Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
UK Swingers Takeover Vanilla Alternative
In this electrifying episode, Cate takes you inside the unforgettable UK Swingers Takeover at the Vanilla Alternative, a night bursting with neon vibes, sultry playrooms, and a dance floor that didn't quit until the early hours. Cate recounts every detail of the weekend, sharing the highs, the laughs, and the tips to make the most out of such a thrilling event.
Event Highlights:
Neon Dreams: From a packed dance floor to playful antics in the UV-lit playrooms, the night was a non-stop party.
Mingle Games: Ice-breaking moments with games like the Sock Game and Table Hockey kept the energy high and guests engaged.
Photographic Memories: Cate, alongside Kitten and Wolf from Spicy Match, hosted a photography session capturing the vibrant energy of the event.
Before the Club:
Pre-Event Setup: Cate’s behind-the-scenes look at setting up the event, from organizing a breakfast mingle to coordinating a dance lesson with Keri Gold.
Mingle Sessions: A mix of games and social interactions on Friday set the tone for a weekend of fun and connection.
The Takeover at Vanilla Alternative:
The Journey: A fun-filled bus ride to VA set the stage for a night of adventure.
Lux Lounge Fire Pit: Cate shares her experiences at these popular hangout spots, plus the challenges of catching Keri Gold’s performance.
Glow Fashion: Cate’s thoughts on the 80s-inspired Neon UV outfits, Mrs. H's take on the glow outfits, and a special mention of the infamous "Neon Dick" that became a party highlight.
Playroom Adventures: With the playrooms heaving with excitement, Cate describes the steamy encounters that unfolded.
Mentioned:
Vanilla Alternative UK Swingers Club: https://va2.co.uk
Spicy Match: https://www.spicymatch.com/?ic=WanderlustSwingers
Our New Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com
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Transcript
You're listening to the Wanderlust Swingers Podcast with Aussie hosts, Kate and Daryl. If you're curious about exploring your sexuality or the swinging, hot-wifing, and non-monogamous lifestyle, you've definitely come to the right podcast. Or maybe you just love travel adventures. Either way, we share our personal, sometimes juicy, sexy stories as well as Swingers Club and event reviews, interviews with other sassy people and of course our global swinging adventures. We try to bring you a look into the diverse lifestyle that the swinging and non-monogamous community has.
We hope you enjoy, now let's get into the episode. G'day guys and welcome back, episode 185 of the Wanderlust Swingers podcast. G'day Daryl. Hello. Today we're going to be talking about the recent Neon Dreams event in the UK. Event highlights for me, seeing the dance floor full with action all night, seeing naked bodies in the playrooms and seeing everybody embrace the Neon UK fun.
Before we get into the event, before we get into what happened in the uk because you weren't there i was not new dating site message now i thought about maybe sharing some commentary before i talked about this about how you know i'm actually a good person normally and i was feeling particularly sassy this day but then i thought no i'm not going to make excuses for myself instead i'm just going to own own it right are you ready i'm ready right so i'm not i'm not going make excuses for myself i'm just gonna tell you what to tell you what's up okay so johnny he's a 49 year old man okay so johnny johnny said do she take it up the shithole wasn't it the shitter no do she take it up the shithole got it that's the first message never spoken to johnny didn't even hyphenate the shithole it should be that's your problem with this message yeah i mean that that and of course the total lack of any sort of humanity johnny's a single man what do you um what would you what would you say to johnny in terms of how to be better how to do better there's a reason you're single johnny do you reckon johnny gets action on the swingers dating sites very often possibly shots thrown that's savage oh hang on I'll see you next time.
johnny do you reckon johnny gets action on the swingers dating sites very often possibly shots thrown that's savage oh hang on hang on it's just a face full of vag as soon as you open the app i read it here what i wrote back go for it so do she take it up the shithole i mean there's there's also grammatical errors um needless to say i didn't feel the need to click on johnny's profile to see any more information about johnny i mean i knew i was out from this message right yeah do not pass go do not click 200 i mean johnny's so unoriginally he had to keep counting up until he got to 54 all right are you ready yeah go fuck yourself you piece of shit that was my response i mean it's a solid response to a it's well i kind of wanted to match his energy yeah i think you did except you spelled everything right you should have said go fuck yo self yo piece of shite of shit no but the shit the of should have two f's to the piece off shit just to you know i wasn't having it having it with Johnny that day, I've got to be honest.
