Want to send us a message? Dating couples in the swing lifestyle has advantages and disadvantages. Some couples prefer to hit and quit. Depending on your swing style, dating as a couple is more challenging than dating as a single person, because the dynamics are four times as complex. Getting four people to agree on a date, show up, experience a great vibe all around, and be on the same page…well, it gets complicated! Whether you put in the time or not, couple dating can be rewarding and so can hit and quit depending on your swinging taste.SHOW NOTESAdvantages to DatingBetter SexTips for SuccessTime ConsumingFirst Date - Never at you houseDisadvantages to Dating Off NightNo VibeHit and Miss One Night StandCheck ListHall PassHit and QuitGratitude and Thanks Support the showWant More?👀 Watch on YouTube: YouTube ShowFull video versions and interactive live episodes!Bonus episodes, exclusive content, and 🌶️Extras: https://www.patreon.com/SwingerUniversity 🛳️🎉Looking for lifestyle events in your area? T4P is the go-to directory for clubs, parties, and resort events. Browse now at Ticket4Play.com Custom SU T-shirts and gear: Our Amazon StoreSwingerLinks.com - live schedule, special offers*, and our 🌶️links!Our Website - Leave us a message, articles, and sexy products3 Ways to get your question on our show:RECORD it on our website at: https://swingeruniversity.com/contact/EMAIL a recorded voice note to: [email protected]: (916) 538-0482 and leave a voicemail.* We get a commission if you decide to purchase through our links, at no cost to you.
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And use our code at checkout. And you guys, if you have any questions about the event, the resort, or what to expect, just reach out. I mean, we're here for you. We're happy to help. So once again, TicketForPlay.com forward slash Swinky, the code SwingerU-VIP. We really want to see you there. Welcome to Swinger University, your horizontal enrichment program, bringing you an educational podcast about swinging. Here are your hosts, Ed and Phoebe. Today, we're talking about dating versus hit and quit. Which do you prefer?
We decided to talk about this topic today because we just got back from a date last night and we thought it was kind of timely. So we're going to talk about a couple different aspects of dating and kind of couple-on-couple experiences instead of the usual giant group orgy thing that happens at hotel parties. This is more of a double date. Yeah, intimate one-on-one or couple-on-couple. Wow. Okay. So... Yeah. Intimate one-on-one or couple-on-couple. Wow. Okay, so dating. What are some of the advantages of dating? Oh, yeah. There are definite advantages.
One of them is you build this long-term rapport with this other couple hopefully hopefully there's this better connection this you know once you get past that initial getting to know you phase that that kind of awkward first date phase then you really kind of get this sex of the mind you get this almost foreplay because you can anticipate what they're into because you've been with them before exactly and as we know familiarity equals better sex. Definitely. It's not that one night hookup where they're fumbling and you're fumbling and nobody knows what's going on.
You don't really care because you're too drunk and it's a warm body and there you go. This is definitely more of a friends with benefits kind of long-term thing the other advantage is if you are having that couple over to your house you've got a more intimate setting you've created the mood with nice lighting and some music, maybe some fun smells. And it's fun to get all those pieces together in anticipation. You have some drinks or some food and snacks. It's always a really nice way to build up that moment. Yeah, you've established this connection.
You've established this sense of who they are and what they like. And so you can kind of build up the evening for that encounter. It's kind of fun. Exactly. So we've also got some tips for success with dating couples. And we're going to go through these quickly because these are covered basically in the whole podcast throughout all of our episodes. But it's good to kind of refresh these and have them in the front of your mind.
Good thinking first thing if you're going to date a couple and you're you're trolling on the sites to find that next couple pictures of both partners oh come on now ed both partners really both partners do not hide your husband bring him He likes to see the sun sometimes. It's important that he gets his vitamin E every once in a while and gets that sunshine. Take a picture of the poor guy and share him with the world. Poor dude. Contact them ahead to confirm that both people are real. Yes. Could be fakes. Could be posers. Could be, you know, single men, single women. Who knows?
