In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction. Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners! Join our We Gotta Thing members only community Visit our website and learn more about our upcoming WGT events
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This podcast contains explicit language and content and is for mature audiences only. Hey you teenagers out there, if you're under 18, this show is more for your parents. So now that you have that mental picture stuck in your head, put some music on and get back to doing your homework. We are a long-time married couple who's decided to chronicle our personal adventures and share our sex-positive discussions as we navigate our way through the swinging lifestyle. Care to join us?
hello everyone i'm mr jones and i'm mrs jones and we want to welcome you to episode 63 of the we got a thing podcast lifestyle chemistry 101 yeah we're going to school yeah we're gonna do some studying it's been um it's been a good lab assignment Well, the past month, it has been like a variety of assignments that we've been studying. Yeah. Yeah. We did an episode on attractiveness a while back, and the word chemistry is a little subjective as well.
So we thought we would talk a little bit about what chemistry, we think chemistry means to us and then specifically how it's different from attraction and what it means to make friends in the lifestyle with chemistry. That's right. Easy. I know. Well, I mean, like you and I got some chemistry going on. Well, that's true. We talk about that in a minute.
But I thought we had chemistry when i came home from a business trip a week ago and went to indianapolis for a couple of days um came home those of you who have been listening to us for a while will know where this story is headed and where my ultimate disappointment... No, they'll know where it's not headed if they know me. So I got home late at night. We sat downstairs and caught up for a little while and chit-chatted and then headed up to the bedroom. And as I was walking into the bedroom, you were behind me and you said, oh, you're never going to guess what I did while you were gone.
And at that moment I could hear the angel singing and I said yes finally my wife has been steps away from perfection for so many years she's finally made it she finally got her sex toys out while I was gone played with herself and made a video and and maybe you were gonna like show me this video when we went into the bedroom so in that split second where you said you're never gonna guess what i did while you were gone and my i mean i just lit up and i said oh my gosh you didn't and you said what and then i realized is all i was gonna tell you is that i took the trash out by myself. I know.
Because I never remember to take the can out to the curb when you're out of town. There's only been a couple times in life that I've been more disappointed to hear that you took the trash out. It just deflated me. I know. One of these times you're going to remember to either lie about it, make up a story about it, or actually do it. Well, I'm not going to lie about it because I'm not a good liar. So that means I'm just going to have to like do it. Yeah. Well, thank you for taking the trash out. I guess that means something. Well, we had good like reconnection sex after you got home.
Yeah, you about killed me. No, I about killed myself myself and i still have a scar to prove it yeah yeah i uh i have a bruise on my forehead thank goodness i have bangs and a little bit of concealer because it's actually a little green yeah i don't think that's ever happened to us before no i don't know yeah i I don't know what happened. So I was laying on my back in bed and I was using a vibrator on myself and you were helping me. Yeah, I was laying on my side like propped up on my elbow. So my face was above your head and I was helping you.
Yeah, well, you were helping me extremely well because I had like a crazy orgasm. And when I had an orgasm, I kind of like, I guess, did a crunch. I kind of like sat up when I had my orgasm, but I did it really quickly and with no warning. And I bashed my forehead on the top of your skull. We both have really hard heads. Right.
It good thing you were done yeah and it wasn't it wasn't that first wave it was like the third or fourth wave wave of your orgasm oh really i don't remember that part i mean i thought you had finished then all of a sudden your body just like went into like a seizure and you sat straight up and clocked me right in the head and i was kind of I was kind of like screaming anyway. But then it was like a yelp. That really hurt. Yeah. Well, I had the wherewithal to finish anyway. Well, that's right because I had my orgasm first. We hadn't even had sex yet. Right. So, yeah.
That's one way to see stars. That's for sure. Definitely. Yeah. Give yourself a concussion having an orgasm so we just got back from a heck of a meet and greet in atlanta yes we had so much fun we did have so much fun we almost got kicked out of the hotel but we had we almost got arrested i think that's that was an over that's overblown statement. That was the rumor. No, we had a really, really good time. I mean, there were like 45 couples and, um, and we had a beautiful unicorn with us that weekend, at least for part of the weekend. Yeah.
So we just had the most amazing group of people with us. How could we not have had a good time yeah the weather was perfect um the hotel was really cool really a sexy vibe in the hotel um you know we went to dinner in groups of five or ten couples each so it started off well no we started off at the pool we did yeah on friday afternoon a bit of a happy hour at Yeah, it was pretty fun. As people were rolling in, you know, in our MeWe group, we were saying, hey, we're up at the pool, why don't you check in?
And people were just dumping their stuff in their room and coming to the pool, and that was fun. It was kind of windy that day. It was a little chilly. It was. But I just kind of cuddled with everybody and stole some body heat, and it was good. Yeah.
we went out to dinner in groups and then um had a little bit of a happy hour and an icebreaker we and we did we broke into small groups it was kind of neat to get everybody out of the big group and into some smaller groups to meet and greet each other yeah yeah i think people really enjoyed that because it was a just a more organized environment where you know i think we have what maybe six couples in a group ish yeah you know so they could actually have a conversation and hear each other right and then saturday afternoon we um we had katherine with us those of you who may know her from the jealousy episode and the drama episode yeah she and her husband came and um she did a sensual yoga class in the afternoon for couples yeah that was a huge hit it was yes yeah and we're gonna make it longer next time in nashville yep um and then she did a workshop and well actually we did a combined workshop she she started out we talked about she talked about communication tools yep and then then we followed up with some lifestyle scenarios about communication and broke into groups.
So the afternoon was a lot of educational and, I mean, you were still able to connect with people, but it was more workshoppy. Yeah, but then after the workshop, what did we do? We went to trapeze. No. We went right back out to the pool. Oh, right. And that was yeah that was really great yeah then we all got cleaned up and then we went to trapeze yeah what a sexy vibe yeah that was a really fun night um there were just wgt people everywhere and like we were all on the dance floor i'm i kissed a lot of men that night. And you know what? You didn't come home sick either. No. Hey, you know what?
I hadn't even thought about that. Yeah. Because last time at the New Year's party, you were sick for a few weeks after that. Yeah. So anyway, we had a great time at Trapeze. We met some new friends. We had some old friends show up and we are gathering momentum and we know that when we have our event in Nashville it's going to be really cool too yes for sure looking forward to that we also had some friends come into town and we're going to mention them in a bit when we talk about chemistry because these are our two of our lifestyle besties that came into town yep this past weekend.
And then we had the opportunity to meet another couple from our community that came into town. Yep. They're a couple that we've known for a while via email and chat and this and that and the other. So we were virtual friends. And, you know, again, people always have to come into DC for work and it just really benefits us a lot. Oh, and her, and the wife actually got to be a unicorn with us for a while. Yeah, she did. Her husband was at work and yeah. Yeah. She's a brave woman. I mean, think about that. We had never met in person and we just like pull up in front of the hotel.