No, it doesn't seem like you were. I felt like I matched his energy. Do she take it up the shithole? Johnny, go fuck yourself, you piece of shit. That's an example, ladies and gentlemen, of a bad first message on a dating site. Both of those are an example of a bad first message on a dating site. It doesn't matter which way you look at it. Here's a question.
If you were going to ask somebody if they like anal, how you go about doing that give me your best shot and then i'm going to ask chat gpt really quickly just fyi i probably wouldn't start in the first the first chat with do you like anal just i mean that that's where we're starting is that okay but how might somebody ask if you like anal? Okay you would say could I politely ask if anal is on the cards? I mean you can't ask chat GTP on fly babe. You got to do it ahead of time. Are you ready? Yes.
Would you be open to discussing our sexual preferences including things like anal to ensure we're both comfortable and on the same page? That's actually fucking not bad. It's almost like chat GTP is a pretty well-trained AI. That's actually not bad. Yeah. That's a good example of how to do better. Johnny. I'm not sure Johnny has the intellect to be driving ChatGTP. All right, let's move on. Upcoming events and travel. We're off to Malta next month. I'm actually really excited about that. We're going scuba diving. Never been to Malta. Get to cross off another country off the list.
And apparently it's good food and wine. Yeah. So, cha-ching. And I grew up with a couple of Maltese guys, so I know how to swear in Maltese as well. No, you don't. I do? No. I fucking do. Do you know how many countries I know how to swear in because of my upbringing in rural Australia? I call bullshit, eh? Yeah, but that's because you don't speak the fucking languages. How do you? You tell me. I shall Google. I shall chat to you. We will after the fact. All right, good. Convenient. I'm not going to offend all of our Maltese listeners by fucking just starting banging out swear words.
All of our Maltese listeners. How do you know this? If you're a Maltese listener, please reach out to us. Maltese Heritage will do as well, as long as you speak Maltese. Okay, there you go. Yeah, yeah. Okay. And then I'll comfortably pick up the microphones. Where are you next time? And I'm off to Dallas and then San Antonio for the Liberty Events Hotel takeover, which I'm looking forward to. That's in October. If they would just stop changing my flights, I would be well happy about that. How are those first world problems going for you? Great. Oh, man, my flights to the US keep changing.
Great. Thanks for asking. Boo hoo hoo. They downgraded me from premium economy to economy. This is a monstrous ordeal. Between that and me telling Johnny to go fuck himself. I'm not looking too crash hot in this episode.
I want to talk about the ins and outs of the club and then we're going to talk about kind of some of the things that we did during the event so i flew to the uk daryl you went with me you had work to do because somebody has to continue to keep the household afloat also this one i wanted to go to so the ins and outs of the club there are new sections to so we took over the vanilla alternative or va and there are new areas and things change so earlier in the day we actually or earlier on the friday we actually had an opportunity to go through and do a youtube walkthrough were the dogs there oh they were earlier yep yep they were outside to greet us actually so little doggos outside to greet us and then they went off off on their way with their owner i haven't edited the footage yet but i eventually will get that up but for this particular event i wanted to try and bring some of the mingle and kind of edutainment stuff that we do we do in the us to the uk but i wasn't just because you smooshed two words together doesn't make it a word yes it does okay yeah that's why it's called the wonder hoppers events as well yeah but there's it's hyphenated it's not hyphenated mr hopper is not gonna stand for a non-hyphenated wonder hoppers he does i don't I think so.
I think inside it's hyphenated. It's not hyphenated. Mr. Hopper is not going to stand for a non-hyphenated Wonder Hoppers. He does. I don't think so. I think inside it's burning him. I can hear his heart on fire right now. Every time he sees it, he says, fucking Kate. Yeah. I wanted to bring some of this stuff that we do in other locations to the UK to see if people were even interested in it because, you know, this doesn't always translate really well, right?
So we games mingle breakfast mingle photography session with help help from kitten wolf there from spicy match and we had a lady called carrie gold and she did a lap and chair dance workshop instructional workshop and then later performed at the club can we back up a little bit because i understood you were also going to do a gym session we were supposed to, but we spent four and a half hours at the club. Can we back up a little bit? Because I understood you were also going to do a gym session.
We were supposed to, but we spent four and a half hours in the car instead of the two and a half hours that it should have actually taken a drive up there. Okay, so the gym session didn't happen. No. That's actually the thing. I think that's good news. And unfortunately, everybody else was also stuck in traffic. I had a discussion with some of my work colleagues around gym sessions, you know, like having a gym in a workplace. Oh, yeah?
