Episode 9: Who the F*** are You?

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This podcast contains explicit language and content and is for mature audiences only. Hey you teenagers out there, if you're under 18, this show is more for your parents. So now that you have that mental picture stuck in your head, put some music on and get back to doing your homework. We are a long-time married couple who's decided to chronicle our personal adventures and share our sex-positive discussions as we navigate our way through the swinging lifestyle. Care to join us?

Well, hello everyone, and welcome back to the We gotta think podcast i'm mr jones and i'm mrs jones and we want to welcome you to episode nine um it's a friday evening we've just been out to dinner just the two of us and we did the dreaded costco thing again but um i rewarded mr j by taking him to this awesome, like, organic, locally sourced restaurant that had really, really awesome burgers and french fries. That didn't make up for Costco tonight. You had your coat on. It's May.

I had a sweater on because if anybody out there goes to Costco, they know when you go into the produce section, there's that like little back room where the lettuces and the fresh raspberries and everything. And it's about four degrees in there. But you don't have to go through every bag of frozen broccoli. You can just pick up. It's not frozen. It's just chilled. Whatever. But you take so much time in there. If you get in and get your stuff and get out. I got to get the best date on it. I got to make sure it's not soggy. I don't like soggy broccoli. Yeah.

Anyway, you can tell I'm a little cranky tonight after our visit to Costco. No. We went to this restaurant and we had this lovely bottle of wine from Argentina. It was a Malbec Tampanillo blend. That we drank out of mason jars. Well, yeah. We live in the South, honey. That's what we drink wine out of. Yeah. It's eclectic. Yeah, is that what it is? Yes, it is. It was lovely. It's a beautiful May evening here in the Southeast, and we just are enjoying our weather before the hot and humid, real summer hits. So I want to get you to say the name of this episode. What's the name of this episode?

It's who the F asterisk are you? What's that mean? Oh, you mean who the fuck are you? Yeah, there you go. Oh, yeah. I like when you say that word. So yeah, that's the title of our episode. Are you going to explain why we chose that? Are we going to wait till we get to the next segment? Well, we're going to talk about profiles tonight because in our little personal lifestyle journey here, we have run into some interesting profiles lately. Right. So there's been enough interesting ones enough in a row. We feel like it might be time to do, you know, a little profile talk. Yes.

So we're going to talk about the profiles. But first, we're going to talk about keeping up with the Joneses. Yeah. And not a lot of quantity this month. But we got some quality. I got some high quality. Yes, we do. Yeah, so how does this start? So we told you about spending an evening in Miami before we went on our cruise in April. Yes, we did.

And the couple that we met and spent the evening in miami had told us that they had attended a party down there for the weekend and it was do you know what is it called do you know george do you know george right and they said if you ever get a chance to go to one of these do you know george events you should check it out so we filed that away and they told they told us all about it, and it was amazing. Oh, yeah, it was a polo match. Yeah, they did, like, a whole weekend thing, and they stayed in, like, the penthouse of this, like, really exclusive Miami high-rise.

And, yeah, they went to a polo match, and the ladies had to wear the beautiful hats. And, oh, my gosh, it was really, really cool. So I think we thought it was cool, but then we we filed it away figuring it was too rich for our blood but anyway when we got back um i just happened to notice we get these invitations and we're going to talk about cassidy and sls in a bit when we talk about profiles but we had received an invitation through cassidy for this event and the invitation was from somebody named george ann and it didn't register right away with me who that was.

And I normally just kind of look at those things real quickly, and I delete them. But I opened it. And as I read it, I realized it was the same George that our friends had talked about. The Do You Know George? The Do You Know George? George. And I said, Oh, well, let me look into this.

And so so we read about it and it was the very first of a new sort of event that do you know george is is offering and it's called just for dinner right okay so because normally he does these like really um elaborate elaborate weekend events where it's like three nights and there's a theme and it's just these really posh, amazing places. And he, he just comes up with the most amazing activities to do during the weekend. And then of course it's a lifestyle weekend.

So you have all these amazing activities on, on top of being around all these incredibly sexy people that may or may not want to play with you. But this was just dinner, and so it was intriguing because it would give us an idea of who George was and what his events were like, and that would give us an idea of whether we wanted to try to invest in something of that magnitude just by going out to dinner. So this event was in a really, really nice restaurant in Georgetown in Washington, D.C., one that just a few blocks from where I work, but I've never eaten there before.

I've heard a lot of good things about it. And we didn't get a lot of information ahead of time, but normally when you sign up for these things, you just click, I want to go, and you put your credit card in, and you're good.

But at this point, at this time, we had to fill out some sort of uh we had to apply yeah we had to apply for an invitation and that application and that's really i think a little bit of what concerned me about this was was this going to be full of you know really rich people that were snooty and and didn't want to talk you know to everybody and so i was a little wary of that. I mean, Mr. Jones and I have managed to get past the pain for college and weddings and things. So we have a little bit more disposable income now, but we're still pretty middle class. Yes, yes.

We have to plan for things like this, which is okay, because we can actually plan for them now and afford them but but they don't come easily and often yeah but see it's a business expense too because it's really we did research for our podcast right our podcast that brings us zero income so lots and lots of fun and pleasure so we decided to apply for an invitation and and you know you didn't you just had to put basic things about yourself there really wasn't no but you had to send a couple photos too i had to choose photos and you got upset with me because i didn't get the two photos approved he sent photos without consulting me i mean ladies who does that yeah but they weren't we've been married 30 years don't you think he would have known by now they weren't explicit it doesn't matter well i have to approve photos to go on facebook did we get in we got invited we did get invited okay so at any rate we we applied and we had to attach these pictures and a couple days later we got this approval back that said congratulations now you're invited and you can pay us to come to have dinner so we did that and we went to um we decided to get there a bit early because we're about an hour away from the city wanted to make sure we beat the traffic if anybody knows anything about washington dc it can take you 45 minutes to get to the city or it can take you two and a half hours but it was a beautiful evening it was and the restaurant we went to had a courtyard outside we got there early enough to have a drink and uh so we we ordered drinks in order they had a really really cool menu all their drinks were very handcrafted it wasn't just your typical vodka tonic you couldn't you know the vodka tonic had a name to it and it all came all the vodka was branded and it came with all these like really interesting mixes of fresh like ingredients that would blend And I'll see you next time.

all the vodka was branded and it came with all these like really interesting mixes of fresh like ingredients that would blend. So that, yeah, it was a very extensive menu. So Mr. Jones got this drink called spring flowers and it was this lovely drink.

Actually, if you go to our website, um, by the time we get the podcast actually up and posted, um, we're going to post pictures of us drinking our our drinks so mr jones had this beautiful it was a lavender colored you already said this drink you don't have to say it again i had the spring flower drink and it was purple it was beautiful and you had it and what and you ordered my drink was called a hairy chest yeah which had spices It was pineapple and habanero pepper and lime juice and some sort of really cool vodka. So it was awesome. It was spicy.

It was embarrassing, even worse, because when the bartender came, he set your drink in front of me. And I said, wait a minute drink. Ugh, how embarrassing. But the both drinks were amazing. They were really, really tasty. So yeah, we're going to post pictures of us holding our, me holding the manly drink and Mr. Jones holding the lavender drink. Right. So it was a beautiful night in Washington, D.C., and it was probably 75 degrees and no humidity, and we sat out and had those drinks.

And the attire for the evening was, I had to wear a with i didn't have to wear a tie i just had to wear it said sans tie and mr jones had to say does that mean no tie and i said yes dear i said do i have a sans tie and then ladies wore cocktail dresses right and and there'll be a picture of of you and your cocktail dress on the website holding my hairy chest Yeah. So anyway, we didn't know what to expect. We didn't know how many people were going to be there. So at 8 o'clock, when the reservation started, we finished our drinks and went inside.

