Want to send us a message? Well, ladies, this is your episode. Phoebe challenged me to put my money where my mouth is so here it is… The Swinger University guide to Oral Sex for the ladies. Gentleman, get out your pencils and notebooks, it s time to brush up on your licking technique. SHOW NOTES: Why Have Oral Sex? Risks of Oral Sex Basics of Cunnilingus Vulva Anatomy Cunnilingus Communication Cunnilingus Positions Cunnilingus Techniques Support the showWant More?👀 Watch on YouTube: YouTube ShowFull video versions and interactive live episodes!Bonus episodes, exclusive content, and 🌶️Extras: https://www.patreon.com/SwingerUniversity 🛳️🎉Looking for lifestyle events in your area? T4P is the go-to directory for clubs, parties, and resort events. Browse now at Ticket4Play.com Custom SU T-shirts and gear: Our Amazon StoreSwingerLinks.com - live schedule, special offers*, and our 🌶️links!Our Website - Leave us a message, articles, and sexy products3 Ways to get your question on our show:RECORD it on our website at: https://swingeruniversity.com/contact/EMAIL a recorded voice note to: [email protected]: (916) 538-0482 and leave a voicemail.* We get a commission if you decide to purchase through our links, at no cost to you.
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And use our code at checkout. And you guys, if you have any questions about the event, the resort, or what to expect, just reach out. I mean, we're here for you. We're happy to help. So once again, TicketForPlay.com forward slash Swinky, the code SwingerU-VIP. We really want to see you there. Welcome to Swinger University, your horizontal enrichment program, bringing you sexy lessons for sexy fun. Here are your hosts, Ed and Phoebe. Hi, this is Ed. Today, we're talking about cunnilingus or pleasuring your lady friends with your mouth. Lady friends.
Much like our fellatio episode, it's more than your mouth, but it's mostly about the tongue and lips and what you can do with them to make her feel good. Many women love cunnilingus because it focuses heavily on stimulating the clitoris and therefore is more likely to make her orgasm. Statistics. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 10. 11. 11. 12. 13. 13. 14. 15. 16.
the clitoris and therefore is more likely to make her orgasm statistics between 70 and 80 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to climax yet many women feel self-conscious about receiving it it's a very intimate act his face is down in your parts well why do you do it oh golly i have no idea for her there's this vulnerability it's it's a little intimidating you are self-conscious about it and vulnerability it's it's a little intimidating you are self-conscious about it and i'm not going to relay this story phoebe's going to tell her story about it but i empathize with her i understand what she's talking about growing up going to school a parochial school wearing the uniform little plaid skirt knee socks all that stuff tell me more white shirt classic catholic girls outfit right phoebe is a catholic girl in respects.
My brain was pretty well washed with, you know, do's and don'ts and what's right and wrong and all that stuff. Apparently, according to that mindset. I didn't know a whole lot about my body, and I knew what felt good by makeshift dildos and writing the couch cushion down in my basement, the little ribbing, what do they call that? The cording. The cording. Around the edge. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, God. That felt good. Of course, I covered it with a towel or pillowcase. But I never really touched myself. So I wasn't familiar with my parts. I never looked down there. And so I graduate. I'm out on my own.
And I'll see on my own. I meet up with this man who's about 10 years my senior. And he, we get intimate and he decides he wants to go down on me. And I'm like, wait, what were you talking about? Why? That's weird. It was weird.
It was like foreign to me had no idea this was a thing had no clue what oral sex was none tragic absolutely none i thought it was the weirdest thing ever and giving oral sex i thought was the weirdest thing ever i had to really work at training my brain to think that it wasn't disgusting now you just oh yeah work it oh yeah all those thoughts are gone now so i had been thoroughly programmed for something completely different than where i am today so the the oral sex aspect of it also while i overcame the my brain thinking this is disgusting for you know and now this is pleasurable it was still a very vulnerable act for me and uncomfortable for me to express pleasure, just to lay back and express pleasure and be vulnerable and not have to be active in that role of sexual interaction.
Right.