And we decided that there is nothing less interesting than seeing people that you work with or that you know that have arse cracks wet in their, you know, in their Lycra pants. Yeah, okay. That's what we discussed. I mean, I know you don't agree with me, but hey. No. Yeah. So, no, we did not. We spent four and a half bloody hours in the car. I was losing my sanity in the back, but did you use ChatGPT to create a story? I feel like this is just always the case. It is. It's actually. UK, you guys. Get your shit together. Have a fucking look at your roads. Have a look at your roads, mate.
Have a look at your roads. Actually, have a look at your public transport. Yeah. Forget the roads. Stop trying to deal with people on roads. Do something crazy. Yeah. Do something crazy. Put some fucking trains on. Put some trains there. Fucking throw a train at it. Throw a train at it. You know, like, it's just. It's such a stark difference between the Netherlands and the UK. And you can just about throw a rock from one to the other. Yeah, it is. Yeah. The only train they seem to have there that runs on time goes from the Netherlands to the UK in the underground. That's true.
So on the way up, stuck in traffic, went to the VA and had a chance to film some YouTube footage because they've done a lot of changes. They've got a whole back area that we hadn't been there. I mean, we haven't been to VA for, well, three years? I don't know. Yeah, possibly four or three. I'm going to say, I'm going to...
It can't be be that long we've only been in europe for four years we i can't remember when we went there actually now that i'm thinking about it anyway went there did a youtube filming how long does it mean since we've been to vo don't know long time a couple years hi okay once again massive thanks for hosting us all at neon dreams we definitely had So we are a married couple. We've been doing this for coming up to about two years at the moment. We mainly play as a pair. Swaps and things like that. I'm bi, so happy to play with the ladies.
But this weekend we had our first kind of proper taste of sailor adventures. Both of us, so that was exciting um but my absolute highlight of the weekend was coming up for air in the VA playroom um and what was quite an empty room when uh we things all got started with us we looked around and it was just absolutely packed there were bodies absolutely everywhere doing all kinds of things and um it was quite sight to behold. So, yeah, that was a definite highlight and there was a God in the memory rank there.
My advice for anyone kind of starting out here is to do the things that scare you, not in any kind of a sexual way, but just actually get out there, meet people, say hi, because we're all quite a friendly bunch.
And, yeah, sometimes actually just starting a conversation with people can be the hardest bit um and the bit that's most scary at least I find it is so yeah that's my advice and um how do I think the scene is I think it's amazing at the moment I don't know if it's just because we've been looking for it or more open to it but in the last six to twelve months in the UK I think things have kind of exploded a little bit around here um so that's amazing and I'm really looking forward to seeing how what comes from that uh so yeah thanks again bye now this event had components to it where it had a Friday opportunity to join us if you wanted to us the entire weekend, it had just a Saturday opportunity or just a club only opportunity.
Now I thought that was quite straightforward. I now know better because the way that I'd set the website up with all the tickets, we were getting a lot of questions about what included what. So that's my bad. Lesson learned. Need to, uh, need to figure out how to do the tickets better next time.
But on Friday, when first got there because again we were late because of all the traffic we got there checked in basically had a shower and then went straight to the mingle mingle event in the evening what about having a shower you were going to come from the gym anyway so the first thing that i saw when i first walked into the bar because the bar was actually really cool had a pool table had that skiing what's that stuff called where the little things float across the sand on the table and you gotta like push them shuffleboard yeah shuffleboard have one of those anyway they had that in there they had a bunch of games so the reason i'm mentioning this is because one of the first things when i walk in there's a group of people sat down playing games ready for the mingle event and they had these pairs of they had a pair of socks in front of them these like really old looking weird looking socks and they were full of items and the game that they were playing i walked in and so they had their hands in these socks and i was like what the actual fuck is happening here like why are you guys sat around with your hands in these like really brightly colored socks it was a game where you had to you spun the board and then had to try and find the with just your feel the item inside the sock that was the actual game game.
I mean, now the roads are a secondary concern. Walking in there. To the games. To that. That was really funny. It was the bar. The bar had these games. Was it called Sock Hopper or something? No, I don't know what it is. That'd be hyphenated. I handmade everybody name like laces. Yeah, I know. Do you know how I know? How's that?
that because you use my pliers to make them and you then leave the flyers somewhere randomly around the house i put them back you lie anyway so i handmade everybody who was staying at the hosted accommodation name necklaces because we're going to be spending the entire weekend together including saturday and so i wanted everybody to be able to try and actually be able to say somebody's name because I'll be fucked. Without having to remember it. Yes. I'll be fucked if I can remember like 160, 200 people's names. It's just not going to happen. Sorry.
