Our recent swinging foursome experience contains some new-ness for our play sessions. We share our recent foursome swinging experience which involved butt plugs!
We run through setting up the swinging date, how to transition from the loungeroom to the bedroom and how the use of VR porn could be next level swinger transitions of 2021 and beyond.
Cate also shares some audio on how future foursome sessions could be more puppy pile focused.
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Speaker1: You're listening to the Wanderlust Swingers podcast with Aussie hosts, Kate and Daryl. If you're curious about exploring your sexuality or the swinging, hot wiping and non-monogamous lifestyle, you've definitely come to the right podcast. Or maybe you just love travel adventures. Either way, we share our personal, sometimes juicy, sexy stories, as well as Swingers Club and event reviews, interviews with other sassy people, and of course, our global swinging adventures. We try to bring you a look into the diverse lifestyle that the swinging and non-monogamous community has. We hope you enjoy. Now let's get into the episode. G'day guys and welcome to episode 122 the foursome butt plug experience hey do you remember daryl a couple of episodes ago where i told you it was our 200th episode no yeah and we were like hey yay celebration yeah i fucked up it was our 120th episode i was gonna say because we went from 100 to 200 very fucking quickly in my head i was like 119 and then 200 wow so like numbers escape you yeah they do escape me but hey so today's episode is all about we may as well use fucking stardate it's about as rational as your calculation yes we may the recent recent the recent foursome butt plug experience is what i'm calling this episode because we're going to talk about a recent play session that we had in Singapore before we left. It won't be recent though if people come like a long time from now and listen to the podcast. Yeah. If you're listening to this in 80 years' time, we're dead and in the ground, so not recent. I'm not. What do you suppose they're going to do with all the podcasts in 80 years' time? There's going to be a lot of them, not just like leftover shit, you know? I don't know. Yeah. I wonder what's going to happen to the internets as well, like all the storage from that. The cloud might fall down. I know. The cloud will get too heavy and it'll land on us. Before you know it, it'll be raining fucking data. Then what? Data raining sounds horrible. Here's what I thought. At the beginning of every episode, we might start doing a little bit of a cultural note just because now we're focusing more on being wanderlust swingers and having a global approach so here's my first thing i'd like to share and it's the use of commas and full stops in croatia you mean uh it's it's not just croatia it's europe is it all yeah it's pretty much all europe so what happens is if you're used to writing 1000 you would write one comma and three zeros here you would write one full stop and three zeros and the opposite is is uh used just an exchange of the decimal point for the yeah for the comma yeah it's weird you could just leave them out you could just actually leave them out you just leave them out totally like you don't really need them except for the decimal pointy bit yeah which is not that hard yeah so that's a that's a little bit of cultural update for you guys that's how they write their numbers here so when i first arrived i thought fuck me that apple's expensive and cars are super cheap especially you know if you if you're talking about it in kuna which is the croatian currency it'd sound very expensive yeah that's right yeah kuna right so let's get into it let's get into the main section topic so the foursome butt plug experience i want to i want to set set the scene here so we had this couple around our place for a date we could come up with like a sexier intro for like rather than the decimal points and commas on on things for for the future like maybe the next one we could do something sexy about being in a different country. Okay. What do you think? Okay. I mean, I'm happy to try and come up with some. I think you're a complaining little bitch, but yeah. I'll try and come up with some. I mean, I don't have any yet, like right now. Okay. But I reckon I can nail some down by the next time we do a podcast. Some sort of cultural. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay it so yeah no problem actually one comes to mind now that we talk about it from uh from some of the websites here so nah i've already got one one in the bank good stuff cool do we want to record the beginning of the next podcast now while i still remember it no i would like you to stop rambling so we can actually get into the episode actually yeah so we had a it. Yeah. So we had a couple around to our place for a play session, I would say. And as much as you say, like, you know, play is never a guaranteed thing, there is an element of, like, that's pretty much what everybody's thinking about unless things change, right? Unless the chemistry's really shit or there's something else going on. Yeah. Right. So we had them around our