just to find a single male for threesomes for me and my hubby. Specifically stated be single, able to host at your residence on occasion, be local, be white or Hispanic, have explicit photos. 64 messages in a couple of days. Big tits draw attention. Only 12 that were actually single. If you can’t host at your place of residence you get weeded out as not being single. A lot of black gentlemen even though I said white only. Some couples even though I said single men. Several from the East coast even though I said local. One weird looking guy that met all the criteria but was really weird looking. Some men that wanted to tie me up and fuck my big ass and then cum on my face. When I say no they want photos. A vast majority with no photos. Had to block about 50 men. I have two that don’t look too bad but nobody close. It’s really not worth it. I see why people go to parties and clubs but I hate them. Two gentlemen said they would pay me for nasty photos and used underwear. Quite entertaining. Not very productive. A few good hard cock photos which I like.

Having a bunch of guidelines up front just to chat and see if there is chemistry is way more insane than people ignoring those guidelines, imho.

I find it hella unfortunate when people and I've heard multiple people have had issues with flakes -people agreeing on a meet and then not showing up.

Unfortunately there isn't much that can be done other than a block from your end, but still the wasted time, gas and energy.

That's something I would never do. I've got too much respect for people and their time and the three couples I've met on here (1 cert because the others opted for privacy) I was where I said I was going to be.

Communication is the key

That’s a shame and tough for reliable single guys such as myself, gives us a bad rep. I’m always willing to meet and I always show up. But for the hand full of times that I wasn’t able to make it, I make sure to contact the couple prior to the day we are meeting to make plans for another day or give them time to make other plans for that night.

@RonandKathy
Agreed, we received So so many mssgs from single guys that were rude or just outright nasty wanting to get with me while “hubby sits in the corner wishing he was me” we have even added a section in our profile for single guys. Result? 1/10 actually follows said guidelines.
Then of the one that do some act as if since they followed the guildlines I HAD to give up the good and self respect.

Its sad and nutz.

It’s hard that these select few. Give us good guys a bad name. They get scared and worried things aren’t gonna work out. That’s why they don’t show I would assume. I mean it’s scary if your just starting out. But as long as you have the respect and everyone get comfortable. Then you don’t have any issues. But at first it’s a scary thing. Because you don’t know what to expect. That’s why in my opinion that they don’t show. Truthfully can you honestly blame them.

and some wonder why we block them.. just keep stirring the pot after being told by many.. what not to do!

Gets old and yes we blocked him!

Let's get back on subject please. Start a new topic if you like

One thing I have noticed is the same on all swinging sites.
Those who are perfect in every detail, bully those who are not to the point where they are afraid to say on the forums that they are less than perfect and play with those who are less than perfect.
They will email me and say it privately, but are too afraid of the public shaming and attacks to say it in public.
That is sad that the elite will not tolerate the less fortunate finding a less fortunate person to play with.
The only swinging that is allowed is their style.
Everybody must dress and act the same.

63 on Thanksgiving.
And, sorry, not interested.

And Y looks young for 62.....I've sucked some wonderful 60ish year old cocks in the past...

@Ron and Kathy. Thank you. Classy is the only way to go!

YM you are missing the entire point and why we are even discussing it.. take care ! Its been talked about way too much from those with no luck swinging..

Enjoy your journey !

Not to change the subject but, does this site have an auto correct spelling feature that I can turn off?
I have it turned off on my phone but something keeps changing my spelling and even changing dirty words to clean ones on this site.
I just noticed it changed swingers to stingers on an earlier post . And it just did it again this time while I was typing.

Ronkathy- agreed, if that is the only type of person you are interested in then you are probably correct. A person with selfies probably would not work for you.
But I would think if you like doing things that are usually not as active or crowded, like a walk in the woods or sitting by a lake or fishing, a person with selfies would be a good fit.
I don't think everyone should reject a person with selfies.

@RonKathy
Amen and well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ymichael.. so the reason we both swing ( both A type personalities ) and have been for 30 years successfully is because we do have high standards, we do look for those who are classy, sensual, and can dress up for success.. those who can communicate , get what swinging is about, enjoy dancing, laughs, love life and live it every day.. well they get invited to our bed frequently..

Each has had long term swingers for well over 20 years in south Florida and in Georgia 7 years including traveling with them..

Its not about arguing on SLS or whats right or wrong for "us".. .. its about what we expect in our vanilla life ( tennis, pickleball, boating, scuba diving, weight workouts, etc etc ) with friends along with what we expect with our swingers.. . guess thats why we both were head of our organizations and in swinging we do expect the best of all and will not settle for less.. it has worked !