So, I mean, I i was maybe that was also part of programming whether you please the man or it's your job to be a caretaker you're the one to be the person to to do everything right so to be vulnerable lay back and just accept just take it baby that just take it right so so yeah it's been a process it has been a process no now there's also some self-consciousness in terms of vaginal health odor there's this preconceived notion that i think a lot of women have that like am i fresh i mean there's a whole market for products right you see the commercials all the time if you see commercials anymore about douching and right vaginal spray so you've been in the car all day you've been at the amusement park or something or you're on a bike ride and all of a sudden your guy wants to whip your pants down in the cornfield after you've been on a bike for two hours sweating and like go down on you you're like what are you crazy i probably smell but no he loved it uh-huh no it's good that way so it's getting comfortable with the fact it's a what it's a self-cleaning process but still it's like you're like wait i've been sweating for two hours down there.
I get it. Everybody's heard of ball sweat. I mean, it's a thing. So, yeah, I get the self-consciousness of it. But you can't be self-conscious. I get the two-hour bike ride. Right. And then sex.
Although, you know, if that's your thing and you're and it's not bad then go for it but i understand right so there's another aspect of this besides the whole vulnerability and the self-consciousness there's trust right this guy has teeth and lips in one of your most sensitive and intimate places i can imagine it's a lot like when a woman starts to go to town on your balls yes it's it's a little nerve-wracking i know i think you're still nervous about that oh i'm very nervous about that i know you're still having gotten comfort i had to shift he just bounced in his chair i had to adjust myself it is it's so i get it you're so funny and for in my experience especially with you that just attacking the clit i mean going straight towards it it's not comfortable for me no it's like pins and needles yes it's extremely sensitive for me you to warm it up a little bit.
It's almost, I think of it as desensitizing it gently. Yeah, in the most delicate and sexual way of desensitizing it. But yeah, you're right. You kind of warm up to it you probably what it is is you're you're bringing more blood flow to it and so the nerves are buffered a little bit by the inflamed tissue but oh we're getting early science what's that inflamed tissue it's intimate the woman is being pleasured. The man is giving pleasure with no stimulation on his part. It's a very giving, intimate act. You are like up in it with your face.
mean that's pretty intimate so this is we're still in the why do it vulnerability trust intimacy and then number four is power yes and this is one of the aspects that i really like and and that's this sense of control over her body, your body. Ed gets off on this. And pleasuring her. It's kind of hot to make a woman squirm around on your face. It's very sexy. It gets very competitive during 69.
Uh--huh it's a little bit of a tug at war but ed always wins i always i can't i can't keep up with that tug of war ed whips out like some special technique and i'm like oh god i can't focus right now magic magic mouth tricks the other thing that's really good about it is there's less focus on penetration there's more focus on the clitoris so really you're you're concentrating on what is making her feel good penetration is a little bit of a reciprocal act right you're feeling good she's feeling good maybe you don't know you hope she is but it starts to feel really good and sometimes you kind of forget about what she's feeling and that's not so good but with oral sex it's all about her with a focus on the clitoris and there's there's a secret about the clitoris that we're going to get into, if you don't know.
And as we've read, and as we said in the statistics, focusing on the clitoris is more likely to make her orgasm, which is great. Right. Risks. like all sexual activity, there are risks of oral transmission, of STIs, and HIV. So if you get an STI from oral sex, it's partly because you also had vaginal or anal sex.
and it would be because of factors like very poor oral health maybe you have some sores in your mouth you pre-ejaculate or ejaculate from an infected partner you've got contact with menstrual blood or the presence of other stis so as your dentist to tell you, brush and floss regularly so that you don't get an STI when you're giving oral sex. Yes. So if your gums are healthy, they can protect you from an STI. I'm not kidding you. As well as gingivitis and halitosis.
It all good in addition your risk of getting hiv from anal or vaginal sex is much higher so oral sex is a little bit safer and that's why we found that most swingers don't resort to dental dams right and condoms for sex. Besides the fact that latex tastes terrible, it's a lower risk. And from what I understand from the statistics, please check with your doctor. We are not medical professionals, but significantly lower risks. And you can find those statistics on the CDC. They have great information. Numbers, science. Yes. It's beautiful. It's a beautiful thing. The basics.
