Want to send us a message? In this episode we respond to a listener email about loud orgasms and squirting at swinger events. Along with some of our tips, pros and cons we threw in a few stories. We want all our listeners to become more comfortable if you re a little vocal in the orgasm department, or you like it when sex gets wetter. Support the showWant More?👀 Watch on YouTube: YouTube ShowFull video versions and interactive live episodes!Bonus episodes, exclusive content, and 🌶️Extras: https://www.patreon.com/SwingerUniversity 🛳️🎉Looking for lifestyle events in your area? T4P is the go-to directory for clubs, parties, and resort events. Browse now at Ticket4Play.com Custom SU T-shirts and gear: Our Amazon StoreSwingerLinks.com - live schedule, special offers*, and our 🌶️links!Our Website - Leave us a message, articles, and sexy products3 Ways to get your question on our show:RECORD it on our website at: https://swingeruniversity.com/contact/EMAIL a recorded voice note to: [email protected]: (916) 538-0482 and leave a voicemail.* We get a commission if you decide to purchase through our links, at no cost to you.
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Her question, of course, was, do you put a sock in it? How do you manage the vocalizations, the extra wetness while you have your playtime at a club or a party good question yeah it's one we've struggled with but we have solutions first yes now that things are starting to open up and vaccinations are becoming more available we have high hopes we can't emphasize this enough very high hopes that the november 2021 bliss cruise will actually happen i'm counting on it uh yes Thank you. That the November 2021 Bliss Cruise will actually happen. I'm counting on it. Yes. We will be there. Yes.
So if you're on the cruise, please seek us out. Yes. And we will be easy to find. Why? Because we're going to put a big poster on our door so bap big ass poster to go along with the wap which is the wet ass pussy oh yeah so it's a little bit of a scavenger hunt probably because i don't know that we're going to actually announce what cabin we're going to be in we got to keep you all at bay i want you like storming the castle i don't know maybe we should hello best advertising ever hey uh also we recently signed up for the November 2022 Bliss Cruise as well. Yes.
So we're going to be on both of them. Yeah. We like the fall cruises because they're a little bit longer. And how that came about, we went on a spring cruise. And the day before the cruise ended, we were like, oh, damn. We need more time. We need a couple more nights. Yeah. You barely start getting going and then. The April. Yeah. Yeah. We hit the ground running. We made the most of every night. Oh, absolutely.
And I think we know more more things we're better prepared we will be a little more acclimated it won't be quite so deer in the headlights right with all the crazy onboarding activities yes the second thing that I want to bring up is if you're listening to us on youtube we'd love for you to subscribe to our channel we don't have very many subscribers we'd love to get to 100 subscribers at least to get us over the first hump but But please, if you're listening to us on YouTube or if you listen to our regular podcast and you just want to subscribe on YouTube to bump us up, we'd be more than happy with that.
We also are planning on doing some more video content than just audio content. It's tricky, though though because we're trying to stay a little bit anonymous yeah we'll get creative we're gonna figure it out we're gonna figure it out to the email my husband and i are new to the lifestyle and your podcast has been very helpful for us. I'm very vocal and this makes me self-conscious about having sex at a club or party the more aroused i get the louder i get and basically i end up screaming when i orgasm oh okay that's so terrible sign up. I worry about being distracted or a turnoff for others.
I'm also a squirter, which again, self-conscious about this happening at a club so much so that I've asked my husband not to make me squirt while we're out. I should clarify that my husband loves it when I squirt and I get noisy. But I worry that maybe it could be off-putting to others and possibly ruin future fun times. Do you have any advice?
Should I keep the noise down so it's funny as we we read this email and the email is not funny this is a this is a legitimate oh yeah mental struggle oh hell yeah yeah but we had a heck of a fun time coming up with titles for this podcast so some of the some of the titles that were thrown out were sock it to me or juice me i have willy wonka vision in my head right and i was like oh socks not very sexy let's come up with something different yeah yeah so the other one that we came up with was too loud too wet question right playing in the splash zone now we make that reference all the time especially with phoebe in the playroom because there's definitely an area towards the foot of the bed that you better be ready.
