Since the general consensus is that a 10-20% response rate (including "no thanks" responses) is pretty good then you are doing very well to be meeting 5% of those you contact. But you have a better than average profile and obviously know how to craft a message!
The most common message we get from SMs now is, "How are you guys doing?
Because most single guys are using the shotgun approach. I can't do that. I know. I know. Shocking if you've read my posts.
I wish that low effort never resulted in success because it would stop the practice. Then again, maybe it's good that low effort people show themselves right away. For me, a pofile has to resonate in some way. Then I put together a 250 character or less intro (thanks to the sad demise of mail) that is customized to that couple or single woman.
That being said, it leads to meeting maybe 5% of the time. So that's quite a bit of effort for a low return.
If you live in the right area it's free next day fucking
"Simply put a visit to your profile is like someone shopping on Amazon"
And if you have Prime, you can meet the couples in 2 days or less
Lets say I do a search and 100 profiles come up based on the limited refinement options. So that means I have to go through 100 profiles one by one in order to say find 10 (or less usually less) that I would think meets what we are looking for. Those 10 I then show my wife who might find 1-2 (or none) interesting at the moment. So at that point we send an initial message to those say 2. That means that only 2% of the profiles we have looked at (some twice) on that given day (or couple of days) are ones we have any interest in at all. That does not even take into account how in say a couple weeks we do it all over again and revisit some profiles because pictures have changed or we simply did not remember them until we read the profile. Simply put a visit to your profile is like someone shopping on Amazon. You will look at several similar items narrowing things down to a few you compare and then eventually select one or perhaps decide you need to go to a store and look at them further yet never end up making a purchase.
Now you can use visits to your profile to do your own shopping and some people visit in the hopes you will. I think though many others simply passed by and if you then almost immediately send them a message it looks as if you are a little too eager (read desperate). In fact this is a reason we or more specifically I don't usually "return" a visit to a single male profile that visited ours. I have found if we check out a single male that checked us out we get a message shortly afterwards even if based on the profile we have nothing compatible. Then you have to form a reply that does not encourage them or send the wrong message. A "look" is not an interest in taking it further.
How would you ever know if you are interested in someone if you don't visit their profile first? Who would believe that every profile you visit is compatible with them? To the OP if you want to contact everyone who looks at you fine, just send them a thank you quick and simple however don't think everyone else feels the need to contact you just because they took a look.
Lol. Writing at 6 am in the dark.
Wires=write
Most definitely not a fan of the single button approach. What's wrong with spending 3 minutes to wires a paragraph? It shows effort, intelligence and personality. All things we require you have in order to agree to fuck you.
If you want single button let's fuck try Tindr
MandC,
I’m not a fan of the “like” or “Would like to meet button”.
We have that on our favorite web site and it often gets abused, or at the least, misused.
Let’s say we get a “would like to meet” notification from a couple with a nice profile, but they are 300 miles away. We don’t want to reject their notification, because we’d be happy to meet them if we were in there town. If we respond positively, that’s often interpreted by them as an invitation to start planning a meeting that we are not ready for.
The most common message we get from SMs now is, "How are you guys doing?" I used to respond but no longer bother.
OOOH YESSS, YOUUU are soooo CORRECTTTTT..........
TallMark,
We don't disagree, but the quality of introductory messages went way down when the Mail system was eliminated.
I think it looks better if someone puts forth a little more effort than clicking a button if they have an interest, esp. if it is a single guy looking for a couple. Having to write brings back some old school, civilized human communication....Mary Jo PS. Love tight white T Shirts on women....
It would be easier if there were buttons you could click that let a member know you were interested, without having to Message or open galleries hoping they would notice. Something along the lines of a "Like", "Interested", "Would Like To Meet" or similar. I just wish SLS would make it easier for us to show interest in others on the web site.........
Realistically, not many couples really seek out a single male (I know we don't) so don't take it personal. But you are onto something, as we believe the number of profiles that "don't message anyone first" is probably a LOT higher than one would think.
Even if we are interested and view a profile, we sometimes see no point in reaching out when we are booked out with things the next 3 or 4 weekends. Between parties, friends/family, projects that need to get done around the house, and meeting LS couples, that can happen. Especially so around the holidays.
What we will do if interested is we'll open up our pictures, but really don't want to engage a couple and then tell them we can't meet for a month. That can change if they are looking to attend parties and happen to be looking at one of the same parties we attend.
sometimes, the profile picture may look interesting; sometimes, they post something funny, unique, or stupid in the forums; sometimes we accidentally click on a profile.
if they're interested, they'll write. viewing does not 'always' equal interest.
Most hubbys ck out many sgl guys and select a few choices to present to the wife for consideration for playing.
We were joking about the irony of this today. Couples who look at our profile without Messaging, and when we look back their tag line says “Say hello, don’t be shy”.
We visit a lot of profiles all over because we travel a lot, and we would travel to meet a couple we like. We've sent Mail (when that feature was enabled), sent IM's when members had it engaged, sent Messages with the new system, opened pics without saying anything, opened pics and let them know...........some people respond, others don't.
If someone looks at us, we usually look back and we'll check to see if galleries have been opened. It's rare that we see that.
When we exchange #'s with someone we plan to meet it's usually the Mrs that does the cell phone stuff. Ironically we have had the male half of couples and SMs send her a dick pic thinking it is something she wants to see. It isn't, and in one case of a couple we know that actually wants to see them, it's the guy asking and doing the verification, and he is not Bi.
Ronkathy
Now the single males attach dick photos to an opening IM.. real classy!
I don't do that but I agree with TallMark45. There are a lot of couples who are, shall we say, really focused on that part of the anatomy and demand immediate PODS*. I figure we wouldn't be a match anyway since, though there will be no complaints about my package, there's so much more than that when it comes to playing.
*Proof of dick size
I'm thinking from the profiles I read and that indicate they want a single male, they are mostly interest in a nice big, hard cock, so the guy is just showing what the couples surely wants to know what the guy has to offer them.....cut them some slack....
Yeah, there is that!
We will check out profiles for a variety of reasons. one of them is that we might have been checking out another profile and then following up on that profiles certs. This obviously would lead us to a profile that we might not have any intention of meeting up with.
On the other hand, it never hurts to reach out and say “hi, hope you liked my profile”