place. Now, we used to say back in in the day, like don't eat spaghetti bolognese, don't eat tacos, don't eat like pizza and shit on dates. We never said pizza. We never said pizza. I would never have fucking ruled out pizza. Are you serious? That's like crazy talk. There is no circumstance that pizza isn't important for. So what I wanted to talk about is setting up the date and the pizza thing that that i think is is quite fun and interesting you mean the build your own pizza build can you explain the build your own pizza situation that we do yes we make pizza bases and then we make uh slice up ingredients like you know standard pizza toppings cut up or grate up cheese depending on which it is mozzarella is better to be cut up just fyi um get you get a better distribution of mozzarella by cutting it into cubes totally useless information but you know if you're ever making a pizza if you're in a pizza aficionado that might be important information it might be put and then put them all together in one location and it's kind of a bit of a introductory relaxed you know set a relaxing mood just by saying to people okay well you're going to make your own pizza and also it means that i don't have to make the pizza well so if people are coming around your house there's always this quandary between like do you put out a full meal do you ask people do people eat before they come over do you put out like a cheese platter and then people pick at it and they don't really eat so then you you get home later and you're fucking starving and then you have a spaghetti toasted sandwich. And so there's this quandary. And you reckon I'm random. Whereas I think setting up this like you do the pizza bases, you make them yourself and then you do all the toppings. You don't have to make them yourself. It's just that we choose to or I choose to. I mean you should. Because I like pizza. If you're inviting people around to like. You should make your own pizza bases. Wow them and stuff. So you can't just take like, because traditionally if we're going back to when I was younger, I would have just bought like cheap shit pizzas. No, you don't do that. And then put like nice toppings on them. This is a date. You're trying to impress these people. Oh, right. Gotcha. Jesus Christ. And then it can be a little fun little game where everybody, you know, makes their own little pizza and then you all have a slice of everybody's and then you judge everybody's pizza. Yeah. Then you become judgy, judgy bitches. You become judgy bitches. No, I think it gives a really relaxed start to a play date or a potential play date. Also, it gives you a good bit of fuel there for later on, you know? I think so too. It fills up the pizza tank. So later on, we played some games. We actually bought out the Game of Lifestyle card deck, the icebreaker section, which is actually the first time we've played this with other people aside from virtually on our podcast which was which was good i thought they they quite enjoyed that yeah i find it hilarious though every time you play this every time you start to play this game it's like oh we'll just get out like the the lowest deck right we're in a group of people who are already kind of interested in playing and have voiced that previously and we've played with them previously and you're like no no no i'll just bring out like the you know tell me how many boys you've kissed cards rather than the other end of the spectrum which people want to be able to pick up as well i would like to say that i actually know not knew nothing about them as a very specific reason i pulled out this particular card deck we've had yes we've had sex with them before in a group scenario with six of us but up until this point we'd really barely spoken and so i wanted to actually learn a little bit about them because this was our first date technically even though we'd already had sex with them before yeah okay so i was very strategic in my in my picking out of that particular deck i know you know you're allowed to just ask people stuff without having to read it off a card yeah i know okay just checking tell me about the vr porn that you used as an as your own personal icebreaker with her uh yeah well i mean he's a bit of a i mean he's a bit of a nerd like me i suppose when it comes to this sort of thing so we'd been discussing the the vr system that we had at the that point we mentioned the porn and you know you brought up that we should put it on and that became a bit of a problem because i hadn't had the vr operational for like a couple of weeks maybe three weeks and because of that the vr system was not operational so it took me a little bit of time to get that up and running anyway got it up and running and we started to watch i got the vr porn up which is slr sex like real if anybody has a vr system out there and is looking for a way to watch porn on VR, which is interesting. I'm not sure whether it's something I'm sold on just yet, but it's interesting. And then we started, we passed a headset around a little bit and I actually put it on the lovely lady. And whilst she was enjoying some pornography, I maybe started playing a little bit with her pussy.