Yes. And the last one that we didn't go with was the Wet and Wild Show. Yeah, all very good. But when Ed – see, I already started laughing. When Ed threw out, gagged me and hosed me down, I lost it. I was on the floor rolling around in my eyes. I was crying. I was like, he goes, I think that's the one. I think that's the one. And so if those of you who are tuning in thinking that this is a BDSM podcast, it's not. But bear with us.
We're going to continue with this theme yeah all right so my response to the listener's email is first of all totally get you and understand i too am very vocal yes the vocalization really helps like it it it turns me on it turns my partner on and we've found that it turns other people on as well we haven't really had any negative reactions in groups or in private sessions i mean no when i say we really haven't i mean no one's said anything said yeah they're not gonna go please hold it down ma'am i'm sorry we're trying to fuck over here could you keep it down no we haven't heard that yeah yeah you probably will never hear that.
And honestly, I wish more women were vocal because it's a turn on and a lot of our women are pretty quiet and maybe they're really not quiet. They're just maybe a little intimidated by the environment. But I encourage you, scream, baby, scream. And actually, I'm going to say the times where we've played with another couple and either one of the women was really vocalizing everybody freaking high fives each other oh yeah that's true like we've had some high fives where the orgasm was that good that she was that loud that we were all like damn fuck yeah Let's do it.
like we've had some high fives where the orgasm was that good that she was that loud that we were all like damn fuck yeah that was good clearly somebody's having a good time right it's so fun it's so fun when that happens having said that though yes we're gonna run through some pros and cons and strategies that we've come up with over the years. As we said, when it's great, it can set the whole room off. It's very inspirational. People are high-fiving. And it lets the man know that you're having fun.
It lets everyone know that you're having fun absolutely like think when harry met sally she was she was having that fake orgasm in the restaurant and the little old lady at the other table was like i'll have what she's having that swingers are wired to be kind of accepting of this sure people having a good time having sex that's good yes we're all 100 for your orgasm all in the where it can be this is a con where it can be not so great is when vocalization could be over the top and maybe intimidate others We'll be right back.
not so great is when vocalization could be over the top and maybe intimidate others and we're gonna tell a story about that the only time once out of all the times we've played where i experienced hearing too much vocalization was during a private play session at a couple's house where the woman must have been a serial orgasming machine. Right. It was nonstop. Nonstop. And to clarify, it was very loud for like 20 to 30 minutes nonstop. I'm sorry. It was my fault. I'm apologizing now. I let that happen. And at first, it was exciting. But then for me, it was distracting.
was distracting kind of like you know you're at the gym and there's that one guy in the gym and with every arm curl and every squat and every push-up you hear him grunting oh you're like really dude can just stop it can you stop already Thank you. You hear him grunting. You're like, really, dude? Just stop it. Can you stop already? I'm trying to focus and you're making noises. Everybody knows what I mean. It's so annoying.
So that was very distracting to me now i will say we didn't have any kind of cross play going on so it was you know we were on the same bed but ed and and her were were partnered up and i was partnered up with him and they were doing their thing and we were doing our thing but ed seemed to be really doing it for her but her partner really wasn't doing it much for me which kind of compounded the whole really and i'm over here kitten it's that sloppy joe sense of being left out of the party. Yeah. It was a little, you know, it didn't feel so good. So I had a small little pity party about that.
I say that because those are some contributing factors, right? However, the noise was extremely loud for extended period of time yes this was an unusual circumstance very unusual atypical yes vocalizations your typical outlier right so yeah for the listener if you are really vocal think try not to hold yourself back i mean like the whole point is that you're supposed to enjoy yourself and if that's how you have fun and express yourself have some fun yeah you may consider keeping in contact with your partner, maintaining eye contact. In other words, your primary partner. Yeah. Read the room.