Just people trolling for photos. Yeah. So if you're going to set something up with them, have a little bit of conversation with them to make sure that they're real. Absolutely. Although, one of our next tips will kind of do some risk mitigation, and that is schedule a short drink date. Yep. So don't plan for many hours, plan for, you know, an hour or two to just go meet these people and have some conversation over a few frosty beverages. It's not a two-hour multi-course meal. You're not stuck there. You're not getting stuck with a bill.
And if they don't show up, you just have a drink with your partner and dance or go home. But short drink date. It's also in a public place for those people who are a little safety concerned. Preferably noisy. Good atmosphere. You don't want too many people overhearing your conversation. Right.
And have a nice backup plan in case the date doesn't go well then you and your partner can either meet another couple or go have a good time yourself exactly hence the exit strategy right expect to be able to or have a plan for getting out or just ending the date gracefully yes sometimes you just don't hit it off and so figure out a way to say it was really nice meeting you both and we're going to go now yeah and the the last thing is if the date's going really well have a signal with your partner or excuse yourselves for a minute to have a quiet conversation and get on the same page as to whether are you going to fuck on the first date or not?
Some people do, some people don't. But hey, if you really hit it off with somebody and the chemistry is there, sparks are flying, maybe you just go to the next level. But you've got to be able to have the conversation and one person shouldn't commit for the other. Yes.
Your exit strategy could be too to just say you know we don't fuck on the first date and then you know people know that there's no pressure there's no expectation because i don't know probably nine out of ten times that's not going to happen and some couples have that strategy anyway no matter how good they get along because it takes them time to step out of that situation and think about it and regroup process those feelings make sure that you're all on the same page maybe they noticed something that you didn't right you get that time away from the spur of the moment to make a decision. Yes.
to something that you didn't right you get that time away from the spur of the moment to make a decision yes it's safe yeah not quite as exciting or fun but but sometimes jumping all in too quick you don't have that perspective and then later on you kind of regret a little bit or you're in an awkward situation where you feel less confident saying how you feel and you and maybe you end up taking one for the team and it that doesn't always go well well for some people it goes well. Depends on your... Depends on what kind of a hit that is too. Yeah, how it works for you.
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We were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples and it sails from Montreal to Boston during the peak foliage season I'm super excited and honestly I'm really nervous yeah it's kind of a version of like a swinger ted talk that we're gonna have to do oh my god i know and more importantly if you know the brand it's llv luxury lifestyle vacations you may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats this This ship, the Crystal Symphony, is classy.
Butler service for every single room, Michelin rated restaurants, full spa, clothing optional, sensual playrooms, like everything. Theme nights and international DJ. So it's luxury and nudity? Oh man, this is going to be great. the bottom line is we want you there with us it's 310 couples and like all their vacations they book up fast they really do their vacations are extremely popular so please come with us and in order to find it all you have to do is go to ourswingerlinks.com and look for the LLV Sensual Voyage. We hope you'll join us. So we opened saying that we went on a date last night.
And this is actually a pretty cool story. We met this couple online through SLS and they contacted us and sent us a kick message. And we'd been exchanging information. And this was before the Halloween party that they'd contacted us. And so they wanted to have some good conversation to kind of get to know us and were a little afraid that the Halloween party was going to be not conducive to having those kinds of conversations. So they had some stuff come up.
I think there was a birthday party the same day and it just wasn't going to work out to do Halloween and that other thing all at the same time. we'd said what about the weekend after what do you have going on worked for them worked for us this lady had reservations a time the date all of it figured out coordinated with me weeks in advance oh yeah she was on it it was like she wasn't messing around this date yes do you have a favorite restaurant yes so close great we're going there boom everything was set she messaged me back babysitter scheduled bam yeah two weeksysitter scheduled. Bam. Yeah.
Two weeks. It's like, what the heck? This is so unusual. We've never met anyone this on the ball. Just dialed. We didn't know what to do. We were like, what? What's happening now? Hell just froze over.
