Episode 2: Desire Pearl: We've Been Duped!

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well welcome to episode number two of the we got a thing podcast it's a wednesday evening it's actually thanksgiving eve and we are sitting here enjoying the calm before the storm yeah so we are going to before we are invaded by family and vanilla friends for the next few days talk about some sexy things while it's just the two of us so we've um we're going to start out by talking about what's going on and what's the segment's called keeping up with the joneses and we're good we've got it actually a lot going on lately um more than we had planned for at least which is a good thing so um the first thing that we've did i guess this was probably the house party was about three weeks ago yeah I think it was three weeks ago yeah so we had met a couple and spent some time with them alone and then they put together a house party with us and two other couples well it was supposed to be a total of six couples and one thing that we've heard about the lifestyle is that a lot of times you end up getting stood up at the last minute so it was supposed to be six couples and then the morning of the dinner party I guess another one of the six couples had to send their regrets and then that night the dinner party started at about seven ish and at about eight a couple started texting and saying we're running late and then by nine they said start without us and then by the time we ate dinner at about 10 we realized that they weren't going to be bringing dessert right right but it was it still was a fun evening it was a great evening six of us and and the couple that put this together really a fantastic job of of finding a place we had it wasn't even their house they they found out that some of their friends were out of town and was right in the middle of the city and it was a beautiful evening and we started off with some cocktails and and some wine and got to know everyone else and talked for a long time and then we had dinner together at their house and then they had set up the upstairs I think there was was there three or four levels and yeah this was a brownstone in the middle of a city right so it had like you know four floors to it and yeah they you just kept going up and there'd be another little alcove or another little bedroom and they had everything set up you know and all ready to go for any kind of play that that might uh had happened that night so and did happen and did happen that night so we ended up playing uh with the other couple that invited us and then there were two other couples that I'm not sure if they um interacted with each other but they were definitely naked and in the room and I don't think they did I think we were the most experienced couple there and I think that the other two couples were just kind of wanting to be in a sexy environment and figure out you know their comfort level with one another and and you know just being around other people so you know it was a very low pressure you know low-key atmosphere which it's kind of my speed for the most part and And it was just, you know, a really, a really fun time.

And, you know, we did get to play with the other couple that we had played with before. And, and we did it, you know, in front of the other two couples for a while. And then everybody kind of started separating and going in their own ways to find more comfortable places to be together.

So we kind of had a little bit of uh exhibitionism going on and then just some really fun soft play with this other couple yeah it was really a nice nice time and then unfortunately the i think one of the drawbacks was we had to drive you know we had to come uh an hour and 15 or 20 minutes so home after all of that stuff um happened so that i guess that was the only downside of it was having to get dressed and go back out and drive all the way home but overall it was a great evening and we thought that that was going to be our only opportunity to play before our trip to Desire which we're going to talk about in the next segment but then what happened was we were contacted by or somehow we connected with a couple on Cassidy and they are about an hour and a half from the house and they reached out to us to introduce themselves and asked if we'd like to get together sometime and so coincidentally well thanks to united airlines we were almost forced into going up to the airport airport a night early and spending the night because we thought we had an 8 30 a.m flight book to cancun and about three weeks before we left united airlines sent sent us an email saying oh by the way we changed same flight number but we changed your flight to 605 a.m.

instead of 825 a.m.

and we were like what but then the more we thought about it we were like sweet you know we're going to be in Cancun by mid-morning so we decided to go up to the airport and get a hotel room and then a lot of the airports around where we live do the whole park and fly deal so we were going to leave our car and take the shuttle over so we were just going to go up and have dinner just the two of us that night but this couple had contacted us and they only live about a half an hour from the airport it was really convenient right so we just threw it out there we said hey just in case you're free Friday night we're going to be staying about a half an hour from where you live uh overnight at the airport and then wouldn't you know they they took us up on the offer and we met them for dinner and we even though we just celebrated our first anniversary in the lifestyle i would still i would still say that we're relatively new uh to a lot of this experience and now we know just enough to get ourselves in trouble yeah yeah so so we met a lovely couple really hit it off with them and uh the the short story is we had a great time that the evening worked out um beautifully and we're going to see them again here coming up soon but we were kind of caught off guard a bit we had We had a good meal together and we really never it was a very low pressure meeting no expectations you know kind of we don't play on the first date I mean we didn't really say that but it was a low expectations evening and and we hit it off and this couple are or even again newer than we we are at this right and so we didn't expect what came out of her mouth as we were finishing up dinner and what exactly did she say i think she said well she said well you know her husband um she were i guess you know kind of nudging each other under the table kind of you know communicating through body language since all four of us were you know staring at each other so I guess they figured it was a green light so she said you know I know we didn't really like plan on this but we feel really comfortable with you guys and and we really feel like there's a connection with you so would you consider having us come back to your hotel room yeah you?

And I think the way that she asked it was pretty cool. She said, we know you have to get up at like 3 30 in the morning for a flight, so maybe it would be easier just to stay up all night and not have to wake up in the morning. Which is practically what happened.