Right. Read the room. If nobody else is having fun and you're having all the fun, good for you. But there may be some, you know, resentment at the same time i don't know that may not actually be a thing yeah but i guess i'm trying to encourage you to be vocal have a good time let loose because you may inspire the other couple to just go for it too who knows she may be the other woman may be holding back because she doesn't want to be too vocal right and both the husbands may be benefiting if you both just let go just let her rip and they're both like holy crap what's going?
There is something to be said about reading the room.
And because you're in a group setting, I believe it's important to, as a woman, who our roles are kind of, we're in charge of keeping people connected right as as mothers this is our role to to connect individuals and so making sure people are you know feeling good now i don't want you to take responsibility for their feelings but right you know observe hey is someone feeling left out and this has happened in several play sessions where someone will step aside they'll towel off they'll get a drink of water and they come back maybe they're not stepping in right away but i'll always check in and go hey are you all right?
Yeah, yeah.
grabbing drink of water i'll be right back they come back hey you want to come and join no no you know i take a break or whatever or he'll come and join or she'll come and join so i think it's important you know for people to feel like they're always you know included because be you can get very caught up in that moment and right your personal having your own experience thing right and it it's it's like 69 it's that tug of war that you love i hate 69 because ed always wins it's the competitor becomes a competition for us because but he always wins so i always think i'm gonna win but it's so distracting it's that push and pull where you're like you surrender to the pleasure and then you're like no no i'm going to give pleasure and you're like then you surrender and then you give and you surrender and you give you surrender and you're oh my god drives me crazy so the takeaway for this for women who are very vocal men typically aren't vocal i mean they can be but it's atypical that men are vocal i know i wish they were more vocal i i like getting vocal sometimes i know i like when you're vocal get the grunting the cape man the whole neanderthal i like the grunting sawing the logs kind of thing so for for women i think the advice that we're trying to give is let loose have a good time be yourself don't put the governor on the engine let her rip yeah you you know you're a you're a top fuel dragster you're just gonna let her go right i love the male analogy it's awesome but uh-huh read the room to have a good couple orgasms at like full throttle but if you're getting the impression that the rest of the room is like wow what's she having because we're not eating the same thing then figure out how to like reconnect with your partner or make a different connection or change the dynamic in some way maybe get more people involved you know maybe it's too too much one-on-one and it's not enough four people on a bed right and you know now that you say that from our perspective though we like playing with all the people in a group or as many people that as many as we can get in the hotel room.
Right. But some people maybe don't want that much interaction and prefer a single focus. Right. And groups tend to make them a little nervous.
So, again, whatever your flavor and whatever you want to do, you know, the world is your oyster and and i think part of it though is being aware if somebody else may feel like they're being left out and i think that's the aspect where the vocalization starts to run amiss in the room and that's you're having more fun than anybody else so if you kind of try and involve people like hey come on over here we're all having fun right then it's a little bit more like a team sport than an individual sport right don't know yeah and this rarely happens so i know i mean because honestly wouldn't worry about it too much we're like three beds over in a big playroom and some woman's having the time of her life we're all like fuck yeah we're cheering her across the room high five We're're laughing we're giggling girl it's it's fucking awesome it's absolutely delightful to hear someone else well coming till their mind is blown like it's all good.
I've never had a problem with that. Squirting. I squirt. And it's fun. Yes, she does. Yes, it is. It's actually become a little bit of a... Circus? Well, almost like a performance performance and or the trick of trying to get the other woman to squirt too like that's my trick yeah it's yeah wait we're not supposed to oh you got that queued up i'm not i didn't read the script later I had that queued up later in the podcast. Ugh, I'm getting ahead of myself. But. It's probably because I'm all excited. I know. I'll tell you when you can come in. Okay. You tell me when I can come. In. In.
If you're a squirter, the enthusiasm is contagious. Yes. Watching a woman orgasm is fantastic as we've already said squirting is quite the spectacle to behold and it's fun people pay good money to watch like the fountain show you know in vegas in vegas right like people will like go and watch that for hours the lights the squirts i mean the fountain i think it's free actually but a lot of people do watch it well yes that is true but you're right it's it's a free show and when we put on a show it's free too we too. We don't charge. No, we don't. Maybe we should. Damn.
