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Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle.
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Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable and join us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist and he is my sexy chocolate husband and thank y'all so much for joining us in episode 79 of living the sweet life look Trist I'm already excited look at the um the framing is better this time on the on the yes that was catching you up last time we did the live show you were like i don't like the way that this is framed it was a little bit of a distraction but i think we're back in there we found our rhythm and uh don't move the camera no more i don't know what happened actually i mean we typically keep everything in the same no we had guests we had company oh right so we had to move it that's correct yeah yeah it is there see i was taught so yeah it's there you got a little you got a little schmutz on your teeth there there you go it's the cost of being beautiful honey thank you that's all it is the cost of being beautiful um so listen folks tonight man i ain't even going front i'm ready to be on vacation but we're going to talk about that some more we're going to talk about that more man uh because we are super excited about next week next week is casual swinger week at hito and we are going to be in the building and we cannot wait hello to everybody on instagram live thank y'all for joining us jump on over to youtube and uh be a part of this suite man we need some comments we need some feedback we want to hear from y'all uh before we get into all the episode good stuff all the craziness we're going to knock out some of this housekeeping hit us up on instagram at the sweet life podcast or follow us on twitter at sweet life pod uh like i said you can always catch us on the youtube um for living the sweet life podcast and while you're there hit the subscribe button hit the notification bell and if you so so desire you know jump back over to your favorite podcast catcher and drop in a review a little rating a little something a little sentence are here and there a couple words nice things to say about trist and all the hard work she puts into your show uh we'd always always appreciate it um let's see what else we got going on Trist for the housekeeping stuff listen we got a new partnership yes we do yeah yeah we got a new partnership we're growing up but this one means something more to us I know we say that about all our partners but I think that's kind of how we take them on we take on partners that mean something to us yes and this one is relevant to uh one of our recent episodes regarding grown-up talk.
STI testing. That's right. STI testing. So we're partnered now with Shameless Care. Shamelesscare.com. You get at-home STI testing and ED medicine. You know, for, you know, those hard times, man.
I know, you know, we're growing up, guys, and sometimes this shit is stressful and we have a little difficulties uh getting the uh the old mechanics uh in in in order yeah so um yeah check out shamelesscare.com um they have packages for when you go on you know your pre-game packages before you go on uh trips your lifestyle trips where we all know shit goes down yes you want to make sure you're not bringing any extra people or extra things with you back home on a trip or on the trip that's right so yeah what the way it works is they have a pre uh trip um testing and also a post-trip testing you can order it that way so you can get it you get a packet before you go and you can get tested when you get back yes and what's unique about them is that they do um throat swabs for gonorrhea now tris i ain't i never heard about that so yes that was my first time hearing that guys so they do um throat testing for gonorrhea and i was sitting there like excuse me you were scared shitless like i ain't kissing nobody nobody i'm done a for one i i'm just not like one of my things to just be walking around kissing a whole bunch of people and this is not shade to people that do that do your thing this is not my thing to do in the first place but it even made it it more so.
I'm like, shit. I was sitting there like, I say, huh? I'm like, thanks a lot. Thanks a lot, chief. Right before we go on vacation. Yeah, that's exactly what Locke said. You got my wife back in the box. Right before vacation. Thank you for telling her that. I was like, I ain't kissing no one. Good luck, everyone. Good luck with that.
But no um all seriousness um sti testing is super important and you know this is a good place to to uh to reach out to have as a resource so yeah check them out shamelesscare.com and again you can use our promo code sweet life s-u-i-t-e-l-i-f-e uh to get a little discount or of some sort and you know but you can definitely use them as a resource to help you out and again ed medication and we'll talk more about this stuff um as we move along and we'll put the links to in our bio so that you have the information for sure and thank you to everybody who's listening on your favorite podcast catcher thank you to everyone who is listening on full swap radio you can catch Thank you.
our bio so that you have the information for sure and thank you to everybody who's listening on your favorite podcast catcher thank you to everyone who is listening on full swap radio you can catch us live there well not live but you can catch our show there on thursdays along with some other bangers of uh podcasts and uh lifestyle podcasts um look at that look at everybody checking in no i gotta get to access some people too on youtube i mean IG. I was trying to wait for you to finish.