Speaker2:
Well, this is what I was going to say. So this is we get often asked what's a good icebreaker vr porn you think i actually think that 2021 that's what i'm saying like this is it's not actually a bad icebreaker 2020 2021 is a year of the vr porn 2021 is a year of vr porn icebreaker okay think about it really so she she put it on i mean it's a bit interesting too it's a bit of fun and it's also a bit of cheeky fun and it's a bit of silly fun you know and then we're gonna have to buy an account then because you know i've been doing it for free free of charge at the moment and then after that you you know you were she had the headset on and you were yeah it's like running your hands up her legs and starting to play with their pussy and stuff like it's a good icebreaker from moving from discussion into play because it's just a little bit silly and a little bit fun and yes and still sexy and still you can watch it still watch it on the tv screen in front like you can have it what they're looking at as well although the vr porn is it's very in your face it's it really quite close. It feels like you're in a pussy. Well, that's the other thing too. Like if you had it up on the screen, obviously the other people around you could also start acting out what was happening. So yeah, it feels like. Actually what we got to a little later. Yeah, in real life sort of stuff. So yeah, that's, I would recommend it actually. Yeah. I think so. Yeah.
Speaker1:
Unfortunately, for those of you who don't have a system that's hooked to a computer, you't use it so you know no but you know go back to the card deck card decks yeah so while you were doing that do you know what i was doing with him by any chance yeah you're talking about butt plugs we were talking about butt plugs and in fact we were weighing our butt plugs i know i saw the fucking scales on the table i'm like what the fuck has been going on over here yeah so we him and i started talking about butt plugs and it's pretty rare to find a guy who enjoys butt plugs and will openly he or he enjoys anal play more than you do he does actually and so the way that this came about is they had a small swingers bag on the table and i was like hey what's the new swingers bag as you do and he pulled out a butt plug and i was like is that hers is that yours and he said no this one's mine. And then that took us on this discussion about butt plugs. And so I went and pulled all my butt plugs out and his one was really heavy. So then the kitchen scales come out and we ended up weighing our butt plugs at the table. Yeah, which I've got to say is a little bit weird. It is weird, but again, like fun, a little bit of fun, a bit cheeky, a bit sexy, but weird. And then we started talking about all the times that we wear butt plugs around the place and to dinner and, you know, he was explaining that he has a dinner butt plug. He has a dinner butt plug? What is it? Has it got like a tie on it or something? I don't know. Maybe it does. Maybe it does. Like a pretty little butt plug tie. Yeah. Like your old penguin thing that you threw out. That I don't have anymore. That you probably shouldn't have. So that was kind of how we started, I guess, breaking the ice a little bit and then we came over to you guys and of course the ice by weighing butt plugs yeah exactly what you went with and okay you had obviously you were playing with a pussy and then we ended up moving upstairs to the bedroom for some playtime let's take a quick break okay let's come back and let's talk about um uh foursome butt plug playtime foursome butt plug foursome Playtime, okay. We'll be right back. All right now now i've written notes about this because i wanted to try and remember some of the key moments that happened and my first point here is oral sucking cock extraordinaire which i just wanted to give what the fuck i just wanted to give myself some props on paper, quite literally. Yeah, that's all. You're just throwing yourself out there. Yeah, I was just giving myself a little pat on the back.
Speaker2:
It was awesome.
