Want to send us a message? 🌟 Step into the exhilarating world of the Folsom Street Fair with Swinger University. Join hosts Ed and Phoebe as they take you on a journey through this celebration of sexual liberation and openness, where self-expression knows no bounds. From public displays of affection to kink demonstrations, this episode dives deep into the heart of one of the world s most unique events. Explore the no-judgment atmosphere, connect with fellow attendees, and learn how this experience can empower individuals to embrace their sexuality.📢 Discover personal accounts, witness extraordinary kinks, and gain insights from the diverse individuals Ed and Phoebe encounter. Whether you re a seasoned swinger or just curious about the lifestyle, this episode sheds light on the power of sexual freedom and self-discovery.Highlights:👉 00:00 - Introduction to Folsom Street Fair and hosts Ed and Phoebe.👉 05:45 - The unique and liberating atmosphere of Folsom Street Fair.👉 11:20 - Observing the spectrum of kinks and self-expression.👉 18:12 - Interviews with attendees sharing their thoughts on the fair.👉 25:36 - A look at public sex and its acceptance at the event.👉 30:55 - Meeting sex therapist Yub Kim and discussing shame and stigma.👉 36:40 - Listener questions on introducing swinging to a partner.👉 43:20 - Tips for starting a conversation about swinging with your partner.👉 49:10 - Exploring the Swinger University YouTube channel for more resources.Join Swinger University s open-minded community, and don t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode. Your support helps us continue breaking down stigmas and promoting sexual positivity. Share your thoughts and experiences with us at swingeruniversity.com or by leaving a voicemail at 916-538-0482. Keep learning, growing, and embracing your sexual journey with Swinger University.👍 Like, ✅ Subscribe, and 📣 Share this eye-opening episode to celebrate sexual liberation and promote open conversation!Sourceshttps://www.folsomstreet.org/https://www.thechaingang.com/blog/effective-ball-stretching-guide-for-beginners/ Support the showWant More?👀 Watch on YouTube: YouTube ShowFull video versions and interactive live episodes!Bonus episodes, exclusive content, and 🌶️Extras: https://www.patreon.com/SwingerUniversity 🛳️🎉Looking for lifestyle events in your area? T4P is the go-to directory for clubs, parties, and resort events. Browse now at Ticket4Play.com Custom SU T-shirts and gear: Our Amazon StoreSwingerLinks.com - live schedule, special offers*, and our 🌶️links!Our Website - Leave us a message, articles, and sexy products3 Ways to get your question on our show:RECORD it on our website at: https://swingeruniversity.com/contact/EMAIL a recorded voice note to: [email protected]: (916) 538-0482 and leave a voicemail.* We get a commission if you decide to purchase through our links, at no cost to you.
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Join us as we explore the exciting world of ethical non-monogamy, sexual health, and sex education with an intellectual and sexy twist. Remember to subscribe to our podcast and YouTube channel. Be sure to join our Patreon community for the behind-the-scenes stories and extra sexy content. And if you like our show, do us a favor and tell a friend about it. We hear all the time how our podcast helps others. So in the spirit of swinging, please share. All right, everyone. What is the Folsom Street Fair? The fair is an all-day celebration of sexual liberation and openness.
It is in a six-block radius where pretty much anything goes. There is no judgment. There is no stigma. And we actually had the pleasure of going this year. And we've been hesitant every single year, a bit timid about going. And we went. We did it. And we're going to tell you a little bit more about it. To be clear, we weren't timid about what was going to happen there. We were timid because of the crowds and the size and kind of just the overwhelming nature of how many people were packed in this maze of booths and sexual frenzy.
Right, and i honestly i i didn't know what to expect it's it's no different than when you first started out swinging you're sure freaked out you're thinking the worst right you think the classic throw the keys in the bowl walk in the door and all of a sudden you're naked and everyone attacks you right no it wasn't anything like that and it was you know in my imagination far far more uh not scary but you know i was a little more worked up about it than i needed to be because i didn't know yeah fulsome street fair is not much different than any you know art and wine festival but just changed the art out for other things, dildos, leather.
And the wine was being served, and there were lots of cool cocktails and all kinds of fun stuff. Cocktails. And cocktails. There was tails and lots of cocks. Folsom Street is a non-profit arts and cultural organization. It cultivates that safe, open, and inclusive environment for the kink, leather, and alternative sexual community while centering equity for the BIPOC and the LGBTQA2I plus people.