Every vagina is different. Yes, they are. And this is one of the best parts. Yeah. Looks.
So much clitoris all beautiful and interesting to look at never used to think that until you showed me that book of the top huh yes the book the guy who photographed all those people and took molds yes of their um impressions of all their flowers their vulva yeah i think the book was actually called vulva or something like that oh yeah i wish i yeah what's great about it and so a lot of women are self-conscious about what their vagina looks like a lot why is that ed well because porn has these neatly trimmed little labia now what the dirty truth is they were either born that way or they paid a surgeon to crop them yeah into what they thought was the ideal and i gotta tell you it really disturbs me that women are chopping up their vaginas to appeal to some aesthetic someplace because i can tell you at least from my perspective I've never met an ugly vagina.
Yeah. They're all beautiful. Labia. Vulva. Small lips, big lips, whatever. Raggedy lips. Nice, juicy, puffy lips. I know. It's all good.
It's fascinating's fascinating it's fascinating and they all feel good so what the hell is your problem why are you messing with something i i know it's weird how media and porn will will show you the perfect or what we think is perfect or normal and in the real world honestly it's it's not in fact i have seen the largest variety of cock in my life by being a swinger yeah had no clue the whole range i've been blessed with men that have had very similar size girth and length penises i don't know how maybe i'm the i don't know you're just a cock magnet i got lucky or something i don't know what it is so i mean i was never with a with a porn star penis like 11 inches i mean i am but not like well no i'm saying you actually had sex with a porn star oh i did i did oh and you know what i did have sex with a guy who was so long that he couldn't get it all in me only if it was anal which we did try and we did we did it we didn't just try it where there's a will there's a way there's a way you can get the whole thing oh you know what it was two people i was i was not two at the same time no okay because i was gonna I'll see you next time.
you know what it was two people i was i was not two at the same time no okay because i was gonna say that's happened recently but uh yeah there's two people yes but he wasn't the longest phoebe's had so much cock that she can't remember all of the cocks that she's had it was interesting when ed and i got together and we're like okay how many partners have you had four crickets ed's like are you still counting hold on crickets crickets ed's like uh i can count on one hand like really yeah she you know see those clicker things when you go into the auditorium she was like i'm like i'll come back when you're done because okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this Thank you.
okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this we were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples and it sails from montreal to boston during the peak foliage season. I'm super excited. And honestly, I'm really nervous. Yeah, it's kind of a version of like a swinger TED talk that we're going to have to do. Oh my God, I know. And more importantly, if you know the brand, it's LLV, Luxury Lifestyle Vacations. You may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats.
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their vacations are extremely popular so please come with us and in order to find it all you have to do is go to our swingerlinks.com and look for the llv sensual voyage we hope you'll join us i i don't i didn't ever i don't know i just thought i was normal I'll see you next time. i i don't i didn't ever i don't know i just thought i was normal maybe maybe it was you were extra special it was the side effect of being catholic girl for so long i don't know i had time i had to make up for lost time i said I thought all the girls had this much cock. Oh. Okay. Smells. Yes.
This is what women are, I think, most self-conscious about when they've got a guy with his face down there. Yes.
There's, I'll tell you right now,'s always a scent not a smell not a stink a scent oh i like the way you say this is okay every woman has a particular bouquet to her it's it's a strong delicious smell now yes there can be bad smells if it smells fishy or off and you'll smell it because it's very strong it only happens sometimes and that's usually only when there's an infection right yeah you've got a yeast infection or you've got a uti right other than that yeah there's always kind of a smell that you're going to smell a scent or bv yeah bv is the other one but but that we're talking about the exception those are infections right there's a colony of bacteria that have decided to invade and conquer.
And it makes sense because any infection in the body does have an odor. Right. I mean, you've cut yourself before or, you know, you've had something go on where there's an infection. It doesn't smell fresh, right? That's the byproduct of an infection.