Speaker1:
Okay. So it started with some soft swapping and I was sucking his cock and everybody just kind of got undressed and started. Actually, no, it started with some serious kissing. Him and I were kissing because I remember he said to me last time that he thinks I'm quite a good kisser and he really enjoyed it i didn't know that yeah well see there you go that's why we have these conversations on the podcast i just remembered it so when we were sitting at the dinner table he mentioned how much he enjoys kissing me from our first session he said you're one of the best kisses i've been with wow in the lifestyle and that's a pretty big uh that's a pretty big pretty big thing to hear yeah well i'm also a cock-sucking extraordinaire i mean yeah i know well i mean we're getting to that we're still in the kissing phase at this point i mean let's not oversell it yeah so we started kissing a lot like just making out a lot and that was going on for quite some time as well and undressing and everything else and just you know feeling each other i don't I don't know what you guys were doing at that time, but him and I were doing that for quite some time. And then I started sucking his cock and this is when I become the cock sucking extraordinaire. Yeah. Okay. Well, I mean, let's get into that then. Cause that sounds pretty cock sucking spectacular. Sounds spoof-tacular people might say. First of all, I was, I was sucking his cock while I was kneeling on the on the ground. That's never, I mean, that's always going to end in hurt knees, isn't it? Well, I think that just doesn't necessarily work well for anyone. It's all right for a period of time. Or the standing fellatio. Yeah, and then you're like, no, this is like, look. Yeah, no, standing fellatio is never the way to go. Yeah, so then we moved over to the bed, and I think you were actually going down on her at that point in time. So, again, like both of us were. So what are you saying here? You're saying that it was like a, you know, soft swap extraordinaire because Daryl's also amazing at. No, that's not in my notes. I don't have anything in there about you being good at that in my notes. I'm sorry. It's probably because it's so obvious it doesn't need to be noted. Boom. Right? I mean you don't write down things that you don't need to remember that you can just remember because you know it you know it's like the you know stuff so what were you guys doing if you were going down on her did she then go down on you what happened now how did that actually progress because by the time we'd been making out and then i was sucking his cock and if i get on to the next next bit, it's fast-forwarding quite a bit because I was doing that for a very long time. Yeah, you were. So what was going on with you? What was going on on our side of the bed? And I don't know that only because I was focusing on my extraordinary – Oh, right, because your cock-sucking was going so hard that you like – I just didn't – Yeah, I got you, bud. you i mean a true a true cock sucking aficionado would put the effort in yeah and you just don't know what's going around no of course because you're you're focused yeah you focus your focus on crystal focus crystal focus yeah okay yeah what were we doing well actually i think so by the time you'd gotten to the the end of your cock sucking extraordinaire extraordinaire we were actually already having sex so so i mean I don't know. So by the time you'd gotten to the end of your cock sucking extraordinaire, we were actually already having sex. So, I mean, it was a long bit of cock sucking, although he didn't seem to be too objective to that, or sorry, he wasn't objecting to that. We were fucking. That's what we were doing. Were you doing her doggy style off the side of the bed, or am I imagining that? No, style not off the side of the bed no just doggy style yeah she i'm well she didn't mention she quite likes that yeah also likes a bit of hair pulling as well which is like not not the you know not like the tugging but sort of the grasp at the at the roots yeah the difference between like actually pulling yeah i got you yeah yeah so yeah so um that's what we were doing over there i was yeah fucking from behind and pulling on a hair i'm gonna start bringing some toys into the equation now because i'm sure there were butt plugs involved right after all this fucking conversation about butt plugs well actually first i was using the flogger on him butt plug so i had him sorry that was just a plug for butt plugs oh it was a plug yeah buy your butt plugs at the butt plug store plug plug so i was actually giving him a cock. So I had him lying. Sorry, that was just a plug for butt plugs. Oh, it was a plug for butt plugs. Yeah, you like that? Yep. Buy your butt plugs at the butt plug store. Plug, plug. So I was actually giving him a cock. So I had him lying on his back and I was giving him a cock massage. So I was like, hey, have you had a cock massage before? And grabbed out some lube and started to give him a cock massage. And then I decided to get, I think I asked him, does he like a flogger or something like that? And he was like, yeah, it sounds interesting. And she was like, no, let's just keep fucking. Yeah. Yeah. And you guys were just fucking. Like, you guys were over on the other side of the bed just fucking. Yes. And him and I were. I don't say just fucking when you're like. Sorry, spectacularly. Yeah, exactly. Spectacularly fucking. Yeah. And him and I were going into a bit of exploratory mode, I would say. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Like you were lifting his testicles to see what what was under them i grabbed out the flogger and was running the flogger around his neck before we get to that yeah what was under his testicles he doesn't have it in yet so you're getting no no i mean what i was talking about his what was an asshole i was just making it funny oh okay sorry didn't go dirt he doesn't clean behind his ears or his testicles dirt i don't know. Back of testicle cheese is not a thing we want to get into. So I grabbed the flogger out and then I was running it around his neck and down his chest and things and then giving him a cock massage. So I wasn't actually using. Hang on. How were you doing both at the same time? You really are a superstar. I was stopping and then doing the other thing. Oh. Yeah. So you was skipping between them. I was leaving it draped across his neck.
Speaker2:
Gotcha.