That's cool. We got to shout out our sweet talkers. What's up, Sweet T? She checking in. And we got sweet talker number one checking in. Sweet T says, hey, sexy people, are you going to watch? What's that? Seeking Brother Husband. Huh. Got to check that out. Where is it at?
Is it on netflix or that's right give us some info yeah some info on that sweet tea and then we got uh sweet talking number one saying hey sexy people hey to yourself i know so i'm going to actually i'm gonna sing you an im today because i need to talk to you about i need to switch a day for uh polecon but i'm going i'm just not going to go on that day so you know this is our podcast right and you sorry that's going to be on somebody's radio well you just did i'm going to polecon i've said that no that's what's up i'm going i am you girl don't worry so uh sweet tea says it's coming on god damn it what can i do when you just get hood it's just i am you girl i was doing that to be funny but that's so funny you're crazy sweet t says it's coming on tlc tonight at 10 p.m uh-oh we're gonna check that out yes i heard about like sister wives but we gotta see brother husbands yeah i'm gonna see that oh man and another sweet talker online said that um they they can't wait to meet us next week so whoever that was we're going to see them next week please stop by and say hello and another person says hey y'all ready to party absolutely like i can't wait so we'll probably see you next week as well um and just so that while we're here, we're talking about it.
We plan on doing some live feeds while we're in Jamaica. We plan on doing some How You Feelings from some of the people that's there on the trip or just people in Hito in general, I guess. I'm going to get to that. I'm going to get to that. Okay. But yes. I stole his thunder. We're going to be active. We're going to be active.
we're not going to leave y'all in the dust we're going to make y'all miss us uh no we're not going to make you miss us we're going to be present and we're going to uh try to bring you along with us so that next time you can be there physically with us and that would be amazing yeah and i think this is our first time doing that though what like actually getting, like, how you feeling from actual sweet talkers or just people, like, on the trip. We talked about it before, but...
You're going in again, babe. I'm so sorry. I still stole his thunder. I thought we were still going. Yes. All right. No, you're right, though. I'll be quiet. It is. It's going to be our first time.
But let's get to the how you how you feeling all right and then we get to the topic that's right we're going to get to all the details of the trip he's so right you know what i'm saying all right ig i'll see you later peace out ig thank y'all for joining uh again thanks to everybody who is live in the suite with us we really appreciate it if you are sitting in your car listening to the podcast and you're like god damn how can i be a sweet talker all you got to do is just jump over to again like i said jump over to um what is it called babe youtube youtube subscribe hit the notification bell and then you'll get notified every time we go live and you can just jump in give us feedback give us comments be a part of the sweet talker community and we really appreciate it.
All right. So before we get into all the craziness, all the shenanigans and all of the fantasizing that I'm about to be doing for the rest of this week about this trip. Always got to check in with my boo. And I'm going to do it again before this trip. Got to make sure I check in. So, baby, how are you feeling? I'm feeling ready.
You you ready i'm feeling ready to go uh you know the picture i posted to well yesterday it was yesterday is a picture from last week actually of a selfie that i took in gym because i'm sitting here i'm like i gotta get my my winter it's like a winter body ready for the summer you gotta get rid of the winter fluff yeah Well, yeah, body and i'm sitting there like okay i'm liking the way that this is carving out so far so i posted that picture yesterday and um that's kind of me just getting ready last minute touch-ups that i'm going to be doing to get ready for uh the trip coming up next week and then funny story yesterday so we're sitting in the shower i think i was in the you were in the shower yesterday i was about to get in the shower no you're getting out the shower you were in the shower and i was in there talking to you i don't remember why i was just standing in the bathroom talking to you while you were in the shower and then you got out the shower so lots he gets out the shower and we're still talking about whatever random whatever it was we was talking about while he was in the shower that he really couldn't wait oh i know what it was we was talking about a the show topic for a show that's exactly what it was so we got caught up in it because sometimes guys we actually pick topics randomly about something and we judge them based off the the conversation we have with each other to see if it's an actual um if we feel like it'll be beneficial for other people to kind of hear what we're saying about it and that's kind of what we were doing we were um going back and forth about a topic and he's coming out of the shower he puts on his uh towel or is wiping off with his towel and I'm trying to be slick I thought I was being slick not at all it's like he's just like I'm thinking he's just drying off and I took a quick look you know I checked out his I was checking out his uh his package I was i took a little look down i was checking out his package and the next thing i know what happened first of all you got me blushing right now i called you out on it i was like why are you looking at my dick and then i started pulling on it like hey you want to come here he's like come here girl you want to look you want to look at it so then i like literally like back out of the bathroom and start blushing because i was caught i'm like how how did you find me looking at he's like you want to look at it again my eyes are up here man eyes up i definitely was checking him out and and i thought i was being real like you know you know about it but no he was no it was very direct i just don't want to look again but listen i'm not going to front like that shit did not make my day like to have your wife check you out and just looking at you like with lusting her i'm like oh this is amazing like you literally made my day and i'm really appreciative of it it was very flattering and it was even cuter when you kind of darted out the door after what are you talking about i wasn't looking at you like your smile just hit wall to wall and your face turned all red.