This is something that selfishly I've started doing it for myself because then it's really easy to address somebody by their first name. Isn't there something to do with repetitive name usage and memory? Repetitive anything in memory, yes. Well, there you go. If you repeat anything enough, it's almost like learning a new language. If you repeat the new language enough, you... You kind of got it sorted. You kind of learn it. Yeah. I think actually that might be learning. I think what you've described is learning. Man, you seem really fucking excited by these name necklaces.
I was actually pretty excited by them. I've got to admit, because I do them for the US. But again, I don't know how this shit's going to translate to the UK. I feel like nobody else has got the same level of excitement as you. Probably not. About the name necklaces. Probably not. I'm pretty sure some of the people just left them in their room. They, yeah. And now I've blacklisted them from ever attending another event. Only if I could remember their names. Ha. Oh, wow. Oh, okay. I got it. That was good. Maybe just pick up their necklaces from their rooms. Yeah, maybe just stalk them.
So the next morning we had a breakfast mingle to start to kick the day off, basically. So if you stay with us on a Friday night, we all just casually hung out in the breakfast area Saturday morning. Ate some bacon, drank some eggs. Ate some bacon, drank some eggs. Yeah, absolutely. No. Got to get your protein shot for the day. None of the baked beans because there's nothing better than going to a swingers club. Oh, man, baked beans. Having eaten a plate full of baked beans in the morning.
So I had hired a conference space within the hotel to have for the entire day, basically to house all the stuff that we were going to be doing and after the breakfast mingle one of the things that we wanted to do was set up a mingle games event because you can never have too many mingles and in the past the feedback from our events has been i hoped i wish that there was more opportunities to mingle and so this time i was like you want opportunities oh have I got opportunities for you, buddy. That's not a knife. That's a knife. That's a knife. It's got to be a mingle on a mingle.
If we don't see you there, then you are banned from coming to our events. So far, if you don't wear the necklace, you're banned. Banned, yeah. If you don't participate in the mingles, you're banned. I'll be sadly no friends next time. If you complain about the mingles, you're banned. Yeah. So by all counts till now, I am banned. Yeah, you're definitely banned. Okay. Absolutely. Yep. So we wanted the opportunity to play games with people and just be a bit casual about it, be a bit silly. But again, I didn't know how this would actually translate.
I didn't know whether or not people would even arrive, whether they'd be interested in it, whatever. the bed hoppers had a bunch of board games and other various games i took a bunch of my like sexy charade games and stuff like that really anything that was adult related we took basically to kind of set this this room up i feel like you didn't play the game of lifestyle or the no we didn't do that the other two games we've got in there which includes the trump playing the trumpet one of them has the sexual position that is called the trumpet.
We did not do that because, again, on top of the name necklaces, I had also some stickers for people. And what I asked people to do is, as they walked in the room, put the city that they're from and how long they've been in the lifestyle for because I thought those were going to be good icebreakers for folks and one of the people walking around had 14 hours. What, 14 hours? 14 hours is how long they've been in the lifestyle for. Oh.
So that was pretty cool and it gave people the opportunity again to say like, oh, you're six months in, we're six months in or, oh, shit, you're 10 years in, you know, talk to me about it. Don't like you. Don't like you. Yeah, you frighten me. No, talk about that sort of stuff. 14 hours. 14 hours. I mean, how do you, when was the start? I don't know, middle to me about it. Don't like you. Don't like you. Yeah, you frighten me. No, talk about that sort of stuff. 14 hours. 14 hours. I mean, how do you, when was the start? I don't know, middle of the day. Did you ask? No.
So necklace is important, 14 hours not. No. Got it. But the games we played, we did the Play-Doh cock thing, always a classic.
I did the sexy charades, which was also very fun because people getting in and trying to act out certain words or sexual charades which was also very fun because people getting in and trying to act out certain words or sexual charades and watching how people act them out is absolutely fucking hilarious that's actually the whole idea behind charades i know it's so funny you should probably not call it charades though it's not a charades because it's trademarked and we've already had a an email from Disney. Yeah, that's true. We have had a, it's not really a cease and desist.
It kind of is really, isn't it? Yeah, but when they're real lawyers, they don't use the word cease and desist. No. Because they don't need to. No. They just tell you not to do stuff. Don't use that phrase again or we will come after you. We will come after you. Yep. No matter how you choose the way you do your things. Yep. In an adventurous way. Yep. And which way you might choose to do those things. Exactly. And how maybe you might choose to do those things. Yes. But saying the phrase in its entirety. You can't choose to do anything in an adventurous way ever. No. Wink. Anyway, moving on.
