Episode 39: Finding Your Flirt in the Lifestyle

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This podcast contains explicit language and content and is for mature audiences only. Hey you teenagers out there, if you're under 18, this show is more for your parents. So now that you have that mental picture stuck in your head, put some music on and get back to doing your homework. We are a long-time married couple who's decided to chronicle our personal adventures and share our sex-pos positive discussions as we navigate our way through the swinging lifestyle. Care to join us?

hello everyone i'm mr jones and i'm mrs jones and we want to welcome you to episode 39 of the we got a thing podcast so tonight is thursday night yeah yeah so when two people are self-employed i guess we can podcast any ding we want to, huh? I guess we got to get into that right out of the chute. Might as well get it over with. Well, tonight... Because I'm excited. Okay. Well, let's just say tonight's episode is titled, I Want You to Want Me. Yeah. Finding Your Flirt in the Lifestyle. See, I'm back to using songs finding your flirt in the lifestyle.

See, I'm back to using songs as the titles of our podcast. I know. I got my mojo back. I know. We sat around 30 minutes waiting for you to find a song to attach. And I did. You did. I know. Another song from the 70s. You were going to come up with like some boring analytic title. Geez, people were going to fall asleep before they had play. Anyway. I love you, honey. Yeah. So back to being self-employed. Yeah. It's better than being unemployed. Yes. Well, not really because money's going out, but nothing's coming in. Yeah. Now we've got to work on our cash flow. We have our businesses set up.

I'm super excited. My website is like just one step away from launching. Yeah. But one thing that we haven't mentioned is we've told you that Mrs. Jones retired. Right. And she's starting her own business. Yes. And we told you that We Got A Thing is now officially a business.

But what we didn't tell you is that I left my company and then it had nothing to do with the lifestyle uh just circumstances and i decided that i wanted to start my own consulting company yeah so we're starting three businesses at one time i mean i think the timing's perfect i think we're i think we're just ready to kind of reinvent ourselves for this last leg of our career journey. Don't say last of career. Yeah. So, you know, we both have, you know, a few more years to work before we're going to want to officially retire.

So I think we're going to end strong and we're going to be authentic to ourselves, which is really kind of like what we've been discovering the past. I have to have to give you credit. When I came home and said that I wanted to do this, I thought you were going to jump off the roof and you said... So y'all know what day he told me this? The day my retirement became official. Yeah. I didn't want to tell you any sooner. You might not have quit. I did go out on a job interview to get another job. And I actually got a job offer.

And I came home and then I started crying because I didn't really want the job. So he talked me out of it. So anyway, I think we're both super energized and excited. Yeah. So I think the one thing that I've learned, I mean, we've been and and building websites and paying taxes and fees learning a lot of legal crap talking to cpas and attorneys and uh this was our first week of working together but i think i need to say that when we decided to enter the lifestyle i thought that was going to be the most challenging thing for our relationship.

But after four days of working together in the same home, I might change my mind. He has chosen the smallest, most remote room in the house. It's the room that is the furthest away from the room that I chose to make my office. Yeah, well, it started out by saying, you were saying, well, my office is going to be here, which is in the main level, which used to be our formal living room, but nobody uses a formal living room, so we had turned it into an office. Right. Then across the hall from that is a library. And you said, I think you should put your office in the library.

And I said, do I get a vote as to where my office is going to be? It makes perfect sense. And we would like to be able to wait to each other from our desks. Because you play the stupid, dumb Today Show every day. No, I don't. I've been really good. I've had it on my iPad on my desk, and it's really, really quiet. I could still hear them this morning making beignets and stuff. That was yesterday morning. Okay, well. Whatever. So this is probably a good time for me to tell you what I've decided to do, what I want to do with the downstairs in my office. Uh-oh. Oh, no, he just pulled out papers.

Yeah, because there's a few things that I, as I've been down here now for four days, and now I'm the owner of my own company. Do you realize that for 33 years I've been working for the man? Yeah. And now I am the man. You are the man. So I can do whatever I want. You're my man. And I think a lot of these things I've been thinking about for a long time. And now that I have my own office, I have a few things that I need. Uh-oh. These are not wants. These are needs.

so I think number one I think I want to put a doorbell at the bottom of the stairs like when you come down you come down from your level to my level and our basement is completely finished and it's really nice down here but when you come down the stairs I want to put a doorbell over there so you can ring the doorbell. So I know that. Because I want to say to my imaginary assistant, send her in. Or hold on a minute. I'm on the phone. I want to have that. If I text you first and say I'm naked, do I have to ring the doorbell? Well, we'll get to that one in a minute. Oh, okay.

So I want to call a button at the bottom of the stairs. Because it's all carpet down here. And you like sneak in on me. I don't even know you're sneaking in. So anyway, that's number one. I'll sneeze or cough next time. Number two, you know, I don't, for the past decade, I've been working in an environment where everybody's all gaga about this ergonomic furniture. Yeah. I want an indoor hammock. Oh, I thought you wanted a stand up desk.

Well, that's want to indoor hammock so i don't think that's too much to ask oh okay okay yeah you have a king size bed just around the corner from your office but yeah right so the third thing that there's a love swing in there does that count as a hammock well that could yeah forget about that i haven't got to i'm getting to that one next so number three in mexico they have afternoon siesta in the uk they have afternoon tea i want afternoon delight oh so that's where the coming downstairs naked i'm just saying the playroom is right outside my office yeah the massage room is right outside my office yeah I don't know.

oh so that's where the coming downstairs naked i'm just saying the playroom is right outside my office yeah the massage room is right outside my office yeah and you just mentioned the swing so that's the swing is there too i guess it doesn't really matter if i have work to do because i have my own business too well i'm just you can you can list your own things that you want i just need to pencil you you in, huh? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, afternoon delight.

Okay, the fourth thing that I want is instead of a water cooler, a water cooler has a negative connotation like around gossip and not doing anything because people are standing around the water cooler. Right. I want a kegerator. I knew you were going to say that. Because standing around a kegerator is cool. That's right. And everybody's happy standing around a kegerator.

And I work for myself everybody's happy standing and i can and i work for myself i can drink whenever i want to and we've been doing a lot of that this week in the afternoon i know i'm gonna get fat having happy happy hour every day and drinking beer or martinis or whatever it is okay so so far it sounds like you're okay with everything yeah okay the last thing and this is the most important one i need a urinal in my bathroom no that's gross do you realize for 30 something years i have two daughters and a wife i've been sitting my whole life yeah and every other public building i know and you're so neat in the bathroom i just i appreciate it very much and the bathroom is like right there's a door from my office right into the bathroom.

