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And use our code at checkout. And you guys, if you have any questions about the event, the resort, or what to expect, just reach out. I mean, we're here for you. We're happy to help. So once again, ticketforplay.com forward slash Swinky, the code SwingerU-VIP. We really want to see you there. You're listening to Swinger University with Ed and Phoebe. Slip into something more comfortable. It's class time. Here are your hosts, Ed and Phoebe. Hello, this is Ed. And this is Phoebe. Today we are talking about why swinging is better than being single.
You hear all the time about how being single is so liberating and sexually charged. Well, we thought we'd take a tongue-in-cheek approach to this and flip it around a bit. So here's our top 15 reasons why swinging is better than being single. all right swinging is better than being single because there's nothing like having a wingman for a partner and if they're in on it, they'll stand to benefit too. there's nothing like having your your wife or your husband stand next to you and help you pick chicks out in a nightclub or a bar. Right? Like, that's hot. They're in on it.
It's like your dirty secret. I know. I love that because we'll be standing there at the, and we'll be like, I'll elbow you. Honey, honey. Check her out. Look how confident she is. Look at her dress. Oh, my God. Ooh. She's flashing everything. Most of the time, the conversation goes like this. Honey, did you see her tits? Or her ass?
But, but yes confidence is also sexy every now and then i'll be like oh yeah i like him he's nice but usually i point out the woman first because women i really women are very sexy i'm not bi but women are very sexy and i've said this before in previous podcasts i i appreciate women wholeheartedly because i'm i am a woman i know everything that went into her evening absolutely everything and i can completely appreciate that and she's the gatekeeper so if i don't honor and respect her I don't honor and respect her and the partner that she picked to walk in life with her then we're not getting anywhere so what's not to love i i'm with you, babe.
I know. I got your back. All right. Number two. You want to go with number two? Swinging is better than being single because you already have your cake and ice cream. Now you're searching for a cherry yeah it's kind of nice to think that that's not the goal for the evening i mean no i mean it is it's the target right but you know you already got the best person with you yeah exactly it's great if you don't like your date meaning another swing couple maybe you've connected and it doesn't work out you already have have the perfect match, which is kind of like number two.
But you are my perfect match. Thanks, honey. Yeah, I'd go home with you any night of the week. It's true. And this is really good advice for people who are out in the lifestyle, at a club, trying to hook up with another couple, maybe feeling anxious about her or whatever.
If it doesn't pan out, if you've got to pull the ripcord and you're just not ready, that's okay because you already have the the a plan you were just looking for the b plan right and you do have to pat yourself on the back for all the other achievements or goals that you reach that night even though you may have not known they're a goal right maybe you're shy you're an introverted type of couple right and you're like you know hey pat ourselves on the back because we actually talked to five couples yeah it didn't pan out but we handed out our card we got some good practice it's like a job interview right and you met people and you introduced people and maybe you ruled couples out right we thought they were interesting their profile looked good no exactly exactly or you learn something fascinating a lot of times when we went to places and we didn't end up playing we learned so much about house parties in the area right um places to go resorts the cruises like we learned about all that just by talking to people I don't know.
in the area right um places to go resorts the cruises like we learned about all that just by talking to people absolutely and we made friends with the hosts and hostesses we had a fun evening out like it's always you've always got a backup plan which is great it's it's really all about staying connected all right swinging is better than being single because maybe this one's yours yeah i'm gonna go with this one because i like this one flirting with the waitress is more fun with your wife sitting next to you. And we've done this before. Oh, yeah. It's a lot of fun. Oh, yeah. It's a lot of fun.
It was New Year's, I think, a couple years ago. We went to a nice dinner. A very nice restaurant. Yeah, very nice restaurant. Upscale in the mall.
I know it doesn't sound right but there's but it's california it's super low-key lighting and the bar was so cool table claw no table claw yeah table claws napkins the whole thing we sat at the bar yeah and we ate at the bar too yes that's true but the bartender was super flirty oh yeah oh my god this woman was like is she is she not should we say something should give her our ho card should have given her the ho card i'm just telling you right now she's kept asking all these leading questions and we were so nervous to pull the and be like. I'm just going to leave this right here.
She was just shy of leaving her phone number on a napkin. Yes, and she invited us back the next morning for the Sunday brunch and the mimosas, and she was talking up the mimosas like they were the best on the planet.
Like it was a staff thing, and they all kind of hung out and did their thing in the next morning and she wanted to hang out with that oh yeah i know i i don't i'm kicking myself like why why didn't we yeah i got a lot of those stories in my life why didn't i all right number five your significant other doesn't get upset when you have sex with other people see now i can't think of any well very many single people or people who are dating who are monogamous who would not be just blown away by that whole thing and like, that's the end, I'm out. Swinging's better. Just saying.
Although, you know, technically when you're dating, you might be having sex with several people. I mean, my calendar was pretty full. I heard.