Yeah yeah so the bacteria eat things and their gas that they give off has an odor to it so it's not pleasant okay that is not what we're talking about let's get off the bad odor totally but i think a lot of women feel like that's what any smell is right like it shouldn't smell like something it shouldn't smell like anything it should be like roses laundry detergent that fresh scent that comes with the dryer sheets no it shouldn't why because women smell and lick your arm before you put, you know, body spray on it or something. Right now. Skin has a taste to it.
There's something yummy about nibbling on somebody's lips or their neck or their earlobes, right? And if you start spraying a bunch of Axe body spray it it doesn't taste very good does it ladies so don't spray whatever the strippers put on that's like peaches and glitter yeah that's nuts it smells good when the strippers are doing it but not when you're eating it yeah so don't try and cover it up it's not a bad thing there's always a little bit of this like Thank you.
eating it yeah so don't try and cover it up it's not a bad thing there's always a little bit of this like moist lovely luscious earthy yum smell oh my god okay now that we're on the smell we're going to go through the rest of the senses. The other one is taste. Oh, my. So diet, hydration, medications, these can all affect your taste, right? Your flavor. Yeah. So if you eat things that are strong, you're going to taste strong.
This happens semen too so you know the whole story about eating pineapple to sweeten semen think about what you eat if you drink four cups of coffee a day you're probably going to taste a little strong so think about hydrating which is good for you anyway and eating good cleansing things that that help with your hydration and your taste right and just as a note i love the taste of vagina just saying you're always sticking your tongue in there every chance i can all right vulva anatomy you may have heard me mention the vulva earlier it is the outer part of the female genitals this includes the opening of the vagina or vestibule the labia majoraa, your outer lips, the labia menorah, the inner lips, and the clitoris.
The monus pubis, yeah. I never say that right. It's Latin. I know. I know. You and your language. Maybe you ought to talk about this because this is all like. This is the part I like. This is like your part. So here's the thing, right? You don't just jump straight to the clit. No. You kind of got to work up to it. Just like we said before, it's sensitive. You've got to coax the kitty out, right? We'll be right back.
don't just jump straight to the clit you kind of gotta work up to it just like we said before it's sensitive you've you've got to coax the kitty out right you can't just jump on the cat and start petting it you gotta coax it out be gentle yes offer it enticements so spend time kissing down her body, start at her neck, her ears, her lips, work down between her breasts, across her belly, down her thighs.
Then come back up and start working on the mound right above the vagina so don't go straight to the pussy work around the pussy around you gotta you gotta you can't just go straight for the belly you gotta work around it yes this warms her up it gets her ready for more direct contact yes this is the blood flow thing that i was talking about earlier as a woman gets more excited blood flows to her vagina her vulva the thing, the clitoris, the inner, the outer lips. They all start to fill up with blood. Why? Because they're getting ready for sex. So you've got to excite her and get her primed.
Plus, it's a tease. If you go straight to the vagina, you're not hinting to her that there's more to come. You've gone straight to the meal. Slow down and nibble around the edges before you get to the meat in the middle here's why we sail on virgin it's adults only no kids screaming at breakfast no family buffet lines just champagne at noon late night pool parties and people who actually want to be there. The vibe? Think boutique hotel that happens to float. Tattoo parlors, drag brunch, restaurants you'd actually pay for on land.
Plus, when you're looking to connect with other couples who know how to have fun, let's just say Virgin attracts a very specific type of adventurous no wonder bread cruisers here just your people it's kind of like that dessert you get at a really fancy restaurant i always that that drizzles the desserts in the center and then they drizzle all the chocolate or the raspberry stuff all over the plate in this nice decoration what do i always do take my finger and i swipe the drizzle and i lick it why because it's freaking good right and it's kind of like sticking your hand in the cookie dough or sticking your hand in the frosting you want i always want to taste what that tastes like first before i dig into the dessert exactly for some reason i don't know it's like an appetizer yeah it's like a precursor to what the dessert's gonna taste like with everything all together this way I get to taste a few little bits before I taste the whole thing.
