C Masterpodding SwingingDownUnder – P13

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Speaker1: It's a C, and this is Swinging Down Under. You may be wondering where Dee is for this evening. Well, I would like to announce that I am currently masterpodding. Thank you very much. I'm taking over the Swing Down Under podcast, and we'll be talking to you mainly all about ladies' things, things that I want to talk about that really I don't mind if Dee really has any input on them or not. I'm going to tell you about them anyway. So listen in. I'm going to talk about Twitter. I'm going to talk about couples' swinging profiles. I'm going to talk about some of the other podcasts that I follow and listen to and just generally having a female point of view into the swinging lifestyle. It'll be a fairly short one. So I'm only going to talk for about, I don't know, half an hour to cover off on a couple of things and happy to hear your feedback of course and any questions that you might have please let me know and I will respond to them I'm going to be doing another takeover in about three weeks time I've got a couple of things naughty things that I'd like to share with you all so be on the lookout for that and listen in and hopefully send me some questions in the meantime, we can cover those off on perhaps my naughty little podcast. So just for everybody who's been following, I now have my own c at swingingdownunder.com email. So that's where you can catch me if you've got any questions that you want to ask. But what I want to chat about, first of all, is actually single male profiles. So you may have heard D&I talking in the past about a fantastic male, male, female. So two men and a lady, myself, in the lifestyle and having a really fantastic time swinging. But to be honest, it's really, really tough finding a guy and not actually just finding a guy just as such to get somebody in the room with you, but also finding somebody who's going to be suitable and, you know, is fun and kind of on the same wavelength as you. So, you know, how do you find someone who's going to fit in well with you both as a couple but also make you as a woman feel, you know, sexy and, you know, special and all those kinds of things that we generally tend to want to feel and, you know, will get us in the mood, I guess. So we are on a website called Red Hot Pie. Here in Australia, Red Hot Pie is a swinging social media site where you can set up a profile. We've spoken about it a couple of times. And on Red Hot Pie, there are a number of single guys looking for couples in the lifestyle. So guys who are quite interested in being, I guess, the threesome, the third wheel, the extra M in the MMF relationship. And quite often if you set up your profile to be seeking out the potential for another guy, you will be contacted by a single man. And you may be contacted with simply a flirt, which is just somebody saying, yep, like your profile, contact me back. and quite often that can happen if the person hasn't actually paid for membership up front so they may contact you with a flirt in the hope that you will respond to them also you may be contacted by getting a message and this is really what i want to talk about is that communication from the single guy particularly on these sites where they can be up front a little bit faceless so for those single guys out there who may be listening listen in because this is really useful information I think for you but again this is purely from my perspective and what I'm looking for I'm sure there's lots of ladies out there listening who are very different and therefore it's a bit tough for you to actually tackle how to position yourself to get, you know, a couple's interest. So the first thing obviously is a decent subject line. I've had some shockers. You know, I've had some, hey babies, how's about it? Or I've got two hours free tonight, what are you up to? Or actually one that I had was nice rack nice tits um you know so try to stick clear of those nice subject line um show the person that you've actually read their profile is a good one so if you can have a subject line that gets the attention of the couple whereby you've written something about their profile and the subject line. So they might have something in their profile that, you know, is a witty comment or something that they're after, something they like. You know, they might, like us, they might like rock climbing, indoor rock climbing, so you can sort of have a subject line of fellow rock climber. That would pique my interest straight away because I'm instantly going, okay, there's some common interests interests here so that's the first thing is to actually have a subject line that makes me want to read it because some of them are just vulgar from the get-go and quite often we'll get a delete before the body of the emails even read even if it was in jest again some women might be keen for a wham bam thank you ma'am but certainly as we've mentioned in the past we are socio-sexual so we really appreciate an intelligent uh and witty person who can come along and and join us in the bedroom so that's the first thing the second thing is um in the body of the email you obviously want to talk a little bit about yourself here so you want to position the email to be interested in the couple and certainly the the lady of the couple but also you've got