We told her what kind of car we had and she just comes out all dressed up. She's beautiful. Just hops in the car with us. Let's do it.
and we just like pull up in front of the hotel we told her what kind of car we had and she just comes out all dressed up she's beautiful just hops in the car with us i mean we could have totally kidnapped her yeah she is very beautiful i know but we didn't kidnap her because we wanted her husband too yeah yeah so had a lot of fun um we want to take a minute also the the last thing that we did that we want to talk about was we got to go out to dinner with our good friends jay and k from that couple next door yes and it was so bittersweet yeah they're moving to seattle yes from washington dc to washington state yeah so we've gone from living 45 minutes apart to uh what i like six day drive apart or whatever i know but it's just a plane ride though yeah but we wanted to just do a special shout out to them because these guys you guys have been really good friends for the past few years and your podcast is amazing and we're two of your biggest fans yep and uh proud to say that we were we were there from the beginning yeah when we first discovered that you lived so close and i'll never forget the first time we had them over okay we're still barfing in the bucket the very first time we had them over for dinner well no the very first time we met them in person was at a race yeah the four of us had run a race and we had never met in person before and we knew we were all running the race we said well you know hopefully we'll be able to like bump into each other at the finish festival well sure enough we finished running we got our beer and they were right there and the four of us it was kind of hot out that day and so we were sweaty and like that crusty we were crusty i think what you're saying is normally when you go out on a swinger date or a lifestyle date you get you have chance to take a shower and get cleaned up and put your perfume on and you're sweaty at the end of the date not the beginning so i don't think any of the four of us were looking our best that day but we were hugging each other i know that was awesome and then and then we had him over for dinner like a week later or something and um and mr jones had a bucket because you've got to go back and listen to that couple next door from the beginning but yeah you you had a bucket and a bottle of wine sitting on our counter you know picture of it she's gotten better she has you know like she's very in control now so we've we've had as you guys know if you've listened to us and to them you know we've we've done a couple of joint podcasts we've had a lot of fun together and we just wanted to take a minute to um jay and k wish you guys the best and we're gonna miss you for your friendship and um we can still be friends on the other side of the country definitely and and we uh do know how to buy plane tickets out your way.
Yeah, definitely. What a great friendship. Yep. So when we come back, we're going to get into Lifestyle Chemistry 101. Yes. Welcome back to segment two our topic episode on lifestyle chemistry 101 so we're gonna be doing some studying i really wasn't good i was better at biology than chemistry oh i hated biology like i didn't like dissecting frogs and fetal pigs and grasshoppers and blah. I loved chemistry class. Yeah, I mean, chemistry is okay, but... Chemistry is like a math class. I mean, I was like all about it. Yeah. It was really fun.
But this kind of chemistry is a little more difficult. I mean, you think chemistry class is hard. This is so subjective. Yeah. How do you know when there's chemistry between two people and how do you define that and how do you predict it? And not only between two people, but between four people. Oh yeah, no kidding.
So we talk about four-way connections and we've talked about four-way friendships and we've talked about four-way attractiveness, but four-way chemistry is really, that doesn't happen that often often i guess in our daily lives when we're talking about meeting like dating somebody or when we met you know you might people use the word chemistry they say well you know in an instant like it's instantaneous if there's chemistry or not right right it's not something that you can predict right like all of a sudden there's just like this magnetic chemistry between you yeah and i've heard other people say you either have it or you don't it's like a binary thing it's like a light switch it's either on or it doesn't exist and you know that and that's kind of true in a lot of cases yeah but i think we're gonna bust that myth oh are we myth busting tonight here in a minute all right another thing people i hear people say about chemistry is oh yeah we know right away if there's chemistry or not yeah yeah and and sometimes again most of the time that's true i would say right and i've heard people say well you never know when it's going to happen and that's true yeah i don't think you can predict when there's going to be chemistry or whether it's not.
But anyway, in day-to-day life and in non-lifestyle life, that's how I've used, how I've heard the word chemistry used when we're talking about dating or being with another person. Right. I mean, kind of like, you know, think about back when we first met.
I know, I thought you were like a movie star oh my gosh I think that's so sweet but I like you know think about back when we first met i know i thought you were like a movie star i think that's so sweet but i have no idea why you thought that well you know i was just consumed we we worked right next to each other literally just inches apart yes and it was palpable i couldn't concentrate on what i was doing you know know, we had just met. It was new. We were young. You know, you were hot. It was distracting. Well, you were hot too, but like I was there to do a job and I could focus.
Yeah, I couldn't, I couldn't focus very much. There's a time and a place for everything, honey. Yeah. So I wonder I didn't get fired. No, but, um, I was consumed with you too. Like, you know, I would go home and like, I wonder what he's doing. And, and then, you know, like, especially like 30 something years ago when we met, like it wasn't proper for a girl to call a boy.
You know, we were, we were trained to wait and, and we were supposed to be pursued by the guy yeah and i wasn't much of a pursuer no and you you're very laid back and and yeah you were not very assertive yeah so i you know i you kind of left me hanging a little bit yeah yeah and then when we had our first kiss then i think it even it ratcheted up. The chemistry was definitely there. Yeah, you're a really good kisser. So we worked together, and I told all the girls that Mr. Jones had asked me out on a date, and they're like, oh, you don't want to go out with him. He's too nice.
Yeah, that's true. I was cursed. One time I went out with a girl, and girl and it was our first date and we went to a restaurant and one of my friends happened to be there by himself. And I thought, finally, this is a bad girl. You know, I can't believe she went out with me. I'm going to get some tonight. And I didn't know how to do one night stands. And we ran into a friend and we invited him like dummy me.
I invited him to join us for for dinner and we're and she and I are sitting on one side of the booth and he's sitting on the other side of the booth so I excused myself to go to the bathroom and he followed me in the bathroom and he goes hey I don't know what to say but your girlfriend's playing footsie with me under the table and I'm like yeah I'm the nice guy everybody craps on the nice guy see you could have had a threesome i i wasn't confident enough back then for a two so you missed your opportunity uh yeah so yeah there's there's definitely some chemistry between us so we we know what it feels like but what what we want to talk about is the difference.
Let's start off by talking about the difference between like attraction and chemistry. Yeah. So like when we first started like batting this around, I guess the first thing I thought of is, well, I could like be at a meet and greet and see somebody across the room and think, wow know he's really attractive or she's really beautiful um i want to go talk to them and i'm attracted to that person or that couple yeah however like if i go over and i start talking to them and i'm not really getting any kind of a vibe back in my mind, then that was just attraction on my part and there's no chemistry.
Right. Because there's nothing coming back at me. I think chemistry has to be like a two-way street. Does that make sense? Yeah, it does. And I think what we're saying, it has to be face-to-face. You know, we... Oh, that is such a good point. Yeah. because social media is like so prevalent now. I mean, even in our community, people are often not the same personality online as they are when you meet. And so you can't really form chemistry online. You may think you can, but then when you get face-to-face with somebody, they could be completely different.
Yeah, like some people are much more outgoing in writing and then you meet them and then there's a they're a little bit more reserved right and and you just you know you're kind of like wow it's not necessarily a bad thing but you're like wow i didn't really expect him or her to be so you know reserved and quiet and in and calm because like in writing they're kind of the life of the party right or vice versa you get somebody that doesn't really chime in very often then you meet them and they're so engaging yeah and the other thing about it is when you get when you get that close two bodies get close together it's actually the it is the chemistry it's the pheromones and yeah the you know that you're you're you feel the body heat and even if there's any touching you know yeah the chemistry can be you touch somebody in the arm and it feels really warm or really hot yeah to this to the touch Thank you.
body heat and even if there's any touching you know the chemistry can be you touch somebody in the arm and it feels really warm or really hot yeah to this to the touch because there's some sort of chemistry there that's kind of one bad thing about being a host you know because like in atlanta for example i felt obligated to you know try to get around and talk to you, all the people that were there. I don't know if we managed to accomplish that, but we tried to talk to most of the people. And you meet some people, and again, it isn't because they were the prettiest people there.