And then Mr.
then mr h actually bought his gut ahead game and there were three different teams of that drawing on the board so again it's similar to the charades we pick a card there's a card picked and each of the teams have to draw it on the board with the person who's in charge of drawing and then everybody else has to guess it and again there were some fucking funny drawings happening on the board but i really enjoyed that and as these games were played people were also just sort of standing around having conversations when we first kicked it off it started at 11 a.m 11 a.m yep for the people who had been there the night before and any early arrivals for the saturday and again you just don't know how these things are going to go and the first four people that walked through through the door were fabulous.
Like they were full of energy, ready to go. And then there was kind of this lull where there weren't very many people coming. And then in the end, there were quite a few people in the room. But I honestly, for a second, I was like, oh, no, this is a massive flop. Yeah. People ask for mingle. You can mingle. They don't mingle. I'm not dirty about it at all.
No, it was actually, it worked really, really well really well but as usual i set up a lot of the area mr h came in and helped set up and and ran the ran um the gutter head show and in mrs h's true fashion swanned around sounds pretty much pretty much accurate so that's pretty pretty accurate for how how our relationship i think the word would be entertained No be entertained no swan swaned around yeah that's oh okay you're saying she's an entertaining director yes i like to just say she swans around yeah there's kate and simon usually sweating her ass off like the uh ride in singapore the bike ride that day and then there's miss h just swanning around not sweaty not not busting her ass just kind of chill yeah well I mean there's only one step further back from that and that is me just not arriving just not there now in the afternoon we had a photography session because again I wanted something interactive I wanted something where people could have a bit of fun get a bit crazy get a bit silly maybe get a bit sexy dressed down and stuff like that and then take some kind of cool photos and I did try to go to lunch so there was myself the bedhoppers and one of our male friends from the US and we attempted to walk over and get lunch and I kid you not the moment I sat down with my menu I got a text message from Kitten and Wolf saying we're here we're ready to set up this photography session and I had to like haul ass back.
And it was at this moment that I thought, I need to buy a scooter, an electric scooter. You need an assistant. No, I need an electric scooter. So I had to haul ass back there. So the bed hoppers and everybody stayed at lunch. And I came back and it was myself and Kitten and Wolf basically set up the room for the photography session.
And they bought a couple backdrops all different ring lights they bought props so they had everything from spanking paddles to rose petals and and everything in between and we had another two areas set up where you could take photos and we started off having a talk about how you might pose right so kitten and wolf thankfully kind of took the took the lead on this and they talked about how they might pose how they take nice shots what they do so they don't just take photos they run a video and then you can you know scream catcher whichever one you think looks really nice and then before we got started i wanted to break the ice a little bit because people were kind of sitting around watching while they were talking and so i gave kitten and wolf i think 45 seconds and told them told everybody in the room to count and told kitten and wolf to get into the most number of sexual positions that they could possibly get into in like 30 seconds or 45 seconds so i broke the ice broke the ice a little bit by making them uh sounds like you you are you're like dance monkeys Dance for me I've never seen anybody do the things you do before A little bit, and here's why.
Getting out of your head for some of this stuff is super important because if you're going to come and you're going to be like too in your head about it or be too serious, you're not going to get in amongst it. And I wanted people to feel comfortable and get in amongst it.
But it does always take one or two people to do that, right that right yes so we did have a few people immediately start dressing down into lingerie and taking photos and it kind of they helped get the ball rolling because then more and more people got down into lingerie and got got some nice nice photos so that cool again didn't know how it was going to go actually worked really really well at one point i was helping set the camera up and i think wolf was up up on standing up on a chair draped over pouring rose petals on top of one of the lovely ladies in her lingerie doing like slow-mo it was all very uh it's very cool actually it sounds like it would be great for the people who enjoy it and then finally to finish off the afternoon we had kerry gold now you would remember kerry gold from last year in croatia right yep super strong super amazing so kerry came and helped everybody in the class do a chair work lap dance sexy dance class and an instructional so i had set up all the chairs kind of in a four four separate chairs so we had enough room to move around and then had like five rows of of chairs and everybody basically and Carrie kind of explained what she was going to do but had, you know, again it was like instructional and everyone was kind of following suit.
If it's coming from Carrie then it would have been pretty well run I'm sure. Although did she do any, did she actually show off any of her skills in terms of her like above and beyond skills?
