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We have to talk about something we've been genuinely excited about for months, and our patrons actually got a preview of this already. Jamaica! Yes, we are going back, and actually, we have a great offer for you guys. Yeah, it's Swingcation. It's October 11th through the 18th at Hedonism 2. And if you don't know what Swingcation is, it's pretty easy. Swinger plus kink plus vacation. It's a hosted group with real structure, workshops, lectures, real conversations with experts who are passionate about bringing and bridging that gap between the swinger world and the kink world.
And we're not just going as attendees. we're going as featured presenters, which is exciting. We'll be leading sessions. So if you come, we actually get to hang out with you. Which brings up something we should mention. When you use our code, yes, we got a code, you're not just getting a discount, you're getting the signature swing experience, which means $100 off per person, up to $200 per room, but it also means that we make time for you. An exclusive breakfast, lunch, cocktail hour, or one-hour and one time with us directly, plus more surprise benefits.
Here's something that's really unique. You could actually contribute by hosting a discussion or running a Skillshare. I know it's scary, but if you have something that you want to contribute, that's a big part of why this event is so special. Everyone there has something to bring to the table. All right, details. If you book before April 25th, you save $400. Plus, they gave us that special code that gets you an additional $200, and the special code is SWINGERU-VIP. So book through TicketForPlay.com forward slash Swinkie. That's T-I-C-K-E-T, the number four, play.com forward slash S-W-I-N-K-Y.
And use our code at checkout. And you guys, if you have any questions about the event, the resort, or what to expect, just reach out. I mean, we're here for you. We're happy to help. So once again, TicketForPlay.com forward slash Swinky, the code SwingerU-VIP. We really want to see you there. Welcome to Swinger University, your horizontal enrichment program, bringing you sexy lessons for sexy fun. Here are your hosts, Ed and Phoebe. Hi, this is Ed. And this is Phoebe. Today we're talking about your perception of a couple or event. Does your fantasy match reality?
Typically how you think it's going to go doesn't. Sometimes it's even better. so you got all dressed up and met the other couple or went to an event and didn't have that level 10 experience. Well, you can count on that. But what you can count on is having a good time with your partner, experiencing some sexy conversation and seeing all kinds of sexy stuff. Generally, you will experience a blanket of sexiness or that sexy vibe, especially at events.
We're going to break it down into different types of sexual experiences you're going to have your orgasms your orgies and types of people and situations i i like the first two already right. Orgasms. I will also say you won't always have an orgasm. No, that's true. And it's interesting because that's actually come up with some of our recent play partners who were like convinced that that was the whole point of swinging.
It was like, we're going to have like crazy all the time right like that's the right like that's the purpose right yeah even after our play session she's like oh but i didn't have an orgasm i'm like uh duh yeah it's yeah it usually doesn't happen she's like oh my god i thought that was the whole point so in fact we we we don't as we said typically see this in playrooms or small hotel orgies and and there's nothing wrong with that as there's just so many sexy and pleasurable acts going on that we're gonna break it down like why this happens right why why no orgasm yeah right because you'd think that swinging was like the the place to go to just have random orgasms with random people right but i know there's a lot of really good reasons why that's not actually going to happen right mostly not right not that it can't since everyone right now is like well then what's the whole point i know i just heard everybody just turn off their ipods and their their iphones they're like oh screw this i'm out of here we're out what what in fact a side note when what the the oh my gosh many people it's not been hundreds but many people that have that we talked to that have gone to the resorts the all-inclusive resorts land resorts not like the floating resort that we're going to around they say that uh a lot of times they don't even play with other people they just go to have fun and be naked and do sexy things and flirt and yeah and i'm like wait you just spent six to eight thousand dollars for a week to flirt To be naked and flirt.
Wait, I could do that at my local nudist resort for $60 a day. Yeah, or a bar with a $10 cover charge. Oh, yeah. The bars around here. Oh, yeah. You could go flirt with all kinds of people. Hell, yeah. Bump and grind on people. Vanilla hunting. I know all right okay well that was a side side note okay back to orgasms some of the reasons why if you're curious go for it ed well the first time you have sex with somebody uh it's essentially a one-night stand i don't know how many people who are listening have actually had one-night stands before, but it's kind of random.