And we had a separate dining area, a private dining area inside the restaurant. And there were 22... I think there were 12 couples plus the hosts. Okay. Yes. Okay. So there was 24 guests and the two hosts. And gosh, where do we start? I mean, first of all, when we walked in the room, you know, we talked about some of the issues that we'd have with large crowds and mingling and meeting people. But when we walked in this room, there were probably three quarters of the people were already there and they were standing at one end.

We immediately walked down to the end of the room, entered the circle that the people were standing in, introduced ourselves, and people just automatically turned to us and engaged with us. Well, George and his partner were extremely gracious and immediately engaged us in conversation. Right. So we had probably about 10 to 15 minutes worth of mingling and trying to meet people before they had us seated. So initially it was a very good start because we were, everybody was really nice, really friendly. Nobody seemed too pretentious or really stuck up or anything like that.

So I started to feel a little bit better about the crowd. Um, and then we met George and we had talked to him on the phone beforehand, but we met George and Ann and they were the host and the hostess. And he, he asked us to sit down and they had put name plates or name tags up at each table setting. So he said, you need to find your name and then figure out the pattern. And so what he had done, which is really clever, and the table was wide. I mean, it was a really wide table and really long. Well, yeah, it held 26 people. Right. So what they did was they put Mrs.

Jones on one side of the table, and I was on the opposite side, so she and I were facing each other. And then beside me on my left and right were two ladies, and then their husbands were next to you. So it was boy, girl, boy, girl. But your partner was across from you. Yeah, and then George and Ann were at the head and the foot of the table. Yeah. And it was boy, girl, boy, girl. Uh, but your partner was across from you. Right. Yeah. So you can, and then George and Ann were at the head of the foot of the table. Yeah. And it was just, it was perfect.

And I, you know, I don't know how they decided who sat next to whom, but, um, that the ages were somewhat varied there. And, um, we, we had a younger couple on one side of us and a couple about our age on the other side of us. And it was just it was perfect right it's perfect yeah so you could have um conversations really the easiest conversation because the size of the room was with the people next to you so naturally i got to know the lady on my left and the lady on my right and you got to know the gentleman on your left and right who were the spouses of the ladies.

And then occasionally we would have cross conversation across the table. But you really had to kind of lean in because the table was so wide. Yeah, it was. And then every once in a while you'd go two people down and try to have a conversation. So anyway, they started bringing food. I mean, they brought. It was a five course dinner paired with a wine a wine for each course and everything was amazingly lovely. Right. So they brought up, believe it or not, the first appetizer were French fries, but of course they brought the French fries out in stainless steel cups with these incredible sauces.

Yeah. With a ketchup based and a cocktail. That was like the pre that, that was like a pre appetizer. Yeah. That was one. Yeah. Yeah. Because then the appetizer was the tuna tartare. Right. So that was the first course was the tuna tartare. And I was wondering if you were going to eat that because Mrs. Jones doesn't like sushi. I'm not a sushi person, but I decided to put my big girl panties on and I ate it. It was really good. Right. Of course, the wine that was paired with it was perfect.

So, you know, it just was that the wasling or yes yeah okay so there was a riesling paired with the tuna tartare then the second course was the lobster pot pie i can't believe we're talking about food on a lifestyle podcast but this food was so good it was very the whole thing was just very sensual because the food was good. And, of course, the portions were very small, which is perfect because you were conversing. You didn't want to spend a lot of time chewing. But you could tell the crust on this pot pie was just, it was made there.

There was a lot of moaning going on during the second course, and it had nothing to do with sex. The lobster was so good. The pieces of lobster in that pot pie were so big. You had to cut them.

You had to had to cut them yeah I don't know where they flew it in front I don't know and then the sauce that it was in and they had the pearl onions and potatoes that that was my favorite course um and then they paired with the chardonnay yeah Popeye does not seem sexy but it was yeah that was paired with a chardonnay a California chardonnay then the third course was uh really good but it was kind of boring in the grand scheme of but it was yeah that was paired with a chardonnay a california chardonnay then the third course was uh really good but it was kind of boring in the grand scheme of things it was chicken right but it was wonderful yeah it was good yeah chicken with a sauce also and and we switched it to a lighter red wine with the chicken was it i think that was the pinot noir pinot noir right um and then the course the fourth course was the what the Noir.

Pinot Noir. Right. Um, and then the course, the fourth course was the, what? The Wagyu. A Wagyu. Wagyu. Yeah, Wagyu beef. Right. And that's what this restaurant is known for is their Wagyu beef, which is from Japan and it's a ribeye, but it's, it's really, really, um. Indescribable. Yeah. It's hard to describe. You have to Google it.

It makes American filet m american filet mignon seem tough i had to google it because they sent us the menu ahead of time and i'm like what's this waggy you so i googled it so i would know what what it was that i was eating and and it was it was almost like the tuna it was it was almost raw it was raw in the very center well it was rare rare but it was purple but it was super seared on the outside so that brought out all that smoky flavor and then on the top of it was the foie gras which i don't know that you realized that yeah i did again i have my big girl panties on yeah and then they brought out um what was the red wine we had with that but it was a darker it was a spanish i don't know if it was a cabernet sauvignon i don't know a Cabernet Sauvignon but anyway we had a darker red wine with that and then the final course was the Snickers bar we said it was like a grown up Snickers bar it was one of those desserts that makes you moan a little bit it was this chocolate pie that had some sort of peanut butter and goo no I don't know what it was.

Chunks of chocolate and peanut butter and caramel. And it was really creamy and smooth. Obviously it was made. And they served it with a port. Yes. A real port, a real port from Portugal. It was incredible. So that's the food part of it. The, now we started, we had to be there at eight o'clock and of course, like Mr.

said we mingled for a little while so i don't know what time the food actually started being presented to us but we left at 12 when we got in our car getting ahead i am getting ahead of ourselves but when we got in our car after dinner was over it was 12 15 so it took almost four hours to eat these five courses because the conversation was just wonderful. And, um, and the waitstaff was very attentive and they were very aware of the fact that we were, um, a large group that was being very social and they, and they paced the dinner accordingly.

So we thoroughly enjoyed the conversations on either side of us at dinner and in the conversations we had prior to dinner it was clear that we were connecting with a lot of people there and that was really a pleasant surprise so after nobody there was pretentious or stuffy and that was just so wonderful right so after dinner people kind of started getting up and mingling around and i ended up um and george's co-host came and was standing behind me and she was talking to me and a couple other ladies and i started asking her you know what is the process i said you know the people here are tremendous you know and i'm sure you got a lot of applications so you know how do you know you know who to choose and what what you know how do you how do you do this and she said we've done this for a long time we just know so you know that that was kind of I think they just have excellent intuition when it comes right so that I guess by looking at profiles which is what we're going to talk about in the next segment but but the way your profile is written in Cassidy or SLS, the pictures that you sent and how you answered the questions, um, they just know and, and it was amazing.

And she even made the point to say, look, um, a lot of our events are upscale and they're a little bit more money than, than a lot of people like to pay. And she said, but it's not about the money because we've had people, we've had literally millionaires applied to our events and we've turned them down because we don't want somebody that's stuffy or arrogant or thinks that they're better than anyone else. We want people that are real genuine people. And, but at the same time, they want to provide a quality event.

And that's why you pay a little bit more than normal to go to these things because I mean and this event was just extremely well put together it was we had we had a wonderful time I you know I can't I try to get to a balanced review when we do things like this and we've talked about places that we've been in the past but I really can't think of anything that was negative no no no i can't think of one thing from the location to the valley parking to the cocktails to to the oh we forgot to say so when the when the dinner was when the courses were served there were so there were 24 of us at the table they would bring 12 waiters out right at one time with two plates and they choreographed the serving so they would serve all the ladies at once then they would turn and serve all the men at once so the whole evening was just really just well put together every detail was thought of from the logistics to the to the room that we were in to the wine that was paired with the food, to the dessert, the conversation, the people.