to talk a little bit about yourself and don't make it generic i mean there's ones out there where it's clear they're cut and paste and you can tell the person just sends out like a machine gun 30 emails a day and in the hope that somebody will will respond which of course you're sending out that many and they definitely will. But you can tell when somebody has sent you a templated email. So for me, I look for ones where they're talking about themselves and I look for ones where they've obviously read our profile and know what we're interested in. Instantly, if somebody contacts us who is outside of our wanted age range or is outside of what we're wanting in terms of play, then it's clear that they haven't actually read our profile and obviously they'll get deleted straight away. The best ones are where they have spoken about themselves, they've found an interest in us, spoken a little bit about us, but also told us a little bit about their history. I mean the first single male we had it was it was a big deal for us you know we joined the swinging lifestyle and all of a sudden seven years seven years uh being with my partner and i'm bringing another man into the bedroom so for me the fact that somebody may have had some history or experience and that was also really important to me so you've got to understand the people that you're trying to connect with um the guy that we ended up spending spending a lovely evening with and certainly having a lot of fun um to the point of everybody in the room being quite worn out he explained to us in his email that he knew we were quite fresh into the lifestyle or quite new at looking at single guys and he had told us a little bit about his experience and his history with other couples which really made us feel at ease but also kind of made me think okay well he knows a little bit about what he's doing and we don't really know a lot about what we're doing so maybe he can help us along the way so that was really quite key. Obviously having some decent photos to share are great, you know, not just torso shots or cock shots, just something that's actually decent and nice and also tells a little bit about who you are as an individual. We had a single guy who contacted us who actually had a couple of photos of him kind of out rock climbing or surfing or doing what he loves and that made us obviously have a bit of a relationship with him before we'd even met him. We understand a little bit about who he is as a person and certainly kind of ties that all together and makes us want to make the contact with him and certainly set up a date really quickly. So that's the first thing is messaging. The second one is actually responding to messages. And this goes both on, you know, a social media site where you've got a profile set up. But also, you know, if you meet somebody out at a pub or a club is following through with that communication. We've recently met a guy who was in a monthly mingle put on here by our secret spot in sy and he seemed quite interested and certainly someone who we might want to take into a bit more of a secluded atmosphere together, maybe some drinks and then inviting back to the bedroom. And we did swap numbers at the end of the night, but there's been absolutely no follow through on his behalf. Now, I did send a message. He sent back a quick message to say, you know, lovely to meet you. But at the end of the day, there was really nothing more from him than that. So, you know, if you are wanting to actually connect with a couple and you're wanting to have, you know, a date with them and actually set up something to, you know, potentially find yourself in their bedroom or in a hotel or wherever you want to be is to actually follow through with that communication it's um really really important and to be honest without it you're just not getting laid so you know i mean you've already got someone offering their number just respond on that and you'll you'll find yourself in the bedroom probably in the not too distant future and having a lot of fun. So definitely my recommendation there is to make sure you just check up on those messages. So that's, I guess, a little bit of insight into single guys. Profiles in general on social media sites, they're tough. There's so many of them. You're bombarded. How do you stand out from the crowd when there's you know thousands of couples and thousands of single guys or unicorns or whoever it might be and i mean there's so many podcasts about this and blog posts about it as well and to be honest it just comes down to showing a little bit about who you are and showing yourself as an individual which can be you know a really great profile shot that's a little bit different so getting away from the the tits and ass or tna as you call it and torso shots and those kinds of things you know stepping outside of that and getting something a little bit more artistic is going to be great for your exposure on one of those sites as well because i know when i'm looking for profiles and i'm scrolling through if i I get a photo that really catches my eye, that's going to make me want to look at that profile and really find out more about the person or the couple. So that's really important. Actually, I've got some really exciting news. Recently in the last week, we've actually decided to make our way to across the globe, as a matter of fact, all