They were the funniest people there. There's just something about them, and you're like, oh, I don't want to keep making the rounds. I want to stay here. It's not that you don't like the other people, but this chemistry that we're trying to find tonight is just so intangible. Yeah, I think we're going to touch on what you're talking about in a minute. I think what we're saying here with attractiveness is that you can be attracted to somebody, and, and then even when you get near them or even talk to them, sometimes they can even, even repel you.
It's like, you know, I've had that happen before. Yeah. And there's absolutely no reason for it. Yeah. And, and it's, it's the weirdest thing. I mean, yeah. Well, the good thing about it is it's not, it's not being biased or it's not being judgmental. It's not, you know, these preconceived ideas about age or weight or race or anything. Chemistry is chemistry. And if it's there, sometimes it's unexplainable.
And if all of a sudden you think it's there and then somebody like says something or does something and it's almost repulsive at some time i think you described it but my example it wasn't something they said it wasn't something they did and and it was um i'm talking about in my experience with a man um he was extremely handsome well-dressed-spoken, and I cannot even begin to explain what it was about him that didn't work for me. Oh, I could tell. I watched you two together and I could tell there was, I could instantly. You said within 30 seconds. Oh, instantly.
I knew that you weren't, yeah, you didn't, you weren't attracted to him. And it was so weird. Yeah. And it's too bad. Yeah.
But I think when we we were when we were talking about this though last night you you used the analogy of of a magnet yeah right you know like um you you put the i forget so you have to put like the the two opposite poles together to get them to like stick to each other but if you if you use the same poles and they repel each other right and they push apart so yeah that's kind of how it was with me and this guy i'm not sure that he felt the same way because i went into like avoidance mode at that point because i'm a weenie and i couldn't tell him that so i just tried to like mingle with other people right and i don't think this is something that you should feel bad about i mean if you have chemistry or if you don't have chemistry with somebody you don't have chemistry now that doesn't mean you're not going to play with them or be attracted to them we can talk about that later but i don't chemistry is nothing that you can control now you can i think what we're going to talk about here in a minute is like well let me ask can it if you have it at first can it fade away yeah you think so yeah because it's happened to us yeah i think i think that remember you you said that some of the thrill of the lifestyle for you was the chase totally and so what happens when the chase is over well i mean it's like mission.
And that, you know, so you, you like are all like charged up about this couple. And then you, you know, you finally get to meet them and there's chemistry and you play and it's great. There's got to be something to keep that chemistry going. Yeah. And sometimes really good sex isn't enough. Right. At least not for me. Right. I'm a sapiosexual. So, yeah.
going yeah and sometimes really good sex isn't enough right at least not for me right miss sapiosexual um so yeah so it can fade after that because it's like mission accomplished i i you know i thrill of the chase i did it check that box and i think we've been on the other side of that too i think there's a couple couples that we've played with and then they've just dropped off the oh true the planet yeah and i'd rather have it be because like the chemistry faded than the fact that maybe we age out or something and and it did i mean it it's not offensive it doesn't bother me but you stop and think you're like huh i wonder we had such a good time i wonder what happened but it could be just that it was that it was the chemistry it was that new relationship entity it was the chase yeah you know once that chase is done you know that kind of fades out a little bit because you've won your prize yeah true yeah so i you know i guess it can fade but you know so so if chemistry fades was it really there to begin with right and i think one of the things that can factor into that is like what were you doing when you met them like what environment were you in and like i'm thinking of like two major things right now that have really um influenced our like kind of like i guess our libido is um like when you're at a crazy place like NIN.
Noddy in New Orleans. Noddy in New Orleans. Or you're at Desire. You know, there's a lot going on there. And it's just this like sexy vibe. I want to say kind of in your face for like multiple days. And when I say in your face, I don't mean like gross, like overwhelming in your face. What I mean is, you know, I'm not at home. I do not have to empty the dishwasher. Not that I ever emptied it. Don't even go there. No, I just said the wrong thing. When the dishes are clean and you open the dishwasher and you don't realize it, you just shut it again. I do.
I like, I about that people i do not empty the dishwasher and then you tell me i don't load it right i'm like dude and i do that too yeah the dishwasher is my domain anyway you made the washing machine is my domain i can do some laundry but so like yeah so i'm like a desire and i and and i like i'm not the least bit worried about what's going on in my home. I mean, life will go on.
Yeah, I think if you think about Desire or Naughty New Orleans, there's energy, there's alcohol, there's lots of sexy people, there are shows, there's entertainment, there's flirting, there's meeting new people, all of this on Bourbon street or all of this in mexico you know with sexy dancing and or heck even in atlanta i mean that was concentrated into two days but yeah so the environment we believe can lead to you know facilitating or kind of are adding to or contributing to the chemistry that you might experience.
Yes, I guess it opens your mind to possibilities that you might let other things kind of get in the way of you noticing or experiencing.
So I think what we're saying is you can go to Desire or Naughty in New Orleans and you can meet a couple, and over a period of one or two two or three days you develop this chemistry and then you end up having this great time but then if you were to see them back home on a date or just the four of you that that chemistry might not be there because the environment contributed to the chemistry yeah and there's nothing wrong with that absolutely not yeah i think people need to understand that because if you come home from an event like that and you think you have found your perfect couple um you don't really know until you get together again right or again right and you might have found your perfect couple right you know but but again the the environment is definitely an influencer yeah and i think we have you know the question of can chemistry develop over a period of time because earlier one of the myths we talked about was if it's either there or it's not or it's there right away or it's not right so what do we know about in our experience about chemistry developing over time well let's go back to nin for a second here like a few years ago um we met a couple during nin and you know there's 2 000 people there so you meet a lot of couples and and you know this couple was like really attractive and they're super friendly.
But there's just so much going on and you're always like headed somewhere or headed up to your room to change for dinner or catch a shower. It's like I felt like I was always headed somewhere. And I just didn't have time to just like stop and talk to people.
So we met these people like in the middle of transitioning to something and super nice whatever so um luckily they had our contact information and they reached out to us a few weeks after we got home from NIN and we knew exactly who they were I mean we totally remembered them right and they were going to be here in town for business and wanted to know if we could get together. And we did. And this couple now is like... Our best friends. Yes. And a lot of chemistry. Yes. And it's been years. But you know what I think happened? And you mentioned this before.
When we're in social mode, and if you think about it, and it doesn't have to be, I mean mean we're podcasters and we have a host of meet and greet but even at a takeover event or a party where there are a club where there's a lot of people if you're just flitting from couple to couple you're not really investing any time into one particular couple so i think when you and i are in social mode we people may be attracted to us but we are in social mode so we don't are you talking about host mode yeah host mode yeah sorry we don't we don't give it back to them we don't we don't give that an opportunity so i think the chemistry in this case when we had these who are now our best friends and when we met them the first time, we chatted for about five or 10 minutes and then that was it.
And it was really not eventful. I mean, they were attractive, but it was not eventful. Right. But then when we got together with them again and all of that wasn't going on, and it was just the four of us, that chemistry developed because we were present.