So I guess what we're trying to say is, if you ever have the opportunity to apply to attend to one of these Do You Know George events, you're not going to be disappointed because it was quite an experience.

And can I say, we haven't even talked about george and his host yet or his hostess yet they they were extremely gracious and um and were just very much aware of the fact that they were um there to to make everybody feel comfortable and welcome right and to just make the night as seamless as possible and they they just did an excellent job and i made it a point to to tell him that we were podcasters and asked him if it was okay if we talked about this event and he gave us permission to do that as long as we were discreet and we think with it we we pretty much do that all the time so um i mean it was just a great conversation very laid back you know very easy to talk with and um so we're we're looking at um we're going to put a link to their website the do you know george website on our on our podcast show notes and um if you think you might be interested take a look because they're doing events all over the country so this uh just for dinner they're going to do in several other cities across i think i remember him mentioning chicago um and a couple other cities yeah there's A whole bunch of them.

I mean, they're going to do in several other cities across the country. I think I remember him mentioning Chicago and a couple other cities. Yeah, there's a whole bunch of them. I mean, just for dinner part of it. No, there's a whole bunch of just for dinners. But anyway, take a look if you're interested. And let us know what you think if you go there. And then he's got three or four trips planned, one to Napa. Maybe I think next year they're going to Cuba. Yeah.

And he he was doing a new orleans new orleans that's coming up right right so so they fill up fast but i think there are some slots left at these so if you're interested what mr jones and i like is you know like like we said there were 12 couples plus um george and ann so i mean there were 26 people at this event and that, that just works for us. We, you know, we told you that, you know, a couple of months ago, we went to that big event up in Northern Virginia and there were like 250 people there and we were struggling. I mean, it just, it was overwhelming.

It was loud and there were so many people and we didn't know anybody and we just struggled. So I think as, you know, we continue through this journey together and are trying to find our place where we fit, I think, you know, not necessarily, you know, to be this exclusive and upscale, but I think the size of the event was just in our sweet spot.

right so and i and i think most of his um events are somewhat on the smaller side yes i think it's like 30 to 50 30 or 50 depending on the size of the venue yeah right so it's small enough that if you're there for the weekend you're going to get to meet everybody right on a surface level and then probably several people that you connect with you'll have time to get to know better and and we did manage to meet a couple people a little bit better but we'll share that with you uh later on so at at 12 15 when we did they did the wait staff started turning off the lights and they said sir we've already brought your car around so i think that was an indicator so uh we left with another couple and went out to a nightclub and we're going to come back another couple and another lady don't give everything away well we're going to come back to that stay tuned in our snapshot so anyway um so uh do we know george now we do know george yeah so when somebody says a really good's a really good thing we're very very happy with the way that it turned out and again recommend that you look into that and we are looking forward to future events with George and so when we come back our next segment we're going to talk about who the fuck are you profiles we'll be right back.

okay so profiles that is our topic of the evening right um we have mr jones and i have run into some interesting profiles lately as we have been meeting couples online um you know we we really depend on cassidy and sls those are the the two online dating websites that we area. Um, I think SDC is a very popular site, but I think it's more of a Southwestern site or a Southern site. It's not very popular. Is it adult, um, adult, is it adult playground or what is it? APG, whatever that stands for. I can't, I don't have time to manage a third site, but a lot of people around here on APG. Yeah.

But we're, we're pretty much sticking with Cassidy because we, we like Cassidy. We like the website. We like the way it's designed and we have had very good experiences with the people that we have met on Cassidy. The problem we have with Cassidy in the, um, in the mid Atlantic area where we live is that there's really not that many people on it. I think it's more, I don't know, it's more regional towards, um, I know it's based out of like Las Vegas. Um, so I think it's more maybe popular out West. Um, SLS is hugely popular where we live and we have met lots and lots of great people on there.

i hate sls i i mean i hate the website i hate their business and he doesn't use the word hate very often but i'm sorry i'm just being honest they they do business like they have a monopoly and to a certain extent at the current time they do but the way that they treat businesses that work with them and their website is so outdated that as soon as somebody comes along that gets this right um i don't think sls is going to be around very long just by the way that they do business but maybe that can be our venture when we retire that's my personal opinion but but we're on sls as a matter of just just so so, because we have to out of necessity.

Yes. Necessity for us. And we have met some lovely people on SLS. Right. So how do we want to start talking about profiles? You know, we, we got into local dating just recently. And so profiles have become a little bit more of a central focus for us. And we keep our personal Cassidy and SLS profile separate from our, we do have a We Got a Thing profile on Cassidy. And we've said that before, and many of you are part of that community.

But we, if you were to look at our profile what you would see is um who we are i mean they all say there's all always pictures and there's always a place for your age and for your preferences and things like this but we decided to be open and honest and say look we've been married 30 years just like we do on the podcast this is who we are we've been married 30 years, just like we do on the podcast. This is who we are. We've been married 30 years, new to the lifestyle, interested in relationships. I describe you, you know, you describe me, we describe the people that we're looking for.

And we're, you know, we're, we're trying to be transparent and put enough information out there so that when somebody stops in to look and to read, that they get a very good idea of who we are. Not only what we look like, but we want to get our personalities out there. And basically, we want to get our objectives out there. I mean, Mr. Jones and I, I think, you know, if you've listened to any of our previous podcasts, we are not into mindless sex.

We want to become friends with the people that we play with not necessarily everybody that we play with but we need some sort of connection with somebody before we decide to play with them right um you know and that's where we are right now we're new um we we just you know need that comfort level and and that has been the unexpected pleasure of entering the lifestyle is some of the friends we've made have been way deeper friendships than we anticipated. Yeah. And I mean, as a disclaimer, we're still working at this. We don't have a perfect, we haven't perfected our profile.

No, we don't at all.

And we're not judging other people, but we're going to share with you some of the things that that we chose to do with our profile and one of them is we sat down together when we created the profile so we literally both of us sat in front of the even though i'm the one that manages most of that now the correspondence and the communication and posting pictures we sat down together and you and i both grabbed the keyboard back from each other and we worked on that for about an hour oh at least you know to get it to where we were and we have we have edited it and updated it several times over the past just a year that we've been on it well we just put that we like kissing on it you mentioned that i know why didn't we think about a year that we've been on it.

Well, we just put that we like kissing on it. You mentioned that. I know. Why didn't we think about a year ago? Yeah. So, I don't know. There are certain things about profiles. We might as well just kind of get into it. So, I think one of the number one things, and this is probably something that you could speak to, is no pictures of the guys. Oh, my gosh. Right. So, we'll get a flirt from somebody on Cassidy or, or somebody on SLS will send us an email and kind of reaching out to us. And, and you initially look at their profile and the words might be okay.

And then there's a couple pictures of the lady and there will be zero pictures of the guy. Zero. I mean, and you know, I understand people not wanting to show their faces on these websites. Um, you know, we, Mr. Jones and I have jobs where it's not a really good idea to put yourself out there as well. So we understand that. But at the same time, I need to see something of the gentleman. Um,'s no pictures of the guy, one thing that's going to be assumed is that there's no pictures for a reason.

Either he's, you know, extremely unattractive or he's overweight or he's just not fit and healthy or maybe he's just not interested. Right, right. And that's the scariest part of all. He's not interested and this is a one-sided deal right so i made the mistake one time i found a profile on sls that i really liked and not not just the words and look i'm a guy so there were the lady was beautiful and she put some really nice pictures on and and i told you i was going to reach out and i reached out and i was okay was okay with that, because she was beautiful, and they did have a good profile.

And then she responded a few days later and opened up their pictures, and then when you saw a picture of him, I mean, it was a disappointment. I mean, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but it became clear why she didn't put his pictures on there.