A non-flaky swinger so last night we getting ready for the date primping and pruning and cleaning and all that and we get a kick message that pg and e in their infinite wisdom decided to kill the power where they lived so here we are thinking there's date but they don't have any power needless to say they said oh we're still coming can you believe this they're like we've got to make some changes because uh-huh you know there's no power at the house but we're going to be there and i gave them an out i said hey you know totally get it if that's not going to work out and if you need need to push it back, just, just let me know.
Yeah. About 20 minutes later, text back and say 730 instead of 630. It'll be great. Perfect. I'm like, yeah, no problem. We decided to go a little bit early to kind of snack a little bit, kind of take off the hunger. And 7.30, lo and behold, they walk through the door. We get our table. We get drinks. We have a fantastic conversation. Everybody's just gelling. It's just great. Yes. Remind me. You know what? I'm just going to interject right here. This woman was so motivated.
She had her husband plug her curling iron into his truck because he had some sort of converter thing yes so she's outside with the truck with her mirror perched on a rock curling her head with her phone flashlight that's how motivated this woman was i was like i love you i mean that's we could hope that it was us like they were so motivated to go on a date with us that they were not going to let anything stop them but i think this woman is just superwoman and she's just got it dial. She was awesome. I was impressed. I was like, wow. Her husband was also on the ball. Oh, yeah.
No shower water, so he went to the gym and took a shower there. So they made it happen. They made it happen. I know. Just on it, like I said. And we had a good time. We did. Great conversation with conversation with them a lot of fun we've set up a second date and we both confided in each other later in the evening that we both would have fucked on the first date yeah but we didn't. But yeah, talk about a dating success story. So yes, contact, timing, setting up the date, being persistent, and just taking care of business. Absolutely. So no exit strategy needed for that one. Nope. All right.
Disadvantages to dating, Ed. Well, we can talk to these two. Yeah. Can be very time consuming. You know, you have to sift through a lot of profiles. And as we said earlier, a lot of the profiles don't have pictures of both people. So, honestly, we just don't waste our time because it just really hasn't panned out. Either they don't respond or the response is noncommittal. Right. And when you do request a picture, you get a dick pic or a boob pic. Thank you.
not non-committal right and when you do request a picture you get a dick pic or a boob pic and i guess our fault is not asking for a face pic right so and a lot of people will not send those unless they're on something like kick so that's true you surf the profile you find the couple you read their details you go okay they're great they match up they seem like compatible you click on the gallery you look for the pictures boob okay no faces so now You got to contact them back and say hey we didn't find any pictures would you mind would you mind sending something so we know who the heck you are and what you look like yeah so we know who we're meeting and then you still aren't guaranteed that they're actually who they say they are so right it's a very long process to get to the restaurant to get I'll see you next time.
who they say they are so it's a very long process to get to the restaurant to get to the bar it is and some of the success that we've had too is by meeting people at these events that way you have a built-in backup plan for everybody well you've already cut the coordination out and you've cut the the profile surfing out and you've cut the picture thing out right because they're right in front of you and you're both in the same place at the same time so and we had good friends that had good communication and pictures of the individuals of two two separate couples they were supposed to meet at the event right and when they met at the event these they were not who they said they were anything like their pictures so they were very disappointed but they're at a two-day, so they had lots of other opportunities to meet other people and have other great experiences.
That would be us, by the way, the other great experience. Oh, was that me pointing fingers at myself? Yeah, that was... Cha-cha. Let's just say we didn't get to bed until 5 o'clock that morning. Nope. That was a first. And that's okay. I would do that all over again. All right. I am the happy backup plan. Yeah. I'm happy to be the backup plan. Yep. We're a sure thing. So sifting through profiles is the first part.
Once you've gotten all that now you're coordinating dates right that's the hardest thing hell phoebe and i can't even coordinate dates sometimes for ourselves and that's only two people and we live together it's it's tricky to get two different households all on the same calendar, right? That's the key, household, because households contain more than two people. Right. Kids with soccer practice, band practice, whatever, cheerleader practice. You've got two partners in a different house with their own job schedules, their own hobby schedules, you know, soccer league. Yep. Yep. They know it.