If you're interested in learning more about this organization, go to Folsomulsomestreet.org and we will put that link in the show notes for you who attends ed everybody there's all flavors of sexual preference and orientation and hobbies interests so So anything from, like you said, the kink community to the gay and lesbian community to the transsexual community, we saw a fair number of swingers there. Yes. We saw some people who looked very vanilla. Oh, yes.
But who knows how vanilla they were just because they were dressed i don't know conservatively right right you have no idea why they were there or what their what happens behind their bedroom doors exactly we've saw and met people from all over the united states and all over the world yeah there were there was a group of people that we spent a little bit of time talking with, taking some pictures with from Glasgow, Scotland. Yes. And we connected with them. It was great. It was fun listening to their accents and hearing something a little different than our normal American accents.
She was blonde and in a black leather bodysuit with fishnet stockings and her doll was in full a full latex doll costume the japanese anime mask big huge anime head honestly i mean this was a full suit you could not see the person at all yeah head to toe covered it was fascinating and there's some pictures on our social media if you're interested in looking at those we saw just about everything um one of the first gentlemen that we ran across we got there early we got there 10 30 about 10 30 ish or so so people were starting to roll in but the crowds weren't there which was nice because we got to see the booze and we kind of got to interact with people and not feel like we were being crowded yes so the first guy we met was uh mr purple balls guy we'll call him that because he'd caged and stretched his junk to the point where it looks like he'd cut the circulation off um it's a kink it's this aesthetic that he was going for uh he finds it pleasurable he had a very large chain kind of hanging and suspending from his yes junk he was claiming that it extended his orgasms, which was interesting, and that it increased his stamina.
Now, I could kind of see that if he was desensitized and used to having lots of kind of tension or pressure on his penis. But I don't know how good that is i mean typically they'll tell you not to wear a cock ring for longer than 20 minutes because cutting the circulation off for longer than that isn't good like you can cause tissue damage so i do wonder if he's done some long-term tissue damage but he seemed to enjoy it like that, that was his thing. And it was fascinating. It was a gorgeous setup, clamp. Right. I'm not sure if it's, do you just call it a clamp?
Because clamped more than just around his balls, he had a hole for his penis. So his penis came out the front. Right. And then his balls went down below. Yeah, there is a picture of this on our social media. So if you're curious about what this guy's equipment looked like his balls were the size of it was like a bigger than a fist like a big fist almost the size of both my fists yeah yeah it was fascinating he found it pleasurable and and extended his orgasms i did a little reading on it, and I found that some of those claims to be written on the website, whether it's true or not.
I don't know. I haven't talked to enough people, but if you have, please let us know because I am fascinated by this.
Yeah, and if you happen to be this gentleman, also write to us and tell us how your experience was that day being yanked around by your chain uh we wandered a little bit further down the road and there was a small inflatable pool yep and there were four or five gentlemen sitting in there some of them in uh ski masks some in latex some just some with goggles i think yeah yeah for sure this was with a particular group of gentlemen who were part of a black and yellow bandana group so within the gay community there's a a kind of a color code for different colored bandanas in terms of communicating what you're into this goes way back right this goes?
This goes way back, yeah. Like into the 20s and 30s? Is this where that's going?
I don't know how far it goes back, but it goes back a long way as a secret form of communication so that when they were at events or in public spaces where they didn't want to verbally say what they were into, they could kind of secretly code out what they were into which was kind of cool you'd match up with who who matched your color preference yeah swingers have tried this at parties but it doesn't really seem to take off much yeah the the different color wristbands to indicate you know full swap soft swap right and you're right yeah it meh your mileage will vary.
Well, it's been much more successful than for the LGBTQ community. If you don't know what the yellow bandana was for, it's for golden showers or piss play. So they were sitting in a pool and people could come up and sprinkle them. Sprinkle. How can you say that? Sprinkle. I've seen a few comments through social media where people were taking advantage of that situation and utilizing their pool. Had I known that, I probably would have done it. Yeah, that's been a thing recently for you to consider. For some reason, it's very powerful. And I don't have a problem with that for some reason.
I know a lot of people will be like, oh my God, right? But you have to understand, I grew up so conservative that you didn't even pee in a public bathroom until everyone left because that's how embarrassing it was to hear somebody hear you peeing was really embarrassing you'd never peed next to somebody in the other stall until they left i mean there's a little bit of a bro code where you like skip a urinal, but yeah, that's pretty, that's pretty extreme. You never knew that about me. I did not know that.