So, you know, I don is what he is so so you got to be honest either you you work just put yourself out there have the confidence exactly to put yourself out there exactly if you're confident about it that makes you more attractive right and not only if you're hiding something then that's going to make people suspicious and then when you do see something at face value, it's going to give you a negative impact. You know, the impact is going to be negative versus, okay, well, I can work with that because he's comfortable in his own skin and he's got a great personality and let's move forward.

But when you're hiding. Right. And you still catch me doing that because every once in a while I'll show you a profile and go, hey, what do you think one and then i'll go all the way through and you say there's no pictures of the guy and i'm like ah shit i didn't even notice but anyway that's pretty much we just click the back button when we get to a profile and there's no pictures of the guy i mean so don't be ashamed of yourself you are who you are and and to, personality is at least 50% of the traction I have for a gentleman. Right.

So you don't have to be perfect, but you have to accept who you are and put yourself out there. Right. And, you know, that kind of leads into the pictures, uh, speaking of no pictures for men, because we've, this is so subjective. Yeah, we went out with a couple after looking at their profile and looking at their pictures, both male and female pictures. And then when we got to dinner with them, they didn't look anything like... It was almost hard. We had not met them in person before. It had only been through the online dating site. So they walked in the door, and we were like, is that them?

That kind of looks like them. Can't be them. Can't be them. Their pictures were dated. Yeah. And maybe photoshopped a little bit. Well, I don't know. And then, you know, we had a good time. And that's the thing. If they would have put their real pictures out there, it would have been fine. It would have been fine. We probably still would have gone out with them. Yeah. So not only did we have to say, oh man, that's not, they're misrepresenting themselves.

But as soon as they sat down, the first thing that they said was, oh yeah, well, you probably noticed our pictures, you know, that was about 20 or 30 pounds ago. I don't know exactly what the words were, but it was several, it was a few years and 30 pounds ago. Those were the words. And the thing about it was setting the pictures aside, if they would have taken pictures of the way they were then, right, we probably still would have gone out with them. And if they had the confidence as a couple, like you were just saying, the attractiveness comes from all those other things combined.

It's personality. I mean, hello, we have been married 30 years. You know, y'all can probably figure out how old we are. We are not spring chickens. You know, so we're not looking for Ken and Barbie, but we want people to be themselves and to be comfortable in their own skin. That is what makes people attractive in my mind. Right so okay sorry i i feel like i'm preaching no these are just issues that we've dealt with i know some of them are fairly new i mean and fresh okay so i have a confession to make okay what you know a couple of months ago you asked me me, had I ever measured myself?

I don't think I've ever measured you. And I said, no, I'd never measured myself before. Okay. So for this episode, just to do some research, I measured myself because this goes back to the profile. This is why we do a podcast.

Because, you know, you'll read the profile and the lady will say i like men who are well hung or i like if you're not bringing eight inches to the party you know oh no i know who you're talking about and she only said seven honey only seven seven plus whatever and so right away as soon as i see something like that i mean you know what it reminds me of it's like being at disney world and you got to be this tall to ride this ride and i'm standing there in line and i'm getting closer and closer to mickey mouse and i'm going i know i'm i know i'm shrinking and shrinking right i gotta stand up straight i gotta do this because i want to ride this ride and and that's what comes to my mind and i can i mean all i can imagine is coming into a bedroom with a couple and she says take them down i got my tape measure here i mean i can't as soon as i see that i it doesn't matter so anyway the first so that's what i think of when i see you know somebody who says you need to need to come with, you know, this many inches or this many, and you know what, if that's your thing, that's your thing.

But as soon as I see that, I'm like, I got to click, close that because I don't, that just freaks me out when I think I got to have, but anyway, so back to measuring myself. I'm not going to tell you how long, because the point of the matter is, what's your methodology? You do it from the back. You can do it from the side. You can do it from the front. You can do it. That's a really good point. I never thought about that. Okay. Well, let me tell you, there's an inch and a half variance depending on how I was measuring myself. So I don't know how you, how do you measure? Did you Google it?

I mean, there must be a standard. The point is that I'm trying to make, as a guy, when I see in a profile that a female is looking for X number of inches or somebody, I instantly just, I mean, it's like a turtle going into my, I said, well, I'm not going to measure up to that, or I don't want to be measured. And so here's the's the deal.

Um, when you meet me or when you meet a guy, it's not, it's about how my sense of humor, my personality, me flirting with you, me looking into your eyes, the way that I touch you, the way that we talk, um, the way that we dance together, you know, the way that we interact, um, you know, the way that I touch you, the way that we talk, the way that we dance together, the way that we interact, the way that if we do play, I can sense that I know what you like and what you don't like and do the right things at the right time and don't do the wrong things.

Those, to me, in my mind, are so much more important. Of course, I'm not a woman. I am a woman, and let me tell you what. I met, I'm thinking of two guys in particular that I met last Friday night at the Do You Know George dinner, and both of them were just personality. They were both adorable, gorgeous.

I mean, not like Hollywoodwood gorgeous but they had great personalities and gorgeous smiles and just engaging personalities and i mean i don't care what their package looks like it would work for me because those guys were just nice guys and they were just so much fun to talk to that turns me on right i don't care how long your cock is actually if it's too long it's gonna hurt i'm sorry yeah i i'm more about quality than quantity but again that is me we're all different but okay so well yeah i'm not sure what the the outcome of that. I'm going to get him to tell me afterwards, ladies.

No, no, you're not. I'm curious now. We've been married 30 years and I've never measured it. I erased that file. Because I never really thought about it until I got into the lifestyle. And all of a sudden it became a requirement. It has to be of a certain size.

If you've looked at our website, we posted a photo last month that i etched in the the like frosted ice on the martini bar on the celebrity cruise ship we were on go back and it said mrs j heart number three right and we said stay tuned to episode nine to find out okay number three is mr jones's cock that i have named him And there's a reason for that. Right. It goes back to, where were we? We were in Punta Cana. We were in Punta Cana on vacation. I think that was our first. It was like four years ago. Our first all-inclusive adult-only resort vacation. Right. It was magical. Right.

So we had, you know, gone shopping. And I bought Mr. Jones these, like, sexy. They were normal underwear, but they were we had you know gone shopping and i bought mr jones he's like sexy they were normal underwear but they were like you know sexy silky boxer briefs i guess i had bought him for my before we went on vacation well when i buy new clothes i wash them first mr jones doesn't always do that so we're we had like showered and and kind of gotten a little bit dressed after our day out in the sun. And we decided that we had enough time to play around before dinner.

So we had hopped back in bed and he had these new underwear on. And I had like slid his underwear down and I was starting to play with him. I don't remember if I just had my hand on you or if I was like putting my mouth on your cock or whatever, but all of a sudden there was this sticker. But before you go any further. Okay, what? When you're down there doing that and you start giggling, that doesn't normally bode well for me.

And we were just talking about size so now you're down there and you're giggling and then yeah so so you know how when you get a pair of underwear sometimes and it says inspected by there's that little little tiny sticker a little square sticker so there was this little square adhesive sticker stuck to his cock and all the thing it said was number three that's all it said it didn't say inspected by it just said number three right so i'm like what is stuck to you so i stop what i'm doing and i pick it off and i see this number three and we just both laughed about it he's like it must have been from my new underwear that i didn't bother to throw in the laundry to get washed before we came on vacation.

So we were laughing. So it said number three on it. So now his cock is, that's his name now, number three. Yeah. So thanks for that. Yeah. So Mrs. J. Hart number three. So until this moment, this was like just between the two of us. Now you've told everybody. I know. That's always been our secret thing. So we just shared it with, you know, a couple thousand of our closest friends. Right. Should we get back to profiles?