You know, we were there to give give it back chemistry is not a one-way street right i think attractiveness can be one way like i can be attracted to somebody yeah but and they may be attracted to me but if they're not feeling the same thing i'm feeling and they're not giving it back to me then that's not chemistry that's not chemistry right chemistry has to be two-way I think if it's only one way you're not feeling chemistry at all yeah you're wondering if they if they're even attracted to you you're wondering if they like you you're wondering if you know there's any possibility that you're going to play or become friends yeah but when there's chemistry it's two-way and you feel it and all of a sudden it's just there and you it's there because you invest in it I think if you if you are shy and you don't like to flirt and you you're reserved and you and you hold yourself back if you hold your personality back and you don't let yourself be who you are there's less likely that there's going to be chemistry because you're not exuding yourself to the other person.
Right, right. That other person's got to be able to pick up on your true self. Right. Yeah. You know, and when you were talking about like being in host mode and, you know, just recently we met a couple while we were in host mode and there was just something about this couple that I was like, dang, you know, like, like we were talking about, you know, we were trying to get around and, and meet everybody in Atlanta, for example. And, you know, you, you meet a couple and you're like, Oh, I don't want to have to keep like flitting around and talking to people.
I want to spend more time with these people. And, and I think you and I are getting better about making mental notes about, okay, we got to go back to this couple. So I think I know what couple you're talking about. Yes. And what happened was I was not with you. I was socializing with somebody else. And I noticed that I said every once in a while, I'm like, okay, where's Mrs. Jones?
And I i looked over and i'm short and it's hard to find me i looked over and you were sitting on a couch or standing i think you were sitting on a couch yes i was and as soon as i saw you i thought she looks like she's like engaged in like serious or flirty conversation there yeah and so i said i need to go over there not because i wanted to i thought i was missing out but because i felt like you know that there was some sort of an attractiveness there and i wanted and honestly i don't do that very often no you don't that's why that's why i noticed you're usually the hunter right I noticed it and then when I and then I sat down and and we the four of us started talking there was some chemistry yeah there but I noticed that not through them as first I noticed that through you because you you know your behavior towards them kind of alerted me but then when I went down and sat down with them i kind of felt it myself yeah so stay tuned for more information on that one yeah that one's got some potential definitely so is um chemistry between lifestyle couples do you think that's different from chemistry between like married couples or primary partners or?
Absolutely. Yeah. Yes. How's that different? I mean like back up the train for a second. Like, you know, we were talking about the chemistry between you and I, um, it all goes back to, and we've talked about this. I know more than once on our podcast, separating sex from love. Yeah.
And i think if you're going to be successful in the lifestyle um as a couple you you have to learn that there's a difference between that right you know you you have sexy fun with other people you you make love to your partner um and and i think that that chemistry you know it it's You can have, like, this hot, sexy chemistry with other people. And I think that you're allowed to do that and have that physical chemistry with other people because you've got the emotional chemistry that grounds you. Okay. Yeah.
Like, I could probably come up with, like, some sort of chemical formula for that, that, you know. Of course you could. You have's not sexy no no give me a minute i remember my chemistry you have like an element that's like the stable base and then you can add other stuff into it and it'll remain stable so your your marriage or your your commitment to your primary partner whether you're married or not, that's your stability.
And then you add in this extra sexy stuff into your little beaker and your beaker is not going to blow up because your stability between the two of you is going to ground you. There may be some men out there or women that are attracted by what you just said, but... Oh, I just totally rocked that.
The so the chemistry majors out there please forgive me i was not a chemistry major let me let me put it a different way when we talked about separating sex and love we talked about um emotional monogamy and sexual non-monogamy yes so what we're talking about here is physical chemistry, but not emotional chemistry. Right. Right. Because the friends that we were just talking about, that we're best friends with now, I am able, I know her body now. Like, she sweats a lot. She does. And I love it. I love it when she sweats. And when she's about to have an orgasm, I recognize that sound now.
And so she and I have this individual sexual chemistry. But because you share that chemistry with her husband, and because you and I are not threatened by that, because that's a sexual chemistry, we're able to freely explore that and go with it and allow that chemistry to continue to grow without the concern that it's going to turn into something emotional. And that doesn't happen that often. There's only one or two couples that that's happened with. So I don't think what we're saying that this has to be a part of your lifestyle experience. If it happens, you're very fortunate. Yeah.
But it doesn't have to happen. No, but when it does, I mean, it's amazing. And it's good because it, do I want to say it makes it easy? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. It just, like, when they'll come into town and they'll spend the weekend with us, and it's just so easy. And then there's another couple that I'm thinking about. From the very first moment we met them, well, first of all, let's back up. The first time we corresponded with them, there was a spark there. But that happens.
Oh, who you're talking about that happens occasionally then when we met them at desire there was a there was just i mean it was you could cut it with a knife oh my god and we had only been near them physically near them for like 15 minutes yeah there was all all of a sudden there was just like this attraction this chemistry that was there and when we played with them it was awesome the craziest sex we've ever had gosh and i'm like how can this possibly happen with people that we barely know i know and it was all chemistry then remember after that we thought well you know what i wonder if the next time we them, if that's going to be there or not.
Was that like this new relationship thing? Well, we've seen them a couple times since then. Well, you know, there was a really long period of time. There was, over a year. Before we saw them again. Right. And I was like, you know, we might have built this up too big in our heads. Right. But we didn't. Oh, no. And we had so much fun with them, even though I think it had been almost two years. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Almost two years. Yeah. And then we saw them again like two months later. Yeah. And I thought, well, you know, now we just played with them. Yeah.
Because you and I don't really do a lot of like frequent repeats. Like We have a lot of friends, but we don't play with any one set of friends on a monthly basis or whatever. No. So I'm like, ah, it's only been a couple months. Might be a little tarnished. Yeah, maybe they're not going to be attracted to us. I think we had more fun then than when we did the prayer. We did. And again, I know her body. I know her sounds. I know her moves. And when we're together, and you know what? When we're not together, we miss them. But it's not the same.
When you and I are separated, I think about you all the time, every day.
With a couple like that, I don't think about about them every day but when i do think about them it's instantly back yeah it's so it's that sexual energy and that four-way connection and that chemistry that's just when the when the four of us are in the same room it's there and when we're not in the same room i mean we're still friends and we still reach out to them once in a while but it's not it's not like it is with the two of us right and you know we're facebook friends with them so you know we know what's going on with their kids and you know and all that stuff and because you tried to like tell me last night that oh we don't really talk about family stuff with them baloney we do too yeah we do like we totally know a lot about their family and they know a lot about our family yeah we do No, that doesn't the way we haven't seen them recently no so if you guys have recognized that we're talking about you yeah let's get something on the calendar i know really so we talked about how the two of us had chemistry when we first met yes and we have chemistry now yes we do but have we had chemistry for the 35 years between then and now yeah but but how do you keep that chemistry alive well i mean i'm gonna go like all sappy on you now see like before i was like math and science and you were like humanities now i'm gonna go wait you're not gonna tell me that you took the trash out again are you no because I didn't okay no I think um the way you keep it alive is you work at it and it can't just be about sex right I mean that's just not I don't think that that can sustain the kind of chemistry we're talking about.
Like, I know you better than anybody else in the world knows you because you and I focus on every aspect of each other's lives. Right, right. And we're interested in that and we push each other in every aspect of our lives. Yeah, I think what you're saying. I know you push me to masturbate while you're out of town. You're really good at that. I'm not going to give up. But you're also really good at pushing me professionally. You don't let me settle.
