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That was quick. I think I had more foreplay with, I know I had more foreplay with him than she had with you, but she rarer to go she just wanted you to stick it in yeah she was that was hilarious it was a little head and then straight to the bed you're listening to swinger university with ed and phoebe offering you the naked facts about swinging here are your hosts ed and phoebe hi this is ed and this is phoebe today we're talking about what women prefer in a cock, Johnson, Pecker, or Peter. Swinging provides a view Today we're talking about what women prefer in a cock.
Johnson, Pecker, or Peter. Swinging provides a view of all shapes and sizes, plus the opportunity to fuck them. Yes, today we're going to be talking about women's preference. Other factors, the advantages of a big dick, the disadvantages of a big dick. Is a big dick a kink, novelty, party favor? And then there's the relationship factor. So, women's preference. I don't know, you're going to have to tell me about that because I can't speak for that.
There's a lot of people in the world, but there's penis the size they well they prefer 6.3 to 6.4 inches now i i don't know why they prefer this if it's just the narrative that, you know, has spanned the 70 years that we talked about in our first episode about dick sizes, but that's what women said. But there's a little more to come on that. The other thing that was interesting was that women said this, oh my God, this blew my mind, but it makes sense because I feel the same way that a flaccid penis is more attractive. Wow.
So all the dick pics that are floating around on the internet, they're just doing it wrong. Absolutely. Okay. So they're doing it wrong. Take it down. Yeah. And then take the picture. Yes. All right. All right.
The natural just hanging out, chilling, you know, and they, They said anything less than three inches flaccid the attractiveness level declines so if you're if you're at least three inches flaccid then you're you're good to go right you're waving the right flag i guess so so other factors visual women prefer a relatively larger penis proportional to body size especially circumference apparently and there was a study done where women were given a 3D model to look at, and they picked above average, but honestly, not by much.
And I will preference, you know, I'm not sure where they got this average number in this study, because the average penis isn't 6.3 inches. Um, but for long-term sexual partners, their length preference was 6.3 for long-term sexual partners. Girth preference was 4.8 inches. And one-time sexual partners length preference 6.4 like you know 0.1 difference right that's and pretty insignificant yeah that's like an eighth of an inch yes and then one-time sexual partners girthth, circumference, five inches versus 4.8. You could even argue that's way below standard deviation statistically. Yeah.
Like, that's not really a difference. Yes. There you go. Yes. I will admit I didn't dive deep into the scientific studies on this as much as I did the dick podcast that we did, the dick size podcast, because honestly, there just wasn't enough studies to dive into for women's preferences. Right. Well, and it's also preference and not like a statistical measurement of averages. True. This would be a feeling about what they like. True. And preference is fed by all the stuff you read and you're programmed and, you know, to see, to believe, to hear, blah.
Hence the 70 year myth that i was talking about earlier right right so uh what was also interesting is that penis size when it was written about in erotica actually didn't elicit any you know type of arousal one way or other. It didn't really matter what the penis size was in your romance novel. They were still turned on. So they had a big one, a small one, whatever. Didn't matter. I can imagine as she's reading the story, she's picturing the one that she wants. Probably.
Or even just the fact that he's aroused or throbbing yes in his manhood area or whatever yes that's robbing adjective i love that one all right so big dick advantages will you want to tell them what a big dick advantage is like sure i can i can speak uh i can speak for the women so to speak um a lot of women feel that it it feels good to have something larger probably and from what i've heard more of the girth than necessarily length. Correct. For some, not a few of our play partners. Yeah, yeah.
Well, you know, we've had a few play partners where they were like, not, I don't know, they left surprised.
surprised uh yeah yeah we have anecdotally heard that yeah they weren't as happy with the size and uh have decided not to sample it a second time right yeah i used to size so for me it's normal and so I was a bit surprised but you know I was too because I didn't think I was rough or no inconsiderate or I thought plenty a foreplay and excitement going on but hey there are different sizes for different people that's that's true so so which leads into some women like that stretching of the vaginal opening which actually puts more pressure on the deeper structures of the vulva and the clitoral carura.
I love that word. Carura, I think it is. And the vestibular bulbs. So all those nice parts of the vulva and the clitoral glands is actually more stimulated by penis movement. So if you have a highly sensitive vulva area with all those nice parts that get stimulated, then yay team for you. You might like that stretching feeling or maybe if you're smaller and you like that stretching feeling, which doesn't really make sense why that evening didn't go so well if you were stretching her. But I don't under, maybe it wasn't that at all. It was secondhand knowledge. I don't know. Who knows?
It may have been something completely different. Maybe my breath was bad. I don't know. Maybe. So the clitoral carura, the vestibularular bulbs and the clitoral glands all have pressure sensitive mechanoreceptors that detect stretch sensations and apparently variability in circumference wow it's a stretch-o-meter yes so i was like what the heck i learned. I always learn something new when we do these podcasts. So if you don't like to be stretched, then maybe you could entertain anal. Although that does stretch you also. There's stretching involved with both ends, yes.
See, but anal does have advantages. So, you know, for especially length, right? Because if you can't get in all the way, then, you know, you've got anal and I like anal. So, you know, it's good. There is always that, which actually is an amazing segue to big dick disadvantages. Correct. Correct. If it's too thick, you can't get it all the way in your mouth. Unless your jaw dislocates, which is, you know, reserved for the anacondas. Yes.