I don't even know what i was talking about now i can only think about number three so but let's get back to warm in here so pictures back to pictures we were talking about pictures whether you choose to put face pictures up or not is certainly up to you we understand you know discretion um some of us have careers where it's a little bit more of a risk than another you know so i mean the way that we do our personal site is we you know we pay we're we're paying customers for both sls and cassidy so both sls and cassidy have levels of photo galleries levels of security within the photo gallery so the way that we chose to do it is if you have a free account you can't see our faces but if you've paid and you're certified then you can see our our faces because we you know we want to see people and and we're comfortable at that level with showing our faces well also it's kind of awkward to like make a connection with somebody on an online dating site and then you go to meet them for dinner and you don't know what their faces look like right right it's hard to find a restaurant i kind of get that but as long as there's a guy and the girl and you see their bodies but but at some point in time if you're going to meet you really need to say hey we need to know who you're we're looking for here so you know send us some face pictures um and then we you know here's another thing i don't know how many times i've and this happens in sls a lot just recently i was reading a profile and it said we are just sticking our toes in the water and we are looking for somebody to help us grow through this adventure and then it says i've been on this site since 2003.

Right. That was 12 years ago. Right. So at some point in time. Your toes have been in the water for 12 years. Yeah, your toes have been in the water. So update your profile. Update your profile. They're going to be a little prunish by now. And then you know what I think of? If that's what you're putting, then your age is probably, you're probably 12 years older. Well, that's true, too. Than what you had and your age and how many pounds lighter. I hadn and how many pounds lighter.

So it's a dead giveaway when it says, you know, that, you know, we're just now getting into this and you're, you've established your online profile two or three or four, or in this case, 12 years ago, and they were just sticking their toes in the water.

um again that just goes back to as soon as i see that i'm like click back you know i don't i don't right yeah because you don't know really what you're getting into then and of course real age is accurate height and and weight and let me see we talked about pictures and what else do we need to talk about well just updating your pictures right you know like we have some pictures that are probably maybe three years old but we have the years on but we put the years on them so but we have new pictures too we have pictures from 2013 2014 and 2015 right so like every time we go on vacation we try to come home and and know, get at least one or two pictures up so that, you know, people can see what we currently look like, you know, for better or worse.

Right. You know, we don't want people to be surprised when they run into us in a restaurant because, you know, again, we are not 20 years old anymore. Right. So we we we're not ashamed of that. But, you know, we we are who we are and, and that's how it is for everybody. You are who you are. So here's a good test for you. This is what we did. Speaking of ages, because we're in our early fifties and we have that on our profile. Think about the people that you've played with, that you've met at a club or met at a resort or met face to face. And then you've gone back to look at their profile.

I can't tell you how many people that we've met at a party or an event. And we have just hit it off with and had a great time and sometimes played with.

And then we go back and look at their profile and it says nobody over the age of 45 or nobody less than seven inches yes so i'm like okay um so that's fine that you say that on your profile but but what you should do is what i'm not going to tell you what to do what we do i mean that's the way i've learned because you have and they make you put these parameters in and we did that on the remember when we we had a hard time i mean we've been with people as young as 30 and as old as almost 60 and at first the younger ones were intimidating to us because we were like oh well we got kids that age right and so we we had our age range because we weren't comfortable thinking about that but once we experienced it then we changed we went back and we said you know what that's.

Right. And so we, we had our age range because we weren't comfortable thinking about that. But once we experienced it, then we changed, we went back and we said, you know what? That's not, it's not a big deal. It's not as big of a deal as I thought it was because when you connect with somebody and you get in bed with them, all of a sudden the age doesn't matter anymore. 30, 40, 50, 60, whatever.

So what we've learned through this is that when we meet somebody out and about and we and we end up connecting with them whether we play with them or not and we look at their profile i always ask myself would i have picked this person out as a potential match for us you know a lot of times we would not we would not right and so that tells you the value of the profile to begin with so even if your profile is filled out and updated and pictures and everything, the thing that I've learned is it's about the person. It's about the person.

That's why when people reach out to us, you know, obviously we look for, well, this brings up another thing. So we, we got somebody, I think I told you about this. Somebody locally reached out and said, hey, your profile looks like ours, want to meet? And I looked at their profile, it looked nothing like ours. Right, I know, that was so confusing. And so you know what I thought of? Okay, the guy's online, he just wants to have sex with you. I mean, that's probably wrong, but that's the first, because there wasn't anything in our profiles that was in common with theirs.

Um, and you know, so, and what else happened recently? So somebody, somebody, oh, back to the pictures again. So this couple reached out to us and they said, would like to meet you. That's it. Not hello, not who we are. Would like to meet you. So I go in, I look at their profile. There's no pictures of him. And their profile description is about two paragraphs. No, two sentences. Two sentences, right? Yeah. So Mr. Jones replies and he says, you have us at a slight disadvantage.

I said, yeah, it's exactly what I said you know thank you for reaching out to us um it appears with your limited profile and pictures you have us at a slight disadvantage would you care to share a little bit more about yourselves and i never heard anything back so right away you know that was the profile that triggered the thought of doing an episode on profiles was it yes that was when you said we need to do an episode on profiles who the fuck are you right exactly you know you gotta i mean you keep it's gotta be more than just it was literally two or three sentences and then when i know and i thought i was pretty polite and and you were i could have just deleted the thing but i said you know you have us at a disadvantage you know give us some pictures and more about yourselves and and we'll we'll be able to answer you and we hear nothing back so anyway so we're getting ready to go away from memorial day weekend and uh we've tried to search around and find profiles locally where we're going to the beach.

And that's been an interesting challenge. And we haven't really gotten anywhere. We'll get into that later. I mean, there's so many things about SLS and Cassidy that we haven't even begun to delve into yet. I mean, there's events, there's rendezvous, there's meetups, there's hot dates, there's, you know, you can book travel. So tonight, I think the thing that we wanted to focus on was just the profile itself, because what we're learning is it's not as easy. And of course, you know, we never used online dating services. So all of all of this is new to us.

So again again, I'm not bashing anybody out there. It's, we're more laughing at ourselves because we're kind of naive, you know, coming into this. And I'm thinking that, oh, well, I'm honest and open. So everyone else is going to be, and I continuously am disappointed by, by people. And then I kick myself like, why do you believe this? You know, why are you, why are you doing that? know, who manages the site? You know, we went to a meet and greet not too long ago. We told you all about this meet and greet in Northern Virginia where there were a couple hundred people. And we had connected.

I'm the one that manages all of our websites.

And I had looked at the RSVP list, found a couple that looked interesting reached out to them emailed with them said we were going to be there would they be interested in chatting and they they i didn't know at the time but it was he emailed back and said yeah we're going to be here here's my tech here's my phone number text me and we texted back and forth and we walked in and we said okay they said we're standing over here we went to meet him we walked up to meet him and when he turned to introduce us to his wife she was clueless she had no idea no idea that we had been communicating with him so again here i am naive thinking that people communicate like like we do and it's just not the case now they're a great couple and we ended up you know really enjoying our our conversation with them but but she was at a disadvantage she was at a disadvantage because you had kept me up to speed on everything right and she was just really trying to play catch up right um throughout the evening right so what you and i do is so that leads us probably to the last point that we want to make about this.

And that's who manages this site. Because if you're both going to sit down and look at this, it could take a lot of time. Right. And we've gotten, I've gotten better at being able to pick people out and to respond. And then just about every night or every other night at dinner, I'll say. Well, we have the advantage of having an empty nest. So Mr. Jones and I eat dinner alone.

You you know when we get home from work and you know we've come home from the gym or running or whatever we do it's usually just the two of us right so i can say okay so you know how did how did things go today do we need to have a lifestyle meeting and and then you know he brings me up to speed on everything on both you know the we the, we got a thing stuff and the, and then the personal stuff. Right. So we, so we communicate and then I show you and I read you everything verbatim. Right. And then, you know, we share the Twitter account.