It was cute. Oh, man. That was so funny. I don't know how you still get embarrassed by looking at my dick. I was like, I'm scurried out of there. Like you're getting embarrassed now. I know. And it was like I've never seen it before. But I was scurried out of there. You did.
Scurried out of it like a little teenager oh my gosh like nothing to see here sir nothing to see whatever um so that's funny how are you feeling luck oh no i'm all aghast right now like i'm fluttered shit i can't get my words right tris okay whew i'm flattered uh no how i'm feeling quite frankly i'm tired i'm drained i am ready to go it's been i don't know it seemed like this week has just been long we've been like you know we shared like sicknesses the baby has been up and down it's been like oh just draining i was sick started with me thanks a lot you little outbreak monkey you gave it all to everybody geez yeah like our whole house yeah but we made it through and everybody's on the upswing now and um like i said i'm just ready to go man i'm counting down the days i'm ready to just pull the suitcases out we need to start packing we need to start going through the costumes and see what we have uh we're not buying we committed to not buying anything no nothing major i did buy a couple little things but nothing major we're just ready to be on vacation and be grown-ups together holding hands on the beach making out on the beach rubbing that booty on the beach no tan line life that's right that no tan line life i'm so here for it i'm ready for it and i'm just ready to to be gone i'm ready to be on the plane i'm ready to drink some rum punch and kick it yeah so that's how i'm feeling but uh so yeah i think that's it that's how i'm feeling'm going to keep it short and sweet today, man.
Good. So, my wonderful sweet talkers, my beautiful, beautiful wife and partner, you ready to get into tonight's episode? Let's do it. Let's go. Thank you all for hanging in there. And again, thank you so much for joining us in episode 79 of living the sweet life who listen like i said in my how you feeling today i'm ready to go so that's kind of what this entire episode is going to be about it's going to be about pre-gaming for trips um you know y''all have heard this. Not the entire episode.
Not the entire episode. No, we got a couple little different spins on the things that you guys have heard us talk about in many other different podcasts before trips and after trips. So we just going to kind of, it's going to be a melting pot. So we want to hear some of your ideas. We got, again, I got another topic that I want to bring up and it's pretty important. And I want to hear some feedback on it. And I'm hoping that we can have a nice discussion about it.
But Trist, I know you wanted to hit your topic first. Or should we do my topic first? Levity or weight? Like, which one? Yours is kind of light and fun. Mine might take us. Okay. Go do yours. Well, first I want to do some reminders.
Yeah, let's do's do that before we get into the topic i should have did this before we went into the topic but rock and roll babe you know it's your show it's my show i do what i want god damn i'm just kidding but okay so first i wanted to remind you about some dates so we do have the casual swinger week that's coming up that's next week uh looking forward to meeting some new people and also meeting people that's going to be at you know right that's not a part of the actual group um and you know hopefully get some new listeners and party so i'm looking forward to that that's may 19th uh sorry that's portland that's going to be their dates are april the 1st yeah april 1st through the 8th that's what casual swingers is and we are going to be there the third through the 8th yeah so i mean we're only a week away so it's a week away there's no need to promote that no it's not we'll just see y'all there but go ahead our next event is going to be uh portland with libertine events and that's going to be from may 19th through the 22nd of May.