If you like tonight's show, please contribute a little to the hat. Put a little hat down at the end of the bed. Yeah. Get some tips. Yes. So, most people love it.
It becomes something fun to try and experiment with the other couple and ed has been asked many a time to do what okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this we were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples and it sails from montreal to boston during the peak foliage season i'm super excited and honestly i'm really nervous yeah it's kind of a version of like a swinger ted talk that we're gonna have to do oh my god i know and more importantly if you know the brand it's llv luxury lifestyle vacations you may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats this ship the crystal symphony is classy butler service for every single room michelin rated restaurants full spa clothing optional sensual playrooms like everything theme nights and international dj so it's luxury and nudity oh man this is gonna be great the bottom line is we want you there with us it's 310 couples and like all their vacations they book up fast they really do their vacations are extremely popular so please come with us and in order to find it all you have to do is go to our swingerlinks.com and look for the llv sensual voyage we hope you'll join us to finger their partner until they squirt yes yeah it's it's kind of fun we've run into a number of women who are like i just can't do it number of guy well women say they can't do it and then the partner i haven't been able to get her to do it and so particular example that was a male and he said you need to show me how to do that and i'm like i'd be happy to finger your wife let me i'll try it it may not work but i'm gonna try it the the one story that i think we're thinking of was in sonoma oh yeah where she was like yeah i've never squirt It's never happened.
It's not a thing. We ruined their carpet. Oh, yeah. The side of their bed, the comforter. We warned them. We did. We had them sign a disclaimer. There was a release. And we said, you know, furniture may be damaged in the process. Right. But they signed up for it. So, yeah, there's a particular technique that works really well for this, and not all women can do it, but a lot can. Squirt. And it's a lot of fun. Yes. It's a lot of fun.
it's a lot of fun we haven't had many complaints we haven't had any complaints oh yeah sorry we haven't had any complaints a one single one now there most people are actually looking forward to it yeah they're like oh my god you squirt i gotta see that holy i've seen it in porn but it's fake you do it for real yes there's no stunt doubles this is all real so before we get to our bliss cruise six beds deep in the solarium story. Oh, you're just teasing them. I just remembered this other time. I think it was Halloween. Remember we had the two hotel rooms that connected together? Oh, yeah.
And one of the beds had a few couples on it. And one of the women, she was so gorgeous. And she was being fingered by a gentleman. And, oh my God, I was just high on all this excitement in the room and all this just orgasmic frenzy and I think he motioned me over to between her legs so she was at the edge of the bed and her legs her feet were on the bed and so she was her legs were spread and he fingering her. And then when she let go, I stepped in between her legs, and she just showered me. Just showered me. It was so erotic and so exciting. I was beside myself.
I was like, oh, my God, that was the most amazing amazing thing ever yeah you you're on the giving end a lot never not many times are you on the receiving end of that no it was fucking hot as hell it was so so exciting and I was just soaked and it was just bliss yeah it was so awesome a good time was had by all oh that was a great night which brings us to the giving instead of the receiving end of squirting so bliss cruise april forever in a day ago decade ago it wasn't that long ago i know it feels like it seems it seems like we're in the time warp the covid time warp again get me out i know so we are patrolling the solarium on the uh bliss cruise loved the solarium best playroom great so the the beds are all stacked next to each other and there's like little wispy semi see-through drapes between all of the beds we got on the bed we're with another couple there's another couple next to us on the next bed no sorry two couples on the bed next and another two couples on the bed next next and next yes like it's just everybody was playing with each other there was fucking there was fingering that people were masturbating sucking fucking and at some point you decide you got inspired i did to start playing with yourself with your feet on their bed pointing pointing your vagina at them right and on the edge of our bed yeah moments later i was going to town it felt so good oh it looked so good and then all of a sudden you start squirting on the couples that are next to us not just a couple and i didn't ask and i felt so bad but i just had to let it go and the the girl who was like on the receiving end of this was like oh yeah this is great it was it was so hot it was the best ever it really was okay so here's the thing you're in a playroom you're already kind of sweaty kind of sex juicy kind of wet vagina smelling already what's a little squirt right I know wet vagina smelling already what's a little squirt right I know it's just a little more a little squirt okay you hosed them down I did but that's okay they did it with a smile they did they were very happy they could have moved away I know I could have seen we offered umbrellas nobody took us up on that Thank you.