I was going to say that I think the past two years, what's kind of renewed the chemistry is I'm watching you start your own business and i'm watching you so you're so determined and you're so focused and at the same time you're concerned because you want to be successful but this is new and you've never done this before and i watch you like just latch on to this and you and you're you have a full a full client load now. I mean, you're busy now. You're, you, you achieved it and I watched that.
And so that's a part that that's something that I've never seen in you before because we've never been in this situation before. So I think that's what you're saying. Yeah. And I mean, and I think, um, I, it's the same thing. Like, you know, I've watched you start a business too. And I'm just like, I'm in awe of you. I think, I mean, I think your professionalism and your expertise and all that, I just think it's sexy. And I also think you look like ridiculously sexy in a suit. So I'm glad you're wearing a suit again. Yeah. Oh, Mr. Jones, come on. You are so handsome in a suit. Well, whatever.
That's chemistry, baby. That's chemistry. The environment that I'm working in now, I have to dress that way. It's not because I like to do like to do it oh well you don't have to like it you just have to pull it off and you pull it off well babe yeah and i think athletically too like when we started running together or when when geez yeah when you ran your first marathon yeah you know that those sorts of achievements in life definitely help keep that chemistry alive because I'm seeing you grow.
And then, you know, I think this really bleeds into how compersion comes into play because a lot of people hear us talking about that and they wonder, how can I possibly watch my spouse with somebody else and feel stronger or more love for them? Yeah, right. But when I'm seeing you sexually being satisfied, in a way, it's like watching you being professionally successful and satisfied. Or as a mother, you know, successful. Or, you know, anything So you, you like watching me with my grandkids? Yeah, I do.
I do because I watch those girls braid your hair and they want to be, they want to be like Mimi. Yeah. And, and I can see that you, yes, I, I absolutely see you in a different light. I've not seen you. How could I? We've never had grandkids before. That's true. You know, so I see them look at you and, you know, see something in you that they want to be. And that's, that's pretty special too. So, so when I see you with another man or another woman, and I'm seeing you express your sexuality and enjoy your sexuality, and I know that it's not emotional.
I mean, I know that it's emotional, but it's not, it doesn't touch anything that you and I have. No, it could never go that deep. Right. And so that's, it's hard to explain if you've never done this or you're not in this, because it doesn't make any sense at all based on how society trains us to be. But to me, that's what it's like. Unless, like tonight, you went to make, what was this drink that you made me? I made Mr. Jones a drink called a Manowar. Yeah, and I said, Manowar, I said, have you made this before? And you said, I haven't made it for you before.
And I don't know why I said that and I said whoa whoa wait a minute who have you made this for you know I kind of got my my ass up I know he got a little jealous like I had made a cocktail for another person before that I before I made it for him all these people think you're this sexy cocktail person and you served a guy a man o war before you served it to me. I'm a little bit bent out of shape here. He was. But then you just realized you misspoke. I know. I hadn't made it. I had written the recipe down a long time ago. Yeah. And I just never made it for anybody. Right.
But I had been meaning to make it for you. Yeah. So did you like it? Yeah. So did is word here. So before we go to Snapshot, I'm going to have to go upstairs and get another one. But anyway, so not only sexually do I see you grow with watching you with somebody else, but you and I together. I mean, let's face it, if our sex is so good that we bonk heads together. Oh my gosh there's some, there's some growth there. And, and early on, you know, we, we talked about Esther Perel being one of our favorite sex therapists or sexologists.
And, you know, she, she does this talk on distance creates desire or how do you keep desire alive? And it's that, it's that seeing your partner from a distance. And when you see them at a distance, you want to close that gap.
And I I think it's that it's that seeing your partner from a distance and when you see them at a distance you want to close that gap and i think it's that chemistry i think i think it's like it renews it for you um it's like reactivates okay yeah reactivate see i'm going back to you're going back to yeah well right because you you see you're you're seeing your partner from a different perspective and it makes you appreciate your partner more whether you're watching them like you know play a sport or whether you're watching them at doing their job or whether you're watching them have sex with somebody else right you know that you're you're observing instead of participating right and I think so we talked to me we're talking about our good friends here and we have two or three couples that we're just really good friends with.
I remember thinking that when we first were getting into this lifestyle that I don't know how we could live with not having the current friends in our life that we have. Right. But now five years into this and looking back back it's not a lot of our friendships that we had five years ago have have faded away right because they yeah they weren't real some of them some of them yeah some of them have we still have lots of friends that are very precious to us and supportive of us yes but in this one this one couple that i'm thinking about, we've met. We had a lot in common.
We had a four-way connection that was started by an attractiveness chemistry. We had chemistry when we got together.
And now the sexual chemistry stays strong as we continue to to be friends with them and they've shared things with us that they haven't they don't share with other people and we've done the same thing we've shared a part parts of our lives with them that we don't share with other people right and so when you have friends that when you add things that you've never you can be vulnerable you can be honest you can tell them things that you've never told anyone they don't judge you Thank you.
that when you add things that you've never, you can be vulnerable, you can be honest, you can tell them things that you've never told anyone, they don't judge you, then you throw the attractiveness into it, and then you throw the chemistry into it. And the ability to be able to explore that and grow that chemistry, all of those aspects is very, very rare. Right.
Very right very very rare and that's the ultimate right so you know i just think we're fortunate to have one couple or two couples i mean we we do have a couple couples that we do we can really lean on yes and and at the same time it's just crazy easy chemistry and so you said something the other night when we were talking about um Thank you. But at the same time, it's just crazy, easy chemistry. And so you said something the other night when we were talking about being social swingers. Yes.
And you said something about, I'm going to screw this up, but you said it's a result of and not because of. What did you say? So what I said is that sex ends up being the result of a connection that you make with a couple. So it's a result of the chemistry, and it's not the reason for it. So you end up making a connection with people and then the sex becomes just part of that connection that you've made with them. You've made this social connection, this friendship, so to speak.
And then, you know, some, and I guess this is the difference between like the, you know, the DTF swingers, the down to fuck swingers versus the social swingers. And we're not that. We're not the down to fuck. Right. We're not looking for the sex. We're looking for the connection.
This is not, having sex with other couples is not the reason we are in the lifestyle it's not the reason that we have a podcast it's not the reason that we're that we're motivated to share this with other people it's a result of making meaningful connections with people yeah and those connections are all across the spectrum we meet you once we have a conversation we meet you once we have a conversation and we we become friends or we play but but when you add the chemistry into all of that you know then the result of all of the work and all of the flirting and all of the putting yourself out there and all the risk taking and all of the research and all of what we say this lifestyle is all about, it's all worthwhile when all of that aligns.
And as a result of all of that, you find yourself becoming such good friends, friends if if you asked me five years ago what friendship was obviously it's different now but the depth of connection and the depth of friendship and the chemistry and the sex and the chemistry with the couple the the result of all the work that we put into this is i i speaking for myself it's it's unexpected it was misunderstood when i got into this but oh my goodness is it worth it because again we're we're connecting with other humans at a at a level at the very core of the essence of who we are. Yeah.