If there was a urinal in there, it would be the coolest bathroom ever. That is so why you chose this room, because the bathroom is like right there. We can see the bathroom from where we're sitting. Okay, so the urinal, the urinals of maybe is what you're saying. No, I'm pretty sure I said no. Okay, well, I heard maybe. so, yeah, those are the things that I think that if I had down here, it would really give me my mojo. I'd probably bring in a whole lot more business if I had a urinal. Okay. That's pretty slick there, honey. Yeah, so we are surviving working together.

And today I had my first two billable hours. I know. Which I think is pretty good for the first week. I know. Because it's all been in the red. I'm not even close yet. I'm working on websites and certifications and geez louise. So yeah, you're carrying the load right now. Yeah, and we're working 10, 12 hours a day, but we're not getting very far.

We're both getting paid from our old jobs still so it's not for one more month well one month is a long time right we're doing fine and then the stuff's gonna hit the fan yeah so there have been a lot of speaking of no cash flow so we have had a lot of listeners um ask if we'd be able to travel for some meet and greets. And that is so enticing. And we would love to do that. But my accountant is telling me otherwise. That's right. We need to get our cashflow under control and just settle in a little bit first. And then, I mean, that that's awesome.

And, And how exciting is it that our listeners are energized and they're actually wanting to do this? I mean, basically, the people that have contacted us just are like, you guys just need to show up. I mean, they're going to get everything all organized. That is awesome. So that is definitely in the pipeline. Yes. But the cash has got to be in the pipeline first.

As soon as our statement of cash flows prints out black ink instead of red yeah so we'll consider that yeah we'll be there but we are flattered that so many of you have invited us to your town and it is something that we want to be able to do there and you know with us working for ourselves we'll have the flexibility to do that right i mean and that's that's actually kind of one of the uh i guess factors that kind of propelled you to go ahead and do this yeah i mean because i've got the freedom now and you know that doesn't really do any good if you're still tied to a desk so now i mean yeah you know you can take conference calls anywhere right i mean actually i think you're going to be working in mexico i'm going to have a three-hour call in Mexico.

I had to get the international calling plan on my phone. But that's okay. I'll sit by the pool and be on a conference call for three hours. Yeah, that's right, because you're going to get paid for it. That's right. Yeah, so that's what's going on. That's the big, big news in our world. And just think, two or three months ago, where we were compared to now. I know, but you know what? I think we're so energized and excited. Yeah. It's definitely a good thing. Yeah. So let's move on briefly to our newsletter. We sent another newsletter out today. Yeah, number four.

We're getting a lot of nice feedback. And just to give you an idea, the front article is about a blog that I wrote this month. And then we also have a couple of, oh, the Boulevardier. So that's the drink that I'm drinking tonight that I mentioned. And the recipe is in the newsletter this week. That's one of my favorites. We also are featuring a blog from some of our friends in Virginia, a small town swinging blog. And then what we do is we've got news from around the web.

And some of that is, there's one, there's an article about the stuff that people guys are using to seal their penis shut so they don't have to use a condom during sex. That just does not seem like you would have a good outcome.

Well, the gist of the article is going to back up your hypothesis on that but you have to read it then there's a star a story about a uh italy's forbidden orgy island a very uh interesting history lesson there um and then from red book and you know i used to like sneak my mom's red book when i was little red book was a pretty racy magazine i know i used to subscribe to it stop 17 Excuses Not to Have Sex and on. So we hope that you're finding these articles interesting and helpful. Yep. And I think we're featuring Swinging Down Under this month as our featured podcast.

Yes, and by the way, if you'll notice, episode 52, which was just released by Swinging Down Under is a combined pod. They invited us to be on their podcast. That was so win-win. We got to Skype with them and podcast at the same time. Yes. It was very fun.

And the topic that we talked about with them was how do you negotiate play styles if yours is different than your spouses or or your partner's yep it was a lot of fun and it was kind of sexy too it was and we heard about these dreams oh yeah yeah 90 probably about 90 more days now right until our november desire trip yeah yeah his dream had something to do with the four of us at dinner at desire yeah so yeah yeah it was good yeah so anyway check them out and you'll hear us over there as well so we should probably get into keeping up with the joneses yeah yeah we actually have stuff to keep days.

Yeah. Yeah. So to kind of go back in time a little bit, because we've, we, um, we, the month of April just jumped right over it because of our little break. Yeah. So we had some, uh, listeners come from, uh, out of country to, to visit us. The great white North white north yeah so the wife was in town for um some training i think she was in training like the whole week right yes and her husband flew in towards the end of the week and um they had a little mini vacay here in the dc area and then they spent um some time with us yeah and it was awesome it was a lot of fun. Yeah.

They brought us some pretty cool gifts, too. Yes. Very cool gifts. I got some bourbon, Canadian bourbon. Yeah. And. Some authentic maple syrup. Yes. And we got that cool little oar. Yeah. A paddle. Yeah. And Mr. Jones thought it was a paddle. Yeah, I hung it in the massage room. It could be used as a paddle. It's really pretty, though. It is. So we had so much fun with them. What a great couple. Yeah, what a sexy couple. Yeah, yeah. Oh, my goodness, she's stunning. Yeah. And he is very sexy. Yeah, so we really enjoyed our time with you guys. Sorry you had to wait so long to hear.

So we're going to have to make our way north. Yeah, definitely. When we have cash. Again, that statement of cash flow. If I had a better accountant. I know. Oh, well. The other thing that we didn't talk about was when we got back from our vanilla cruise, we went to Trapeze. Yes.

And we met some friends um well we had met the uh couple that we're talking about at the do you know george event yeah the year before and then we saw him at naughty new orleans a year ago yep and um kind of reconnected with him then so we you know they're always like well if you're ever our way so sure enough they don't live very far from fort lauderdale so we um had let them know hey we're going to be in town you know off the cruise ship on this night would you guys be interested in in getting together so they picked us up at our hotel and took us out for a beautiful dinner oh yeah it's a nice mexican Yeah, but it was like a fancy Mexican restaurant, not a chips and salsa place.

