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Offering you the naked facts about swinging. Here are your hosts, Ed and Phoebe. All right, let's get into it. You had an amazing sexual encounter, and now you think you have an STI. So what do you do? Well, there's three things to this. You've got your mental aspect when you're all freaking out, trust me. And then your physical part that you have to take care of. And then you have your social aspect, you know, notifying the person that you played with. Mentally, try not to stress out. I know it's hard, but try not to freak. But you are going to freak a little, but try not to freak too much.
Google the symptoms, take a look to see what's out there, but I will shorten it up for you. The most common STI that you're going to get in a swinger environment is trochomoniasis. It is a parasite. I know it sounds gross, but it's treatable. You get an antibiotic. It has the similar symptoms to BV, but I'm getting ahead of myself. We're going to get into that in a second. What should they not do when they start researching all this stuff? First thing you want to be very careful of is looking at photos. And one of the sources that we provide down below is WebMD. And WebMD is pretty scary.
And a lot of the images are horrifying. They have horrible images? I don't remember them having horrible images. There are some. They show some photographic examples of what these things look like. One of the unfortunate things is a lot of the symptoms and the pictures look very similar. So a whole bunch of them look almost the same. It's tricky to look at photos and say, that's what I have or that's what it looks like. Exactly. It's really important to have a conversation with your partner about this. Be supportive of each other.
Reach out to your swinger friends and have a conversation with them about it. If they've been through it, what their tips are about it and see where you go from there. Right. Get an action plan. Figure out what you're going to do after you've done your research. What's my next step? And then act on it soon because things can, they progress. They tend to get worse before they get better and they don't always get better. Some things will resolve on their own, but we are going to get into that in a second. Physical. Now we're talking about the most common swinger, STI, trichomoniasis.
We're going to give you some highlights as to what that is. And then you can get all the nitty gritty details. We have a sexual health playlist on YouTube for you guys to listen to on BV, which is bacterial vaginosis, trichomoniasis, several episodes on STIs. Be sure to listen to those. If you don't know what trichomoniasis is, it is a parasite. It is curable with an antibiotic, like I mentioned. Typically, there is an odor, smells like fish. The symptoms will appear anywhere from 5 to 28 days. They can clear up on their own.
The symptoms can clear, but the parasite will not go away until you get the antibiotics. Both men and women can have it. The men will carry it. It'll stay in the urethra. If you don't have both partners on antibiotics, you just keep passing it back and forth. It can also cause other health issues for you. It makes you more susceptible to HPV and other vaginal issues and STIs. So you do want to get that treated. One of the other things to think about, a lot of times the partners you're playing with don't realize they have it. Yes. They're not aware of it or they don't know what it is.
They've maybe noticed the odor, but they haven't figured out the solution to it. It's good to have that conversation with them because they'll become aware of it. And by the way, you may have trichomoniasis because of this. It is a delicate subject and it's not an easy one to broach, but it's kind of important because they're going to continue spreading it to other people. Right. The good thing is it's not life threatening. It's annoying. It affects your sex life and it keeps you down for a while, but it's treatable. And in seven days, you're on your way again.
Now you can't drink when you're on that medicine. So if you like to have a nightcap, you're going to have to pass that up. But one thing I did want to say, too, was that sometimes with that condition, depending on where you are with the infection level, you won't notice the smell until you've actually started to engage in sex. Right, right. And that's documented. You can find that research online. So sometimes you find yourself in a play situation. You're like, holy crap, why do I smell? What about testing? So one of the first thing that you can do is create a telemedicine appointment.
So most healthcare providers provide this nowadays, especially in the post-COVID environment. You can call in, use your cell phone, use the video conferencing feature, and you'd have a conversation with your provider. There are several other providers, WISP, Teladoc, and Amazon Clinic. They all provide telemedicine, and it's pretty easy to get scheduled with them and walk them through what your symptoms are, and they'll ask you a bunch of questions about that. Yes, and those were just the top three at the top of the first page on Google, but there are a lot. Right.
A lot., I went to a few of these and I advanced through their selection and prices and whatnot. Several of them I realized were way more pricey than I expected. And so I went to my own insurance provider that had their own Teladoc and it cost me $0. So please check your own insurance first. And if you don't and and the price isn't good, you know, check out these other ones as well. Yeah. And the other thing that you can do is go to an urgent care facility. Most cities have them. They're relatively inexpensive. You can walk right in. A lot of times you don't even need an appointment.