And that's not easy to explain to people. And that chemistry is there or it's not there, but you have to be present in order for it to be possible. Yep. So everything that we've worked for and worked through over the past I think is, is we're beginning to see the results of all of that is, is the types of friendships and the, and the types of connections that we're making. Right. And the thing that, that I didn't expect is that these friendships are sustainable. Right.
Maybe the sex isn't because we do have friends where the sexy part of our friendship has kind of, I don't want to say it's fizzled out, but it's kind of, um, been tampered, um, what, what do I want to say? Tempered. Thank you. Good Lord. I only had one drink. Um, but the, but the friendship is still there and the, and the, there's still chemistry, but it isn't the kind of like on fire, flash in the pan chemistry. It's not sexual chemistry. Yeah. It, but we can still talk about sexy things. Right. So, and that's not a bad thing. I mean, those kinds of friendships are very special, too.
Absolutely. Okay. So, chemistry. I think we covered it. I think we did. We wish you all the best. This isn't, we don't want to hear that the, you know, that the Joneses do everything right and the Joneses find the chemistry and the Joneses have the secret to this. We're a hot mess just like everybody else. The Joneses have been at this for five years, and we've been through a lot, and we're invested in it, and I think that's the key. You know, early on in this lifestyle, we're so hesitant because we're afraid of what it is. We're afraid of what this label is about being swingers.
We don't understand it. The risks in it of losing my spouse to somebody else or getting an STI or getting pregnant or being outed, all of that, all of those things, and it's normal, keep you from investing yourself in this lifestyle to the point where you can make the connections that you and I have made. Now, if we would have not been outed, would we have the relationships that we have? Probably a few, probably a few. You know, it's funny because I can't, I can't even begin to go there as far as remembering like what our, what our swinger life was like, so to speak, before we were outed.
It's just kind of all part of it now it's been part of our journey right and and that the um the delineation isn't as black and white as it used to be in my mind so i guess i'm kind of like settling in now yeah but you know the i think um i think it's deep in some of our friendships oh absolutely you know we we definitely found out who our friends were and we had so many people reach out with unconditional support yes so it's been so that's its own form of chemistry so chemistry isn't necessarily there at the beginning it can evolve it can come about afterwards yeah chemistry can fade away chemistry can be there because of the environment and not just the people yeah it kind of it can mask i guess the environment can kind of mask the chemistry yeah and not only can you experience it later but it can continue to develop over over time yeah and it can help them to deepen the relationship that you and I have.
It can deepen the connection and the friendships that we have. And it can deepen the sexual experiences that we have with ourselves and with others. Yeah. So that's chemistry. All right. And there's no final exam. It's just this this is project-based. You need to go out and try it. Your homework assignment. Yeah. Your mission, should you choose to accept it. Okay. Well, when we come back, we have a special, a couple of special snapshots tonight. Yes, we do. We each have snapshots, but we're going to read and share a couple from listeners and friends. Yes.
We'll be right back welcome back to our snapshot segment we've got a couple of snapshots to share. We haven't done this in a while. I know. We have fresh drinks and sexy snapshots. Yeah. So everyone needs to pay attention to this snapshot that I got from a listener because they might be talking about you. Yeah. And this came to us a couple months ago. So it's a little dated. So it's May of 2019 now. so we're doing a little investigative work. Yeah. So here we go. We received this from one of our listeners. Yes.
A couple of weeks ago, my lovely wife and I decided to go to a lifestyle club nearby with the intent of finding another woman for her to play with. After a little while of people watching in the bar area, a very attractive couple came in and sat at the booth beside us. After a bit more people watching, I awkwardly struck up a conversation with said couple, culminating in me asking the woman if she would like to have an encounter with my wife. The ladies had a good laugh at my choice of phrasing afterward. Sounds very professional. Yes, an encounter.
She checked my wife out, answering with a simple, Oh, yeah. From my point of view, that look she gave my wife was one of the hottest things I had ever witnessed. While the girls were in the playing so evidently they went back and played by themselves oh that's okay while the girls were back playing her husband and i were had a very engaging conversation mostly about podcast now even though this is very flattering that they talked about podcast i'm thinking you could have come up with something sexier to talk about yeah sorry i digress so they were talked about podcasts. I'm thinking.
You could have come up with something sexier to talk about. Yeah. Sorry, I digress. So they were talking about podcasts. It is thanks to them that I was introduced to We Got a Thing. After a significant bit of time, our wives finally came back with some very sexy stories to tell. Due to the blissful look on her face, we were both too distracted to get the other couple's contact information. I, for one, have been kicking myself since. If they are listening, as I'm sure they are, we would love for them to hit us up.
We look forward to hearing from them, but even with the missed connection, our first foray into the world of new experiences was, from my point of view, a complete success. That is so awesome. So we are reading this so that if you are out there listening and you think you are this other couple. So it was last winter, like late winter. Yeah. Yeah. What we want you to do is send an email to me, Mr. Jones, at We Got A Thing. And we will connect you. Yeah, Mr. Jones at WeGotAThing.com or go to our website and send me a message and say, I think I'm the couple in the snapshot. That's right.
And then we will connect you two together so you can have another experience. I know. It's kind of middle school, but it's absolutely really cool. This lifestyle public service announcement was brought to you by Mr. andrs jones if we get a thing there you go i think you have one to read i do so this goes back to atlanta okay meet and greet okay um we were at trapeze on saturday night kind of the culminating activity of our weekend. Yes. You and I were hanging out together with some friends, and one of our friends made this observation. So she sent us this text the next day.
I think you and I were headed to the airport on the way home from the weekend, and I got this text from her. Snapshot. Firstly snapshot firstly set the scene a deliciously sensual woman dancing seductively on a pole in a sexy lifestyle club she was whipping her gorgeous long brown hair around with sexy precision and not to mention directly in front of the beautiful mrs jones she slowly melted down the pole with her gaze locked on her prey, teasing Mrs. Jones with yet another lap dance.
This very licentious coveted moment is one that a multitude of married vanilla men would happily trade a vital organ to experience. And I think some lifestyle men would too. I'm sorry, go ahead. I noticed out of the corner of my eye, Mr. Jones leaned over to Mrs. Jones to speak. I expect to hear something along the lines of, I love seeing her want you, or something sexy like that. Instead, I hear his ever so famous and sexy voice deliver the words, do you think the tater tots are out yet?
That may not be as funny if you don't know Trapeze because trapeze serves food and damn they have good tater tots oh my gosh yes at like i don't know what at midnight one o'clock they put out breakfast i know and they put out like breakfast i know it's not like a stale cinnamon roll i know there's eggs and bacon and bacon and sausage and tater tots. I'm almost embarrassed by that because the way that she described that scene, any guy would just die to see that. And here I am. I'm watching the whole thing. Oh, should we stop and say that is a total true story? Oh, well, it is a true story.
Yeah, it is a true story. And the woman that was dancing on the pole was sexy. Holy cow. So my friend that sent us a snapchat, she was sitting next to me. And my friend is like. She's very beautiful. Whoa, so beautiful. So this girl was dancing on the pole in front of us. And she was taking turns.
She was beautiful, perfect body, long sil silky brown hair and she had a thong on but that was it and heels and she was like giving my friend a lap dance and then me a lap dance and then you were kind of like hmm because you were kind of over by the bar yeah at first so you saunter over and sit down on the other side of me and then the the girl was kind of flirting with you. But the point I'm trying to make here is that I didn't really pay much attention to that because I just wanted to go get tater tots.