Yeah, it was like a a fancy mexican restaurant not a chips and salsa place yeah it was um it was really really nice so i think we all did yeah it was wonderful and then we went to trapeze with them yes we did and we saw our friends rachel and tiffany yes we did our sapphic swinger friends we had gotten in touch with them and made sure that we found them while we were there and yeah they're just as lovely as always it's too bad we didn't have more time to catch up with you ladies but we'll do that next time yeah for sure yeah so we had a good time i i think i'm pretty safe in saying that we like trapeze atlanta better than trapeze fort lauderdale well we were spoiled in atlanta because they have the diamond club yeah and you know we were able to take advantage of that and i think the night we were at fort lauderdale it it was some sort of an event was it sdc night and that place was packed and we were a little late getting there because our we really lingered over our wonderful dinner that we had and um and we were just spending so much time talking and catching up because we don't get to see this couple very often so yeah so we were kind of late getting there so it was kind of hard to catch up and and move around and then we had somewhat of a bad experience on the play beds we did and it was really crowded and it's this is not really trapeze's fault unless they exceeded the fire code violation by the number of people were in there but the lady that i was playing with had an intruder twice twice not once but twice um was it i don't was it the same guy i don't think it was the same guy i think it was two different guys she had some touching going on that was unwelcomed and i couldn't see what was going on i knew that something startled her and i and i from my position i couldn't see exactly what was happening but a couple of times guys just well the first time she was just touched the second time yeah she was invaded yeah and it that was just ridiculous yeah that was and that kind of just ended the fun yeah it was really hard for us to all kind of get back in the groove and i think her husband felt bad because he didn't realize it had happened um i noticed it the second time right away and um and you didn't notice right away either but once i said something then you were on high alert and then her husband was kind of the last one to catch on and i think that just really shut him down after that yeah you know which wasn't his fault at all but you know i i don't know and she's.

She was like, well, it wasn't that big of a deal. But really it was. Yeah, it was. There was no reason for that. No. That's what happens when you get a whole lot of people in that place. Some of these parties are a lot of folks that just want to come to a sex party, I think, or in off the streets. Yeah, and they don't really understand the etiquette. Yeah, right. Or common sense rules. Right.

You don't touch somebody the etiquette yeah right or common sense rules right you don't touch somebody else that's naked without making sure it's okay first no but you know putting that aside we still had so much fun with our friends that night because they are very sexy and just easy to be with yeah and then we had some of our closest friends come into town our Southwest friends and that was great that's always fun. Yeah. And that was fairly recent. Yeah. Yeah. So it was good to catch up with them. And we had seen them at Noddy New Orleans, but it was just... Hectic. Yeah.

Noddy New Orleans is fun, but it's just exhausting. And it's really kind of hard to focus and get some quality time in with your friends, because it's just so kind of piecemeal, I guess. Yeah, and they came a long way. So thank you guys for making the effort. It was a lot of fun. We took them to one of our favorite wineries. Yeah, we did. Yeah. And a good evening. And then we spent a couple weekends with some close local friends.

Yeah, it two weekends in a row and it was just kind of coincidence that worked out that way yeah so it's very good to catch up with them yeah it was a very good month i mean new orleans was crazy but then when we got home we got to see like two or three weekends in a row people we're really close to and really long time friends with. Yeah. And that's helped, you know, kind of get us back on track. Oh, for sure. Yeah. So did we miss anything? No, that was a lot. That was a lot? Yeah. Okay. You know, I think this weekend you're just kind of stuck with me. That's okay.

I'm not disappointed at all. Yeah. You know, we got to really catch up on our sleep this week because we've only got like eight days to go. Yeah. I have to admit my commute is wonderful. I mean, I'm used to driving to DC every day. Yeah. And getting up. I still get up practically at the same time, but I just come downstairs with my coffee and turn my computer on. I know. And then, and then we listened to like the radio in the afternoon and they'll talk about the traffic jams and, and we're like, ah, that sucks for them. Yeah.

Waze pops up an alert on my phone that says traffic is bad and I just chuckle. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's time for a beer. Yeah. So hopefully next month we'll when we report back we'll we'll be doing much better on the on the cash flow side of things to get some business going yeah but anyway we're having fun and it is something that our relationship is evolving because mrs jones you you have like a you have a business attitude during the day. Well, I know. I mean, I'm running three businesses for one. Yeah. You know, because I'm your... You're the CEO. Yes, I'm the CEO.

So I'm in charge of getting all the businesses set up and all that legal crap. You know, you're going out and scrounging up work. So I'm working on all three businesses, organizations, and then all of my certifications for my job. So, yes, I have different hats to wear. Yeah, so we're going to have fun and we're going to give it a go. Yep. But when we come back, what I failed to say at the outset was the word flirting tends to scare people a little bit. So what we're going to talk about tonight is finding your flirt in the lifestyle that's what do we mean by that?

i think before we can even begin to talk about flirting we need to talk about you know how comfortable you are in just normal social settings because if you're not super comfortable in social settings making small talk with people, then the flirting is going to be, you know, definitely a challenge, I think. Yes. So I think people need to, you know, practice their small talk skills or something. Well, or if one of the two of you is more comfortable doing something and doing the small talk and breaking the ice, then that should be your approach.

You know, come in on the coattails of the person that's a little bit more comfortable chatting. Well, that's true. Yeah. And, you know, I think that kind of, we kind of flip-flop on that. I think it just depends on the personalities of the people that we meet. You know, sometimes you'll take the lead and you'll just be, you know, yapping away. And then I can just kind of, you know, kind of assess the situation, I guess. And then other times it'll be me and you'll kind of be the quiet one. Well, that's the way we are now.

But early on, remember, we had that really uncomfortable time at that meet and greet because you were telling me it was my job to introduce, to find somebody. Yeah. You know, we were going about it in an awkward way. We knew that we weren't good at it, but we just kept telling the other one your responsibility to do this. And it didn't really work that well. No, we didn't meet anybody. but if you think about our meet and greet that we just had, it was in a very public setting. So when people came in, they were comfortable because it was a public setting. Right.

And they were dressed nicely, but they weren't dressed like lifestyle, you know, evening party clothes.

And we had an icebreaker, and the icebreaker kind of forced people to talk to each other and then after the ice was broken people just were naturally mingling and talking yeah you know so a lot of environments when you walk into a lifestyle aren't like that they aren't that structured oh right because we did that by design yeah we wanted to make people feel comfortable, but that's not gonna happen all the time no not all the time but you know if you can if you can you know just figure out a way to just you know meet people and socialize with them first i guess the the whole point i'm trying to make is that you don't have to start out flirting with people.

You know, just have a conversation first. Yes. And kind of settle in and get to know each other a little bit. Right. I mean, because really we're talking about socializing in any setting right now. Yeah, true. Right? I mean, even in a vanilla setting. Right. Just to be able to break the ice and talk to people. This could be a work function. It could be a family reunion where you see family members you don and talk to people. Right, this could be a work function, it could be a family reunion where you see family members you don't get to see very often, it could be anywhere.