You can always open that up and look at it, but I manage most of that and I manage all of that. And, but, but you and I talk just about every day or every other day. Oh, every day, I think. Yeah. Especially when somebody, and that's, okay, so here's another thing I just thought of. So there was a couple that reached out to us and they said, hey, I don't even want to get into the message, but they said, hey, you know, we heard about your podcast. We know we're friends with you and whatever.

We'd like, if you're open to getting together let's get together and so I showed it to you and a day later I replied and said sure well two weeks goes by and I don't hear anything and so I followed up and I said well what you know what's going on now I know that there's normally a delay but when somebody reaches out to me or to us and we respond you should be ready to respond right back, because as the days go by, I'm thinking, okay, one of them didn't know, or there's something else going on. But normally, you know, what do we do to make them change their mind?

Yeah, normally, I think two or three or four days, because, you know, people do have to communicate. So we're not expecting an answer right away.

But especially when somebody reaches out to us, and then we respond respond and then we don't get a response back you know that's kind of a red flag too so um what else did did we miss anything else or does that pretty much i think yeah i think that's i think we beat this to death and oh no no i know what i wanted to talk about oh yeah so back to the pictures so you you have to make um a decision about what kind of pictures you're going to put on your profile and and again we're not being judgmental but you just as you are creating this profile if you're you know fairly new to the lifestyle're updating your profile, um, you need to have an awareness of what kind of message are you sending by the types of photos you put out there.

Um, because sometimes we look at profiles and you can tell they've had professional pictures done and they're very sensual and the, you know, just amazing settings and, and just, just incredible pictures of both the lady and the gentleman. Um, and then sometimes you will open up some private photos on a, on a site, whether it's SLS or Cassidy or whatever you use in your region. And it's like all genital shots and, you know, one or two of those is kind of interesting interesting, but you know, it kind of gets to the point where you've seen one and you've seen them all. Right.

And I want to know more about that person than what their cock looks like or what their pussy looks like or, or whatever. The inside of the pussy. Yeah, right. I mean, your tits are gorgeous, but what about the rest of you? And, you know, sometimes you can use the photos to convey to people, you know, what kind of hobbies you have. Are you a beach person? Are you a lake person? Are you a, you know, city person or whatever? And sometimes you just don't get that sense from somebody because that's all about the genital shots. And if that's what you're trying to portray to somebody, that's good.

But you just need to have an awareness that that's the messages you're sending out it's just it's a it's a very sexual this is what i'm about message not this is um the kind of places i like to to go to rendezvous to enjoy myself with my spouse or you know know, with my lifestyle friends. Um, just when you kind of take it out of context, it, it can, uh, really send a, a message. Yeah. And I, and I know that everyone coming into this, if you're just now getting into it, everyone has to make a decision.

You know, the, one of the risks is if I tell, if I tell too much about myself or put my face out there, somebody is going to recognize me. And when you choose to get into this lifestyle, there is always that risk. You know, you have to decide, it's a personal decision how much you want to put out there. And obviously for us doing a podcast, we're putting more out there than, than a lot of people because our voices are out there.

Um, but that's something that, you know, that we've talked about and we've decided to do and we'll probably podcast about that later but um that's a part of it but you know there's a risk reward with anything else you know the more you put yourself out there the the better chance that you're going to meet somebody that's like you and that you're going to have a quality experience and i can speak for the both of us i think in saying that we are much more comfortable now than we were a year and a half ago when we first put our profile out there and we were scared to death that people were going to find us.

So, you know, you're going to, you've got to make the decision and, and we understand because we were there, but, but as you grow, grow your profile with you, you know, update your profile. I guess that's the message we're trying to put out there tonight is don't let your profile become stagnant. Right. You know, be aware of what you've got out there and make sure that that is what you want to have out there. Right. And keep it updated. Keep it fresh. Keep your pictures fresh, keep your message fresh as you progress.

I mean, you know, people progress through, you know, soft swap, full swap, you know, voyeur exhibitions, wherever you're starting. Make sure that your profile is moving with you through your journey, however fast or slow your journey is going. Right. Well said. OK, well, let's just wrap that up and uh we'll be back in a few minutes to talk about snapshots take us back to our Just for Dinner Bye.

so our snapshots take us back to our just for dinner um at our do you know george event that we had last week so after the dinner was over um and we all got kicked out of the restaurant we ended up having an opportunity to go out to a nightclub with the couple that sat next to us and then the single girl who was there single because her husband had to travel at the last minute so she decided to come on out to the event solo instead of you know letting their ticket just kind of fall by the wayside right so we hopped in the car and we went i don't know it couldn't have been more than a couple miles away right and and went to this nightclub in dc that mr jones and i would have never gone to if it had just been the two of us yeah we're not really nightclub people to begin with no when we would have of course never been able to figure out that this would have been a cool place to go um it was a it was a brownstone on the corner it was like five stories tall and and when we got there it was probably about 12 30 at night and there were probably like 30 people outside and there was a bouncer at the door you had to climb a flight of stairs to get up to the door and there was a bouncer there and it was a happening place it was a happening place so anyway we just busted right on in there and uh and found this like i guess it was like on the third floor of it there was this really beautiful bar yeah they had quite an extensive martini menu yeah and we found a table at the bar or table in front of the bar right and it was really crowded, and we ordered martinis.

Yeah, the five of us crammed around this tiny little table, so that was kind of fun to be crammed in with beautiful, sexy people. Right, so the gentleman and I decided to get up and go exploring, and we went two more floors up and found that there was music. And so we came back downstairs and fetched you all.

Well, we finished our drinks and then dragged the three of three ladies back upstairs oh because you had to totally drag us we did not want to go dance yeah right no so we went upstairs and it was really cool because um you know they had a little dance floor but but again this was a a townhouse in the middle of the city and it wasn't a very wide townhouse. It was tall. It was five stories. But each level was kind of small. So the dance floor was small. And it was really crowded when we first got up there. Right.

So we kind of had to wedge our way kind of through and create a spot for the five of us. Right.

Again, which is one of the reasons I really don't like dancing to begin with because you know the dance floor is packed you gotta you gotta like elbow people to find some space and you know that's so i wasn't really very excited about it to begin with no not not at all but that changed not yes it did change through the night like this was a first for mr jones and i as far as dancing goes usually i get the obligatory slow dance at a wedding or mr jones will dance with me at desire but you can still tell that it's more of a he's doing it because i want to do it and not because he really wants to get out there and bust a move right so anyway we we danced the dance floor was crowded we ended up staying on the dance floor for probably a couple hours two hours yeah yeah which is very strange um we were sweaty yeah we were we were hot we were sweaty um you know because you still had your suit on yeah and and as the evening progressed fewer and fewer people were on the dance floor and we and we kept i kept going back to the bar to get water i mean all of us yeah we were done drinking alcohol at that point we were just drinking water like fish right because we were it was hot in there and we were overdressed and uh and we were definitely uh exerting ourselves yeah and then and then it became apparent that we the way that we were dancing other people were noticing and it was getting late so the the combination of things the dance floor started to clear out you know fairly soon after we started and we did a lot of dancing and the five of us had become very comfortable with each other let's just say that yeah for for a vanilla dance club yes yeah we were um having a good time and and we were all just dancing with each other it didn't really matter who was dancing with whom at that point in time we were right we were just in enjoying the music right so we danced for a couple of hours We ended up closing the place down, you know, and then we, to kind of close out the music.

Right. So we danced for a couple of hours. We ended up closing the place down. Um, you know, and then we, um, to, to kind of close out the narrative of this part of the evening, we, we drove, um, them back to their hotel. And by this time it was two 30 in the morning. Cause we didn't get home until three. Yeah. Cause I, I think the, uh, I think the, the waitstaff came around at about 2.15 and started tapping everybody on the shoulder and saying, last call, last call. Right. And so we didn't play, and I don't even really think it would have been possible.

I mean, it was so late, and we had been drinking and dancing.