The person you're with is not going to necessarily be very good. They don't know where your buttons are. They're too rough. They don't listen.
The pace is wrong wrong the timing is wrong it's just wrong like in so many different ways it's just wrong like it's fun rando it's fun it's fun and exciting you're like oh i gotta touch this new hot guy he feels so good i get rub my body all over him and he was a you know one pump chump or he did the hammer time right right what are you doing i'm done it's like a race to the finish no so the orgasm is rarely good the first time why well like what we've been saying you know you zig you zag you don't get the rhythm down and really orgasm sex it's all about having a dance partner somebody who's not going to step on your toes but like get into a rhythm with you someone's going to lead and someone's going to follow and there's there's a progression you kind of build up to it but getting that the first time remember this is the first time you're probably having sex with this person probably not going to happen and there's a lot of sensuality and foreplay and build up that's different from from a one-night stand and this is this is why we like kissing in the lifestyle because it it adds to that experience it is like foreplay and a build up so it it adds a different level of experience right when you get down to the sex part well and a massive difference between a one night stand it's a blind date you've never met this person you think they're hot you get them into their bedroom and it's not hot when you're at a swinging event you have your spouse or your partner with you you've got a backup plan and you're in it together so they're the flirting aspect everything kind of gets amped up a little bit so you don't have that like nervous stuff going on that you would with like a one night stand or a first date because you have a partner who's with you going through the experience.
So it is different. Right. You know, you've got a lot more opportunity for buildup and flirting and sexual tension because your spouse or your partner sitting right next to you, going through it with you, which is pretty fricking hot. Right.
Orgies are, is the next next one gotta love an orgy we love orgies we do we do and and our our first orgy we it was not no i don't know if anyone had an orgasm there on the bed it was a it was a hotel room it would had a probably oh gosh 20 30 people standing around there was a bed of about six to ten people on it a bunch of women i happened to be on my period so i didn't take my bottoms off at all but found myself on the bed and some lady was stroking my hair and someone was caressing my nipples and you know someone was stroking my legs while someone was fucking in a chair off the side people are standing in the room and watch it was this just sea of sexy warm bodies floating over it's the puppy pile and and it was a soft swap orgy yes but and and you know some people if you if you disagree with that actually qualifying as an orgy fine email us complain all you want about it we'd love to hear your your complaints about that But it was fantastic to just have so many bodies experiencing sexual pleasure even though it was only oral and touching and and whatnot it was our first experience so obviously it was super hot for us yes but.
But it was hot. It was hot. Like, if we went back today and had that same experience, that same night, we were to, like, go back in time and, like, relive that experience knowing what we know now. Yeah. It'd still be fucking hot.
As a matter of fact, I'd love to go back to that night because it was fucking hot and i want to know who marianne was because we never got to experience her again oh yeah i know we never saw them again oh it's a big name but yeah we we didn't we didn't get their names we had to assign a name and you picture marianne from gilligan's island right like super wholesome brunette super cute so many things about that night were amazing and you know people tend to get off on the mood in the room and and if you venture into a playroom you typically can watch for all that visual excitement and the sounds and the smell of sex um so okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this we were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples.
And it sails from Montreal to Boston during the peak foliage season. I'm super excited. And honestly, I'm really nervous. Yeah, it's kind of a version of like a swinger TED talk that we're going gonna have to do oh my god i know and more importantly if you know the brand it's llv luxury lifestyle vacations you may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats this ship the crystal symphony is classy butler service for every single room michelin rated restaurants full spa clothing optional I don't know. symphony is classy.
Butler service for every single room, Michelin rated restaurants, full spa, clothing optional, sensual playrooms, like everything, theme nights and international DJ. So it's luxury and nudity. Oh man, this is going to be great. The bottom line is we want you there with us. It's 310 couples and like all their vacations, they book up fast. They really do. Their vacations are extremely popular. So please come with us. And in order to find it, all you have to do is go to our swingerlinks.com and look for the LLV Sensual Voyage. We hope you'll join us. Not everybody's into that, though.
It's interesting how many people we've run across who don't like to be, quote, seen in public having sex.