Bowling, whatever. They know it. It is insane. Yes. So coordinating dates, coordinating place, time, you know, can be a disadvantage.
It's all all time based and then when you get down to it you could go to the place that you're going to meet and they just don't show so no go no show not to mention if they do show up you're investing a certain amount of time with that couple yeah and heaven forbid you picked a dinner date and it's before dinner drinks appetizers dinner dessert and halfway through your first cocktail you were like honey we got to get out of here i'm i'm like chewing my leg to try and get out of the trap here you just never know which is why those tips that we said about doing a short date and this is this is great advice i know single people are probably not listening to this unless they're in the lifestyle but this is great dating advice i learned that when i was dating no first date dinner dates just don't do it they could be crazy and you do not want to be tied to a table with crazy don't do it okay so also never do your first date at your house never why is that ed well they could be crazy We'll be right back.
do your first date at your house never why is that ed well they could be crazy and you've invited crazy into your house yeah but that's like worst case scenario yeah the other portion is it just may be awkward you just don't have anything in common with them they don't look like they're pictures. Right. You think UPS has brought you a package because this person shows up at your door and you're like, oh, no, that's the date. I was not expecting that.
Worst case, she shows up and the guy that she brought is not the guy in the picture because that was from 20 years ago yeah anyway don't and most importantly you don't you don't have a backup plan always have a backup plan always have an exit strategy how would you get them out of your house If you had invited him over for a first date what's your exit strategy right ed told me earlier he said just ask him to leave easier said than done i fully acknowledge that but sometimes you're gonna have i mean if you've invited somebody to your house, you're going to have to say, hey, folks, I hate to say this, but this is not working, and we're going to have to call it.
So it was nice meeting you, but you don't have to go home, but you've got to get the hell out of here. Oh, yeah. I tend to be a little more subtle. I don't like to wound people. I feel slightly responsible for how they feel. I know I shouldn't. So I try a little more subtle social approach like yawning and that's the first stage you try that you obviously go to the gentle approach the yeah i forgot i've got this you know early thing tomorrow morning whatever most people who are aware and respectful, they pick up on those. Right. Hints.
See, note one, if they're crazy they may not pick up on that but try not to invite crazy back to your house and that's why you don't do the first date at your house okay we've never actually had crazy at the house thank goodness but no to those people who have we're so sorry that's right all right sometimes you'll have a hit and miss right so there's this concept floating around in the lifestyle of hit it and quit it and we actually think that there's this intermediary layer which is this hit and miss that we're going to talk about and mind you the the hit and quit term gets thrown around kind of as a negative right definition connotation and i don't really think so i mean if that's what you prefer then that's what you prefer and we'll'll go into that.
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So with hit and miss, and I can honestly say that we've been guilty of this and when i say guilty it's not something that we set out to do it's just kind of how it happened so we we meet a couple we seem to hit it off we get together maybe we have sex with them and it just doesn't go the way that we thought it was going to go. Now, meaning the sex was okay, or it was just outright bad, or it was just awkward. So conversation was great, connection seemed great, but then you get to the act and it's kind of oh-hum. Yeah.
Or you've met them for that drink date and it seemed to go good, but then when you actually interact with them and, you know, invite them back to your house or meet them at a party for a get-together, it just doesn't go the way that you thought it was going to go something's off yeah it's just not quite uh it's not connecting can't figure it out can't figure it out now we always have a two-date rule with that kind of stuff and that is maybe they're just having an off night yeah everybody has absolutely weird things going on in their brains could have been a disconnect exactly could have been a rough week maybe you drank too much something there's tons of stuff going on yeah so we give them the benefit of the doubt and we give ourselves the benefit of the doubt i mean heck we can be off on a night too absolutely and so we'll always reach out and go and maybe it was us maybe it was them let's let's try it again yeah i'm all right with that the point where it's not okay the second time that's where this starts to fall into the hit and miss now i mean you could have a disastrous first encounter and not even bother with the second one.