Oh, and just, guys, like all of the parts of a woman are delicious, so you just want to nibble on all of them. So don't start with the first thing that you're thinking of.
Work it slow down you'll get there yeah let's talk about the labia majora the outer lips start by licking and nibbling on her outer lips we're not talking about biting although some women are into that little nibbles little licks outside what you're doing now is you are pulling more blood into the vulva into that surrounding tissue and priming her even more it starts to lubricate her, builds her excitement, primes her for more. Some women even enjoy a little pulling by sucking their lips into your mouth gently. Everything is gentle. Women are delicate flowers.
Treat treat them as such don't go hard this isn't rugby this is a ballet you're going gently yes although they may want that later when you're smacking them with the but don't give it to them up front right because i have seen it hard women want their vulva like whipped whipped or smacked with a a paddle there are women who are into that yes and even those women probably appreciate a little bit of foreplay. Right. I'm going to get up to that. Yeah. I can imagine it's a little bit like. Yeah. Good morning. Whack. Right. Somebody hitting you in the face with a two by four. Yeah. All right.
We've gone outer. Let's go inner. Inner. So we've worked the outside a little bit. Now we're going to move into the labia minora, the inner lips. You're getting closer, getting warmer. She's getting wetter. You're getting warmer. She's getting warmer. Spend some time licking up and down. So you're doing circuits around.
This isn't like round and round like don't get crazy don't be silly it's just slow up and down strokes don't do what you see in the cheap porn or the high school movies where they're like up up down down left right left right Yeah, don't do that stick to being gentle and kind of painting it like your tongue is a paintbrush oh that's nice more like karate kid where it's wax on wax off good one here's the trick use the flat part of your tongue so not the tip not the pointy part so if you stick your tongue out not the tip flicky part but the top part the part where you would lick an ice cream cone oh yes you don't lick with the tip of your tongue on an ice cream cone right you do this like a dog lick right yeah big flat broad you know i never flat tongue thought of that like why do we think we have to lick with the point of our tongue on a clitoris or vulva lemons you lick lemons like that i don't do we yeah i guess you kind of do you kind of like dip your tongue in you're like oh that's terrible right but we already know vagina tastes good so so why not ice cream cone it just the whole tongue okay so don't kiss her like this but lick her like this, right?
Because if you go up to your partner and you go, and you lick her full on, she's going to hopefully punch you in the face. But if not, she's at least going to give you a funny look. Slow, flat part of your tongue.
Not tip no tip not just the tip the whole tongue as much tongue as you can get the ice cream cone lick part of this is it's tickly it's it's like a fingertip yeah the tip yeah don't poke at something with a fingertip you don't scratch at it it's it's more like the palm of your hand right like if you want to pet a cat use the palm of your hand you don't use your fingertip and pet a cat your tongue is like your hand you're going to use the whole top of your tongue i could just see myself trying that analogy is great because it's like who in the right mind would like pet a cat with their fingertip but apparently we lick clits with our tongue tips all the time and that's a thing so don't do it thing use the whole top of your tongue oh my gosh that's great i'm that image is not going to leave my mind now petting a cat with your fingertip right you'd never do it clitoris let's talk about the clitoris a little bit down to the clitoris this is an interesting thing it never ages yeah even as you age it doesn't age it's like one of the it's either the only place or one of the only places that doesn't age the tissue doesn't age it's the fountain of youth yes we found it get your face in there and drink from the fountain of youth because it's never aging heck it's like it's like an 18 year old right there yes in your mouth and what's okay this is a little weird and this is going to totally turn off some guys but with enough hormones it can actually start to turn into a penis so the the erectile tissue in your penis and in the clitoris are actually the same biological thing but most women are not taking that much testosterone to turn into men and so this isn't really a thing but just to know biologically we all start out the same in the womb and as we develop depending on whether you get more which chromosomes you have and testosterone and oh i have a question i have something to say yeah go for it i was raising my hand just so that everybody knew to get ed's attention like i yes need to work that hard to get in Yeah, she doesn't have to do anything to get my attention.