But it's more like the exhibitionist side some people just don't have that they like to be private close the door as a matter of fact the last party we were at this last weekend the there were two couples and they were both like well let's go into this room we'll close the door and we're like what can't we do it on the dining room table so like everybody can watch because that's hot for us right right so if you if you get a couple that their preference is to be in private and you are in a larger playroom they're not going to feel comfortable you know orgasming in front of others that they be a little more restricted right and and the chance for orgy goes way down if they like to play in private because you'd have to have enough people i guess the question is what's private what's the threshold for private because if there's four or six couples in a room is that that still private because eight couples aren't watching?
In other words, like, what's the private line? Right.
Types of people, a lot of times we were surprised by how much fun we have with different types of people that we didn't even think to play with right and you you interact with those individuals and they become sexy we've talked about this many many times um their conversation is is sexy their personality becomes sexy the way they carry themselves whatever they say the way they flirt with you becomes their confidence is sexy yeah or just the simple fact that they're a couple on a bed at the same time as you orgasming or having oh yeah a good time right next to you that's fucking hot fucking hot i know i stole your line yeah i know it's because it's fucking hot it is fucking hot and and we've we've been in many a playroom and had just a random couple either on the next bed or on the same bed as us like hey there's room here can do you mind if we share no good you know right cob a squat and they sit down and next thing you know titties are flying dicks are out everybody's having a good time it's just hot having people have sex right and and the differences are fun you know body hair size stature muscles all the contrasts it's all a big sensual buffet we we engaged in a play session in an after party orgy there's an indian guy i got to play with and it was fabulous he was super like long hair i know his hair he was very like awesome hippie i know kind of a vibe to him he was super cool yeah and he he came in the room we didn't get a chance to meet him earlier he came in the room i got a chance to talk with him kiss him oh yeah i was it was it was freaking hot it was so much fun i was like oh my god i just had sex with somebody different that's really really fun yeah never experienced that No i never got to experience that it was really awesome and then new year's we were being we were being pursued heavily by this very young couple and i was like oh they're pretty young and i was like do i do i need to uh Thank you.
do I need to this couple was pursuing us heavily and we were a little on the fence because they were so young kind of outside of our age window so to speak speak. And because she was so persistent, she'd be like, room number one, two, three, four, right? You got it, right? Say it out loud. What's our room number? One, two, three, four. Okay, great. Should I write it on your arm? She really wanted it. So we went.
went and you know and we weren't we were expecting i don't know what but we were expecting something i was expecting them to be new inexperienced right we hadn't had that real conversation but it didn't really matter because she was all over me and and the girls started off the party and we had a lot of fun and we we we ended up of course contacting tried to contact them later and they were just i don't know they split up or who knows we got ghosted yeah we got ghosted they checked their box they they got to do the the milf and the and the dilf and uh we checked their box for them and off they went yeah so so you're you're hearing a theme here where there's there's types of people that you wouldn't maybe have considered playing with but you're in the right situation and you do because of whatever physical attributes that you think you may or may not like or, or ages that you may or may not, you know, entertain.
And then it's, it's that I have a type definition and I've, I gave up types a long time ago like i just don't have types anymore i i have a range yes it's very wide but it is a range yeah but even then sometimes you know things bump outside that range sure because at the moment at the moment at the time it's fucking hot yeah so what are you gonna do you're exactly i'm gonna draw my pants and here's the last example of a type that you would never expect oh my gosh so we were on the bliss cruise two three years ago two singles came onto the ship they shared a room and one of the singles was a was a gay man right room with his his other friend who's a girl so we we meet them they want to go to the playroom well i didn't know he was gay they didn't they didn't disclose that they didn't i mean they did say they were two singles playing together and i was like okay so so he and i have sex and then he goes oh then we kept in touch and in a in a text oh she disclosed to me later that evening that um he was really nervous about having sex with me because he's gay and he hasn't had sex with a woman in a while and i was like what what of course after i've had sex with him and i was like well the sex was really good and she's like oh it was i go uh yeah it was really good okay i have to tell him he was really nervous and being self-conscious and i was like what yeah they were they were a fun couple there was so fun time with them to this day we still stay in touch and he's like oh i might just have to have some non-gay sex again because that was the best which which is so funny i don't even know how to process that other than i know i enjoy having sex with you so you know i'm biased but like uh what is that even i know it's apparently it's a thing i guess it's a thing i don't know it was so fun so again you know types of people types of situations and then moving into types of situations right where situations where maybe, well, let's just say I'm a slow warmer to oral sex.