Mine was empty empty i don't want to hear about it i was working that funnel that sales funnel man i had three days it was a job sounds terrible i wasn't having sex with everyone but i was going on a lot of dates she had sex with quite a few i did i i i gained a lot of knowledge it was research it was research it made me a better wife for you i can't argue for my research i cannot argue with that i got nothing all right swinging is better than being single because oh you get to watch live sex while on your date live sex the closest most people get when they go on the date maybe and this is a real stretch maybe going to a strip club with your date oh yeah uh-huh i have done that but that's fun yeah it is fun we went we went to a strip club on our honeymoon yeah we did that that was fun oh we had so much fun god that woman was the sexiest We'll be right back.
on our honeymoon yeah we did that that was fun oh we had so much fun that woman was the sexiest woman ever i still remember her chocolate is so good she was so beautiful but your average date goes something like Hittin' Chili's Maybe a Red Lobster, Square Cow Fun Bar. Square Cow Fun Bar? It's an old commercial. I'm dating myself, I know. What? Black Angus, the Square Cow Fun Bar. That's how they advertise themselves? Yeah, because their logo was like a cow, but it was like a rectangle, like a square cow. Did they say that in their ads? Oh, yeah. Square cow fun bar. That's retarded.
Well, it's not as bad as the Quiznos creature that was cooking the sandwiches, which was very disturbing. What, something dressed up in a costume? I'll show you the video. If you want to see something really disturbing, look up the Quiznos furball character. I don't even know what to describe it as. It was horrible. Not cute like a Furby. No. Okay. Gross, like roadkill. Oola like a Furby. No. Okay. Gross like roadkill. Or whoo-la. Yes, not. Whoo-la. So getting to watch live sex.
I mean, you're at a place where people more than one, two, three, four, sometimes six or more people all having sex right there in front of you i know it's it's absolutely insane the the sights the sound like everybody likes watching porn if you're listening to this podcast you like watching porn i'll just cover it that way yeah absolutely but seeing. But seeing it live, watching real people fuck in front of you, and it's not you and your partner fucking, it's a whole bunch of other people fucking. It's crazy. I love it. It's mind-blowing the first few times that you see it.
oh yeah you get a desensitized to it what it's still exciting i have but that first night that we went yes i it was overwhelming just because it's like anything new right it's like you you it's literally like literally like crossing a boundary line you You know, you're at the four corners between Arizona, New Mexico, Colorado, and California. And you're like, oh my god, do I dare step over the line? Oh my god, I'm in another state. Okay, maybe it's not that dramatic. And by the way, the four corners is not nearly exciting as watching other people have sex in front of you.
No, but it's any line that you cross that's not a societal norm. Well, yeah, you think it's... The first time drinking, the first kiss, the first whatever. Yeah. Anyway, it doesn't get old watching people have sex. This is ten times, like, more because who does that? Nobody talks about that. Everyone talks about drinking. Everyone talks about their first kiss. Right. People don't talk about watching live sex. You know what? I know a podcast that talks about watching people have live sex. What? Swinger University. Okay. Holy crap. I know. I'm so naughty.
Oh so naughty oh my gosh okay what number are we on uh seven seven lucky number seven oh we're almost halfway there swinging is better than being single because if you oh this is this is yours this is. It is. If you need to put a sock in his mouth, he might like it. Yes. Yes. Kinky. Yes. Bastards. Yes. And there, and you will run into people that are very kinky and like certain things.
And it might throw you off if they don't discuss that with you ahead of time and then you just have to roll with it you're like oh oh oh we're going there oh you like my the middle toe of my foot stuck up your nostril oh um okay i guess we're going there all right yeah hey whatever turns your crank as they say and everybody's got their own thing yes they do they do you probably won't run into most of that but unless you're in a specific group and there is a specific group for kinks we've run into a couple really kinky couples oh yeah uh not a lot but a couple no and some uh really into uh the one couple we ran into was into blood play and they were the most kinky people that we've met that was yeah that was more on the i don't know what scale you want to call it but i it's it's a more of a pool it it fascinated me from the standpoint that i didn't know that existed and i wanted to i wanted to hear their experience and they were so open and they were so excited about sharing it which made me really interested in listening to them and then they shared their photos and i was like holy crap i had no idea so i had this huge education just at a house party It's fascinating to hear about people's experiences and people and what turns them on and what makes them tick and what gets them off and it's it may not be for you but it's absolutely fascinating to me because what what turns somebody on may not be my thing.
But it's cool to hear interesting stories. If you're deriving pleasure from it and it's your deal, then hey, whatever. Absolutely. We are very sex positive. I know. It's so cool. I love everything. All right. Swinging is better than being single because you get to flirt with three people instead of one. Yeah. Three if it's another couple or more. For as many people as you can gather in an evening. Like on a cruise? Oh, God.