She has my attention all the time. So I read that the tissue, even inside your nose, is very similar to the tissue on your clitoris and penis. in the sense, or, or maybe it's that they're, all I know is that they're connected somehow. So pay attention.
Next time you're having sex, if you feel like one nostril gets stuffy or closed off, it has to do with sex sex that tissue starts to respond to what's going on down between your legs and it will switch and once i read that i started to pay attention to it and it's true and it happens to me and it happens to ed well what's interesting is that the the neural pathways that run through your nose are connected to your pleasure sensors so often when i'm thinking really dirty thoughts i will sneeze what yeah it's a weird thing oh but wow there's something about the way that the nerves move so oh my all every time i'm sneezing i'm thinking dirty thoughts oh my so that whole thing about oh it's the sun making me sneeze that's just bullshit yeah no no that's true too but that's a totally different thing that's because the optical nerves and the olfactory nerves are close enough where they misfire yes that's a that's a thing that does happen it does happen there's actually a condition yeah that condition.
I don't remember what it is. But we are getting way off track. Way off track, but... But nerves are funny things. Yes. The clitoris can grow as much as two and a half times bigger as you age. So as you get older, it continues to to grow here's another fun fact the sole purpose of the clitoris is pleasure there's nothing else like it on the body that's pretty cool which is why all these horrible people do mutilations yeah because it's terrible I don't know.
which is why all these horrible people do mutilations yeah because it's terrible because control oh yeah so even the the head of the penis has kind of like two purposes when it it directs things right like it's it's the downspout right for things to leave repopulating right so it's it's got a hole in it that does something but the clitoris doesn't have a hole women do not pee out of it if you don't know that you do now he does not come out of the clitoris it comes out of the urethra which is below the clitoris and above the vaginal opening all right wait what's the second thing for the penis let's see if you know it you said the penis has two functions the head the head oh well peeing and ejaculate oh i just wasn't going to go to pee thing oh okay i was i was gonna go to the to the coronal ring and the frenulum frenulum it's designed to do that thing with your hand again oh what are you doing it did look like i was uh-huh you were you, huh?
I felt it from way over here. I felt it. But the shape of your head is designed to pull out competing sperm. Yes. We learned that at the sex museum in New York. Yes. Very fun. Great. You should get a chance. Go there. When you're outside in the real world again and you can go to New York and travel and anyway. Clitoris is very sensitive. For most women, there are 8,000 nerve endings, double that of a penis. So you know how sensitive your penis is, guys? Women's clitoris is twice as sensitive. Good God.
And it's too sensitive at first, which is why you don't go poking it with your fingertip don't pet the cat with your fingertip use the palm other women like their clits really worked over but yeah go slow listen to what she wants and even a woman who wants it hard and fast isn't going to turn down a nice, slow warm-up. Right. And if she wants it faster, she's going to tell you. She's like, beat that shit. Right. Work it. But going slow, always a good first move. Yes. Okay. Here's the mind-blowing part.
this is now we're getting now we're gonna go deep into the clitoris oh my goodness deep into the vulva newsflash it's not just that little tip pointy thing so that little bump that sticks out that's not the only part of the clitoris. Okay. Go Google this. After you Google your partner, Google this. After you Google your partner? Yeah, it always sounds dirty when you say go Google this. Oh, you Googled me. Oh. Right? Like that sounds dirty like that sounds dirty does it oh it does you can google me later so look up as i bust phoebe up do a search for clitoris legs on the internet.
This is a podcast.
This is an an auditory thing so it's going to be hard for me to describe it to you but i'm going to do my best the clitoris actually has bulbs or legs that travel down along behind the labia menorah and majora so i did it i broke phoebe oh god you know when you have it a had a really stressful day or week or month or year because of covid and somebody just says something or they look at you just off and you just lose it and you get the giggles and you can't ever come back uh that's what happened okay i think i'm fine now deep breath so the best way to describe of it is think of the clitoris as your penis and that your legs kind of come down from your hips, right?