And so now being an avid backpacker and just dropping trowel and going when you need to, because when you got to go, you got to go. Being an exhibitionist, I thought that was a missed opportunity for me. Yeah. Yeah.
It could have been an interesting experience for you to have okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this we were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples and it sails from montreal to boston during the peak foliage season i'm super excited and honestly i'm really nervous yeah it's kind of a version of like a swinger ted talk that we're gonna have to do oh my god i know and more importantly if you know the brand it's llv luxury lifestyle vacations you may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats this ship the crystal symphony is classy butler service for every single room michelin rated restaurants full spa clothing optional sensual playrooms like everything Thank you.
Butler service for every single room, Michelin rated restaurants, full spa, clothing optional, sensual playrooms, like everything, theme nights and international DJ. So it's luxury and nudity? Oh, man, this is going to be great. The bottom line is we want you there with us. It's 310 couples and like all their vacations, they book up fast. They really do. Their vacations are extremely popular. So please come with us. And in order to find it, all you have to do is go to our swingerlinks.com and look for the LLV Sensual Voyage. We hope you'll join us. There wasn't all just kinky stuff there.
There was some go-go dancers that they had organized up on little individual stages. And they would rotate out all different shapes and sizes. Men, women.
One of the women had a full mastectomy she was rocking her full body and that was great and entertaining they also had sex positive vendors and sex therapists and all the toys that you talked about leather stuff the jewelry um erotic art they had someone was making tiles and i mean it was yeah the the paintings on the metal and paintings on tile in the beginning when we very first got there and i'm glad we saw this because you wouldn't have been able to see it later because of the crowds we got to see a pony parade which was really fun um everybody had pretty elaborate costumes uh their their outfits were amazingly detailed they went into all kinds of you know elaborate manes and hooves um some ponies were pulling carts for their their masters and um it was probably 30 or 40 people in the parade it was a pretty good 40 i think and they went down one side of the street and then they did a turn around and came back the other way and we got to see both of them and we'll include footage in this episode so that you guys can get to see the pony parade there was also public sex and lots of it we didn't get to see as much right because as the fair day progressed it got more crowded and so sometimes you you just couldn't move very quickly from location to location where some of these things were occurring but um guys giving head um and ladies and ladies um men and women fucking doggy style right on the street.
Right. And people being dominated. There was a couple men being fisted by one man. Both hands. Wow. Right in the center of where their crossroads met. It was phenomenal, a phenomenal display of kink and sex and passion and expression. It was just, the overall feeling was really wonderful because it felt so judgment-free and so relaxing. Yeah, very liberated.
Like, everybody there was there to have a good time, and it may not have been their kink or their particular thing, but, like, nobody was making fun of or, you know, degrading or, well, I mean, maybe intentionally degrading because that was part of the kink but it it was all about people's personal expression and how they express their sexuality and everybody was there to just observe and celebrate that and support everybody else and it was it was super cool and i will say i think this is the largest event i've been to where everyone self-policed themselves right because honestly i didn't see a police presence anywhere and if they were there i couldn't tell there were very few um they were wandering around occasionally.
I did see a few officers, but you're right. It wasn't like they weren't at the entrances. They weren't like in heavy force. It's also interesting because I've been to a lot of like large events. And typically when people start drinking and having a lot of fun, people get reckless or rowdy and bad things happen. Right. people bump into each other they start fights things like that that did not happen here that we observed or that we heard and we were there till late in the afternoon so we didn't stay till the end at six but we stayed there probably till, I think, four or so.
It is part of the community. The King community, the BDSM community, which was largely enforced there, they don't drink. They don't do drugs when they are involved in scenes or anything that involves consent, really. Right. Um, as swingers, we should do the same but we we don't yeah everyone was fully aware fully present and that's partially there were there like we said there's a large spectrum of people who were there so not everyone was of the kink persuasion, but everybody seemed to be at least maintaining some level of... Civility? Yeah, and not... Sobriety? Disorderly conduct. Right.
Who else did we run into there? Well, we ran into some flogging. There were a number of kink booths set up where they had flogging demonstrations. You could volunteer to be flogged if you wanted something to be checked off of your list. You'd never tried it before. There were doms there that were more than happy to help facilitate that expression and let you try it out. We saw some suspension work really early on in the day, which was fantastic. They had very large kind of A-frames set up. Massive. And people were hanging from them.