Speaker1:
And then was giving him a cock massage. And then I would use it and pull it down, down his chest and then around his cock and around his balls. And then pull it back up his chest and then back up and lie it across his neck. And then I would give him a cock massage. I fully understand. You were still fucking at that point?
Speaker2:
Yes.
Speaker1:
Was she riding you?
Speaker2:
No.
Speaker1:
No, you guys were just fucking from behind. No, not just that. There were other things going on as well. I'll see you? No. No, you guys were just fucking from behind. No, not just that. There were other things going on as well. Just trying to recall. There were some missionaries, some, yeah, dog, physician. What else was there? I don't know. I'm not thinking of much else, actually. I think that was probably about it. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Nice. Yeah, it was. She likes, I have a feeling that both of them are quite into a bit of dominance and submission. Yeah, I would say that that's probably the... From what I've seen with exploring with them a little bit, I think that, and the way that I've seen them have sex before with other partners as well, I think there's definitely some interest in that. Just a little bit of that? Yeah. Just a little bit of that? Mm-hmm. Yeah, well, I mean, I think everybody's got a little bit of that in them, don't they? That's probably true. Maybe not like a lot, but a little bit. So then I asked if he would like to put his butt plug in. And I have never played with a guy who's had a butt plug in before, ever. Yeah. And he was quite happy to do that, actually. Yeah. So how did that go for you? I mean, was that a turn on for you to have him? Or did you put his butt plug in? No, he put it in. Okay. It was really interesting purely, again, because it's just something that I haven't seen or done before. So I think that. So turn-on or not? It was interesting. Okay, so not. It wasn't a turn-on like, oh, my God, it's making my pussy drip so much, I'm so turned-on. It was just like, that's really interesting and exciting and different. Okay. So. So, no. Oh, God, fuck off. Yeah, so he he put the butt plug in himself and then i was continuing to give him a cock massage as well and continuing on that and it was just really really interesting and he seemed to quite enjoy that actually having the butt plug in and getting the cock massage at the same time seemed to be really really exciting for him and it was just really interesting and new and different for me as well so i really enjoyed it were you maneuvering the butt plug or anything while it was in were you playing with it or yeah i did i did touch touch the butt plug and stuff like that and was moving my hands around cupping his balls and things as i was massaging him okay with my five hands that i have going at this yeah i can imagine i mean it sounds like because you were because yeah you're inserting the butt plug pulling on his penis and whipping him with a flogger as well at the same time, or flogging him with a flogger. You should see me DJ. It's amazing. Yeah, like an octopus. I am like an octopus. But not with eight arms. You're like a six-armed octopus. Like a six-armed octopus. Which would make you a hectopus. Yeah. Did you change out any condoms or anything during this? No, that's five, I think. Did you change out any condoms or anything between your play session? Sectopus. You're a sectopus. Um, I did. Yes. Yes. I did change out the condom halfway. No, not halfway through. Is that because you came? Yes, absolutely. Yeah. Condom change and continued on with my merry way. Yeah. Good. It was a lot of fun. It was a lot of fun. Yeah. A lot of, um, exploring. And then we kind of just sat around for a little while after all this but actually no sorry i do have to finish off something i speaking about being an exhibitionist which we didn't speak about but i'm just pretending like we did i we were talking about you not being an exhibitionist which is generally not how you how you roll we were talking about different sex toys that i had and i mentioned i think on the side of the on the bedside table i had the enjoy your one sitting there the big stainless steel one yeah yeah and i think she might have said what's that or how do you use it or something like that she said do you do weights at night is what she said did she no but fucking looks like you do with the size of that thing and the weight of it yeah you could or she or she might have said is that your your late night protection device in case you need to club somebody?
Speaker2:
Maybe.
Speaker1:
So then I actually got in the middle of the bed, spread my legs basically, and used the Enjoy Pure Wand. Got you yourself fucking off. Yeah, so I was using that. I was fucking myself with that and then also rubbing my clit at the same time and just came. And then afterwards I was like, and that's how it's done. Thank you very much and they they killed themselves laughing they thought it was hilarious yeah it was pretty funny that you know that's how it's done scenario was was pretty hilarious yeah yeah thank you and then we just sat around talking for a little bit so basically no hang on let's just step back a minute here so you're a what was it the it? You were a fellatio superstar or whatever it was. No, cock-sucking extraordinaire. Cock-sucking extraordinaire. And then you're a get-yourself-off extraordinaire as well.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm. I mean.