Well, a woman's clitoris kind of works the same way. They call them legs because they travel down. So think of these things as these meaty bundles of nerves that run around the opening of the vagina. So penetrative sex does stimulate the opening, that outer rim. And in a sense, it is stimulating the clit because those legs are being stimulated as you rub over them, as you penetrate. That's why some women orgasm with vaginal sex, penetrative sex, because their clitoral legs are more sensitive than the clit.
Well, it could be just as sensitive as the clitoral tip the head but the point is that they're more sensitive to that kind of stimulation right so your mileage will vary different women are stimulated in different ways and so don't just focus on the top that's why why licking around kind of warms things up. So think of it as a nice protected clitoris. It's buried inside of some of her labial flesh, as well as the underlying skin and tissue. So it's not quite as sensitive. But when you lick up and down, you're still stimulating all of those nerves. My goodness.
Which is why you need to spend time exploring around the vulva, not just attacking the clit. So this isn't a tiny target. Turns out it's a big target it's a big target you can spend all day down there yeah can't lose communication this is the one time where you should ask for directions right your guy your girl whoever you are how do you like it wanting to enjoy some oral pleasure ask subtle clues or outright instructions are great um her reactions to what you're doing is key. If your partner is pushing into you, thrusting her hips, grabbing your arm, wiggling around, it probably feels good.
Although some wiggling could be not good, but typically it's good.
Typically it's the pelvis trying to tip down and pull away versus tip up into push into your face yeah if i don't like something i'm tipping down and trying to get away run away too much too intense yes so i pulling away is too intense you should probably slow down ease off a bit and it's it's part of the challenge to listen and to learn you know what your partner wants and needs all of those life coaches talking about being a good listener this is part of being a good listener verbal and non-verbal communication listen and women feel okay with telling him more of that less of this right there.
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If you like it, she'll like it. If you're excited, we talk about this all the time. Enthusiasm is sexy. If you really like eating pussy, that's pretty hot. And she's going to like that. Right. Positions. What do we got? We got some fun positions. Yeah. So there's the traditional missionary, right? Lying your back. She's lying backwards. You're down there between her legs, hands on her thighs, hand on her belly, underneath her butt. There's a variety of hand positions at this point. Can I get a foot rub in there or something?
I think that's one of them but oh that'd be nice bottoms up pillow under her hips ed in the back phoebe as a toy or a hand or nothing and you can kind of grind against the pillow or towel yeah so this is kind of the the doggy style of oral sex so if you she can get her hips tipped up you can kind of crack her open like a peach oh my gosh yes and just get all the juice oh my Oh, my. My goodness. Sidewinder. Phoebe's favorite. I was going to talk about that earlier. When you're talking about nibbling on the labia minora.
It's where your partner is perpendicular with one leg bent over the other partner and the other leg is straight. And so your lips and her lips match, mash up or match up. Kind of like mash up. Right.
This is kind of the side side by side 69 right but she has no access to your parts right yeah face sitting one of my favorites yes so particular favorite you lay straight on the bed have a good headboard something with handholds ours has handholds and it's bolted very securely bolted talking like grade eight bolts yes because once she starts rocking and she can control the pressure she can control the direction and in a sense Thank you.
rocking and she can control the pressure she can control the direction and in a sense she's using your face as a toy yeah and it's great yeah put your tongue out there nice and flat sometimes you can get a finger in there as well but but she's riding and rocking her hips. I love it because it's very impassioned. Yes. And as a side note, our headboard is not attached to the bed. So if you remove the bed, the headboard is just stuck to the wall.
i had to make sure that thing was bolted down because you know and it has little finger holds like so i can get my fingers behind it so that well you got multiple handles well that's true all over it yes it's like it's like jungle gym yes but and cleverly disguised like It looks like a normal headboard. Yes. You wouldn't know that it was a sex toy. No, you wouldn't know. Except for maybe the glowing lights behind it. That's a whole other thing. Yes. Sexy time.
Commanding another position that i love where ed is on his knees with his face between my legs yeah so she's standing in front of me and i've got my hands on her buttocks squeezing and pressing her vagina into my mouth, and it's fabulous. Now, Phoebe likes it because she likes coming while standing up. Yeah. I just like eating pussy, so I'll take it any way I can get it.