Right, so it really, I think we learned a little bit there because I don't, we didn't, I didn that and then when she asked the question we kind of glanced at each other and made quick eye contact and decided on the fly that I think we were both okay with it and yeah we wanted to do it so we offered to go back to the hotel and our hotel was about 10 minutes away and so i knew that we were going to have an opportunity to get in the car and talk about it again so they followed us back to the hotel we met in the hotel lobby for drinks and during that 10 minutes uh we we kind of regrouped in the car and said did you expect that no i didn't expect that but are you okay with this because i kind of felt like you know I put you on the spot with that decision I want to make sure that that you were on the same page and and again they handled it very well even when we got back to the hotel lobby as soon as we they got out of the car they said okay now that you've had time to talk about this since we put you on the spot or are you are you sure you're okay with it and well luckily we were staying in a pretty big hotel and it had a really nice lobby with a nice bar and and we stayed in the lobby and the four of us had a drink first um so it wasn't like there was pressure to just go upstairs and start like flinging clothes everywhere right yeah so then we ended up having another drink in the lobby and they went back and we talked we had a really good conversation with them about uh what they what their limits were and what their rules were and what they were into and and us being a soft swap it was a good fit and I think the only thing that she had hesitated about was I think kissing didn't she say she was very unsure about about kissing because just like I've heard many couples feel this way, you know, kissing is a very intimate act.

And she was, you know, just concerned about her reaction to kissing somebody else or having somebody kiss her or watching her husband kiss somebody else. So we were like, okay, you know, that's not a problem for us, but, you, but we can certainly respect that. And it wasn't a deal breaker by any means. Right. And when we got back up to the hotel room, there's that initial who's going to get things started thing. And so when we went into the room, I turned the heat up just to make it a little bit warmer in there. He's a really good husband.

Well, and I didn't want any excuses for clothes not coming off. So after about 10 minutes of small talk again, I think I suggested that it was probably warm enough in the room for the ladies to... He basically just told me to take my sweater off. Yeah, and you were very good about jumping right on that. And then, of course, she followed suit, and the rest was history.

um so and I believe you two started together the two ladies started together and she had very limited experience with ladies so yeah so what did she go down on you first or you uh yes yeah she did and it looked like she did a very good job she was a natural yeah and then you went down on her and that was really I'll never get um I'll never get over that I could watch that all the time but you two looked really comfortable together and and she enjoyed you as well you and her husband were doing a good job at putting her at ease and making her feel comfortable while I was yeah taking care of her yes right so then we swapped back with to each other's partners and finished and laid around and talked for a while and and I think she expressed something at the end where she had said that it really went well and maybe she had made more out of it in her mind than it really turned out to be as far as the kissing thing.

So, um, anyway, it must've gone well because we're going to see them again just this coming weekend, a couple of days, a couple of days, and we'll get to, um, talk about it directly with them. And so we're, we're really looking forward to that. So that pretty much, that was a hell of a way to start a vacation. Yeah. I mean, that was a bonus.

So before we even i'd be around an airport so much before so before we even got on the plane to mexico we we had a play experience under our belt and so we said wow this is really going to be a good vacation it's off to a good start at least that's what we were hoping anyway and it turned out to be the case yes it was definitely a foreshadowing of things to come for the rest of the week So I believe you're up to date on tonight is is our trip to desire pearl and the the topic of this um second episode is called okay we are officially sluts because we were busy at desire pearl in a good way in a very good way and it was um so we've been to pearl or to desire um three times now we were there exactly a year ago so that was uh it was a an amazing week as well we kind of alluded to that in the first episode you know we we met a couple there and we pretty much hung out with that couple most of the week and um and it was great I mean we hit it off with them we played with them you know they were the first couple we ever played with and and it was a very um positive um experience where we felt comfortable so then we went back in August thinking okay well what's going to happen this time and when we went in August we were completely focused on each other we met tons of great people and and um just enjoyed having dinner with people and talking to people around the pool and in the hot tub in the evenings and and at the disco but we for whatever reason didn't um sexually connect with anybody we were completely um engrossed in ourselves and our own relationship so we just kind of rolled with it and and enjoyed the sensual atmosphere that only desire can provide right and but it wasn't boring at all as a matter of fact you know we never had sex in our bedroom i think the the whole week maybe twice a day and went balcony jacuzzi pool beds playroom so even even though it was two of us we still made an adventure out of it I think so yeah I wasn't disappointed I wasn't either so this time when we went we were like okay well now what's going to happen you know we we had the kind of hanging out with one couple experience we had the just focus on each other experience so you know we we didn't really know what to expect and we're hoping you know we're we're kind of um we've kind of accelerated a little bit in our lifestyle experiences over the past couple months so we were feeling a lot more um confident in our ability to kind of read each other and and to kind of anticipate what we're looking for in our encounters with other people so I think that that kind of gave us the confidence to meet more people and just have conversations and then learning how to read well is this going to head anywhere or are these just people we want to hang out with and we enjoyed meeting both types of people I mean when we go there it's not just about the sex I think we're we just enjoy hanging out with people and and talking to them and hearing their life experiences and what got them into lifestyle and you of their adventures as well.