the way over to Naughty in New Orleans, which is happening in July 2016 over in New Orleans. It's the biggest swingers takeover in the world. So we're extremely excited to be heading over to that. And I have all these things running through my head on what it's going to be like. And it's I just feel like it's going to be this all in all out swingers united situation happening and I'm so so very keen on this you've got no idea so we've been chatting to some of our friends over in the state some of our swinger friends that we follow on twitter and they've been giving us the rundown we can't wait to actually get over there and try that and since we're traveling so far and it is a long way from Australia we're also going to skip over to the desire resorts in mexico as well so we'll be talking to you more about that in the in the coming months and obviously when we're there but i just wanted to crack that news while d's not here because i can so that's me breaking the secret another thing that i thought was really interesting is how your style changes in I'll see you next time. breaking the secret. Another thing that I thought was really interesting is how your style changes in the lifestyle. And since we've been swinging, it's really amazing how you come in with these preconceived notions of exactly what you're looking for in terms of men, women, relationships, you know, the swinging situation, how often you'll visit a club, how often you'll respond to messages or how often you'll go on dates and then you find yourself like we are now and i think we're almost coming up to our one year anniversary in the um swinging world and those are all gone in fact i think that we have not uh stuck to any of those preconceived notions whatsoever. You know, we visit our favourite club here more often than we perhaps thought we would originally. We are having dates more often than we thought we would originally. And to be honest, I think that it's just a natural progression. It's nothing that we feel bad about or feel like we've kind of turned over or gone the other way and haven't, you know, stayed true to ourselves. It's just that we've continued on our journey and we've decided that those things change. You know, sometimes we'll be much more active in the lifestyle or on dating sites and then other times we won't be on a dating site for weeks at a time. Other times we'll be going to the clubs quite often. Possibly, you know, there was one time there we went two or three weeks in a row to different events and other times we won't. But what we're finding at the moment is that we're not going to be able to some great time with some fantastic couples um and meeting them again and again you know so it's not just a once-off fun. It's, you know, continuing to just form these relationships and have a great time in the process. So probably do away with some of those preconceived notions. You know, you'll have your own journey, absolutely, but also just kind of let it happen. Don't be a stickler for the rules. Just let yourself have a lot of fun and you'll find yourself completely on another track that perhaps was a little bit unexpected for you which kind of leads me to something that's really exciting that we found recently um d and i were talking last night and we realized how many friendships we've actually formed since we've been in swinging and not necessarily people that we've slept with but you know people on twitter people that we're following and talking to on a daily basis people in the podcasting world people that we've met at monthly mingles but also we've had some great experiences here over the last couple of months you've heard us talk about one couple we've got a second couple that are just fantastic and we'll be podcasting about them soon actually we did one last night but we had a bit of an audio fail and that data is now gone into the ether somewhere so we'll have to redo that but what we realized is that we have formed amazing friendships i mean these people are great and obviously when you're in the when you're swinging you surround yourself only with the people that you find fantastic, intelligent and sexy and all those kinds of things. But at the same time you surround yourself with people who you want to spend some time with, you know, you want to get to know. And we've been invited to our very, very first Thanksgiving party Friday night. So it's currently Wednesday here and I know it's Thanksgiving on Thursday in the States. So happy Thanksgiving to all of our followers that are listening from the states i'm extraordinarily excited i i can't even begin to tell you how excited i am i'm excited by the turkey i'm excited by the pumpkin i'm excited by the fact that there's going to be a lot of people just enjoying friendship um and there's some swingers there's some vanilla couples there so just to be invited to that and be included in this event is huge for us you know we met this couple in the lifestyle and now we really feel like we're forming great relationships and friendships that will I'm sure continue on for a long time you know we catch up for drinks that may or may not result in play. I mean, it's just an easy, fantastic swinging friendship and something that was a bit unexpected. I mean, we'd hoped for it. You know, we really wanted it when we started talking about joining swinging and swinging