Like being able to do a chin up with her pinky as an example later at the club she definitely did some pole work which was pretty amazing but the thing i liked about the session what thinking about a lap dance who do you think sitting where if you're going to talk about like the normal way that this might happen well lap dancers are normally at strip strip clubs which there's normally male male paying female receiving right so the way that we we actually and i spoke to carrie kind of earlier in the week and i said hey i want this to be for everybody and so there were moments in the class when you had to then swap over and the partner then had to so carrie was up the front doing everything and then everybody in the back had to have a go and do the whole choreographed routine and then run through it a few times and then run through the whole thing and then it swapped over.
So the person who was doing the dancing had the opportunity to sit in the chair and vice versa. Nice. Yeah. Chance for the men to fuck it up. Yeah. It was really, really good watching. And there were some guys in the room who you could tell were and had told me actually later that they were kind of stepping out of their comfort zone, a little bit uncomfortable, but were doing it. Yep. And then there were a few guys who were taking it a little bit more, you know, comedic, weren't really, you know, were just being a bit funny. And there was one guy in the room, though, who was giving his all.
And I looked over many times and I was just kind of watching, standing back and watching everybody. And he had intense eyes with his partner. He he was like doing all the moves he was rubbing on her face and doing like taking it really seriously it was fucking awesome you don't know their dynamic that might be there that might be their deal well i actually spoke to him the next morning at breakfast and i said i just want you to know that i was watching you when you were dancing which sounds really really weird awkward. But I said, you did a great job. It's a lap dance. Yeah.
Watching somebody doing a lap dance is not weird or awkward. I mean, it's... I'm just saying, like, I was watching you. Kind of the requirement. He did great, though. Eye contact, was really getting into the sexiness of it. I really appreciated him, actually, doing that.
It was fun watching the guys who tend to be maybe less flexible than the ladies at one point one of the moves was that you had to get on the floor on your back and do a full on leg spread and bring them back towards your shoulders and watching carrie to do it of course she can put her toes behind her head on the floor and then there's the rest of us horrible horrible inflexible people that can't fucking do that and then there's the guys who were trying to do their best but were absolutely like like a baby holding its feet in the air with its diaper on kind of thing yeah well it's not really a position that most men take very regularly no i know it was really funny though so then at one point the room was so bloody hot i did have to walk around and i went and got a bunch of glasses and a bunch of water jugs and came in and I was like delivering them around to people because we could not get the room to cool down.
Yeah. So I'm glad I grabbed breakfast that day because I didn't get the chance to have lunch. I had to come back and thankfully, and again, I want to give a shout out to Kitten Moore for helping me actually set that up. Thank you very much. So the three of us kind of got in and got done and I really, really appreciated you guys. I want to talk about the highlights of the club. I had arranged some coaches and I had arranged some transport from the hotel to the club. But as always, we did the check-in and it was absolutely fabulous. But here are my kind of highlights.
Now, the Luxe Lounge is the outside area. This is the part you haven't seen. There's a whole second hot tub and a whole outdoor area now at VA. Now, they don't open this all year round. Obviously, it's weather dependent. Yeah, so they normally don't open it unless it's a really busy night, actually. And thankfully, they offered to actually open the back area because initially we weren't going to open it because we only had 200 people there. And thankfully, though, they opened it because, again, I'm going to use the word heaving in this episode.
If they hadn't opened it, the whole front area, bar area, et cetera, really would have been absolutely just crammed. So, Kerry Gold did a performance later in the evening. So, she actually did a pole performance and we had been absolutely pumping this up.
So, every time somebody would walk in the door and check in, we'd be like, hey, Kerry's going to go on at like 9 30 9 40 make sure you can make sure you get to the dance pole like go support her go cheer on like she's amazing we're really hyping it up we did such a great job that um i couldn't see her for love nor money i heard the music start i knew she was performing like going on and i ran out to try and go see her and no yeah i mean you know you can just run to the front run like your event just people out of the way no excuse me i I need to get involved with the dancing.
I need to get involved with the dancing i need to i need to get involved exactly i know she did bring a few volunteers up on stage and they were particularly happy about being part of that i can imagine you can imagine yeah absolutely the glow outfits it was a uv party now this is really funny because when i had floated this theme to the bed hoppers that i want to to do a UV theme, I want to do that for our next event, Mrs. H immediately shit all over it and she said, it sounds like it's going to be one of those 80s parties, like she had just that image of, you know, you lived through the 80s.