Right, and a lot of people, a lot of podcasters, as a matter of fact, I think there was a podcast group there at RM the week before we showed up at Pearl. And a lot of what we learned from Desire was listening to other podcasts and getting reviews so we're not going to really focus on the the facility itself but like you were saying mrs jones what what we love to do is to connect with people and desire is the place to do that it's such a warm friendly safe sensual environment and it's full of people who are open-minded non-judgmental I don't know.

friendly safe sensual environment and it's full of people who are open-minded non-judgmental from all parts of many different countries parts of the world and you know when you add all that together and subtract clothing it just creates this indescribable environment and so i know that a lot of people including us are anxious before you go there for the first time because we're wondering how am I going to feel comfortable when I take my clothes off or am I going to be able to do this but once you get there it can truly be a transformational place and how many people did we talk to or have we talked to that said when we say how did you get into the lifestyle they they say well it started with a trip to desire and even though we had been there before every time we go this is our third time we seem to take another step kind of forward in our relationship and how we how we meet people so I don't even know how many people we met there but being there for eight days uh right right now it seems like a blur but we had you know what the coolest thing was is we were there this week last year and um we probably and i'm not exaggerating i know there were at least 10 couples there this week that were there the same week last year so not only do you walk in the door and the staff remembers you you they might not remember your name but but like you know victor at the pool he remembered where we like to sit every day you know and they they just remember and ebbe you know she she just you know remembers you and and knows that you like a glass of water between every drink so you don't end up getting wasted and you know drowning in the hot tub or whatever right you know so then put um guests on top of that that you recognize from last year and and again you might not remember everybody's name but you remember conversations that you had with them or or you know just other funny experiences that happened a year ago and it was just so cool it was truly like coming home right and i think if you i don't know how many people we exchange contact information with but that's an indicator to me i mean so many people you know people that have been there for the first time people that have been there many times people that we've seen before and and new people just just so many couples that we connected with and and really then you add of course are the couples that we played with on top of that and wow you know what a trip and you know it's it's we connected with people you know over dinner um and i certainly we're going to talk a little bit about more specifically but but, you know, even playing volleyball and playing, you know, water polo.

And sexy darts. Oh, and sexy darts. So, yeah, as a matter of fact, Mrs. Jones is wearing the T-shirt that we really didn't win. No, we came in third because Mr. Jones couldn't hit the G spot on the dartboard. It hit the wire on the G-spot, and the G-spot is the very center of the bullseye, and the G-spot is worth 100 points, and the last dart that I threw, it hit the wire, I'm telling you, it hit the wire on the G-spot and bounced out, and if we would have gotten that, and I usually don't have, I don't have that difficult of a problem. He always hits the G- G spot. Thank you. Thank you.

You knew I was going with that. But anyway, we were pretty sly. Actually, the other couple. So we were friends with one of the other couples that was playing and the husband didn't want the t-shirt. So shout out to our Dallas friends for giving me one of the t-shirts because he didn't want it. So each one of the girls, it was kind of win-win. Yeah. So, yeah, they took the grand prize and I got the T-shirt. So do you want to talk about that? I mean, distracted darts. Distracted darts, yes. Distracted darts. So they put you in precarious positions.

Like, for example, when I was throwing one time, Charlie put mats down on the cement, and you got on your knees in front of me, and it was your job to distract me while I was throwing the darts, and then we switched positions. So when I was on my knees, what was I level? I mean, I just kind of, you know, whatever. Right, right.

So they would put you in these very fun fun and sexual positions and you try to throw darts and uh and keep score and i don't know how many rounds we played and there were about six or seven couples doing it but so anyway we played that game and you got your t-shirt and i think i'm going to try to snap a photo of at least a portion of you it's the desire pearl porn-shirt. Yes, it looks very good on you tonight. So there was that, and we played volleyball. I played volleyball, which may have been a mistake because I'm pretty sore now, and water polo.

And one of the couples that we met, she played volleyball with me. She's a little bit competitive. A little. Yeah, a little bit. And I've got the marks to show for it, though I wasn't complaining. Because in water polo, she literally was draping herself over me to try to keep me from getting down to the other side. There was some serious foreplay going on in that game. Yeah, yeah. That was a lot of fun. I don't even remember if we won or not.

it was so so even when you're playing the games there's a lot of uh sexual contact so the so the only rule during water polo was that the guys were not allowed to touch the girls right they had to be very respectful of the women but of course the women had no rules at all right right and our Austin Texas friends at least she was a big cheater well she didn't cheat she played by the rules but the rules weren't fair but I didn't complain and yeah you had nothing to complain about at one point one of the uh entertainment staff she she looked over at the at the Austin lady and she said is that your husband and I was on the other side of the pool and i said no that's my husband uh so we had a lot of a lot of good times okay enough about all the games let's get down to the fun conversation about the sexual um times that we had with people down there so the first couple that we met that we played with we met in a hot tub and we were trying to escape another couple that we had met down there last year right this couple saved us yeah they saved us and the couple that we were talking to they're really nice but you know that there's couples that just keep talking and so i think there there were a few bloody marys under her belt she was feeling no pain by that time in the afternoon every time he went to the bar he came back with two of something yeah he was a good husband because he would be it looked like a two-fisted drinker but they were both for her i don't know how it paid off for him later but they had been drinking and so we were trying to inch our way uh strategically away from them in the hot tub and there was nobody else in that corner of the hot tub at that point in time so it wasn't like you could just kind of like turn and engage somebody else in your conversation so that you could like disengage from this couple we were stuck right and so I looked up and there was this other couple sitting on the edge of the hot tub hot tub and she and I made eye contact and I said hi and she said hi back and as soon as she gave me that in, we moved in for the cage.