Speaker1:
I'm getting all the gold stars today. Where does your talent fucking stop? It doesn't end. It really doesn't, does it? It's astounding. Yeah, thank you very much. Yeah, no problem.
Speaker2:
Okay.
Speaker1:
Yeah, so then we sat around talking for ages and just laughing and just enjoying each other's company, obviously, as you're laying there naked on the bed until one point i was like righto i'm fucking tired and she was tired and we looked at each other and we're like tired yes it was that was late though like we we we chatted and kind of you know felt each other up and did all like we didn't i don't think we had sex again after that but we you know there was a lot of. Yeah. It was good. It was just nice to like, it was always sit around and have a chat and have a laugh and sit around naked and stuff like that. Well, yeah. I mean, it's always good to have a conversation afterward as well, I think. Yeah. And look, lessons learned about this particular, I guess, play session. We are going to record a bonus episode and that's going to be featured on our patreon account as to why d thought this play session could have been better and why he thought that it was a little bit upsetting for me so if you guys are interested yeah okay so if you guys are interested in checking out the bonus episode head over to our patreon account and that's where it will be located now let's take a quick break and then let's come back and let's talk about some uh listener shout outs and see what's going on. Right. So welcome back. Before we finish up the podcast today, I wanted to give a few shout-outs. I've decided that at the end of every podcast we're going to do a shout-out, a listener shout-out. Do you like these ideas that are just flowing through? Yeah, they're amazing. I mean, it's such a big change-up. Now that we're Wanderlust swingers, it's like, whoa. Yeah, it is. It's amazing, right? We're a whole new entity.
Speaker2:
I got two.
Speaker1:
I got two I want to shout out to. People start listening to us again. Hey, Seamus. Seamus, thank you very much for constantly listening to us and commenting after every single episode on Twitter. We appreciate the fuck out of you. But also, Mackie. Mackie sent us a Twitter message who actually lives in Slovakia with his partner. We're close to that. That's why they messaged us. They sent an email, a message to us on Twitter saying, hey, welcome to Europe. Here's all the details on where you should go, what you should do. Here's the websites to sign up on if you're not part of that. And, you know, welcome and everything else. So I wanted to give Mackie a shout out. Thank you. We received more messages about coming to Europe from other people that are in the area than we did when we moved to Singapore. Yeah, that's probably because there's like three swingers in Singapore. Six, six. So I thought that was really lovely, the amount of messages we've received. No, it's back to three because I think three left, although maybe three others moved in as well. But we're not there anymore, so I can't tell anymore. I can't keep up. So I thought that was really interesting. I think it's really lovely, yes. That we received so many messages. Yes, and we're close now. And we're close, yeah. And we're close. yeah close speaking of which actually we are looking at two of the different sites and we'll talk about this in a in an upcoming episode and looking at potentially going on some dates but more importantly or more excited i am for this particular thing but we're looking at possibly going to some events yes once covid calms down a little bit yeah so that's we go and get our jabs yeah and we buy a car because also important well i mean yeah yeah it is kind of important yeah absolutely thank you very much guys i hope that you enjoyed that a quick patreon shout out thank you to maturing bull at clark and christian for joining us in january appreciate you joining up to our patreon but to everybody else we hope that you guys are healthy happy horny doing okay and man this podcast faster than me during sex this podcast faster than me during sex that sentence was delightful good job sorry i was trying to um caveman i think i did pretty well actually you did pretty well yeah anything else to add no to the foursome butt plug experience me Me horny. Okay. No, I was about to cave down again. Hey guys. So as I'm sitting here editing this podcast and has happened a number of times, actually, it's not uncommon for this to happen, but I have these light bulb moments and we've recently shared some of the experiences with you guys that we have had and certainly some of the ways that they could have been improved. And one of the things that just kind of clicked in my head as I'm sitting here editing this podcast is that a lot of our recent experiences haven't involved a lot of intertouching. Historically, we've spoken to you guys about puppy piles and how we really enjoy people touching each other, people engaging with each other, and just that really sexuality intertwined on the bed, you know, bodies moving, everybody having a good time. And I think that it just clicked to me that that's what's been missing out of the last few sessions that we've had. So I wanted to talk to you guys about that and give you a bit of insight into perhaps what's been