I'm looking forward to that as well. I've never been to Portland and I'm looking forward to that club and you've heard me say that a few times, but I am looking forward to this club. I'm serious. I mean, we're so looking forward to this trip that we've only bought one-way tickets so far. Yes. We haven't bought our way back yet. Because we are responsible. We need to come back.
We know need to come back and figure that out but because we've been trying to get ready for did you make a trip so it's kind of like one thing at a time but yeah we will get there uh so that's portland and then after well actually before portland we have one more trip we keep talking about this and we keep forgetting we have the new york trip so new york trip is a um is an event that is going to be our first time ever attending this event it's normally overseas and they have it now in new york and it's going to be april the 22nd it is by invite only you have to go through this approval process and again i said on the last show that we'll go a little bit more into details about some of the qualifications of what we had to go through, but not too much, right?
Because I feel like this event, and I looked at it again yesterday, I feel like this event is kind of like, if you know, you know, type of event.
So I don't want to give so many details about exactly like what that process is but i'll give some and then we'll do some about the actual event just hit us up hit us up in the dm or something if you want to know the pacifics like hit us up in the dm and i'll actually give you the link and you can go through that what's funny about this new york trip is that we mentioned it on the last show and then some um some of our greatest friends and who just so happened to be listeners heard the show and they hit us up and said yo you're gonna be on new york we thought we heard you guys say you're gonna be in new york on the 22nd we're gonna be in new york yeah and we can't wait to see them again yeah that's what it's so it's so serendipitous i i can't believe how crazy timing that is and it's awesome they're going to be there like two of our favorite people and we cannot wait to see them again we're going to make sure we carve out some time to spend with them we're only going to be in new york for like a overnight overnight like a day but they're going to be there for the weekend so we're going to make sure we carve out some time to at least have dinner have lunch something to kick it with them just for that time so absolutely yeah it's just super crazy because we ain't gonna be doing nothing anyway until the event starts but yeah i really want to hang out with them that's just kind of like the universe was in the same place but yeah so we're going to do that uh our next event that we have is going to be portland then it's portland and that's may the 19th through the 22nd yeah we said and then we have i'm going i got you and then we have the sneaker ball that's going to be at taboo social club that's going to be on september the 16th now if you are local or you can travel down to the club that is the event you want to be at you know they talk about big events like halloween and new years and things like that.
Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day or St. Patrick's Day event. This is a really, really nice event. It was pretty packed when we did the first event. We want to make this an annual event. We want our sweet talkers to come out, say hello, hang out with us. We'll have a table.
You know, feel free to come up, say hello say hello definitely come through that's gonna be september the 16th and that's gonna be at taboo social club yep looking forward to it looking forward can't wait can't wait next event trish oh my god this is the last one come on we're gonna be at pcap in october so that was events october the 20th through the 23rd and that's going to be in miami and i am done okay now can you get to your topic yes i can do my job thank you okay so the topic uh for my side is that how you get ready for a trip now i'm not going to go through all of the whole pitfalls of your every podcast is talking about how you get ready for a trip what's my pregame and all of that i'm gonna go through some of my top fives about how i particularly pregame for events like in general uh especially when it's a long event this casual swinger event is kind of like it's a week this will be the longest event that we've ever gone to i think yeah we normally don't do really long events we usually take the long weekend kind of route you know a thursday to sunday kind of situation and it'd be like that's my peak and then i'm good to come home but this one's kind of long so that day drinking adds up it does add up the calories add up all of it adds up so what uh what i do so you want to make sure i started uh once we got our box uh for casual swingers and that's a really cool box of um just kind of like the gifts your gifts right your your participation yeah yeah man your swag stuff swag bag yeah your swag bag i love it so once we got that i said okay it's time for us to really start getting ready first thing i do is meds oh my goodness i pack all the medication that i could think of that we would need listen man because she is a grandma in training i'm i don't hey big mama we're gonna bring big mama back that's you baby but it counts it does count and you be coming in clutch when he got sick twice on trips and you've gotten sick and i'll put my minutes out and who had the all the stuff that you needed trust me we didn't have to go to no store and do all of that i had all the things that we needed so that's the first thing i do i look at the meds to see what we're low on and kind of put all of that together i mean it matters though right it does matter like you know uh you got to make sure you have your hangover remedy you got to have your little uh vitamin packs yeah all those things that you don't think about uh motrin you know those key essentials and then i make all my appointments which includes for him you don't have to do that you don't have to worry about your hair and all that so jesus no you see if.