Okay, well, we didn't play as in go back to the hotel and have sex but i i was doing some playing on the dance floor i'm not gonna lie so the so the end of the so the end of the kind of descriptive narrative is we we we finished dancing we took them back to the hotel we came home and we got home at 3 30 3 45 in the morning and we just passed out we were done and that was the end of the evening however our snapshots both take place on the dance floor so we want to go back to the dance floor and give you a little bit more of a descriptive narrative of these two snapshots so why don't you go first well i think yours yours kind of went first in the in the timeline okay So I think, yeah, we were, I mean, you yours kind of went first in the timeline.

Okay. So I think, yeah, we were, I mean, you can kind of pick up. Well, we, I mean, we, there were five of us, which, and the dance floor started to empty out, like I was saying, and it was really hot.

And after a while, the lady I was dancing with ended up taking my jacket off, which I don't know why I didn't do sooner and i untucked my shirt and things i felt really i felt good at that point in time better because i was cool enough and she uh she kind of made a show of taking your jacket off yeah she kind of stripped you it was very sexy right so so what was going on is that at one point in time uh she and i were dancing, and she had her back to me, and she had her ass kind of rubbing against my crotch. Kind of. Yeah, kind of. There was no kind of.

And then the other single female was dancing in front of her. So both ladies were dancing with me, well, in front of me. me one was against me and then you and the other gentlemen were going at it I'm not even quite sure what was going on over there but there was this moment when I realized we were the only ones on the dance floor and I had been dancing for two hours and this almost sex was going on, you know, through her clothes on the dance floor. And it finally dawned on me, this is what dirty dancing is. Okay, I'm a slow learner.

But it was a combination of all of that, the dancing, the sweatiness, the bodies rubbing together, and the fact that we were the only ones on the dance floor. And you had two really hot girls dancing with you. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. And then you two were going at it. And, of course, I got a glimpse of that as well. And he was getting charged up dancing with you. No kidding. I was like, I was crazy. Yeah.

So it was that moment when I was like, all of a sudden it dawned on me, oh, this is mean by dirty i think i like dancing you think you like it i think i like it it looked like you were having a pretty good time but even at desire i mean we we danced a lot at desire but that dance floor is usually so crowded and um the chemistry that the five of us had i think really made the difference yeah everybody was Everybody was just really, by that point in the evening, we all knew each other. We had had great conversation. We had alcohol. We had all the ingredients necessary.

Full bellies of yummy, yummy food. And yeah, so we had it all. So I'm here to say that I'm now a fan of Dirty Dancing. Yes. Yeah. Yes. So that's my snapshot. so yeah so i i was was having to entertain myself with this sexy guy while Mr. Jones was engaged with the two ladies. So I was making the best of it. And let me just say, like Mr. Jones said, we didn't go back to the hotel and play that night.

But I pretty much had sex on the dance floor with a pair of soup pants on and a cocktail dress and that was really the only thing that kind of kept us from getting arrested because it was hot I was I was so just charged up and turned on and and at the same time like really sexually frustrated because I knew that we were in this like normal vanilla nightclub bar scene. And we had to behave ourselves because I, I just wanted to kiss him so bad, but I could tell that, that people could tell who, you know, kind of who was with whom.

And, um, it, I just, I didn't know how far I felt like, uh, pushing things at night. So I tried to be on my best behavior, but oh, my gosh, it was so hard because he was putting some moves on me, and it was really, really fun. So while all this was going on, my snapshot is, you know, like Mr. Jones said, the place had started to clear out because it was getting late, and there were like these, as we were like doing all this crazy dancing, and I looked around at one point as I was like grinding up against this other guy, and there were like six guys lining the bar area.

I don't know where their wives or girlfriends or dates or whatever were. It was just six guys kind of just standing around like a horseshoe-shaped bar area, and they were watching us.

And when I noticed that, it's like the exhibitionist in me came out, and then that made me even more charged up and turned on because I'm like, wow, this is really cool because they're probably trying to figure out what the hell is going on you know there's there's this uh couple and then there's this other couple and then there's a single girl and everybody's dancing with whom who belongs to whom yeah how did that what's going on and i could tell it was probably kind of confusing because you know mr jones and i would dance together it wasn't like if we had kind of like you know split up into two teams.

It was really the five of us um so you know then mr jones and i would start dancing together and mr jones was doing a little dirty dancing with me and then that had me really charged up because that's really like the most um erotic dance experience we've ever had together yeah so that it was really it was just really fun and then to see those guys watching us and you could almost just see the wheels turning in their heads and and some of them you know you could kind of tell they were like damn I wonder if it'd be okay if we came and joined in and actually earlier in the night there was a guy that that tried to join in with us but then I think too he didn't last very long no he didn't last very long so I don't know if I scared him off or maybe I just wasn't his type or whatever.

So, um, it was just, it was a really fun night. And then to have the little like, uh, groupies watching us made it just even better. Yeah. So you were exhibitionist dancing. Yes. Well, sex with clothes on. Yeah. Thanks to our new friends. And, um, hopefully, uh, we'll get an opportunity to do that again. It was really a great evening altogether and it all, uh, you know, culminated because of the, how it started, you know, with the dinner for George and led eventually into that. So it was, it was a lot of fun. It was a lot of fun.

So we're looking forward to, uh uh some more events in the future with um the uh do you know george group yep so a couple of um things we want to discuss real quickly before we sign off last month uh on our last podcast we talked about um an event uh we went to catalyst con and we talked about a session that we went to with Dr. Zana. And a lot of the information that we talked about, we put on as a link to the website last time. Well, she sent us an email after the podcast and asked if we would do her a favor.

and she's asking if we'll pass along to our listeners the opportunity to participate in an online sex study. And it's a survey that takes about, I took it, it takes about 20 minutes. And I'm going to put the URL, the link to it on our website, but it's onlinesexstudy.org. And what she's trying to do, she and a couple of her colleagues, they're trying to understand, well, let me just read. We're trying to understand our communities and their strengths and weaknesses, and then share that knowledge with the world, hopefully dispelling many stereotypes and myths about who we are and what we do.

So if you've been to a play party in the US in the past year and are over 18, we want to hear from you. All genders and sexual orientations are eligible. The anonymous survey takes between 15 and 40 minutes, depending on how many portions you choose to answer. You don't have to do it all at once. You can come back as many times without losing the data. And then if you do that, you're going to get a discount code for a purchase at Adam and Eve online. And then enter, if you choose to, there's a raffle for everyone who does the survey and they're going to give out some $50 Amazon gift cards.

So I did take the survey and is about um specifically about party house parties that you've been to so if that interests you it would be great for us to there's not a lot of data out there in the life from lifestyle and this would be an opportunity for us to give back to dr zana and her colleagues so anyway we'll put a link to that on the website.

Then the last thing that we wanted to talk about before we wrap up, we've been sharing some feedback from our listeners, and we want to continue to encourage you to do that, where we want to, I don't know, you described this fairly well the other night when we were talking about, we do this because we're very relational. Right. I mean, that's really kind of our MO as far as how we look for people to play with in the lifestyle is, you know, we're looking for people that have an obvious connection between the two of them.

And because we feel like we have that obvious connection between the two of us. And those are the types of people that we want to play with that have those strong relationships.

And we're enjoying the friendships that we are making with the friends that, you know, the people that we've met in the lifestyle, whether we play with them or not, you know, some, sometimes you, you meet people and you hit it off and there's really not a lot of sexual attraction there, but there's a lot of common interests and it's just, you know, it's fun to be able to talk to people about, you know, sexuality, um, things you can't talk to your vanilla friends about. And that's just been kind of an unexpected pleasure. Well, that has kind of carried over into the podcast.

Our listeners are reaching out to us and kind of sharing their origin stories or some struggles they've had or some victories that they've had, you know, funny stories or whatever.