Yeah, and you pick up on body language and when you start talking to people and you notice if they're making eye contact or you make an eye contact and how is the conversation going, and you're talking about basic stuff, no pressure stuff, the weather. Yeah. You know, at a lifestyle event, though, it might be more like, well... We're talking about basic stuff. Yeah. No pressure stuff, the weather. Yeah. And. You know, at a lifestyle event, though, it might be more like, well, have you ever been to this type of event before? Or have you been to this resort before?

You know, so you might be talking about lifestyle stuff, but not really like personal lifestyle stuff. Just kind of in general.

You know, that's those are good conversation starters i guess at a at a lifestyle event right you know and then the thing that i think kind of because then you kind of have to transition you can only talk about vanilla stuff so long at a lifestyle event you know especially if it is an event like a hotel takeover or some sort of a lifestyle party where you know you have that limited amount of time you know so and then you know you got the babysitter and and you know people are kind of on the clock yes so how do you make that transition into flirting and and i think the thing that that i like to look for and pick up on is just people's body language.

Yeah, because actually at that transition, that's the time when a lot of people might say, hey, you know what, it was really great meeting you guys and we're going to go grab a drink and maybe we'll catch up with you later. So maybe if there isn't a connection, as you're getting ready to make that transition, that's when it's a good time to, or you might have somebody say that to you, and then you'll know, okay, well, you know, there wasn't anything there, and you can move on.

But if you do notice the body language and them leaning in and asking you more questions, then the conversation can turn to, hey hey how long have you guys been in the lifestyle and is this your first rodeo wherever you are yeah and see and allow the conversation to go to a lifestyle topic right yeah you know what i think is sexy a good listener you know i'm listening You are a good listener, honey. Tell me more. No, I think...

you know i'm listening you are a good honey tell me more no i think i think when somebody's a good listener when you're telling a story and they're listening to you and they're they're actually asking questions and they're making eye contact as you're telling the story um you know that's sexy because to me when they're making eye contact with me when i'm telling them something then that's telling me that they're interested in me yes you know and then i think that's when i would probably naturally start you know touching the person whether it's the wife or the husband because you know i get to play with both yeah most of the time um you don't have that luxury but um you get to, you know, start touching them on the arm as I'm making, you know, a point and, and they'll, and then people do the same thing.

And, and I really noticed that. And, and to me, that's when the flirting is really kind of starting, you know, it's nothing, it's nothing kind of like racy yet, but it's just starting to make that physical connection. Yes. And just kind of like weighing the interest level. So you're saying that would be the wrong time to say, okay, do you guys want to go up to the room? For me, that would be the wrong time. Maybe it wouldn't be for some people.

I'm just kind of a little slow that way, and I need a little bit more socializing yeah to kind of to kind of help me settle in because you said last episode that intelligence and conversation is sexy yes so i i consider good conversation foreplay yes so can so you continue the conversation, and the conversation gets a lot more interesting. Yes. Because first of all, you're interested in the people. And secondly, the topic becomes more interesting. Right. And heart rates increase, and people stand a little closer, and then you start touching forearms and backs and things like that. Yep.

And then you start flipping your hair. I do. And you start touching your nose i touch my nose oh you do that all the time that's weird you do it all the time that that does not sound sexy i can't believe that you don't realize you do that because you do it all the time and i don't want to make you self-conscious about it because i think it's cute it's's cute. It's like raising your pinky when you're telling a story, but you kind of just touch your nose. Oh my goodness. I'm learning something about myself tonight, I guess. Oh boy. Everybody's going to be looking for that when they meet me.

Well, then they're going to get lucky. What was that?

Was that bewitched is she the one that oh yeah she was well she would like wiggle her nose yeah oh brother yeah okay so obviously body language is um a little indicator there yeah and we had that you know that's one of the reasons why we really like the vanilla cruise we didn't talk about that much yet but um we just like socializing and socializing in a vanilla setting is a great way to practice yeah because it's a safe place yeah you know no one's after you you know they just are wanting to meet you um because you're an interesting person that's right so should we talk about that, you know, we met so many interesting people on our cruise this year and you know what, you know, speaking of becoming, you know, self-employed, I think the catalyst might've been the couple that we met on our cruise.

So we were at the sunset bar, which is the bar on the top of the ship in the back during sail away and we met this couple they were about our age and they were from florida and they owned a company and he would work a couple hours in the cabin each morning and she would get up and go to yoga class or spin class or something and he brought his laptop with him and he would work for a couple hours in his cabin and he's like yep i finished my work for the day and then they would you know I love you.

or spin class or something and he brought his laptop with him and he would work for a couple hours in his cabin and he's like yep i finished my work for the day and then they would you know get off the ship and go to a beach or we said we want a gig like that i know and and we talked to them a lot about that so yeah we spent a lot of time socializing with them yeah but but before we went on the cruise we were we were kind of halfway joking about flipping vanillas oh yeah you were like really joking about it yeah but i mean let's talk about that because we and and what we mean by that is not maybe what some people think well i finally got you to acknowledge it because you joke around about it so much and you were always acting like you were all serious about it.

But, but I think we figured out on this cruise in our minds, what flipping vanillas really is. Yes. And it had a lot to do with socializing. Yeah. So, because I mean, this couple that we met from Florida, they were a very attractive couple. They were not the least bit interested in flirting, but they were great at socializing. Yeah, I'm not talking about that couple. Oh, you're not? No. I'm talking about the couple that we could have flipped. Oh, that couple. Yes. Yeah, that was a couple nights later. Yes.

Yeah, so we met a couple at the Martini Bar, which is talk about a place to socialize the martini bar on our cruise ship is just the best place so they they a couple times during the cruise that they don't do it every night but they bartenders like have whistles and they turn the lights down and there's like neon lights and they're making like 12 martinis at once and stacking the shakers and they have the glasses arranged on the bar just in like this pyramid shape and then they pour all 12 martini shakers at once and it's like this big show and there's like music and strobe lights and it's just craziness well mr jones and i had bellied up to the bar and i was like right in front of like the main where the bartender was doing like the main display and um after the the little show was over then there were 12 martinis in front of me and the bartenders were like handing them out to people and people were kind of reaching in trying to get one of them well mr jones was kind of handing them out people and there was this...