Technically, it's quite a bit if you're in a little group target rich environment we were supposed to be on a cruise in november yeah that's not gonna happen stupid covid but we did we flirted with a lot of people on the cruise we met a lot of people had good conversation and the conversation can go anywhere from mild to overtly sexual yes it's either hey we're having a fun conversation with new people yay to what things can i say to make her wet and get her in bed i think we should go to the playroom now or just lay it out yeah and that often works very well hey we were thinking about swinging by the playroom do you want to come with us maybe go check it out go out?
Go right now. They got towels. They got condoms. They got lube. They got everything. They got fresh sheets. You don't even need to go back to your room. No. Come with us. Come with us. Nope. Come with us. This way. Arm to arm. Off you go. Let me show you a few things. Oh, you've never been? Let's go.
We'll just take a little tour right come see this bed really nice let's check it out come sit down next to me let me tell you a story never let them go never let them go all right all right number nine you get to change your outfit multiple times in one night how do these keep landing on my perfect i know it's perfect right all right so you're at a fashion show yeah you're at an event you're on a cruise you've you've shown up in your high heels and you know yeah those heels may only be 20 minute heels right you need to run back to the room change them for another pair of shoes that are more comfortable maybe you got a some sparkly flip flippy floppies or slip-ons right that look some fuzzy slippers oh yeah like my fuzzies that i have on right now fuzzy slippers fuzzy i know so there's that i always bring multiple outfits we've seen the theme night presented early in the evening women come in costume to match the theme gentlemen come in costume and then as they dance a while they get hot they need to go back to their room they want to change a little bit maybe they got a little sweaty they need to go refresh go freshen up a little bit you want to be yeah switch out to the lingerie and the fluffy robe and back to the party exactly all right number 10 10 perfect 10 dressing too slutty air quotes too slutty is actually encouraged yes people are practically naked on the dance floor with these dresses that have like holes everywhere and little pasties over their nipples and that's it they do everything they can to be dressed enough to not get thrown out of the party right just enough and sometimes or well or the square or the triangle sorry because most of us don't have pubic hair anymore that's covered nipples are covered and you're good yeah we've seen so many ladies who are like oh oh oh i forgot my pasties yeah but that's in our area, a little.
And Miss Allures, if you're listening, they have helpers to go around and help those to repaste the pasty on their nipples. That's right. You should play by the rules because. In California, you can be topless as a woman. You just have to have your nipples covered. Yes.
And lot of um the people on that come out on the boats on the river in the summertime will be topless and they just have their pasties on and that's all right it's a great state in some ways so swinging is better than being single because if your date doesn't work out, you can pick up that other sexy couple you met in the playroom. That's right. You don't have to stick with who you brought, who you intended to meet there. You can always change up. Yep. As long as you're nice and polite. Maybe you've chatted up a couple all week long or all month long.
And you meet face to face and you're like, you know. It just isn't working. The chemistry is just not there. Something's just not right. Just off. And you circle around and you meet meet somebody else or you peruse the playroom and you join another bed and off you go now in all honesty that could probably happen when you were single too but considering all of the options that are available at a swing club you've got lots of opportunity yeah everybody's there for a good time yes Let's do this.
at a swing club you've got lots of opportunity yeah everybody's there for a good time yes all right swinging go ahead swinging is better than being single because and i like this one you get to have sex in public yeah so not only do you get to watch it you get to do it now a surprising number of swingers actually don't like being exhibitionists i don't get it but hey everybody's got their thing we do and it is a lot of fun oh yeah we love being watched yeah putting on a nice show well and you get this whole like i don't know it's it's almost like a movie you can look around everywhere i keep thinking of the cruise and the playroom because it was almost this 360 view of just bodies on beds having sex i mean it was it was very stimulating and you could say it was a little overwhelming, but it was a fucking lot of fun.
Right. The more you get used to seeing that, the more it's like, the more you can actually focus on your own experience, and it adds to it. But for the first time, I totally get that it'd be overwhelming.
okay can we talk about october for a second oh my god yeah i've been waiting for this we were invited to be guest speakers for two engagements on a six-star crystal cruise ship with 310 lifestyle couples and it sails from montreal to boston during the peak foliage season i'm super excited and honestly i'm really nervous yeah it's kind of a version of like a swinger ted talk that we're gonna have to do oh my god i know and more importantly if you know the brand it's LLV, Luxury Lifestyle Vacations. You may have seen them and they're sexy playmakers with their fun red hats.
This ship, the Crystal Symphony, is classy.
Butler service for every single room, Michelin rated restaurants, full spa, clothing optional, sensual playrooms like everything theme nights and international dj so it's luxury and nudity oh man this is gonna be great the bottom line is we want you there with us it's 310 couples and like all their vacations they book up fast they really do their vacations are extremely popular so please come with us and in order to find it all you have to do is go to our swingerlinks.com and look for the llv sensual voyage we hope you'll join us I enjoy it because I'm having fun, obviously, in the first person perspective here.