It was like flailing across the hot tub towards her. I said we're going to go talk to them and that was six and then the other couple. Thank goodness they were cute too. Yeah yeah it worked out so I wish I could say that it was strategic that we you know went after them. It was just fate just happened to be at the in the wrong place at the wrong time or maybe the right place at the right time hopefully so anyway we started talking with them and hit it off well they were just a great couple you know very intelligent you know very fun to talk to, just a fun couple.

They were so funny because we would, like, ask the wife a question and the husband would say, don't ask that question unless you've got a few minutes because she was a talker and she loved to tell stories. And it was so funny just watching them together. They were just so cute together. But she said the same thing.

She said, don't ask him a question you don't want a direct answer well that's true yeah he was very straightforward so we went in a good way yeah we went to dinner with them that night and had a really good time with them i think it was not that night i think it was maybe the night or two after that no we were kind of sticking to our no play on the first date rule yeah and she wasn't feeling well the one night so i think that was the second night yeah yeah so we ended up um with them and we were trying to decide where to go we had already pretty much decided that we were going to play and then we did you know the playroom at pearl is okay but it's kind of small we didn't want to go back into the disco area and we didn't want to go inside to the bedroom and so mrs j has a favorite spot well I know you have several favorite spots but well at Pearl I have a favorite venue let's say so at Pearl there there's like um the pool's really kind of long and there's like a really crazy um active end of the pool and then there's what they call the quiet end of the pool and there's pool beds behind you know like the cabana beds on the quiet side of the pool and there's one particular bed that is just perfectly positioned it's really close to the pier if you've ever been to Pearl they have a really beautiful pier that goes off into the Caribbean and the pier has lights on it so at night the lights from the pier shine down onto the Caribbean sea and it's quiet you know there's no music playing at that end of the pool at night so you can hear the waves crashing on the shore and you know and then there's lights in the pool pool that change colors all the time so there's just like just something beautiful to look at anywhere and then of course if you look up and it's a clear night you see all the stars and it's just magical yeah so we went there to play with them yeah well i mean the ladies are saying things like magical and all that romance stuff but the guys when we got to the bed it had the sheer curtains that were gathered and tied around the post and we quickly untied that and and got inside and claimed it as our sex fort yeah so the guys called it the sex fort and we were like oh it's so magical the Caribbean seas right here it worked for all four of us yeah it must have worked because we a good time.

Nobody was complaining about what went on in that sex fort. We had a really good time with them and did some soft swap and did some oral and switched partners and laid around and laughed and maybe went to the bar again and came back and just had... I think there were two a.m. tacos involved at one point.

hung out with them a few different nights right yeah we don't I know there were tacos one night no I think you're right but since we don't smoke cigarettes afterwards we went to get some fresh tacos afterwards and they definitely hit the spot so that was that was a great great evening we really enjoyed that really comfortable and so so that was episode number one that was right that was so then the next evening we decided to um just maybe kind of reconnect with each other you know we had uh talked to a bunch of people that day but you know didn't really have any set plans for dinner so we decided we kind of hang out the two of us and we went up to Pearl which is the more formal restaurant for dinner and we're just going to get a table for two and we ran into some friends up there one of the couples we had met the year before and then the other couple we had met there was a rainy day that we had in the middle of the week.

And during that rainy day, everybody's kind of hanging out in the lobby and at the bar. And they had just, I think they had just arrived. And we ended up talking with them. And they were just a great couple. Right. So those two couples were having dinner together that night. And we just happened to walk up while they were waiting for their table. So we joined them. Right. Well, I'm telling you what.

You know how when you go to a really nice restaurant and you're trying to have like a really quiet romantic evening for the just the two of you and just have some nice quiet conversation and there's that one table of obnoxious people that just laugh and the ladies are cackling and and it's just annoying because you're not part of it and you're trying to have a quiet romantic evening well that night we were that table yeah so if there's anybody listening that we like annoyed that night i'm sorry yeah not really but i am we laughed so much we had such a great time that and and we like you said we weren't expecting to eat with anybody and it was a little bit reluctant when they invited we said well yeah we'll we'll eat with you and then turned out to be such a great time oh my gosh you're so funny yeah so it was so the two couples that we ate with after we um they chased us out of the dining room and i think you know the the wine in mexico the house wine there um is is adequate i guess it's not really good and and one of the couples that we had dinner with brought their own bottle of wine from california um so we they shared it with us and so we stayed a little bit late and they kicked us out of the dining room and we went back to the disco and you three ladies uh i know specifically you had your red dress on that your ass didn't cover much in the front and then it creeped up in the back when I was dancing.