The rope masters were tying them up in different ways and adjusting them and putting pressure on their bodies, flogging them with the rope. It was fascinating to see two or three of those different A-frames set up and how each one was a little bit different and each person, the way that they performed or expressed was different. Right. So it was quite a show. The one you and I observed was fascinating to me because he was so quick at his craft. Oh, yeah. And he knew it like the back of his hand.
And that extra weight that he added to her body by crawling on top of her body and hanging from the top was phenomenal. I'd never seen anything like that. No, we'd never had. And just as quickly as he got up there and did that and then he was done and started then unwinding her in the same way that he put her up there. It was a full reverse of everything he did before. So, it was amazing. I thought it was art and erotic all at the same time. Yeah. We ran into some of our local friends there, which was great.
We went with some friends and hung out with them most of the day and helped them with their outfit. We've got pictures, once again, in social media of a lot of that. A full shabari corset. Yeah, with a chain skirt. It was really cool.
About three to four hours of work to get that on yeah at least and yeah so local swingers hung out with them uh got to talk to them we interviewed a group of four swingers and i'll put that excerpt in here so that you can hear what we talked to them about and get their piece of this we're interviewing a couple people some some listeners and we wanted to ask them about their feelings about the Folsom Street Fair so here we are say hi everybody so what do you guys think of the Folsom Street Fair why do you enjoy it what does it bring out for you I love the sex positivity I love the no judgment.
I love that we can all enjoy different things and get off on different things. And it's all awesome. Nice. Nice. Every time I come here, I learn something new. Not only about just this environment, but about myself. Nice. Because I feel free and open when I'm here. Very cool. Very cool. How about you, gentlemen? Authenticity. People are here trying to be who they want to be. Right. Not who they pretend to be to somebody else outside of this. And I love that about this. Very cool. That's amazing.
There's so many different varieties of people and almost for sure it's more of a swinger representation there. For sure. Yeah, it's almost a different group, but we crossed over a little, right? Cool. Well, thanks for stopping and talking to us and hope you guys enjoy the rest of the fair. It was really awesome meeting people who actually listen to the podcast and hear their perspective on the street fair. We also ran into Yub Kim, who was from Ohio, and he was with a group of gentlemen from Ohio. And he was a sex therapist, and it was fun.
Towards the end of the day, we got to talk to him a little bit about shame and stigma and how people are really struggling in today's modern world with their sexuality and how he's got his work cut out for him. And he appreciated that we were also there and that we were doing the work that we were in terms of de-stigmatizing sexuality. Yes. And still people are dealing with shame at the level of I've masturbated three times a week. I think I'm going to hell. And he's like, no, no, you're not. That's totally normal. And honestly, you should probably do it more.
I mean, that the level of of shame that that individuals are still carrying around with them and it's it's um it tugs on my heartstrings because i've been there and i've grown so much and i can only hope and wish you know the the journey that i've had through my own progression of sexuality for those people as well. So this is kind of the public version of what we went through, and there's a lot that can be said in terms of other things that had happened at the fair, but we're going to go into those in our Patreon episode.
So, if you're interested in hearing more of the juicy, sexy stories, check us out on our Patreon. Exactly. And we did have a listener question. Actually, we had a couple of them this week. And they were very similar. The context was basically, how can I get my wife interested in swinging? And we get this question frequently. It's a pretty common question just in lifestyle forums in general. And so what are some three good tips that we have for this listener? Well, first you have to be able to talk about your preferences, your kinks and your fantasies.
If you can't talk about sex in your relationship, there's probably not much hope that you're going to be able to get into swinging. Second, why are you interested in it? You have to be able to articulate it to your partner. If it sounds shady or dodgy, they're going to pick up on that. So don't try and fake your way through that. You've got to have a pretty good reason for, for trying it out. And if both of you are open to it and comfortable enough, try going to a meet and greet, go to a swinger meet and greet, go to a local event and just watch, just observe.
If you can get past those hurdles, a lot of doors start to open and you'll start to have a lot more conversations about the lifestyle and what you feel comfortable with. Right. And then we have a series of how to get started in swinging on YouTube and we'll put that link here in this podcast as well. Absolutely. Check the links.
Well, thank you again for listening and watching we had a great time at the Folsom street fair and we'll definitely go back again next time we're gonna be more naked i think so i think so i'm gonna be more naked i might just be all naked that would be fabulous that would be pretty cool my photo would be everywhere though that's true there are a lot of cameras out once again thank you and we were thankful for this experience and being part of the growing kink and open sexuality community, swinger community, and I was inspired and uplifted, and hopefully you were too. Thanks for tuning in.
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