To select people. Yeah. So there was this beautiful, stunningly beautiful Hispanic lady that had reached in to get a drink and Mr. Jones just happened to have one in his hand and he passed it on to her and she was very grateful. So we ended up chit-chatting with she and her husband that night. And they were just a great couple. He was just super handsome. And they were just very, very nice people. He was very charismatic. Yes, he was. He was sexy. She was very, very well put together as far as her outfit and her makeup.

She was like jennifer lopez she was just stunningly chic and but just super warm and and friendly so we just we had a lot of fun hanging out with them so we shut down the martini bar and then there's this sky lounge like it's like a disco on the very very top of the ship that kind of opens up for people that don't want to go to bed yet so the dj was up there and we all went up to the sky lounge and we were dancing and um yeah there's a little bit of dirty dancing going on yeah there was a lot of dirty dancing going on yeah and she went to get a drink and i went to the men's room and then when he and i the husband and i were on the dance floor and he was putting some moves on me go ahead and say what happened well he kissed me yeah and i mean he was like grinding on me and and he said um i'm afraid to do anything else with you because um i'm afraid that i'm going to offend you and then you said, I said, of course not.

How many martinis do we drink that night? And you said, and I said, well, I just want you to know that my husband and I are not easily offended. Yeah. And I think, I think it, at that point in time, he didn't really know what to do. He, I think he he met his match. Yeah. So what became obvious to us, if we can cut to the chase? Well, they were not in the lifestyle. No. And he was drinking a lot. We could have very easily, I think, at least with him. I'm not sure with her. Yeah. We could have very easily pushed that. We could have invited them to our room. Yeah. For sure.

But they were not anywhere near ready for anything like that. This was, to them, it was a crazy party where they drank a lot and had some sexy dancing and did some kissing. Yeah. And if we would have forced the issue, they would have probably really regretted it the next day. Yeah.

if we would have forced the issue they would have probably really regretted it the next day and we would and we would have to oh yeah because we would have totally taken advantage of the situation definitely so yeah we didn't we didn't flip our vanillas well we didn't then well no we didn't the way physically that night but later but the second to the last night of the cruise yeah we see we were seated next to a younger couple very attractive from miami oh well it was yeah it wasn't the last night because we met them like second yeah yeah because we we sat next to them at dinner yeah it was the second to the last night we sat next to them at dinner we had a really good conversation with them really and and talk about socializing it was all about socially first and then it kind of got a little bit more personal yeah and we talked for a long time kept drinking and we even talked about desire and a couple of other things and we cut the evening off and then you said later that night you said you know if we run in that to them again tomorrow I think I would be okay for you telling them that we have a podcast and that we're in the lifestyle do you remember that yes I do yeah so anyway the next night we were looking for them intentionally but didn't find them and when we did find them they came up to us and we ended up telling them that and gave them a business card and told them about our podcast and all of this fear that we have about telling people that are vanilla about the podcast and the lifestyle and what was the first thing do you remember what what was the first thing she said when you when you told her what we did well when she and i had a private conversation about it she was like yeah she's like you know we um we have kind of talked about what the next step in our in our relationship would be and and you know she said i I'm kind of interested in exploring being with other women.

Right. Yeah. So instead of freaking somebody out, because of the conversation we had with them, we kind of sensed that they were ready for a conversation like that. And then she asked me a lot of really pointed questions. So it was really interesting talking to her. Yeah. And so my point was, we never even imagined even trying to push them into playing either. Right. But mentally, their mindset was ready to go to the next place. So we feel like we flipped them in a way. We feel like that we opened an avenue for them to talk and to understand more about the lifestyle.

we opened a door yeah yeah so who knows what's gonna happen with them i don't know i don't know maybe they're listening yeah their sexy hispanic couple they probably don't even remember that night although we did we talked to him a few more times that week we ran into them yeah he actually apologized for his overindulging in the martinis, but... Right. Yeah, they were really, really fun. So we had so much fun just socializing. The fact that we didn't score whatever really didn't detract from the trip at all.

I kind liked not having the um i don't know not that not that swinging is pressure but i i kind of liked not having to worry about um closing are we gonna find somebody or yeah or closing the deal right you know it was just all good clean fun yes and uh that was And then at the same time, you and I were having fun imagining what it would be like, you know? So it was kind of like we had all these like little fantasies running all week long that would kind of, you know, come into play and then go out of play.

But all week long we had like this little running dialogue about who we could play with or flip or whatever. Right.

But i think what we're learning is that a lot of people are attracted to us when we flirt that way even in vanilla settings i mean people open themselves up to us oh yeah because the past few cruises we've met and gotten close to some really good couples yeah so it's helped us it's helped us socially Well, think um you know not that we have it all figured out because we've had a few blunders lately but um i think the key to success is just to be yourself don't don't try to flirt so much and and like flip a switch and become something that you're you're not comfortable with because that's going to be apparent to the people you're you're flirting with i think right um and and we've kind of run into people like that where they try too hard yeah and um a lot of times alcohol comes into play there you know you might have too much to drink too fast to kind of have that liquid courage yeah and sometimes that backfires on you but don't you think that there's another level maybe don't you think that there is a um you know when you start talking about lifestyle but then you really get into the nitty-gritty like what do you like to do and what are some good experiences that you've had yeah and and you if if people start to go really to that point of the conversation and they start including you in the conversation about what it would be like, then that's really taking it to the level of interest that we are interested in.

That's a green light. That's a green light. That's exactly right.

So to your point earlier in the conversation, A conversation a lot of people i think believe that they have to come in at that point in time that you have to come in touching and flirting and kissing and that's not the case and you start socially vanilla socially and then and then you just let it evolve but you just have to know those key triggers and those key words and how do you move that conversation ahead when you're comfortable yeah right you know so like especially when you go to a place like naughty new orleans and you're with 2 000 other people for four days and and just the people watching is so fascinating and you you just watch the um like the what i want to say style the flirting style of people or yes the methodology Thank you.

And you just watch the, like the, what do I want to say, style, the flirting style of people or the methodology or whatever. It's fascinating to watch people. And like some of the most easy people to talk to, you know, when you're not like on, when you're just kind of like standing around the lobby or whatever, or you meet them at breakfast, you run into them at breakfast or whatever, you just have the most perfectly normal, intelligent conversations. When they turn it on, they turn it on. And all of a sudden, their flirting involves like kissing and touching.