You see, if you're on the YouTube live, I already have my color done. I, you know, make sure that's done, hair, nails, any type of laser treatments that I need to get done. What are you lasering, dear? I do retouch up lasers of my bajajay. Yes. So I've had laser done a few years now, right?
I don't even know how long it's it's been it's been a few years but i still go and get touch-ups done um every so often throughout the year so i'll do that any massages or facials like you know you want to be your best self right right and you better believe i'm gonna be uh manscaping yes pre-game before hopefully not the the last minute 10 minutes no night before no see i'm torn though right when it comes to manscaping like it's like how far in advance do you shave i do do the night before because i want to be as fresh as possible the next day but then you put yourself at risk if you nick yourself you got a little cut you don't want no damn open wounds in those pools oh no no you better neospore in the hell out of that no you don't so it's like you know do i do it two days or a day or two prior to but then i run the risk of being kind of stubbly so i like to roll the dice and do it like the night before it's part of because i can't sleep anyway so i might as well just take that time and just you know that's a part of my ritual yes it is it's a part of it along with packing the night before along with packing 10 minutes before the night before judge your mama we supposed to leave yeah okay um those are the things that i have to just like live with you know what some of your partner uh things that you have to just deal with That's one of them.
OK. Those are the things that I have to just like live with, you know, what some of your partner things that you have to just deal with. That's one of them. He packs at the very last minute. But this is like packing, though. And it's like a tornado in our room. This is like packing. This is like packing. So because I don't need a whole bunch of everything. I do need a couple of outfits.
We talked about this because we're going be um we're actually going to spend a little bit more time off campus yes over the years we've accumulated places that we like to go off campus off site so you know we're going to spend some time on those those particular things and maybe try one or two new things so that's just true yeah so i guess i need underwear um yeah you need something uh you don't know because the you've always gone without um underwear on especially on keto trips so that part is not the problem so you like i'm going completely you know commando even when he comes back home he's like i'm commando take about a month yeah for him to be normal again that's absolutely right and then the next thing is of course gym um i kick up the up the time that I actually spend in the gym.
People say that all the time. It's not that I don't work out. I work out throughout the week. I'm a faithful believer in working out. It helps my stress. But I kick up the workouts.
So I'll go to doing maybe three days a week.'ll go to do like four or five days or two days in one day and i'll start staggering like like my schedules and i don't do it as much cardio and i try to build on like muscles so it's kind of like that's my routine of things and i started cleaning i started cleaning up my eating as well and i did this because of winter so even if we didn't have a trip I would do this anyway that's what I'm saying it's my ritual of coming out of winter into the spring that's just kind of what I do to get ready for like summertime yeah and then I try to follow suit with that you know lately I've been doing a lot of walking do like about five six miles a day yeah pretty much the same as you I don't I don't have the the discipline to you know go down to the gym as often as you do but it's like when I know that there's a target I turn it up it's like okay I got two weeks I'm in there every day you know and I'm trying to push myself and the diet is crazy the fasting gets crazy but uh you know i am definitely in need of some gummy bears right now but uh we're getting there we're getting there it's all gonna be worth it trist yes and then the last thing i do is tmi which i don't know people don't talk about it as much but it is a real thing that i actually do all the time when we're about to go on a vacation.
Not so much when we go to like parties and things like that. It's kind of like one day things. Masturbate. No. Yeah, well, that's great. But yeah, that's not it. My TMI thing is that so especially for people that take birth control and if anybody's listening, that's a woman. If you want to DM a comment or comment on the live chat, I actually count. I'm, I take birth control pills. So I don't have an IUD or anything like that. I take pills.
And what I do with my pills is that I make sure as I'm getting closer to a trip or something like that, I actually count and look at where my pills are going to land. And the reason for that is because I know I've been on these pills for years now. I know that when it, once it gets to a certain color, that I can reorganize those colors around so that just in case I do need to come on my monthly cycle, that it switches it and comes not on the actual trip.