Yes. Yes. There's a very specific technique, a very specific process, et cetera.
You have to be mentally prepared for it yeah you need to be the the yoda i'm very very sensitive and if you attack it she screams so we we go to a bar with a bunch of swingers we all have a good time we go back to somebody's house their house i think it was their house people are in the kitchen people are in the living room shit's going down the owners of the house the couple two backpacker couple i think she was redhead whom we've never hooked up with again why because they're out of the lifestyle ass so crazy which is very disappointing on so many levels but yes that was the best oral ever on the couch in the living room in front of everybody which is not my normal mo i'm not like that much of an exhibitionist but something that he did which i have later explained to ed and And now Ed has worked in his repertoire of oral, which I love.
I take good notes. Yes. Oh, my gosh. I was literally, you guys, I was literally taking notes. I was like, okay, he's licking me this way. He's like, I think it's a flat tongue. Oh, yeah. Okay, yeah. Wait. Oh, focus on the technique. No, focus on the pleasure. Wait. Focus on the technique. Oh, my God. Trying to take notes for Ed.
wait oh focus on the technique no focus on the pleasure wait focus on the technique oh my god trying to take notes for ed trying to focus on my own pleasure phoebe was having 69 in her own mind yes i was it was a torture it was a torture but i learned some of the techniques and i brought them back home yeah and you've you have instructed many who have followed in said technique just for your very specific push.
them back home yeah and you've you have instructed uh many who have followed in that in said technique just for your very specific pussy which brings you back to the the first point that we made about orgasms and it's like everybody's a little different and that specific technique worked for you but it may not work for other people right right and he was probably one in a hundred you know i mean something about it just worked what's this one sitting on the couch with two women touching me at breakfast this must have been early on do tell i know you know what i don't remember but i had it in here i want to be sitting on a couch with two women this may have been in reno uh but but who expects to be touched by two people in a public place at breakfast.
Yeah. I expect it all the time. It doesn't happen very often, if ever. But I hope that it does all the time. I'm sorry I don't have the best example for that for you guys.
But it is a type of situation, once again, know you don't expect you're gonna be in so you're gonna have expectations to get something and then you're gonna be in situations where you're gonna get something that you didn't expect and vice versa is what i'm right trying to say the surprise experience yeah yeah and and we've had a number of those kind of surprise experiences where we didn't expect anything to happen right but the situation was just right the situation the people the the mood the conversation kind of led to something being really hot at the time right and i think again once again coming back to the orgasms at the very beginning that we were talking about it's okay to have expectations but just know that you know you're not always gonna have that orgasmic experience in every situation or with every person right yeah fireworks don't always happen it it it really doesn't matter i mean the experience is so much more than that it's pretty great yeah and you learn to take something from it even if you don't have that big o at the end yeah it's more the experience.
I mean, you've got to think about this. You're pretty greedy if you expect to get an orgasm when you just had sex with six random people on a bed. Take it as a win. You just had sex with six random people. That's pretty freaking hot.
But, like, the the orgasm would just be that's just greedy at that point right let's just you know is it i don't know i don't know it's not you can hope to have an orgasm i'm just saying i enjoy the experience of just having that experience like like being in that environment, having those sexy conversations, flirting, and kind of just getting to do things that most people, quote, normal people, vanilla people, just don't ever get the chance to have.
Like, yeah, you're having you're experiencing your sexuality in a completely different way right that is really fun we a boring swinger event boring swinger night is 10 times more exciting what half the people do and they're straight missionary once a week 15 minutes because it's required of them sex. Yeah. You get to, like, dance around half naked and flirt with anybody, and your spouse isn't, you know, hitting you because you looked at her butt. Right. We've got to count this as a win, folks. I'm just saying. Exactly. It's hard to even think back to that.
I we've come so far not that you and i have ever had that no but that very closed-minded perspective of what should and shouldn't be done in the bedroom what you should and shouldn't do as a as a couple what you should and shouldn't do in public yeah all that all that bullshit all right everyone in closing as you've heard your experiences will vary in new situations feel free to embrace the unknown experiment with your sexuality and above all be safe thank you for coming to class the swinger university needs your your help.
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