I love it because I can move more freely, and I really like being able able to look down it's easier to look down when you're standing than to you know pull your head up have the weight yeah and you know as strong as your abs and your core are it's like you're you're also trying to relax but now you're doing a crunch So it's like it's this battle, so you don't run. So planks are not good for sex? No. Yeah, all right. Well, I mean, they are, but... But not while you're doing sex? No. Okay. Although you are pretty much in a plank every time you're on top. Yeah, that's...
Like I said, I'll take it any way I can get it. Stacked flapjack, front to back. Phoebe's back, I'm. What? What is this, Ed? Yeah.
So this is a fun fun position if you haven't tried this try this so guy lay down on the bed and have your woman kind of like an inverted 69 so if it would be 69 if she flipped over onto her belly flip her onto her back and then it's it's basically she's riding your face but she's laying back across your chest stomach and legs it's kind of fun because she's laying there and she can grab your ankles and hold on to you and you get to like lean forward and eat her out and for those who are into it you could also eat ass that way at the same time so oh there is that yeah there is that oh my let's talk about some techniques some specific techniques first everyone should be relaxed and comfortable as phoebe said trying to do a crunch or a plank while you're doing all this stuff it's not comfortable you're not relaxed being tense will not work you cannot orgasm if you are under stress no not under stress tensing your body.
Well, a lot of times tensing my body helps me orgasm. Well, muscular tension is different than psychological tension or discomfort. So squeezing those Kegel exercises, et cetera, those are good. We're not talking about that kind of gotcha about like being tense teetering on a thing i mean what if you're like tense and you just need a release well yeah but you still got to kind of if you're anxious like relax about it before an interview i'm anxious i'm nervous nervous. I guess you could kind of say it's tense and I would always. You got to relax at some point to orgasm.
Well, yeah, but it kind of helps me relax. So I don't know. Well, try it. Maybe tense is good. Write us and tell us about your tense orgasm experiences. Intense. Well, there's that too. We'd love to hear about intense orgasms as well. Oh, yes. Start slow and gentle and way above the vagina. Kissing, touching, squeezing her body.
With ladies, there's foreplay to the foreplay get her excited then work your way down town pace there's something kind of like the previous one we were talking about an intensity in a building it's a crescendo this is kind of like you're back in band and you got to build up to the crescendo you have to keep up a pace that you can maintain for a while fun fact it can take 20 to 45 minutes for some ladies so that 15 minute orgasm that you have will take her 20 to 45 minutes ladies are a little slower you gotta work through them so pick a position pick a technique that you can maintain for a while because you're going to be there for a while we like to take our time It's good build up speed and pressure when she asks for it or when you can sense her excitement rising she grabs your head she's grabbing the bed sheets she's making noises whatever those are i really like when they grab my head and pull on me oh that's very nice i do it but i didn't know you really liked it oh i like it oh make me eat you flat slow strokes with the tongue remember don't be a poker more like licking an ice cream cone got it don't focus on the clit too much at first lick around her pussy nibble her lips slowly enter her vagina with your tongue don't jab it in there just like don't jam your dick in there go slow gotta rub it around a little bit make sure the juices are going oh i like when you do that then start outside first then inside and clit yeah you can bring in backup folks oh use your fingers use your fingers gently in a come hither motion as this stimulates her g-spot this is my favorite you can use toys as well her favorite toy and then you can focus on licking around the toy, licking around her vagina and her clitoris.
Play, experiment, try new things after you're both comfortable. Ask her what she likes. She may already have her favorite flavor of ice cream. So have her tell you. My goodness. I know. Gives me all kinds of ideas. Oh, my. You might as well continue because this is your episode. I think someone's thinking about dessert later in closing remember this is all supposed to be fun for everyone so have a good time relax enjoy she should be ready to relax and let you pleasure her. So go have some fun. I'm so relaxed. I haven't even touched you yet. I know. My God. Yet. Let's go. All right.
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