together. But, you know, how realistic was that? We weren't too sure. And, you know, to find a number of couples, not just one, but to find a number of them where we're actually talking about even potentially going to Thailand together and on vacations together is great. And not to have any pressure on whether or not we will swing or not because sometimes you'll want to, other times you might not be in the mood for it. So it's just a friendly kind of pants on catch up, which is great. So shout out to our friends there. We're calling them Salt and Pepper and the Atoms. And I'm really, really glad to have met you guys. Thank you so much for everything. And we're looking forward to catching up with you guys again on the weekend. What to wear? So this is a fairly common question, actually. It's something that I may have Googled at the beginning of our entrance into swinging. And I Googled, I'm not going to lie, I Googled what to wear to a swingers club. And just for a bit of fun, you should actually consider Googling that because it's terrifying. Don't listen to a lot of the podcasts or posts, website posts rather, that are probably from 10 years ago as to what to wear to a swingers club. You know, really insightful information like don't wear a pair of joggers or velour slash velvet track pants. You know, not helpful because I just assumed that was a given, but apparently it needs to be spelled out on some of the blog posts. So what to wear on a date with another couple or a date with a guy or even just out to a swingers club always something that makes you feel sexy it doesn't matter really what it is it's just if you feel sexy in it then you're going to give out that confidence and that sexy vibe and that's going to make you feel better about yourself throughout the evening but also it's going to make people want to talk to you and really be intrigued and interested in you. Any woman who walks into any kind of situation that is confident and feeling very attractive, it just shows instantly and that really draws people to that person. So, what I would wear out on a date with a couple is something that I feel, you know, attractive in, but also something that is fairly easy to obviously perhaps get off, but also is comfortable to be sitting in. You don't want to be sitting at a bar for three hours in a ridiculously uncomfortable outfit because you're just not going to be enjoying yourself. So something that you feel comfortable, but also I think a little bit relaxed in and and sexy at the same time when you're heading out to a club you want to pack two outfits you want to pack something for entering the club and perhaps having a few drinks with down in down in the mingle area where you might meet some couples and then you want to pack something that you can dress down in a lot of clubs have a an area where you would wear full clothing and then they'll have a secondary area where you'll have to dress down for and some people just will walk in and just be dressing down naked or with a towel wrapped around them or a bikini and then other people like myself I like to actually take a little bit of lingerie to walk around in as well so I'm always packing two outfits for um for when we head off to our secret spot here in Sydney for example if we're going to head out to a club you'll find me actually packing a bag for the evening with with a couple of outfits tucked away in there your choice on whether or not you want to wear panties and a bra I choose not to in most of the outfits that I go out in for two reasons one is the nasty underpants lines or panty lines that you can get in most tight fitting or revealing outfits and dresses but the second is that I feel a lot more comfortable in it but also you know people can get a little bit sexy when there's not restrictive underpants or panties or bras involved as well so on one of our dates with a single male you may have heard on a previous podcast that he was you know kind of touching touching my upper thigh my butt and and kind of rubbing on my my breasts because I wasn't wearing any underpants so that was obviously a huge turn on for him a huge turn on for Dee and also kind of makes it a little bit more naughty when you're out at a bar perhaps having those initial drinks before you head back to your house Let's do this. a huge turn on for Dee and also kind of makes it a little bit more naughty when you're out at a bar perhaps having those initial drinks before you head back to your house. That's it from me today so thank you so much for listening and I really hope that you found that insightful. Maybe it will help you to understand a little bit more about the female perspective in the lifestyle but also if you are a single male those handy hints and tips I mentioned before just think about them a little bit of communication certainly goes a long way so for everybody out there as always you can catch us on Twitter we are swinging down under at swing down under on now, though, I do have my own email address where you can contact me if you've got questions or want to chat specifically. So I am on C at SwingingDownUnder.com. And drop me an email, let me know what you think, or if you've got any questions, or certainly share some of your naughty stories with me. That would be great. I do love hearing from everybody. But for now, this is C and this is Swinging Down Under.