And that's definitely a hit and miss. I mean, it can just go bad. And we've had those experiences.
We talked about one of those on the cruise where the guy was just rough, just abusively rough, not like violent, but not passionate or compassionate right not empathetic and not listening right and it's it's just a stupid experience it just doesn't make any sense yeah not a good fit not good and that's kind of what we call the hit and miss so it's different because the intent is different now hit and quit is did you did you want to talk about one more thing in hit and miss well let's see did we talk about oh not vibing well i guess you kind of touched on the not vibing with the hit miss although you have a really good you have some good examples about that and so one of the examples of how you get a miss is there's just not that chemistry yeah or you know i don't know maybe the guy you get along great he's, but then we talked about maybe he can't follow direction or he sweats profusely and you just can't stand that Chinese torture of the drip between your eyeballs.
It's raining men. Oh, wait, wrong. I don't think that song meant that. it just turns you off there's something about it maybe he has chronic halitosis or you know i don't know maybe he was great in a group setting but not so great in a couple setting right and there is a dynamic with that there are some people who work really well I don't know.
not so great in a couple setting right and there is a dynamic with that there are some people who work really well in you know a two-on-two situation where everybody kind of gets along and some sometimes couples are really good when there's more couples to kind of interact with and kind of buffer the conversation in the room yeah and they you can you have more people to play off of a little more distraction but also a little more excitement so some people may need to feed more off that type of group energy right um and you won't really know what that is until you have time to kind of step away and think about that a little bit absolutely okay you are gonna say hit it and quit it hit it and quit it this is the classic one night stand this is putting notches in the bed post yeah writing names in your little black book doing the not this is sport fucking yeah i mean straight up yeah just hit it and move on now there's some advantages to this yep this isn't particularly our style with the exception of group play in like a playroom where our intent isn't to date or kind of build any kind of long-term rapport.
I mean, we're playing in the playroom. Right. And a lot of times the group play situations that we're in, people come from all around. So they're 100 miles away or 3,000 or more miles away. So you just can't date people that far away. It's just not, it's very challenging. The cruise was like that for us. People were there from all over the world. and there's no way that we're going to connect with them again unless we all happen to be in Fort Lauderdale leaving on the same boat. But we have that experience locally as well. People come from hundreds of miles away for these big events.
Absolutely. Halloween, there were people from different states. We had people from Oregon. There were people from back east. That's true. Some of our friends from, where were they, Maryland? Virginia? Mm-hmm. Yeah, all over the place. Yep. And other than some text messages back and forth every once in a while, like, we just don't see them. I know.
There's no's no way i know if i were wealthy and could fly the country at my leisure yeah we'd go visit these people all the time but we i'm not batman so okay we've covered the people traveling but so one of the other advantages in terms of this travel is people who do travel a lot, and this is kind of like a hall pass kind of situation. For the hit and quit check. For the hit and quit. Hit and quit list. So, you know, if you're traveling or they're traveling, you kind of just meet up, have some fun. Everybody goes their own way. One of the other ones is the fuck it list. Yeah.
Really, you're just checking boxes. Yeah. You have a list. You have a short, tall list. Redhead, brunette, blonde. Yeah. Some ethnic variety of exotic locale. Short hair hair all of it yeah i mean we have friends who spent an entire cruise basically checking that list and they they made uh kind of they took a blood oath at the beginning of the cruise blood oath. To literally not do the same couple twice just because they'd never done that before. And move outside their box. So they stretched their comfort zone. Checking boxes outside the box. Yes. Woo-hoo.
And that's totally legitimate yep everybody's most people have this kind of this internal checklist of things you know like you know i've always wondered i've always wanted to drive a ferrari yeah and this kind of hit and quit it you've checked that box, You scratched that itch. Do you want to itch it some more? You know, maybe. But maybe not. You're like, okay, that wasn't any different than I thought it was going to be. Right, right. So you just move on. Yeah. I don't have a checklist. I have preferences. But they're broad, pretty broad preferences. Maybe I have a small checklist.