they did they were very happy they could have moved away you know i could have seen we offered umbrellas nobody nobody took us up on that no so all that being said we've had a lot of squirting experiences because phoebe in her wonder vagina loves to squirt and I wish you all could have seen it. You did that. What is that? I think it's the sprinkler. You know, where you kind of motion down to your crotch. Where your hands go, bam!
Down to your, like, where your thighs meet your meet ears this is why we need youtube right like full-on video i know you get the pantomiming and the vocals all at the same time bam all right we haven't had any complaints about the squirting and as a matter of fact we've had nothing but positive and or enthusiastic participants with squirting. Oh, my gosh. Yes. All that being said, we actually have some strategies. Oh, yes. All right. So listen up. Some mismanners. Miss manners. Approaches. You won't be taught in etiquette class about this. No.
But we will here's what we do all right enough enough of all this titillation okay usually we give people heads up before we play hey you know phoebe squirts just a little heads up if you want to move outside the A splash zone will give you a cue when you need to move. Or get in the way or get in the way yeah um so sometimes depending on our comfort level with that other couple we'll just disclose it up front and it's just kind of you just kind of feel it out sometimes you don't have time to feel that out, or maybe it just doesn't come up. But we always carry a piddle pad with us.
If we don't carry one wherever we're at, they usually have extra towels. And so we just get an extra towel. We put it on the bed. We go, hey, you know, Phoebe squirts. And we just want to have our supply. We'll just have the towel ready. And they're like, oh. And absolutely, the tip, if you're going to get a hotel room, get two queen beds. Yes. Desiccate one as the play bed. Yes. And the other as the sleeping bed. Because guaranteed, even if there are not squirters involved, shit's going to get wrecked. Shit's going to get wrecked. I mean, there's fluids going places. Right.
But there are people that are selling blankets, waterproof blankets, now.
But before that was happening we bought a um a waterproof stadium blanket so it's fuzzy on one side and slick on the on the other side right it's like fleece on both sides but there's a waterproof membrane in the middle yeah super inexpensive you can find it on amazon or wherever right i don't want to take business away from the companies that actually make sex blankets but i'm going to take money away from the people who are making sex blankets a waterproof stadium blanket is the exact damn thing right because rain regardless of whether it rains down from heaven or from the heaven between her legs, it's all the same.
If the woman seems really confident, I verbally express it to her up front. Hey, I have a propensity to get wet. Oh, me too. Super easy. If the woman seems a bit timid, we tend to be a little more discreet. Like I said, we pull out the squirt pad or a towel when we need it and we mention it on the spot. People either lean in or they'll lean away. Right.
And like we said, we've never had anyone be offended offended the only thing we've had people say when they're hosting a party is if you tend to be a squirter please use the supplies that we've provided so that you can preserve our couch our bed our carpet etc wherever they've designated as a play area so you just you're just mindful of that and you're considerate of their home right and and we've had that same experience with coconut oil being spilled on the floor yeah women squirting you know there's a lot of stuff that you just kind of go well you know this is going to stay in the carpet so let's be considerate coconut oil yeah felt so bad for them i know it was not us not us i actually felt bad for them they didn't even notice right but anyway so if you're gonna if you're gonna go go big.
In summary, it really comes down to embracing the freedom to express yourself while including the other couple. And I say, women, keep on screaming and squirting. Absolutely. Before you turn off our podcast to take care of all the vanilla things pulling you away please reach out and give us a review i know mashing a star is so much easier but a review is so much better for sharing your love of what we're doing with others we would appreciate it If you want to share a personal story, ask us questions, or share your comments, you can contact us at swingeruniversity at gmail dot com.
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