And then one of the other ladies had a red kind of a fishnet outfit on and then the other lady had a pink see-through fishnet thing on. And so I stayed on the dance floor a long time that night. And for me, that's what it takes to keep me on the dance floor. Sexy ladies, you know, dressing with almost nothing. Yeah, Mr. Jones is not a big dancer, but he tolerates it for me. No, all of a sudden I was all in. Yeah, you were. For dancing. Because, again, everything at Pearl is sexual, so even dancing is sexual.

So we danced for a while, and then we decided to all go back to the hot tub and because we were hot and sweaty yes so we went directly to the hot tub we all six got into the hot tub it was pretty crowded then um eventually the the second couple uh went they wandered away i don't know if they found somebody else so that left four of us but but before we the hot tub, we kind of, we went back to our rooms and we kind of had a bit of a discussion about we thought that this couple might be wanting to play with us.

Well, yeah, I could pretty much tell that they wanted to, but there hadn't been any talk. And, you know, I'm kind of a slow bloomer, a late bloomer or whatever. Well, we are. Yeah. We are. So, you know, Mr. Jones said, what do you think? You know, if the conversation comes up, are you willing to play? And I was like, well, you know, I don't think so. You said no. Yeah, I pretty much said no. I wasn't positive that I didn't want to play, but I wasn't confident that I did want to play. So that's about where my head was at that point. Right, and at that point in time, I think...

I hadn't had a lot to drink, so my head was really clear. If I had more to drink, I'd have probably been a little bit more in, but...

And up until that point, he was being really aggressive on the dance floor, you know, and also we assumed that they were, well, we thought that they were a whole lot more experienced than us and so we thought we kind of felt like they were preying on us that um and so that's why i think not in a bad way no no they were just without saying anything they were letting their intentions be known right and so you said no and i agreed and then when we got to the hot tub, though, and it was just the four of us, they sort of invited us back to party with them, I think is the word that they used.

Well, we spent some time in the hot tub, and there was a lot of cuddling and flirting and going on. Yeah, he had wrapped his arm around your waist and had pulled you. Yeah, and it was working for me, I'm not going to lie.

Yeah, and then he was trying to get her to come pay attention to me so they were clearly scheming but they weren't very good at hiding you know they were out loud go over there yeah they were pretty transparent yeah and and so i thought well you know we need to have some sort of a conversation you know we can't just keep doing this um you know this reminds me of high school you know if you don't say anything one thing leads to another and before you know it you're in deep water so i started asking them some specific questions about okay what's your style you know are you and i'm assuming you're in the lifestyle and what you know what what are your boundaries and what do you all like to do and and they never really answered the questions directly they talked about well we only play when we're on vacation and there's really only other And I'll see you next time.

and and they never really answered the questions directly they talked about well we only play when we're on vacation and there's really only other couple one other couple we've been with you know we play we play around but but we don't really do anything too serious there was one other couple that you know we used to do stuff with but and then you know and then mr jones said well you know we're only soft swap and they're like oh yeah yeah that's fine that's pretty much what we are too you know but you kept hearing phrases like pretty much or yeah and you know they never were very specific so i started asking my i said so if you're not going to answer the questions i said i'll tell you what i'm going to ask myself the same questions and you listen to my answers and you tell me so i would say you know okay we're soft swap uh anything but penetration oral sex is fine kissing is fine everything else same room you know and they were nodding their heads yeah mr jones was like writing a contract yeah i mean i was trying to be specific because they were i was being as specific as they were vague to see what and and when they started nodding, and that I think you started to feel a whole lot more comfortable, and I think him working on you in the hot tub, yeah, yeah, had something to do with that, he knew what he was doing, so I looked at you, and I said, well, they invited us back to the room, and I said, well, do you want to go, and you said yes, so then I, you said, are you sure, I said, are you sure, because you had said no before, yeah, now you were saying yes, and I knew that you hadn't drank much more, so I know that you weren't drunk, I don't know.

I don drank much more. So I know that you weren't drunk. So I trusted that. Yes. In fact, that's what you wanted to do. So fortunately or unfortunately, their bed, their room was about 10 feet. It was about 10 feet off the hot tub.

And so we literally, when we stepped into the the room we were still dripping wet from the hot tub but then all of a sudden something changed when when the curtains closed in the room and we felt like uh at that first point in time we've been duped we yeah we were praying let me tell you yeah so I looked up and as soon as she closed the curtain she came at me and wrapped both arms around me and started kissing me and pushing me almost away from the bed and you two were on the other side of the room uh completely on the other side of the room and he was after you and which was okay at first and then we never really started coming back together so i started trying to get her to go towards the bed and and I think you guys he and I he and I were kissing and and rubbing up against each other and then all of a sudden there's a tap on my shoulder and I turned around and Mr.

Jones was like come on over to the bed and I was like oh okay yeah so we so we got in bed and she went down on me and within about the first 15 seconds that she was on me, the only thing I could think of is this woman has an objective to fulfill. She was on a mission. She was on a mission. There was no variation in what she was doing. She was in full attack mode.

And right away I realized, okay okay this is like t minus two minutes is all i got here she keeps at this pace and and that's not normally how we do this you know normally we like to take our time and share and move around and and she's going at it full time and um and so i tried to disengage and there was no, it was no, she wouldn't, the suction wouldn't, wouldn't let go. And so then I tried rolling over and she still seemed reluctant, but I pulled out of her and, um, eventually she ended up pulling me back.