happening. What I realized is that there's been a lack of intertouching. And what I mean by that is that even though I might be engaging with somebody else, I would still have some engagement with Daryl or the people that he's with as well. And it just feels like everybody's having a good time and is together. And recently there has been a lot of just immediate separation almost. And so some people call that kind of like divide and conquer and really negative connotations. And please don't get me wrong this is not that and certainly I don't want everybody to think that we have to be connected at all times because that's just not the case you know we've done separate room play we've done even solo play but what we really have enjoyed in the past is more of that puppy pile kind of scenario where it is quite sexy and quite fluid and so recently I've noticed that some of our sessions are basically just a complete separation and then a lack of intertouching when we're actually engaging in the play. And I do put that down to as well, their lack of girl play. And some couples actually, when they're going through the lifestyle, you may see on dating profiles as well, or bios that they'll say that they really want the female to actually be bisexual not necessarily by curious or by comfortable but actually bisexual and so there is some of that interplay and whilst that's not necessarily a requirement for me we've been with a lot of partners that identify as straight it is something that definitely helps with kind of that that puppy pile environment or that intertwining environment if the other lady and I are interested in each other as well. So what I think has really been missing from some of our play sessions lately is that there's just been almost a separation of state. And I do think that it is a shame and I'm trying to actually put it down to what's been happening and the reasons why. Historically, in the past, we've had play partners that are very into that as well, you know, very compersion focused, very interested in being in the moment and seeing their partner with somebody else, as well as obviously their own sexual enjoyment. What I think's been happening recently is that the people that we have been engaging with, whilst they might have compersion for their partner enjoying this, they're also very focused on self. and I think that that's perhaps where it's been this separation at the moment as opposed to just everybody all and having a good time together anyway I thought that was super interesting as I'm sitting here editing the podcast and wanted to quickly record and come on and say what's up talk to you guys about that I'm interested in whether or not that's something that you've noticed that's happened in your play sessions now or in the past perhaps and if you found it Thank you. about that I'm interested in whether or not that's something that you've noticed that's happened in your play sessions now or in the past perhaps and if you found it to be irritating if you thought it was a problem if you didn't if you noticed it recognized it but didn't think it was a problem and just kind of kept going on and it kind of repaired or changed itself whether you thought it was play partner focused or whether you thought it was a change in your own relationship I'd love to hear from you guys so if you if you can drop me an email, cnd at swingingdownunder.com, that would be awesome. Fantastic. Of course, catch us on social media if you want as well. And I just really want to hear about your experiences about that and yeah, whether you felt the need to change or not. The other thing I wanted to quickly update you guys since I just posted it now is we are having our next live podcast. So we're going to play a couple of games, including a sex-based Two Truths and a Lie.'re going to do that on the 6th of february so if you guys are interested in joining head over to patreon that's where all the links are and where you can find the directions to how to get to the live podcast but otherwise i'll get back to finishing up editing and we'll see you guys soon hope you're well should we describe how cold it is here go on can if you want to okay so cold that i need somebody to stick a finger in my arsehole to push my penis back out the front. Mm-hmm. Yep. How's that working out for you? I haven't found anyone yet. Okay. I need long fingers though, right? Like it's not... Are you just... Are you accepting people off the street or do you have a sign? Well, I'm looking for long fingers but without long fingernails because I don't want it to poke a hole out the front. So you're just creepily looking at people's fingers on the street and deciding... Yeah, yeah, pretty much. Okay. Yeah. And if you find that person, how do you go about approaching them to ask them to... i don't want it to poke a hole out the front so you're just creepily looking at people's fingers on the street and deciding okay yeah and if you find that person how do you go about approaching them to ask them i'm not going to approach them i'm just going to put lubricant on their fingers and take a run up fucking hell righto guys that has been that has been episode 122 the foursome butt plug experience 202 oh it's at least a, it's at least a million. I don't even know.
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