You have looking at me like I'm insane. But I guess I do have a very small checklist of like one item. I think we all have checklists. We may not be aware of them. Some people are consciously, some people have written them down. Oh, yeah. Like it's in a notebook someplace and they go, ah, item number 143. Check. Check. I've got some things I'd like to try. Yeah. And one, you know, and I've been slowly checking through them and some of them I want to revisit. Yeah.
And I think that's two of our checkboxes are ones that we're like, OK, we tried that, but we want to try it again because it wasn't as good as we wanted it to be. So we're going to we want to do over and emphasis on the do. Yes. We've got a few of those. Yes.
It's like going to the candy store and you get to sample and and then you're like oh that was really good but you know i think i need another sample of that pardon me can i get a pound of this to go I mean I don't This is chocolate samplers Okay But you just kind of Made me thirsty for more can i get a bushel delivery one of the nice things too is that this is a time saver you don't have to date them you You don't develop long-term connection you don't have to kind of invest serious time in it you and and some people are like really um efficient with this and that is make contact if they don't follow through they don't have pictures you don't even contact them in the first place if they don't follow through you don't bother you pictures.
You don't even contact them in the first place. If they don't follow through, you don't bother. You just drop them and you just move on. In other words, don't waste a bunch of time on people who aren't even going to follow through. Like you're wasting your time. Don't do it. So they do. They just kind of rip through and find the first available person that's on their list. And if it works, it works. You make it happen. You do it and you move on. Disadvantages of that would be your experience may not be quite as rich and fulfilling. Right.
because you haven't spent enough time with that same partner to communicate what you like and what you don't like or for them to have enough time to discover your buttons yeah now if you're a really good communicator and you like giving direction and he's good at following or she's good at following then you might be able to shoot them on the first date and go no no no down left right swirl twirl yep harder faster deeper longer but not everybody's good at following directions. Or giving. You may not be comfortable giving directions.
And if you're not good at giving directions or not comfortable giving directions, hit it and quit it may not be very satisfying. Right. It's quick. It's efficient. But you've got to be a type a personality yeah i would do it really well yeah you gotta be really confident in your sexuality and and know what you want and if you want to ride him like a cowboy cowgirl sorry now if you happen to be a dominatrix and you are all in control, then maybe that works out really well for you, of course. We like to repeat if it's really good.
And if they follow directions really well, wouldn't you want more of that? You're always responsible for your own orgasm. Indeed.
Now, one of the key things that we like to do when we date is the follow-up so we went on a great evening or even not great evening we always contact the couple afterwards and say you know what we really appreciate you taking time to hang out with us spend time with us and we enjoyed it we'll either if it was a great date we'll do the whole thank you for a wonderful time we look forward to meeting you again we are currently checking our calendar for the next available date yeah and we did that last night yeah and we are definitely looking forward to our next date yes now let's say it's a bad experience how do you how do you close or just not the right fit well yeah bad bad not the right fit yeah not repeatable not repeatable yeah you'd say maybe you'd say something like hey we made it home safe thank you again for your warmth and Have a great day.
repeatable yeah you'd say i mean maybe you'd say something like hey we made it home safe thank you again for your warmth and hospitality we really enjoyed your company because you did i mean in the moment yeah i mean they spend time to get ready and invite you over or meet you at dinner or for drinks and their time is just as valuable and there's always something to get from every experience absolutely this is the equivalent of writing grandma the thank you letter for the socks you got for christmas oh you didn't want socks. You really wanted that brand new... iPhone? Yeah. Yeah. Something.
Uh-huh. Rubber ducky. But you got socks or a sweater or something. Yeah. But you still write a letter. You still send them a note and say, hey, you know what? Thank you for thinking of me. Thank you. Mm-hmm. We hope we've given you some great tips for navigating the swinger dating scene. It's more challenging than dating as a single person, if you even remember what that was like. Because the dynamics are four times as complex. getting four people to agree on a date and time, show up, experience a great vibe all around the table, and be on the same page with their goals for the evening.
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