$50, $60, and you've got an appointment and they'll they'll write a prescription for you and off you go right bv and trichomoniasis are very similar if i hadn't said that before what's interesting about a teledoc is that they will want you to get tested for trichomoniasis so if you not quite sure which one you have just tell them your symptoms and then they'll prescribe you a medicine the medicine is the same for both of those conditions and the medicine is a metronidazole yes yes they have an oral version and they have a vaginal version.
Some people like the oral version better than the vaginal. Vaginal can be very irritating. Yeah. And can kick off a yeast infection after you're done using that medicine. So some people go with the oral medicine, but that means you can't drink. So it's up to you and how your body reacts. Yeah. And we want to do, we have heard that the oral medication is a little bit more thorough as well, because it goes through your entire system versus almost topically applying it inside the vaginal canal. Right. So it will, it'll clean you out pretty well in terms of killing off the infection. Right.
And if you waited a little too long and you say you're six months down the road and you've had this reoccurring infection going on and it resolves itself and you've never been on any medicine, you could have a urinary tract condition as well. And that's where the oral medication will come into play. This is all documented. I'm not just pulling this out. And then probably the second most important thing after all of this, getting yourself treated, especially if it's something like trichomoniasis is go get tested. Yeah. You can, you can go through your primary care physician.
You can go through the urgent care facilities, either one of those and ask for a full panel STI test. Right. But I will say ask for the trichinomiasis test because it's usually not in that panel. Right. So be specific about which things you want to be tested for, because most panels are not a We'll be right back. Yes, because it's usually not in that panel. Right. So be specific about which things you want to be tested for because most panels are not a full spectrum panel. There are the most common ones that they test for. HIV and hepatitis are on that list.
But a lot of times they won't even test for HPV or herpes. So it's good to get tested. Right. And I'm not advocating not getting tested, but sometimes as a woman, when you're suffering and your lower region is on fire and you need medicine that day or the next day, you can't wait for a doctor appointment four days down the road and a test to come back three days later. Because now you're seven days out and you are suffering. Testing is great if you can wait, but if you're in pain and you need medicine right away, there is a solution for that.
There's also an advantage of getting tested after you treat because then you know if you got rid of it or not. Yes. So it has an advantage. But remember, you've got testing, you've got results, and then you've got your play periods. If you're going to go play with somebody else, make sure you get your results back before you go play again. Right. And they do recommend testing about three months after. Again, just make sure. Social, there's that social component, right? Who did you play with? Do you have their phone number? Sometimes you don't always have their phone number.
If you do, please reach out to them. If you don't reach out to the, to the owner of the house party, maybe they can reach out to that individual for you and ask them if to share that contact information, reach out to another swinger friend, ask them if they got this other person's phone number and let them know, hey, I have this could have come from you. Don't really know. Here's the incubation window. Five to 28 days. Just thought I'd let you know. It's curable with an antibiotic. Heads up. Blah. Right.
It's just socially responsible and it's nice to be informed and you don't really have to be embarrassed. It can be embarrassing, but if you're presented in a way where it's treatable and there's no. I don't really have to be embarrassed. It can be embarrassing. But if you're presented in a way where it's treatable and there's no information is power, right? And I think in the end, people will be very appreciative. We had an incident where someone came back and told us that they had an STI.
And we were very appreciative that they shared that information with us because it gave us the power to right away go get tested and and get treatment if we needed to right so I to this day appreciate that person telling me because I had a choice to know what to do in that in that moment rather than just figure it out later a month down the road. Right. Thank goodness nothing happened. In conclusion, remember to stay calm as you can be. Get support. So reach out to your friends and they'll empathize with you. And you need to have a support group within the community. Do your research.
Understand what it is that you have and what your options are in terms of getting it treated. Contact your sex partner. Get treatment right away. Get a hold of your doctor too. Yes. So that they can prescribe what they need to for you or through your telemedicine. Yeah. And remember to check out our sexual health playlist for more information not covered in this episode. We'll see you next time. Oh, one last thing before you go. If this episode helped you in any way, the single best thing you can do to support the show is leaving a rating and review.
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