But the dissonance between what I'm saying is like two or three or four years ago, if you'd have told me the story, my wife is getting this lap dance from this beautiful woman, I would have been gaga. But here I am.
And I lean over to I'm sucking her nipple and you want me to go eat tater tots that that's totally a true story and i and i didn't do it to be funny i i was just wanting tater tots and so what did we do we went out the tater tots were there we got a big old plate and we piled the tape of tater tots off with like three or four piles of ketchup around it and we all four stood around that plate picking tater tots off. Oh, there were more than four people. We made a lot of friends with those tater tots.
Well, when you walk through the bar with a plate full of tater tots, people like, you need consent if you're gonna take my tater tots. I think it was what, like 1.30 or 2 at that time. Yeah. Yeah, those tater tots were so good. Yeah. But we did fun that night we did yes we did yeah so thanks for sharing that snapshot and we love you guys too yes so my snapshot so now we each have like our own snapshots maybe i'm gonna evil double embarrass myself because no not not really but this is not a a sexy. Well, this snapshot does not involve sex, but it's sexy. Oh, totally. Yeah. Yeah.
So we were in Atlanta. And before we went to Atlanta, in our MeWe group, we had a private chat set up for those going to Atlanta. And I said, you know what? I'm going to get up on Saturday morning, and I'm going to go for go for a run at nine freaking o'clock nine o'clock in the morning if you want to go with me let me know so all of these ladies started saying oh I'm gonna run with you Mr. Jones I'm gonna get up and run with you Mr. Jones even Mrs.
Jones said oh yeah well since you're gonna do that I'll go run with you so And all the guys were saying, we're going to go eat waffles, or I'm going to sleep in, or I'm going to do this. So in my mind, what I'm imagining is me running down the streets of Atlanta with a circle of beautiful women around me. And I am just going to be taking in the view. I'm going to be looking at these sexy legs and these sexy asses and these running shorts. And people are going to be looking at me thinking, who the hell is that guy? And look, he's got all those beautiful women running with him.
So the reality of it is I get up the next morning and I go down about. Who was the first to bail you thank you I admit it I get up at 8 30 and I try to get you out of bed and you said I'm not running I said that's okay you're just my wife there's been up to like three o'clock there's more I'm gonna go run with like the 40 or 50 other women they're gonna be down there waiting for me so I go down there 10 minutes early and there's nobody down there yet. And I'm like, yeah, it's 10 minutes early that I understand they're, you know, they're all getting ready.
They're probably getting perfume on and doing their makeup and everything. Cause they're going to go on a run with me. So then, um, it's five minutes to nine and nobody shows up. And then all of a sudden, one woman comes out the elevator and are running clothes. And it's almost nine o'clock. And she says, well, is it just the two of us? And I said, well, I'm sure, you know, why don't we wait a couple more minutes? I'm sure the elevator is going to open and like 30 women are going to come out and they're going to want to go running with me.
Well, it's like five after nine, and we're the only two. And don't get me wrong. The woman that was there is absolutely beautiful. Talk about some legs. Oh, my heavens. Yeah, she's definitely a runner.
So a little bit of a back story that I should have clued in on is the night before, when we said we almost got kicked out of the hotel um in one of the rooms one of the host rooms that we had i was running the card game i was doing the dumb card game questions and then i passed around the scavenger hunt that you made for everybody and not too many people are interested in it but this one woman who actually ended up running with me she said oh wait a minute is there a prize and i said yes matter of fact there is and she said well then i'll take it because i'm pretty competitive see i should have known then so she and i go out and on the way we're walking out the lobby we're going out to run and she says oh um i'm sorry if i'm going to slow you down you know i know you're a fast runner and and my head is like you know puffing up and And'm like you know i'm strutting around like a peacock because she said don't worry i'll slow down for you or i'll run at your pace and i'm gonna be chivalrous about this and i'll slow down to your pace y'all realize he's about to get his ass kicked right so um there's a there's a park in the middle of atlanta about half a mile away so we start out and we're running downhill from the hotel and she's not only is she keeping up with me but she's pushing the pace and i know because i was a competitive runner when somebody's pushing the pace she stayed about like a quarter of a stride ahead of me and i thought but i'm like nah we're going downhill that's clearly how that she's able to run this fast so we get to the bottom of the hill and um we're both i'm starting to get winded and we come into this park well in this park just by coincidence they're running a 5k so we jump in on the course and we start running the 5k course and she's not slowing down and so we're a mile into it and i'm looking at my watch and i'm thinking, okay, she's going to slow down because I can't, I can't let her beat me.
I can't, you know, I'm Mr. Jones. I'm the guy. And so people are cheering us on and all of a sudden I feel like it's this competition because people are cheering and we're, we're like jumping into this race and we get to people not realize you didn't have like well i mean we didn't have bibs on but it was a it was a pretty small race and people were cheering so we get to mile one and a half you know mile two and she's not slowing down so at this point in time we had stopped talking because we were both racing each other and, you know, we were both out of breath. So I thought, Oh, okay.
Well, certainly when we come back out of the park, we have to go back up the hill to the hotel. Right. That's when she'll run out of gas and, you know, and I can, you know, claim victory. So we came out of the park and the first reprieve that I got, I saw that the light had turned red and so we couldn't run across the street. And I said, oh, thank goodness, we have to stop. We have to stop for the crosswalk. Well, there was no cars coming. She just kept going. And so I said, shit. So I'm trying to keep up with her, and we run all the way up the hill.
And I think we actually started running faster as we were going up the hill we get to back to the hotel thank goodness we ran 3.1 miles almost exactly a 5k and i looked down at my watch and we ran like a seven minute and 50 second pace for three miles and i think i've been duped i've been set up because i you know here i am thinking that i'm all that and this woman kicked my butt and i'm and i'm so glad that that um i was able to keep up with her yeah so anyway you were humbled out of everything i love it out of everything that happened that weekend that was an awesome weekend we met so many friends we even got to play we had sex with each other we even got to play yeah we forgot to say that we got to play twice we had a good time and what sticks out in my mind is that run and so here I am with another woman and and reflecting back on it we had so much fun it was just an opportunity that I probably would have never gotten.
So, cheers to you. You know who you are. And that is my snapshot. Yes. Thank you for humbling my husband. Oh, I was humbled. I came back to the hotel room and just laid down in the bed. He did. She almost killed me. There may have been a cramp or two.
Thankfully, I was able to keep up up it would have been embarrassing if i couldn't keep up but she's she's really talented and she's really beautiful oh my gosh talk about a body holy cow yeah so thanks to the rest of you ladies who bailed on me if there would have been one more woman that had come down that had like could run a slow pace it would have taken the pressure off of me because y'allall were supposed to end at a coffee shop and have croissants or something. I really wasn't interested in exercising. I was trying to meet the women. Oh my gosh, it turned into a race. That's hilarious.
All right, your turn. All right, so for those of you that are still with us, I have a sexy snapshot. So we had, like we said, good friends in town, and we had two nights with them. So the first night, we hadn't seen them in a while. The first night was get it out of your system. The first night was totally get it out of your system, like full swap, go to town, get it done. It was fun. It was super fun. The second night, we had a great dinner. We had had drinks. I think we were just kind of like much more relaxed because we had spent the day at a brewery.