Did I? Yeah. Okay. Like colourful leg warmers, like leotards, just like bright pink leotards, colourful leg warmers. I don't have a problem with that though so. Oh, okay, so she was saying it's going to suck because it's going to feel like the 80s, what am I going to wear? Like, she was absolutely shitting all over it. I want to say that she has changed her tune, my little friends, because. Well, I mean, it's, but it's a UV party, so it's like very different to the 80s. I know, but that's what she was envisioning. Yes. Like, really pushing back. She really didn't want to do it. It took Mr.
H being like, no, this sounds good. We're going to do it. He was kind of like battling on my side a little bit. But she's changed her tune because during the evening, for starters, everyone looks amazing. And as always, most people got involved with the theme. But then the dress down happened and everyone was still in like glowy lingerie outfits and body paint and sexiness.
And later in the evening mrs h actually said to me like oh man everyone looks so great in the lingerie and i didn't say it then because i wanted to take the opportunity to say it live on a podcast which was fucking told you so god you're a dick it was such a fucking dick i really like uv glow things. I know. We've never done one. Yes, we have. Well, in Singapore, actually. Yes, you're right. So, yeah, except the one. Except in Singapore. Except the other one that you did.
I don't do them very often because they're so normally overdone in the lifestyle and I try to do things a little bit different that's not your usual. So, that's why I don't do them very often.
But because VA has all the amazing UV lights already set up, so I don't have to anything else I thought brilliant they can just flip a switch and turn them on and that's why we did it but it was fucking awesome I'm glad sounds like fun I attended Neon Dreams as a solo female my partner couldn't attend at the last minute I wasn't particularly worried about that because I knew from the pre-party discord there'd be plenty of people present who would make sure I had a good time.
I was there for the whole weekend so I did all of the pre-party mingle icebreaker activities as well as the club night itself. One of the highlights of the pre-party mingle events was one where you had to stick a little sticker on yourself to say where you're from and how long you've been in the lifestyle and it was incredibly interesting to see that there were some people with 14 hours 14 months 14 years and like me maybe some people that have been lifestyle experiences for many, many years, but only just put that label on it.
My advice to the newbies and to myself is just throw yourself into those experiences to make those connections, to talk to as many people as possible.
It's one of the things I really enjoy about the lifestyle is making connections with people who are like me and also those people that are not very like me it's that smorgasbord of experience where at least you have one thing in common where you sort of like a little bit of recreational sex i enjoyed the whole weekend the hotel was great the club was amazing i do love a dress up theme so that was particularly fun for me I like that in 2024 we have such a variety of lifestyle apps and communication channels the discord chat ahead of this event was particularly useful in identifying people that I might want to build more of a connection with there's no no substitution for face-to-face meetings though, and that's absolutely my preferred vibe, is for this kind of social engagement followed by the opportunity to play in a club.
So these hosted events are absolutely my favourite way of continuing the lifestyle, and it's great, it's clearly great for new newbies as well it takes some of the pressure off because you have the opportunity to meet people beforehand and build some connections before going into a play potential scenario i ordered a bunch of those foam led like dance rave things you know the ones i like to dance with yeah i had a bunch of those and i was walking around and mrs h as well like giving them out to people so we could like get the party started and people did people started the party people actually use them people got the party started but i would say this event the dance floor actually was quite full and i was really happy to see that because at some of our previous events there hasn't there's been a lot of mingling there's been a lot of people flirting and a lot of people doing all those things and talking and stuff like that but not a lot of dancing and so i was really happy that this time the dance floor actually was quite busy quite a lot of the time during the evening okay and i had a dance too actually carrie and i um i saw carrie dancing at one point and i went over and uh had a bit of a dance with carrie for a Nice.
Yeah, on the dance floor. Got my rave on. Doop, doop. The playrooms. So I was doing my usual. Were they heaving? They were heaving. I was doing my usual walk around. And I don't think I've ever seen, especially at VA, but we haven't been there that much, but just the openness of the club. I was walking around and there were bodies on bodies.
Every single playroom was full yeah it was really cool to see and i'm talking like groups playing and stuff like that was really really cool to see in the couples area there was some more kind of two on two people playing but in the main kind of orgy area it was yeah you couldn't see the back area for love not money there's just naked bodies people having an orgy multiple people having orgies it was really really cool to And then later, I think a line started forming. So I don't know quite what was going on there.
I don't know whether we're waiting for someone to jump on someone or what was go. And then at the back, here's something that I've only just remembered. Later in the evening, I was at the back area, just checking on things, getting a bit cool. There was a lady with five separate guys. Good for her.