Oh, so then I ended up kind of tapping you on the shoulder because this was going to happen. I said, are you okay with this? And you said, yeah. But little did I know, when I turned back around and she started back on me again, and literally in 30 seconds, you know, I was done. But at the same time, then you were doing the same thing with him.

I mean you guys came at the exact same time it was almost like you planned it that way it was pretty funny yeah right so um but I wasn't really expecting that either I mean because I wasn't trying to finish him off he was just he was just overzealous I mean he was really really excited and and just you know I guess he had uh maybe been planning it more during the evening and thinking about it more but he went down on me first um so you know I had a you went down on her at one point well I did well no I tried when I disengaged the first time I went down on her thinking that that would keep her distracted for a while and it did but then as soon as I was done she was right back right back on uh so and she didn't really I mean I think she enjoyed me going down on her but we didn't do that for a long time she clearly wanted to get back you know me back inside of her mouth And so we definitely finished there and walked out with our heads kind of spinning like you know we certainly what the hell just happened swindled yeah I mean I'm not complaining we had a good time but it was uh well definitely what not what we had planned for the evening and And the good thing about it, just that piece of the vacation.

Before we went on vacation, Mrs. Jones, you were saying that maybe we're at the point in time and the lifestyle where we can not worry about getting to know somebody for such a long period of time. Maybe we're getting better at judging people, and are we connected with them, and do we feel safe with them? Thank you.

not worry about getting to know somebody for such a long period of time maybe we're getting better at judging people and are we connected with them and do we feel safe with them so that we can do something in a short period of time right because i kind of felt like we sort of did that with the couple at the airport before we left for desire you know but but we had emailed them yeah um and and texted with them so even though we hadn't met themto-face until the night that we played with them, we had connected with them at least a week or two ahead of time. So this was kind of out of the blue.

This was like a one-night stand. Now, we had met this couple last year. We did. But it was not much more than polite chit-chat last year.

And even really up to this point in the vacation you know we had we had talked to them hey you look familiar from last year yeah we were here too and right and you know kind of caught got caught up on things because we had some you know common interests you know children and grandchildren and all that stuff but you know to uh to just have spontaneously have dinner with them and dance at the disco and then the next thing you know, to just spontaneously have dinner with them and dance at the disco. And then the next thing, you know, boom, you're in bed. Yeah, we're sluts.

Yeah, we kind of feel like sluts. And we'll talk more about that in just a minute when we get to the end. So that was the second couple that we were with, right? Yeah. And then there was a third couple that we spend a lot of time with.

And and i guess we i don't know that we can qualify this by saying that we played together i think we did because remember the lifestyle is a full spectrum well you know i'm all about notches on the belt so i'm gonna i'm gonna take i'm gonna take your scorecard all right um so we met another couple oh actually we didn't we met them last year also we just't spend a lot of time with them. And when you and I were on the way home last year, I asked you if there was a couple there that you would have liked to have spent more time with but didn't get the chance to, who would it be?

And you mentioned this couple. Yes, I did. We had no idea that they were going to be back. Matter of fact, they didn't come back until maybe our third or fourth day in. Right.

And we didn't think they were then we saw them we saw them at breakfast and it was so you know exciting to see familiar faces again yeah so we had breakfast with them that day just to kind of catch up and then we invited them to dinner this the last night and and they are not in the lifestyle well they're on the fringe you worked them pretty good honey did my darndest had my tractor beam uh they are just very much um enjoying the sexy sensual atmosphere at pearl and enjoying the freedom to express themselves yeah in front of other people so you know they're kind of in that voyeurish exhibitionist stage right now and they're very happy and comfortable there right well and the thing that attracts me to them is that well first of all first of all they're gorgeous yeah first of all they're very nice looking yes but you can tell by looking at their relationship they're they're very much in love they have a very solid relationship and they seem to be asking all the right questions and they seem to understand that this is something that can enhance their relationship and it's very reminiscent of our journey into this.

So I see a lot in them that we experience and so that kind of draws me closer to them because here's somebody know, here's somebody that's really curious and wants, you know, to ask a lot of questions. And so I really, you know, felt drawn to, and we both did, to spend time with them. Yes. So we went to dinner with them, had a great dinner, went to the, we didn't go to the disco. No, we went to disco for a few minutes, but then we went to the hot tub. Yeah, we just went and watched a show.

Right, and so we stayed at the hot tub again talking for a while and then got really late and decided we were each going to get up on one of the jacuzzi beds. So they got up on one of the jacuzzi beds and started playing with each other.

We got up on the bed right next to them and started playing with each other and then unbeknownst to you what happened was that I was being distracted at the moment yeah you were laying on your back and I was playing with you with my hand and so your eyes were closed and this guy came and got into the hot tub and he was by himself and he started and he he was clearly drunk and he was slapping the water and he was yelling out he was making a lot of noise and and i couldn't understand what he was saying but he was he was clearly looking at us and so every time he came over our way i would kind of like slow down a little bit so he wouldn't think that we were in the middle of anything and want to come stare and he ended up going over to the next to the to the bed next to us where the other couple was and then he like put his elbows up on the side of the hot tub and he was just staring you know at them and making noises and it was it was creepy and I felt bad for them because you know they're new to this and and we you know they have a great environment it's one of the last nights there and and here's this creepy guy you know standing on the edge of the hot tub and that and that kind of so anyway they they got up and left because of that and then he the guy in the hot tub ended up leaving and you and I stayed there for a while so that a disruption, and unfortunately, that sort of thing happens every once in a while.