But looking around and seeing that everybody's enjoying what we're doing. Oh, yeah. That's like double hot. Yeah, that happened on the cruise, too. People would stop and pause pause and they'd start playing with themselves or get so turned on that they want to join us on right i like turning people on to the point where they want to have sex too yeah that's you're doing a public service exactly exactly this is community service oh see i like sharing i know you're so Thank you. Thank you. Bye-bye. Exactly. Exactly. This is community service. Aw. See? I like sharing. I know. You're so good. 13.
Lucky 13. Invite him. Oh, we already kind of talked about this. Inviting random onlookers to your bed is more fun yeah you you don't get that opportunity as a single no i mean there are some very liberating couples but you and the other person maybe they've got a roommate but oh that doesn't always happen except for in the stories that I like to read. Right. It even happened at... Trapeze in Florida. Oh, yeah. Maybe a little more so than what we wanted. Right. Right.
We really only wanted to play with one couple, and there was another couple that was a little aggressive right and i had to uh say i'm sorry we're only playing with this couple this evening but thank you for your interest sometimes happens he he did not like that but that's okay i mean tough noogies. I was nice. But he had other things in mind. Swinging is better than being single because you get to have... Oh, well, this one's not mine. But I'll say it anyway. You get to have more than one dick in a night.
You say so well though Because I carry one with me Everywhere I go Or If you're a guy You get to have more than one Pussy or set of tits Uh huh Woman The whole package legs I know love the legs. I'm such a leg man. He is. Well, he's an everything man, but he'll... I do like he'll chew on my legs. Like, nibble on my legs. I'll chew on your legs, too. I know. I know. You like the whole woman. That's what I love about you.
i love about you but yeah you get to have sex with more than one person in a night so even if you're doing the whole one night stand thing and you're dating yeah this is like plural one night stands yeah and you know maybe the couple that you had sex with was great or um let's say it was okay and you're like you know let's get back out there the night is young at the house party it did happen at the house we went upstairs we played and actually we had a good time and we're like and we got freshened up cleaned up in the bathroom we went back down to the morning and we lured another couple back upstairs for another round of sex.
We were such sluts. It was so awesome. We were like patting ourselves on the back. We're like, oh, my God, this never happened. Oh, my God. We felt so slutty. It was awesome. It was great. It was super hot. Swinging is better than being single because this is your number 15. Dating only gives you one partner for the evening, but swinging can give you more. That's right. And this is kind of a summary of most of the other points here.
And that's you've got an opportunity to meet a whole bunch of people and have a really good time you're not limiting to yourself to that one tender date coffee date whatever that just right maybe works out maybe doesn't because you went to their that rendezvous and you sat and talked with them for an hour, two hours, and nothing happened. Swinging? Not really a problem. Right. Move on. Say hi. Thank you. Thanks for the nice conversation.
We're going to mingle some some more and you move on to the next couple and one tip I'll give you all is that a lot of times we will say if we've met someone online we'll say hey let's meet you at an event because it gives everyone an out plus it gives people a form of entertainment right there's music which brings people together there's food that brings people together it forces people to mingle and mix and you know if the chemistry isn't right face to face i mean then you've got another opportunity for the evening and no one really feels like it was a waste of their time because online chatting and online texting or emailing or virtual stuff whatever you're doing is going to be different face to face right we take a lot of time to get ready we take a lot of time to plan and coordinate child care etc etc that's why i always feel like let's just meet in an event that way you know if it doesn't work out for us if it doesn't work out for you then yeah great everybody's gotta let us know and go mix and mingle with some other couple because we're all here it takes the pressure off Thank you.
then yeah great go for it just let us know and go mix and mingle with some other couple because we're all here it takes the pressure off you don't have to make it work no you can let it go it's okay i mean yeah so and we've done dinner dates where it was very pressured and you felt you had to make a decision at the end yeah yeah because you had a couple sitting across from a table from you and you had to let them know yes or no is it gonna happen or not are we going to the hotel or to somebody's house right not yeah but with a nightclub you're like hey it was really nice meeting you and it's like a soft exit it's not a binary yes no right we don't like you we like you you know it's it's pressure yeah you don't have that at a larger event because you can go, hey, when we see you there, we'll say hi.
We'll get to know each other and see what happens. It's very open-ended. Yeah. So in closing, just remember, at the end of the night, you have the best date already. Yay. Your partner. Mm-hmm. Thanks, everyone, for listening. Talk to you next time. Before you turn off our podcast to take care of all the vanilla things pulling you away, please reach out and give us a review. I know mashing a star is so much easier, but a review is so much better for sharing your love of what we're doing with others. We would appreciate it.
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