And that's been really kind of touching for us because we know that y'all are busy and we appreciate the time that you take to listen to our podcast and then when you when you take that extra step when you have the opportunity to to contact us and share something about yourselves or share you know something that you'd like to hear us discuss that that truly um that means a lot to us and and we have had some like dialogue started, not just, you know, we get an email and we say, Hey, thanks. Thanks a lot. You know, there's actually been a lot of back and forth dialogue and it's been really fun.

So we're, we're trying to find a way, um, and maybe a better way to couch this is to say what we're not looking for.

You know, there's a lot of podcasts and a lot of, um, and we've been doing is just answer a question you know are you into this what do you think about soft swap and you know so instead of doing that we want to somehow allow you to share um your relationship with us as much as you feel comfortable and it would be anonymous obviously um if we decide to read it but um wherever you are in listening to whatever episode you're listening to, um, and, and we got a thing in the future because podcasts, how it works is, I mean, people are going to be listening to episode nine in May of 2015, May of 2016, 2017.

And if, and if you don't, if we put a question out, that's just relevant for a month, it only gives a certain number of people to respond. So we'd like you to, wherever you are, whatever you hear, if something resonates with you, send us a message and just tell us your thoughts on it. And if you've had an experience around that, share that experience because we want to read some of these at the end of our podcast. With your permission, of course.

I mean, still reach out to us even if you know that you don't of these at the end of our podcast with your permission of course i mean still reach out to us even if you know that you don't want us to share it on air just just say that and we will certainly respect that right and if we do share it on air we're not going to say names or anything like that but but it's a way to kind of uh you know some of the advice and information that we're getting it's a shame that to keep this to ourselves so we want to out. Yeah. Yeah. Cause I mean, we're learning a lot from you all. Right.

And so one of the, the email that I'd like to share back tonight is from our new friends in Sydney, Australia. Yes. Too bad it came in the form of writing versus voice because I can only just begin to imagine how sexy the australian accent is yeah well i can't do that for you so no but i got it in my head i have it all set up in my head okay it sounds good yeah so so let me share what a couple of uh listeners from sydney australia have have said so um we are re-listening to podcast episode number five where you are talking about soft or not soft play times I can see from your Mr.

Jones discussion that the full swap step is a big one maybe you have already been there or it has been a while I certainly think that you should not take that step unless you. However, I suspect it will not be as big of a deal as you think when the time comes. I suspect that you, Mr. Jones, is a very sensitive and committed person. You are the type of guy that when you say, I'll do that, you do it. Not keeping your word is not an option. Letting someone down is one of your worst fears. You are honest to a fault. Your commitment when given is total. I think that puts you, Mr.

Jones, in a tough place. You feel that you've given your word to Mrs. Jones to be hers totally. That is understandable. However, may I suggest that you are moving into a new world, and this new world will bring you a new sense of life it may help you to bring a perspective to your whole life that your commitment is total but you can also be flexible and more open that you than you have ever been again it's totally in your hands i was impressed with a quote that our yoga teacher mentioned yesterday. She's a wonderful person who just happens to be rather beautiful. And here's her quote.

Well beyond our idea of right and wrong, there is a field. I'll meet you there. Just a few thoughts. Hope I have not trod on any toes. And these are our friends from Sydney, Australia. So, you know, I mean, first of all, a lot of they really listen because he described me. He nailed you. Oh, my gosh. Perfectly there. Yeah. And then, you know, the whole idea of a new perspective is what we're continuously learning in this lifestyle. Where we thought we were before is evolving and things are becoming less scary. And so this quote about, you know, well beyond our idea of right and wrong.

So we have these thoughts about, you know, what's right and what's wrong based on who we are and how we were raised. And to know that there's something beyond that where somebody wants to meet us is that that illustration really was, I thought, captivating.

And I just wanted to know that there's something beyond that where somebody wants to meet us is that that illustration really was i thought captivating and i just wanted to share that and just so you'll know that they also have a sense of humor they go on to say oh and one more thing about toothbrushes and you know the toothbrush story that we told there was not a sexy that's like the unsexiest thing we've ever talked about we get more comments about the toothbrush story well here's another one one more thing about toothbrushes the missus was brushing her teeth on saturday night she had picked up my brush by mistake i said to her i think that's mine and she said oh yeah no big deal I said sure no problems except last time I used it I used it to brush my ass I was brushing my teeth with her toothbrush without blinking she responded oh you do that too much laughter followed we seem to be far more flexible in this matter than you and I I think they're talking to you, Mrs.

Joyce. Yeah, I kind of picked up on that. So first of all, you know, as you were saying, the time that it takes to think about the things that we say and to, you know, think about that as a couple and talk about it as a couple and then to sit down all the way across the other side of the planet and put such thoughtful words down and send it to us, um, is really meaningful. And very cool. Yeah. So we want to, and they did give us permission to share this back. Um, so we're going to try to continue to do this.

So, you know, feel free to, I mean, of course, everyone likes to get the emails that says, we really love your podcast. You're doing a great job and thank you. And I'm not discouraging you from doing that because it's always good to hear. But we really want to hear what you think and how what you hear, you know, is impacting the way that you're navigating this lifestyle. And if it's something that you'd like to share with us, we'd certainly appreciate that. Yes. So I think Thank you. out. And if it's something that you'd like to share with us, we'd, we'd certainly, uh, appreciate that. Yes.

So I think we are just about to the end. There was a couple more. Oh, so along those lines, what, what you can do to help us, because again, you know, this is our, a hobby that we do where we, we're not going to try to, we're never going to do this for a fee. You know, we're never going to ask for donations. This is kind of something that we just do. So if there is anything that you want to do, um, there, there are two things and that's one of them. Share this information back so that we can share it. And the other thing is iTunes reviews. Yes.

We know that it, uh, again, a time-consuming process to do an itunes review but what that does um you know it uh it definitely pushes us to the top so that when people are searching for new podcasts to listen to especially you know people knew the lifestyle and they don't really know which ones to to go for because they they haven't really heard any of them. So, you know, a lot of these you hear about were, you know, people knew the lifestyle and they don't really know which ones to go for because they haven't really heard any of them.

So, you know, a lot of these you hear about word of mouth or you hear about we got a thing on a different podcast or, you know, we talk about other podcasts on our podcast and it just kind of spreads that way. But if you're new, you are forced to do the dreaded iTunes search, and sometimes that's not an easy thing. So the more reviews we get, the higher we float to the top when you do that search on Lifestyle. On iTunes, yeah. So we thank you in advance for doing that. Again, only if you feel led to do that, but we'd appreciate it. So to contact us, email is by far the best way.

I do a pretty good job of trying to get back to people immediately or within 24 hours. Our email address is wegotathing at gmail.com, and our website is wegotathing.com. You can follow us on Twitter at wegotathing, and I mentioned earlier, I believe, that we have a community in Cassidy. Please feel free to stop by and, and, um, join us there. All of this information is on our website. Um, all this contact information and, um, hopefully we're going to make it as easy as possible for you to reach out. So Mrs. Jones, anything else? I don't know.

I, you know, you're really getting into that Twitter. Um, I have my smartphone at work and I don't really have the kind of job where I can just kind of grab my phone and look at it at any point in time, but all these notifications come up. I can tell when it's an interesting Twitter day because I'll glance over at my phone and all these little Twitter notifications are popping up about all these like conversations that are flying back and forth. Yeah.

it's a great way if you want to have a conversation with me specifically, with us, in between episodes, you know, follow us on Twitter and be engaged in the conversation. It's a lot of fun. And sometimes I'm like, oh, maybe that kind of stuff shouldn't be popping up on my phone and I'll just kind of reach over and turn my phone over. That might not be appropriate. but it's good conversation. Yes. Okay. Well, it's time to say good night and we'll be back next month. Thanks for listening. As always, we are Mr. and Mrs. Jones and we got a thing. What's your thing?