It really doesn't happen that often at Pearl, but it was just bad timing because they're a brand-new couple, and to take a step like that and then to have some kind of creep or step in, it really disrupts the whole mood. Yeah, and it wasn't there last night. I think they had one more night after that, but it was our last night. Yeah, yeah. So anyway, we had an enjoyable evening with them and caught up with them the next morning. So if you're keeping score, we'll say we were with two and a half couples maybe. So that pretty much describes our sexual adventures with other people.

Well, of course, there were times when you held me hostage in the morning instead of allowing me to go get my bacon I know my coffee such a bad way costed me I know in our room which was horrible I remember at one point I said isn't this better than bacon yeah and then he had to stop and think about it for a minute right so that um that pretty much takes us to our final segment third segment is something that we call snapshots and snapshots do you want to describe what snapshots are so snapshots are something that goes through my head every time we have an encounter in the lifestyle and we we come home um either in the car on the way home or when we get in bed that night i you know we debrief with each other on some level so i always say well you know what's your snapshot what is that one like either visual or sometimes it's auditory what is that one takeaway that you just is embedded in your memory from whatever happened that evening so we we always talk about what our snapshot is so there's so many snapshots from last week it's just it was it's impossible just to choose one but I got it I decided to go with humor this time so the couple that we played, that we had gone out to dinner with in the disco, and then kind of accosted us in their room.

And again, I'm not saying that. We went willingly, and we had a blast. Right. So it's just very, did not go the way we thought it would go. And they were much more aggressive than than I anticipated them to be but anyway we we had a great time however at one point you know it like I said I started going and he went down on me first and then I went down on him and then he and Mr.

Jones did the synchronized orgasm and when they both came at the same time and so thought things were going to kind of wind down after that so you know after he came and he kind of pulled me up against him and we were kind of spooning you know i was kind of in front of him when we were spooning he had been bragging that he had taken that pill yeah he had taken a pill yeah so i didn't take the pill no i don't need a pill of course you don't honey let's get that on the record yes okay that is very clear okay you don't need a pill. Of course you don't, honey. Let's get that on the record. Yes.

Okay. That is very clear. Okay. You don't need a pill.

So anyway, this other gentleman obviously had taken a pill because as soon as he was done and we started spooning, all of a sudden he was back and he started kind of wiggling up against me and, and, you know, my butt was in front of him and, and he was, he was trying to slip inside of me and I was like, was like what the hell I mean we had said that we were a soft swap couple and you know he had just come and I really wasn't anticipating that and you know he he just kept saying oh this is this feels so good and and he was trying to slip inside of me and I was like I cannot believe this guy is doing this so I kind of reached my hand back between us and I kind of put my hand over him so that to kind of put a little barrier up and he was still trying to wiggle around me and get inside of me so you know I at one point I was you know trying I think I said you know I'm I'm not about that or something I can't figure exactly I can't remember exactly what I said and and he was not taking the hint at all so I just I flipped over so we were like nose to nose and I looked I had my nose right up against his nose and I looked him right in the eye and I said no like a dog like I was tapping a dog on the nose after it peed on the floor or something you know and he was like oh oh oh okay yeah I'm surprised I didn't I didn't hear that would have heard that well i was trying not to be like a jerk about it but at the same time he was one being and he didn't even have a condom on i mean seriously yeah so that that is my snapshot yeah yeah well coincidentally or not my snapshot came from the same episode and I had described earlier where this woman was on a mission you know to make me come and you know and normally and I'm trying to be really respectful I mean to me my opinion is anytime a couple or a woman opens their relationship to me I think that is one of the greatest honors or gifts that somebody can give and so just to come in somebody's mouth without a conversation about that or or what you expect that's not that's something that i particularly would think that you know a lot of women want and so there was no conversation but she was going at it and i kept trying to disengage so the third time that I tried to pull her off of me he rolled over and he said I think she wants you to come in your in her mouth and and I almost started laughing I was like I think we I think we all laughed I was like no shit you know but I'm glad somebody finally said it so anyway then he rolled back over and and went back to town on you but he it was so funny he came in my mouth yeah asking me if it was okay i mean it was so funny because it was okay but i was like oh well okay i think he must have sensed her frustration because he just turned it over i think she wants you to come in her mouth and so i obliged you know what else is a guy gonna do and and i know i enjoyed coming in her mouth but the snapshot was actually him and what he he was like he just went and stopped what he was doing and had to tell me specifically what she wanted and i was like oh thank you for that uh so anyway those are our so that was a fun night and i just remember walking back to our room you know we our room was on the other side of the resort so when we went to the hot tub after we left the disco and we were all hot and sweaty um we didn't go back to our room to change first we just and you know they have these cubbies where you can put like your stuff all your clothes and stuff so we just stripped down we took all of our disco clothes off and and stuck them in this cubby so when we left their room, we just wrapped the towels from the hot tub around ourselves and picked up all of our clothes and our arms, and we're walking back to the room.