And maybe that's just because we were in New Orleans and that's just completely surreal anyway but but some people do have that about them yeah and and i think that's intimidating to some people too i remember when we first started in this lifestyle and as a matter of fact we met a couple at new orleans this time and she liked to kiss people she would just turn around and kiss somebody and her husband kept saying i have to stop her because in the past people have taken that sort of assertiveness to mean that she wants to play with them but she's just simply flirting with them yeah and that was just her personality that was her personality just bubb and happy and right but but i remember feeling that way at first myself like when i would see you go to touch somebody or flirt with somebody i would panic because i was like she's telling them that she wanted to have sex with them but really you weren't you were just flirting but i didn't understand where that line was until i learned how you flirt with people.

And now I just take my cues from you. And, you know, I don't really think about it. Like, I never knew I'd touch my nose until tonight. So what else do I do when I flirt? When we have people at our house and you're the master bartender.

Oh, that is my job my job yeah every time you make somebody a drink and hand it to them you say it's gonna cost you a kiss oh well yeah i gotta get something out of it but by that time when they're when they're in our home you know we've evolved to a certain level right we're at least ready to but it's still but it's still a good way to move things along in that direction or indicate an interest or people will say okay this really is going to happen then yeah because there's some kissing there and i think we kind of have messed up too we've we've dragged our feet a little bit at some point in time and oh gosh i know missed opportunities because we weren't paying attention.

So, you know, I'm saying don't try so hard, just let it happen. But at some point, it's got to happen or it's not going to happen. And I can be a little on the passive side, I think. I don't, I'm not a super aggressive person. I do like to touch people. And that's kind of my way of flirting. I do like a lot of conversation. And sometimes maybe I get into the conversation too much. And I forget that somebody's got to take the lead and start making things turn a little sexier. And a lot of times that's me, especially if we're playing with a couple that's less experienced than us.

You tend to take your lead from me. I do. So it's kind of my job to take things to the next step and just it wasn't too long ago a couple months ago i guess um we had gone out to dinner with a couple and invited them back to the our home we had met them in a social setting before um so it wasn't the first time we had ever met them so it wasn't really really a first date. I'm kind of splitting hairs there, aren't I? But anyway, we invited them back to our home. And we said, you know, no pressure, no promises. Just want to come back to the house for a drink and some conversation. And they did.

And it never happened. I mean, nobody could pull the trigger.

And I think it it was kind of my fault i don't know i i just well it wasn't that long it it happened kind of we had gone out with this couple kind of relatively soon after we had been outed and i think my head was still kind of messed up and and i just couldn't pull the trigger and then too much time went by and then everybody was tired yeah and um you know they just went home and and i and i mean we still stay in touch with them i think we're going to get back together with them yeah when we can all get our calendars to align properly but um i i didn't get my flirt game on no yeah i had no game that night no that's okay it happens to the best of us yeah so you you have to find a pace you don't We'll be right back.

Yeah. I had no game that night. No, that's okay. It happens to the best of us. Yeah. So you have to find a pace. You don't want to push, but at the same time, you have to find that steady pace where you're going to let your flirting move forward. Right. If everybody senses that they want to play.

Yeah, and we're not going to specifically talk about transitioning from that point to playing because that's a whole different transition to get into the bedroom right i couldn't even get my flirt on to even get to the point where you had to decide to transition we'll talk about that's a whole nother episode yeah right when you get to that so we got an episodeor, the whole social media, you know, to get to the face-to-face. And then we'll have an after, like transitioning into the bedroom. So what about when we see the couple the second time? Does the flirting go any different?

Yeah, because all that pressure is off. I mean, you already have all of the niceties out of the way. You know, you've already done the small talking and getting to know each other. I don't know.

I don the small talking and getting to know each other so you know if if you had a good first experience with them you can kind of a um and you can't assume you're going to play the second time but you can assume that things could potentially head there yeah but i think that that's one good thing about the rule of not playing on the first date because it allows you to get to know them and to flirt a little bit, but it takes the pressure off of you wondering if you're going to play. Yeah.

So it allows you, I think a lot of times you'd be more successful by not playing because when you know you're not going to play, you allow yourself to flirt a little more because you know there's no danger of that happening if you're afraid that's going to happen well you know what else i like about not playing on the first date um well okay so i do like to play on the first date if the chemistry is there but when you don't then there's this like anticipation right you know and there's a sexual tension tension and that sexual tension stays there and it can like maintain for quite a while, you know, so I think that's kind of fun, you know, just kind of that waiting until you actually are going to make that connection.

But yeah, the second time around, the flirting is so much easier because you've, you've kind of been there and done that. And, um, it's, it's much easier to, you know, start out more with the touching and that kind of stuff. Yeah. And even people that we've met, like we met a couple at temptation last year that we newbie whispered to. Right. And we got them, we were kissing and flirting and touching and probably if we pushed it. Dancing. Yeah, we could have, and we got in the pool and the clothes came off, but we never played. Well, we ran into them at Naughty in New Orleans. Yeah.

So you never know. So high five, honey. I'm pretty sure we flipped them. Yeah, that's right. That's right. They were at New Orleans. Yeah. Probably because we helped them along. Yeah. So again, we're like the Johnny Appleseed of swears. We're just throwing the seeds around. I hope you all appreciate the benefits that you're getting from all the people that we've pointed in your direction. I know, really. Well, we can't be everywhere, so we're going to count on you all to. That's right.

you're getting from all the people that we've we pointed in your direction no really well we can't be everywhere so we're going to count on you all to that's right you're our ambassadors you're going to be part of the harvest oh so where do we go from here i don't know did we cover everything um i think so i mean You know i think that when you talk about flipping vanillas or you talk about just even flirting in general flirting is really um like an outcome of opening your mind to the possibilities you know instead that again. Okay, so... That was really good. Oh, thank you. Darn it.

What did I say? Flirting is the outcome of opening your mind to the possibilities. Yeah, I did say that. Yeah. I didn't even write that down. I know, that was really good. Yeah. So opening your mind to the possibilities is you enable that by just being yourself and starting to talk socially about things and allowing it to progress naturally. So I guess that's the difference between socializing and flirting then.

You know, flirting in the lifestyle, when you're with your spouse and you've, you know, you've come to an agreement that you're going to do this, then you're allowed to flirt, you know, and to be allowed to flirt, especially for people like you and I that were married for so long. And now we're actually allowed to flirt with other people. That's so exciting. So our mindset has changed. So now when we're interacting with people, we're, we're thinking about all the possibilities. So the flirting is like an outcome of what's going on in our heads. Yeah.

And if worse comes to worse, you can always say, look, we've been talking to you for an hour. I've totally screwed all of this flirting stuff up. I just want to let you know before you go, we're really interested in you.