Yeah, just one lady and one lady and five guys sounds like a lot of fun yeah so she was really enjoying herself out the back area and all the guys were kind of getting involved and again it's not something you normally see it maybe a standard kind of cup more couples led um event so that was really cool to see that that dynamic was playing out yeah i got dressed down okay got some brand new lingerie mrs h actually picked it out picked it up for me i'm in the chat. I know you're in the chat, yeah. So I got some brand new lingerie. It was really cool. A little pink number. Yeah.
A little G-string number. Was it from Ann Summers? It was. I'll have to try it on for you later because I know you haven't seen it. How did I know that? Because it's in the notes. Yeah, it's written on the notes that are on the screen in front of me. Yeah. Yep. And were the playrooms heaving? They were heaving. Was there anything that stood out at the neon event? So aside from the playrooms and the dance floor being full, which I really loved, there was a guy later in the evening who came to the bar and he had shorts on that were like bright pink or orange or whatever they were.
And he had some paint under one of his legs and he was leaning on the bar, just waiting for one of the bar staff to pour his drink and then he turned towards where I was sitting lifted his pant leg a little bit they had drawn a fake cock halfway down his leg like it's big fake cock and it was basically like if he pulled his pants up a little bit you know hit the fake cock kind of hanging down one leg I thought that was really cool really like creative I want to give a shout out to two couples because again somebody has to get the party started and there were two couples who continually all throughout the day whether it was the games thing whether it was the photography session because they were the first people to get down into lingerie again which takes a bit of balls to do that in front of other people and they were in the dance session and getting involved in everything so there was two couples that absolutely just started the fun and i just want to give them them – I'm not going to say their names, but I want to give them a shout-out because it takes somebody to fucking do it, man.
Yeah, absolutely. You always need somebody to kick it off. And I was really happy that – and I kept actually – I think I overdid it with saying to them, like, thanks, guys. No way, really. That doesn't sound like you at all. Yeah.
i was really impressed but also quite thankful to them you realize they might have just been doing that just because they wanted to yeah not because they needed any thanks from anyone i know that that's exactly why that's why it made it weird because you're thanking people for like just being them yeah they did a really good job um they they got down to their lingerie and did the photography set they were first people to kind of kick it off and they got stuck in with the sexy not charades charades with me got a bit silly Ready? what, babe? What?
The dance floor was absolutely fabulous guess what babe what the dance floor was heaving get out dance floor was heaving sounds like a a lot of heaving were there was there any hoeing it was definitely normally heaving goes with hoeing if you were going to suggest to somebody how to make going to this kind of event better what would be your recommendations okay so i would say that you should probably turn up to the event with the idea of getting involved so you know if you want to if you want to meet people then get along to the mingle opportunities and given kate invests so much time into this and has lost so many of my pairs of pliers in the process wearing your name necklaces might be an idea cool yeah which is and the other thing of course is just trying not to look like a click we all well not all but certainly people have been around for a while no other people in the lifestyle and you know you tend to hang out with the same people it's good to not do that sometimes or if you see people who are just hanging out by themselves um grab them and drag them into the group and say hello that would be what i would offer it's funny you say that there were sitting outside at one point and there were a bunch of people that i was sitting with at the table and there were two couples over at another table and one of the couples went inside i don't know get a drink or mingle with other people and so this one couple was sat there on their own and in my my cape over over the top fashion i was going to shout at them from our table and be like oi if i can come over here come over and fucking join us and i thought no i won't do that i'll just i'll just get up and go over and say hello and say hey because they might just be having a conversation with themselves rather than making them feel quite awkward and shouting at them to come and join us i i thought no i'm gonna um be a be a bit demure and I'm going to go over and I'm going to ask them if they would like to join us.
Thankfully, I did because they are literally brand new to the lifestyle, haven't done anything, haven't really spoken to anybody or kissed another person. So me shouting at them from the other table. Wouldn't have been great. Wouldn't have been great. No. I was very demure, very mindful.
Dem mindful demure very mindful mindful maybe very cutesy maybe mindful very demure very mindful i don't come to work with a green cut crease you don't know the social media trend at the moment no okay if you do know the trend then i was very demure very mindful very cutesy that's everything for the uk take Next up, we're going to be talking about scarcity versus abundance mindset in the lifestyle. And then I'm going to talk about my time as a unicorn on the Spicey Alan Croatia takeover. So thanks very much for joining guys.
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