It just makes you feel a little slutty when you don't even bother to get dressed after you have sex with somebody, and you're walking back to your room. We were kind of quiet when we first walked out of the room, and then we got past the hot tub, and we were on the sidewalk, and nobody else around and i looked at mr jones and i said i think we've been duped yeah because they were not inexperienced and they were not soft swap yep definitely but it was fun it was fun it was a it was a good time so uh anyway before we sign off for episode two. this has been a lot of fun.

We're glad that you all came back for Episode 2 to listen. And we think that Episode 3, again, in case you missed last time, we're going to produce these about once a month.

So you can expect Episode 3 last week of December or maybe first of january 2015 it'll be perfect timing because we'll probably have some time off oh we may have to do it before january 1st because we might go to that new year's party oh yeah yeah and then we'll want to put the new year's party definitely on the january podcast absolutely so anyway it'll probably be the last week of december um and so we think for the the next podcast we kind of want to go to something, you know, a little bit on the, on the serious side.

We, um, when we first got in the lifestyle, we had some issues with, um, our emotions and, and just, you know, after being married so long, just seeing us with other people and, and there were some jealousy issues.

So we kind of like to reflect back on that and how that affected our relationship at the time and how we've learned from it and moved on from it and how we make decisions now based on that experience because, you know, you get past it, but it's still part of who you are and it does affect the way that you make decisions as a couple and and as individuals so i think we want to talk about that a little bit and um right yeah and how it's helped us grow as a couple not just in the lifestyle but just it's just enhanced our relationship and so we and we know that other people experience that too and it seems like whenever we bring up the word jealousy, it piques everyone's interest and they want to know, you know, what was that about and how did you get through it?

And it sounds so negative, but really, it's in hindsight, it's not. It wasn't a negative experience. It seems like it's a big, scary thing and it can be. But, yeah, we want to share that with you next month. And, I mean, ironically, even, I mean, we just had, like, the funnest week ever. We're only, like, three days post-desire right now, so we're still sleep-deprived, and I still am scratching my mosquito bites. Mexican mosquitoes. Yeah, those Mexican mosquitoes can really suck the blood out of you.

So, on the way home from the airport on Sunday night, you know, we had the the best time and then there was really no conflict at all for all eight days we were there but as we're coming home we're kind of reflecting on the week and and ended up having a difficult conversation on the way home in the car and it wasn't like we were fighting about something or we disagreed about anything It's just asking questions about why we made the decisions that we made um at one point there was something that one of us wanted to do and the other person was more interested in doing something else and at that point in time if somebody doesn't want to do something you just kind of have to say okay you know it's not right nobody's taking one for the team and nobody's gonna you know intentionally piss the other person off because they feel like being selfish yeah so the first thing that we've learned and and where if it was a vanilla vacation or if even if it was at home and we had disagreed on something sometimes we would just launch into that argument or that conversation right at the moment but when our relationship when we're talking about swinging with people and being on vacation when one of us doesn't want to do something or does doesn't want to do something we generally have no questions asked so if you don't want to do it that's fine we're out what are we going to do and then we move on and enjoy the rest of our trip and then on the way home so in this case it wasn't that somebody didn't want to do something it's just somebody wanted to do something else more right right but you know to to take the time out you know when you're blow drying your hair and trying to get ready for dinner i was just like well okay and then we had that conversation in the car so you know you're you're always having to have these conversations you You can't let it just slide by.

Yeah, you have to have those conversations. And that's what this is all about, really. That's where we're going to get the benefit and the growth. So anyway, we'll talk about that in our next episode. So we believe that there are people that are listening to us, but we're not sure. So we'd really appreciate your feedback. We do have some lifestyle friends that we asked specifically to give us some feedback and they've done that. So as far as shout outs go, I just want to take one second and thank all the people that we had the opportunity to get to know last week.

I mean, we met people from New York and from Texas and from Illinois and from Florida and from Utah and Colorado, California. Canada. Oh, a lot.

york and from texas and from illinois and from florida and from utah and colorado california i mean oh lots of people from canada were there and everybody was just so interesting to talk to and just gorgeous sexy happy people and just just a pleasure to talk to just very solid relationships and you know intellectual people and you know you expect to go just to have a wild crazy mindless time but you know you meet all types of people and all types of professions and you know at all points in their lives either with kids or grandkids and it just you know of course the sex is great but really what you take away are just the memories of the new friendships that you made.

And everybody was just great. Yeah, I'm glad you remembered to do that. Thanks. And I appreciate the friendships as well. So there's plenty of ways you can contact us. And I'm going to go through a list right now, but you can always go to our website first, wegotathing.com.

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Geez Louise. Yeah, that's part of my job is to make sure it's out everywhere. So again, thank you for joining us and wanted to say thanks for listening and we are Mr. and Mrs. Jones't, honey. Let's get that take the pill. No. I don't need a pill. Of course you don't, honey. Let's get that on the record. Yes. Okay. That is very clear. Okay. You don't need a pill.