But you, you know, you can use hands and things like that which i do and ladies i mean vaginas are only so long right so the aroused average depth of a vagina is anywhere from two to four inches two inches i was like shocked and around i mean but that's the low scale right and then an average aroused vagina that was the unaroused yes that was the unaroused two to four the aroused depth is three to six and then uh some women can accommodate seven to eight Wow So those are the women in porn Who just really like The big hammer some women can accommodate seven to eight wow so those are the women in porn who just really like the big hammers just banging away wondering how they did that they have a deep vagina deeper deeper vaginas although i will say some of the bad porn porn that i don't like watching that sometimes you don't know is going to be bad porn but you're clicking through and you see a woman's face and you can say see this slight little wisp of pain cross her face it's so subtle pinching yeah it's so subtle but as a woman i recognize that that expression and i go oh she is not enjoying that at all right she is totally covering that up right that's that's that oh my ovaries oh my yeah my cervix and then oh yeah and then she covers it with a smile and a and a moan and i'm like oh yeah fuck that shit next so oh oh oh we're not done with disadvantages let's see oh this is what i don't like this is your favorite right i like when there's pelvis to pelvis grinding right yeah your pelvis is grinding on my vulva it's stimulating right yeah got the rough a little bit of rough you know hair and you you kind of pinch or press the clitoris between the two bodies uh-huh you get that I don't know.
got the rough a little bit of rough you know hair and you you kind of pinch or press the clitoris between the two bodies uh-huh you get that rubbing pressing it's it's a very firm pressure yeah yeah and and i've had sex with the two men that were really long and and it was very unsatisfying for me because it was almost like they were standing across the room having sex with me. Could you come closer, please? It was different. It was very, I'm like, oh, I can't get my arms around you. Like, oh, oh. That's a very large penis. Yeah, it was not my favorite experience.
And then you don't get all the the sex smacking noises right right getting the the ball smacking the all the moisture slopping smacking i mean that's fucking hot i love the sounds sounds are great right and then you know there anal. And we're back to the anal, folks. I guess that's the only place that you can take the whole thing, especially with some of these very unusually large penises that you see in porn. Yeah. Yeah. So this podcast is really about anal. And there's. No, just kidding. So some people, I think, maybe have a big dick kink, right?
You get into lifestyle and it's all about novelty and, you know, connections, but novelty is a high factor. The novelty of the place, you know, the different people, all that, the situation, blah, all the different opportunities. And so one study states that there is this, you know, reduced emotional connection at a sex party that you're going to have with your partner, right?
You know, if you're doing the one night stand with somebody, you met them that night, or maybe you only met them a few times and you don't really have that type of rapport women might prefer a larger penis for that increased sensation because the emotional connection isn't there. Right. And the novelty, of course, is also going to increase the sensation. Yes. Almost the penis SIBO effect, like a placebo effect. Nice. And, you know, it's like a Corvette or a Ferrari. They're not particularly great for the gas mileage. They're fun to drive on occasion. Yeah. So see, yeah.
So it's not practical, but you'll take it out for a spin. Yeah, no, there are women in the lifestyle that are very specific with their preferences and they do, there's a name for them, just like there's a name for a unicorn and a stag and a cuckold and all that, all these names, right? So I learned, I don't know, about a month ago, there's a definition for a woman who only prefers an above average size dick, usually eight inches and eight inches plus and thick. But, you know, she's probably going to have different preferences, but she's called a size queen. Right. And I was like, what is that?
And so then i had to look that up so i didn't even know that and some women will only play with men that have that specific requirement and a size queen diva is the woman that won't play with anybody but that size like She has to have it there is no variation there you go yeah so they added the diva part in there yeah so that narrows your opportunities quite a bit in the lifestyle i mean you already have narrowed opportunities anyway because you're trying to do the four-way match or a three-way match and trying to coordinate around babysitters and whose house and parties and events and who's sick and who like, right.
I mean, it's practically impossible. And now you've got another factor, but if you can do it, you can do it. You know what, if you're, if if you're gonna go a particular way and you've got that preference then set your bar then those are the women that want to see your dick pic yes they don't want a flaccid dick pic they want the full dick which is interesting because that also limits those people from potentially other partners. Because if that's their advertising, their calling card, a lot of people don't want to see that on a profile. Right.
But maybe it's a hidden pic and they just advertise it and they don't necessarily put the picture up on their profile. So there you maybe that's the solution yeah maybe that's the solution so there's this relationship factor also that where long-term relationships women who are in you know long-term relationships 55 reveal that their partner's length is not that important she loves you anyway exactly exactly and and 85 percent And that's...
percent reveal that their partner's length is not that important she loves you anyway exactly exactly and and 85 of them are satisfied with their partner's penis size and this is why sex is so great with your partner because of the attachment and the emotional connection that you have with them it's it really is honestly how you use it right and we've had this conversation i've had this conversation with play partners before about the the challenges with orgasming with play and you hit all my buttons like it's really easy relatively easy for me to to come when I'm having sex with Phoebe, but it's really challenging with another partner because they don't move the right way.
The rhythm is off. It doesn't feel the same. It's just, it's just not Phoebe. Right. You know, so it's different. It's, it's different enough where you don't have the rhythm, which is why we talk about, uh, getting to know your partner really well and then going and playing at a sex party. It's not competitive. It's not the same.
Like your partner, your primary partner is not going to be replaced by some random person at a party because the sex honestly is it's fun yeah but it's it's pretty hard to beat what your own partner can do on a pretty regular basis oh yeah definitely and you know there's not a whole lot of foreplay at a party um when you meet someone for the first time or even the second time yeah tends not to be tends to be a little bit more heat of the moment throw the clothes off jump on the bed right like the last time oh yeah that was really quick that was quick i think i had more foreplay with i know i had more foreplay with him than she had with you but she was raring to go she just wanted you to just stick it in yeah she was that was hilarious it was a little head and then straight to the bed that was another good line ed all right well women generally don't care about penis size no more than men care about the size of your labia.
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