So when I get my shit together next time so so don't leave here thinking that i wasn't interested i'm just terrible at this right that and you know what that breaks the ice and it makes people laugh and it takes the pressure off so even if you're feeling that way throw it out there in an innocent way and just say i'm struggling with this okay so if you're struggling with it you know what a good thing to do would be flirt with your spouse yeah that's right and i asked you the other night when we were planning for this episode i said do you think we flirt more since we've been in the lifestyle than we did before you mean flirt with each other with each other yes yeah for sure you know i i think i touch you a lot more right um because if you think about the way that we think about flirting it was always a method of reeling somebody in right and once i have you i don't need to flirt with you anymore because i've reeled you in but when i see you with other people and i see you flirting with other people i want to to reel you back in.

Oh, I like that. I want to flirt with you. I want to show you that I desire you just like other men desire you. And so it motivates me to be flirtatious with you. Oh, see, this is good. Yeah. I think we're learning stuff about each other tonight. Yeah. And I know that there are a lot of people out there that has trouble flirting. And you know, the thing about it is we have this idea of what flirting is and it's intimidating, but just be yourself and just be honest and say, I'm bad at this. I suck at this. I haven't flirted in 20 years.

I just want to let you know that I think you're attractive. Or I really like you. I really want to, if it's possible to salvage this, I want to continue this conversation and just be upfront with people. Because we've all been there. And a lot of us are still there. And just laugh at yourself. Because actually, I would find that kind of endearing. Because you're being real. I mean, and that's what I find sexy. People that are being themselves, you know, that's when you're sexy. Yeah. Because if you're being yourself, then you're actually opening yourself up to people.

And here's one ding for the guys. I see a lot of guys being overly assertive and calling that flirting. Yeah. And I see, I don't need to be groped to be made like I feel attractive. Exactly. So I think that they are uncomfortable flirting as well. And so what they do with that is disguise it by physical assertiveness. I'm not going to say aggression, but assertiveness.

And so you can tell they're really not even comfortable doing that but they do it and when they're not comfortable being assertive then it comes across as being a little icky and you know not genuine yeah because it's not genuine you know it's like it's like they have an objective and the objective is not really to connect with me. It's to, I don't know. And I'll tell you guys, it's okay to be vulnerable, especially in the lifestyle. Chicks love it. Well, we're nurturers. So, you know, I like a guy that will let himself be vulnerable around me. Say, I suck at this. Oh, let me make it better.

Exactly. I'm not good at this. And you know why? You're so beautiful. You know, I walk up to you and all of a sudden I can't talk anymore. I mean. Oh, that would totally work for me. I know. Totally. But isn't it true? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, so just say it. And I think people will just laugh at you and blush. And then you've broken the ice. Right. And everybody's going to laugh. And that will kind of relax everybody, actually. And the absolute wrong thing to do is clam up and just tell yourself inside your head, I suck at this. I suck at this. I blew it. I'm bad at this.

I knew this was going to happen. And as soon as you go there, your body language changes. And other people sense that. And they either think you don't want to be around them or you're not as attractive when you're shutting down. So you've got to figure out. And unfortunately, it's just like anything else. And there's an article in our upcoming newsletter that talks about this that you've got to step out of your comfort zone. And flirting is a big thing. You've got to step out of your comfort zone if it doesn't come naturally to you. Yeah, it's not easy. Thank you.

of your comfort zone and flirting is a big thing you've got to step out of your comfort zone if it doesn't come naturally to you yeah yeah it's not easy i mean especially at first um it i mean i don't know i mean we're headed to desire in like eight days and right and i'm always a little nervous before we go because you don't know who's going to be there you know um you know is it going to be a good crowd or are we going to be able to find anybody to connect with you know is it Thank you.

because you don't know who's going to be there you know um you know is it going to be a good crowd or are we going to be able to find anybody to connect with you know is it you know because it's what sexy young and wild month so in my mind everybody's going to be like 25 years old and look like barbie and ken and you know and we can be sexy middle-aged and wild quote unquote So, you know, every time you you go on one of these vacations you know you kind of can let the irrational part of your mind run away with you and you know are we going to have fun and and then you just have to go and and just kind of roll with it whoever's there you know if if you don't have a good time when you go on a vacation like that it's your own own fault.

Right. You know, you can't blame it on the crowd. Right. So I think as we always try to do to tie this back into how it affects our relationship, because we are the most important thing to each other, is back to the idea that we flirt with each other more than we did before. And that helps things at home where it's most important so even even as you're learning how to socialize and flirt with people in the lifestyle ultimately your spouse or your partner is the prime beneficiary of all of that well right I mean I think you know we I think see you differently now.

I'm looking at you through a different lens because I'm, I'm looking at you interact with women and I'm getting to observe that. And so I'm, I'm seeing you in action, so to speak, you know, and, and I don't necessarily mean like action as in sex. I mean, I'm talking about like flirting right and and just interacting with people and it's it's um it's refreshing and and i it it makes me desire you more like you said because you know hey you're my guy look you know you're you're pretty good at that but you're coming home with me yeah and i'm gonna I'm going to get that afternoon delight.

I was going to say, you belong to me, mister. Yeah. I think I've said that before. I think in episode 14. Geez, only you would know the episodes. Oh, no. That was Mrs. Jones on the hot seat. Yeah, right. I screwed up. Oh, my gosh. You're not perfect. No. I'm not. Oh, okay. Well, that's how we define flirting. Yeah. So we'd love to hear from you if you have similar stories or similar ideas or different ideas about what flirting is to you. So hopefully we did this topic service. And when we talk about social flirting, that's a whole different topic. Oh, as far as I know. I'll see you next time.

service and when we talk about social flirting that's a whole different topic oh as far as like social media oh social media flirting you're talking about like kick just to give you an advanced taste of that people are often different when they're tens or hundreds or thousands of miles away flirting with you than when they're face to face wellface. Well, that's true. But we'll talk about that. Yeah, that's a whole other story. Okay, well, when we come back, we'll wrap up 39 with some sexy snapshots. All right.

guitar solo okay welcome back to our snapshot segment tonight um the first snapshot we're going to share is actually from a listener. And she sent us a snapshot that has to do with not only finding that elusive four-way connection, which was our last month's topic, but also just on how she and her husband were able to interact with another couple to have a great evening. Okay, it starts out saying, We were traveling out of town and had been speaking to another couple for a couple of months prior to meeting them.