Um we have some local lifestyle friends and we got to meet one of our lifestyle friends at a brewery. And so our friends got to meet some of our other friends and that was super fun. So anyway, we came back to the house, had a nice dinner, and we came downstairs to start playing. And, you know, Mr jones and i have this sex chair from revel furniture and we we love our sex chair and we don't use it as often as we should so we actually moved it into the bedroom with where our playroom the playroom yeah we had it like in the massage table room and and we didn't use it very often.
So it's been much more utilized more frequently in the bedroom. So we were telling our friends, you have got to play on this chair. So we ended up like doing all kinds of like different, you know, combinations of people. I'm like, no, you've got to lay down the chair and your husband's got to stand over you and you've got to give him a blow job. So you see how easy it is because it's so easy in this chair. So we were just doing all these different combinations of things. And then we were like totally worked up and we ended up with, I ended up sitting on top of you.
You were laying on the bed, and I was reverse cowgirl on you. Yeah. Which was kind of fun. And our friends were right next to us, and they were... In the chair. Well, they were in the chair, and you and I were on the bed watching them for a while. Right. But then they got out of the chair, and they came over on the bed, and he was doing her doggy style right next to us. And then the next thing I know, and so he was doing his wife doggy style, so he was next to me facing me, because I was reverse cowgirl. So I was facing him.
So he and I were kissing while I was on top of you and he was doing his wife. And I think you guys were kissing too. And I don't know. It was just so hot. And then all of a sudden, we all came. And then we were kind of done. And I had made chocolate fondue and I had all this fruit and like an Indofu cake and all this stuff. So we were like, we're done. Let's take a break and go get some water and eat some fondue. So we came out and we're eating fondue and like all of a sudden we said, I think we just soft swapped.
Like it was so weird because they're a full swap couple we're a full swap couple and we just had the most like crazy hottest experience with them and it was soft swap yeah like go figure yeah it was super fun so the moral of the story is you don't unload the dishwasher but damn you make a good chocolate fondue i do make some good chocolate fondue and after sex coming out and having bananas and marshmallows and raspberries and strawberries dipped in hot chocolate. Well, she used a strap-on on me that night. Oh, yeah. That should be your snapshot. Oh, yeah, there was that.
I want that to be your snapshot. I'm talking about chocolate fondue, and I forgot about the strap-on. So, yeah, she, because normally I have a strap-on, and I love my strap-on, but I usually use a strap-on. You're the giver normally. Yeah, I like that. It's like a power trip for me. But she wanted to try it out. Yeah. So she fucked me good. She did. She's in good shape. She has some stamina.
Her husband and I were not in the back of the room talking about podcasts we were silently watching with our jaws dropped halfway open yeah and she didn't need any help she was a natural no yeah she did good yeah i mean i i think um actually reflecting back to j and k as we were talking about talking about them earlier, they talked about a soft swap that was pretty hot lately too. You know, that's so ironic because I had just listened to their podcast. And then we did that. And then I thought about it afterwards. I'm like, wow, that's weird. Because the same thing happened to us.
And we didn't plan it at all. So here's this couple that we have that we're really, really good friends with, that we have chemistry with, some of our best friends in the lifestyle. and we didn't plan it at all. So here's this couple that we have that we're really, really good friends with, that we have chemistry with, some of our best friends in the lifestyle. And we didn't, we weren't focused on what kind of swapping we were doing. We were just focusing. We were going with the flow. And just having fun. And just having fun, yeah.
And then it wasn't until afterwards that we realized what we did and didn't do and how we did it. Well, you know what happened is because I think I started out on the chair with her, or I got her in the chair. And I wanted her husband to straddle her so she could give him a blowjob in the chair because I wanted them to see how easy it was. Well, then I couldn't just watch, so I had to go over there and help. Of course you did. You're such a giver. I know. Really, I'm just nosy, and I can't stay out of it.
So I was playing with her while she was giving her husband a blowjob, and I think I went down on her maybe. Yeah, I think I did. But then I decided I might have been in the way.
So I was just letting them have fun, and I came back over to you and then you were like turned on because you had been watching the three of us play on that chair so you were you were just like okay i'm gonna like fuck somebody so and i closest you happen to be the closest vagina to me i came back to the bed first so i think that's how the whole soft swap happened you'll do i was just convenient you'll do so then i think and that was why i got on you reverse cowgirl because i wanted to watch them because they were at the foot of the bed if you think about it though i was able to see you and them because i was behind you yeah true so you you truly did have the best view you got to Yeah to look at my white ass and, yeah, got to watch them.
Yeah, that sex blanket was pretty saturated when I took it off the bed. Yeah, I know. No, that was just a really fun night. And, like, it was funny because nobody even noticed that we soft-swapped until, like, we had eaten all the fondue. And I was like, hey. I know. But then but then it was like two o'clock in the morning and we were like yeah we're tired yeah yeah so we're not cool like that we didn't go back in there and like do it again we just went to bed and we're gonna see them again in july yes we are all right so chemistry snapshots running reverse cowgirls, soft swap.
Meet and greets. Yeah. Can I just say, we have sexy listeners. We do. End of story. Speaking of that. We are not disappointed. Everybody we meet, amazing. Yeah, everyone that came to the meet and greet are members of our We Gotta Think membership community.
So, if you're interested in doing future meet and greets with us you need to be in our community because we're filling it up before we can even go outside the community right right and the beauty of it is that people in the community you know that they're connecting before they get to the meet and greet so it's it just makes that meet and greet more authentic less awkward at first i guess Yeah, go to uh we got a thing.com w-e-g-o-t-t-a-t-h-i-n-g.com and you'll find a link to our membership and our mini courses in our full lifestyle course uh you can join us on cassidy you'll find a link to cassidy on our website and and we've got um a partnership with Double Date Nation.
And we've got lots of friends on Double Date Nation now. We do. That site is growing fast. It is. I think there are over 1,000 members now and growing fast. So we're happy to be affiliated with DoubleDateNation.com. Yeah. And hey, guess where we're going next week? Oh, we haven't told anybody, have we? No. Yes. Shh. Whisper. Yeah. We're going to Desire Pearl. Yeah. It's my birthday. Yeah. This is not a group trip. No. It's something that Mrs. Jones and I just decided to do. Yep. We're escaping.
So if you're going to be, if you have some free time or if you're going to be at Desire Pearl, the last week of May, we'll see you there. That's right. We're looking forward to that. Come give me a birthday kiss. Yeah, this is your birthday month, isn't it? Yeah, I know. I can't do a birthday or a birthday weekend anymore. So I'm going to have to set up like a birthday something for you at Desire. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Y'all heard that. I got witnesses now. I need some volunteers. But anyway, you can book any Desire trip through us. Yes, you can. So Cruise, RM, Temptation, Pearl. Yeah.
We appreciate the support. And, you know, we just, we love Desire, and it never disappoints. And you can also book your Just for Dinners through us if you want to go to a Just for Dinner. Yep. In the meantime, if you go to our website, you can contact us through our website, or you can email me at mrJones, M-R-J-O-N-E-S at WeGotAThing.com or MrsJones, M-R-S-J-O-N-E-S at WeGotAThing.com. Or you can follow us on Twitter at WeGotAThing. And we are on Facebook and Instagram and Pinterest as WeGotAThing. Right. So, thanks for listening. We are Mr. and Mrs. Jones and WeGot a Thing. Right.
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