We met them at a very nice bar for cocktails, and the conversation flowed great from the very beginning. We discovered quickly that we both couples were not looking to be up all night and that if we decided to take things to our hotel room, we didn't want to wait too long. This couple was absolutely perfect in every way. She was beautiful, sexy, sassy, and not shy, but also not arrogant at all. He had the most beautiful eyes and made the most consistent eye contact of any male half we have ever met.

What made us feel very comfortable was that they looked at us with care, as beautiful human beings, not as pieces of meat or conquests to be notches on their belt. I'm not sure when they became so good at making newbies feel so comfortable, but it was like an art form. We transitioned to the hotel room for one of our hottest sessions to date, and before long, I, the female half, was begging to be fucked by the husband. My mister was right there with me. It was perfect. We played, and then took an appropriate breather on the balcony, and then played some more.

After everyone was clearly satisfied, I jumped in the jacuzzi tub and invited the wife to join me. Both of us women took a hot bath and laughed and played while our men took sexy pics and joked right along with us. It was truly an amazing moment full of appreciation, laughter, and enjoyment. It was a moment where you know your journey is headed in the right direction. We will never forget it, and it was a big deal, and we hope for many more big deals in the future. I'd love it. Very good. Yeah. I like where she said, it's a moment where you know, your journey is headed in the right direction.

Yes. So it sounds like the other couple was probably a little more experienced, but you know, they, they knew how to flirt and progress at the right, I guess, speed to make our listener friends comfortable and drawn in to the moment. Right.

And that's such almost the opposite of what many people might think that you have to pursue and that you have to be aggressive and that you have to go after something and you have to push and you have to cajole and you have to force and not force, but pressure, you know, and, and coerce or convince, you know, sometimes you feel like you're being pushed by people, but oftentimes that pushes people away.

And in this case, it shows that it draws people in when you give them space to see what's going on in front of them yeah yeah that's very cool very sexy okay what you got well um you know i'm my snapshot's not real sexy what yeah we had the opportunity to have dinner last weekend with two other couples that we're friends with yeah and you know we went we we we traveled uh to stay overnight and we we went to dinner at their home and there were six of us and and it's funny because we're good friends with each of the couples but the six of us had never been together before except well except for maybe once yeah so to be able to sit down with close friends and sit on the back porch and cook dinner and drink wine and just talk openly and and be in a crowd where you're just openly accepted and you can talk about anything and there's no yeah our guard was completely down yeah you feel natural so natural so comfortable and it feels so natural that we just enjoyed the whole evening.

Now, don't get me wrong. We did move inside and the ladies did put some sexy lingerie on and we did go up to the playroom and the lingerie did not stay on and it didn't stay on very long. And, but even that part of the evening was very natural and fluid and people moved around and did different things with different people. Um, but there was no You know, there was no pressure. You know, it was just a lot of fun.

And anyway, as sexy as the evening was, what stands out in my mind was the six of us just sitting on the back porch, sharing a meal, and being able to be who we've been brought to become as individuals and as couples and as friends in this lifestyle yeah just genuine friendship yes yeah that's my snapshot that's a good one yeah yeah so my snapshot goes back a little bit before that um we had some friends over that we've known for quite a while kind of one of the first couples that we had really connected with in the lifestyle and we've known them for quite a while now it's been a few years and we've been with them quite a few times off and on over the three years.

And for whatever reason, well, okay, I had never full swapped with the husband. You had full swapped with the wife before at a party. Yeah. At a party.

Um, I had never full swapped with the husband the husband we've always just ended up doing a soft play with them and a few weeks ago when we got together with them he and i finally sealed the deal after all this time and it was just so much fun and he i think he sealed the deal more than once he sealed the deal three times well wait i think the third time might have been with his wife yeah um so yeah so the first time when he finished he was you know very expressive and loud when he finished and everybody kind of laughed and he was like that orgasm was three years in the making that was so funny but it was actually very hot yeah he gives us 50 year olds a good name yeah i'm telling you what he's in he's in some good shape a lot of stamina yeah it was it was worth a three-year wait my friend yes it was a very very sexy fun evening yeah i had a good time too i think from what i saw you were on a very good time yeah i did they're good friends and actually she and i had a pretty good time too you did oh yeah that's right i think everybody got to spend time with everybody that night five way yeah yeah oh yeah so that's our snapshots yeah so thank you for sending in the snapshot we're always looking for those if you all want to share um what else do we need to share before we leave?

We are, if you didn't notice, our podcast is out a wee bit early this month because when we're scheduled to record our release, we are going to be in desire. I've said it like twice, eight more days. Yeah. Yeah. So we're going to be there for a week having fun, but we're also going to be doing some work and prepping for our November trip. That's right. To get things ready. Yeah. Get some special events on the calendar and that kind of stuff. Yeah. So if you haven't done so, please go to our website and sign up for our newsletter. A lot of you have done that and we appreciate that.

Give us some feedback on that as well know I'm not a newsletter person I do subscribe to some newsletters and a lot of times I'll just like look at whatever comes up on my screen you know like the little snapshot on the actual mail app but our newsletter and I guess I'm boasting here, but I really enjoy the articles that, um, like, because you're working on some of the curated articles and then we have somebody helping us and he's finding articles too. Yeah.

But to actively seek them out, it's amazing how many article articles and news there is out there on sex positivity, if you know where to look and to, and to bring it in, but it's a lot of fun. We're learning a lot. Yeah. I mean, there's some really interesting stuff out there. So I'm really enjoying it. Yeah. So we hope you guys are too. Of course, you can still email us. And I'm Mr. Jones at We Got a Thing. And We Got a Thing is W-E-G-O-T-T-A-T-H-I-N-G.com. Oh, we got a story about that. We do?

So when our friends came to visit us they brought dessert oh yeah and they brought a little round chocolate cake that they had gotten at a bakery yeah and he asked them to put we got a thing in white icing on the chocolate frosting yeah and they spelled it wrong yeah it was just um we got we got a thing so it gotta wasn't g-o-t-t-a it only had one t in it and so we kind of laughed about that and we took a picture of the cake because the cake was just adorable it was just decorated so nice but then um when we had the cake which i think was right after the three-year orgasm. We sliced the cake.

And we weren't paying any attention. We were just slicing. Right. And then the cake said, we go thin. So from We Got a Thing to We Go Thin. I'm like, well, we can eat all this chocolate cake and we go thin. Yeah. It's like it was a diet cake. So we have a picture of that too. Yeah. Or you can email Mrs. Jones. At mrs jones at we got a thing.com yes and our website is we got a thing.com and you can find us on twitter at we got a thing or our cassidy community yep and i think we have some links on our website if you want to explore Cassidy.

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