It can come the trip it just depends on where i know the colors fall like fall into play so i actually look at that when i'm going on trips to see if that's going to be an issue or not so question not statement you're trying to regulate your cycle you try to regulate when your period comes yes okay it's possible to do because and for me it's not one of those things i don't have like every month that's why i say it's tim tmi because every month i think this is valuable though no because every this is something i've never heard somebody say on a podcast so please share yeah because so my cycle is doesn't it's not every month also so it's not like i can take the risk and say oh it's not going to come this month because it doesn't come every month you know no that'll be the time when it actually comes so i actually need to go i look at the last i keep a calendar in my phone it's the app it's like i keep this app i've had What's the app it's uh flow yeah it's called like flow cycle yeah share with the yeah so i have the app and it keeps up with the last time that i actually came on my period and i can log that information so it's easy to kind of keep track of what's happening so i'll go and look at that last time i actually had a period and then wear the colors on my actual pills, on the birth patrol pills.
And then if it's, if I feel like if it's too close to when I'm going on the trip and it's not like after, like if it falls towards the end of the trip and I'm about to go home, I don't care. Like I'll let it go. But if it's going to fall like right at the at the beginning of the trip, uh-uh. You start shaking shit around. You just switch that rule. God damn. I'll switch those pills around and just do them in reverse the week before. Isn't science amazing? Yeah. God damn.
You switch the pills and you do them the week before, and then you just keep going, basically, through the rest of the colors, and you're good. It's like, voila, magic. How about that? Look at that.
We got some sweet talker feedback now go ahead all right that's on you sweet talker says that i did something similar to this i continued the pill so that my cycle didn't come and i paid for it next month i get what you're saying yes i mean it's it's yeah emphasis on i paid for it so what does that mean to me what does that mean i'm i don't know i'm assuming i'm assuming as a guy i'm assuming that she means that that was like bam the next month like maybe felt the thunder is that how i work i'm kind of dumb please enlighten me because it seems like in my limited understanding it seems she says worse seem it was worse wow right like does it like accumulate does is that what happens like you kind of holding it still in there and then later on it's all kind of not backed up again i'm very ignorant on this yeah not really that it's backed up right because it can't it can't just stay there right right that's not okay what happens it just could have been just you know in some of the angst that you go through there everybody's different of course okay of how um or what they feel when they actually come on their menstrual cycle right but it could have just been like worse as far as like worse like cramping worse bloating things like that right yep symptoms exactly right so the symptoms were probably worse than what they normally would be um in that regard wow another sweet talker says great sweet tea it's great great tip mine doesn't come every month either yeah i never know when it comes I just cross my fingers and hope so far i've been lucky yeah i mean it works like i said um it does work when it's not it's just a weekend event like it is what it is you know i'm not going to go through all of that we just can't play i just i just won't do it right but for like long trips um especially when it's a lifestyle long trip i really pay attention to where um those pills and the colors fall into play so that i have time to if i need to i switch um the colors around uh that's what i actually had to do for this trip but i had to switch it um and like for the week before so i can make sure that I was straight okay but yeah i mean like i said this is all tmi but i've never heard nobody talk about it but this is a thing that i actually do i know another friend they take they have a ring and they do something where they take the ring out um so that they come on their um period before and like an event or whatever and then they put it back in i don't i'm not familiar with rings but that's what they told We'll see you next time.
So that they come on there, period, before an event or whatever, and then they put it back in. I'm not familiar with rings, but that's what they told me. So I know that some other people do it and make adjustments, but I just never heard anybody talk about it. And that's a prep thing for me. I have to consider my menstrual cycle.
I bet that there are a lot of women who just heard that and was like yeah you know i i would imagine that you know hearing somebody actually vocalize that and say you know you just let people know that they're not the only ones right you just did i hey look i didn't know what you wrote down but i'm glad that you put that there like you know i just feel like again i listen to a lot of these podcasts right and i i've never heard somebody mention that birth control yeah well yeah not the birth control regulation we we've i've heard the period conversation you know it in passing because i guess some people feel like it's uncomfortable but i think that's that's the kind of space you want to live in about sharing the things that might be uncomfortable the things that people don't know not really talking about um so kudos to you man i like that that was great um from a male perspective the stuff we do for a bomb vacation indeed you know and it's not really for it's for me it's not about you know other people like feeling uh comfortable or i won't be able to play with other people whatever it's not that it's just i want to be able to walk around in in all of my glory without having to worry about oh my gosh it's the tampon showing and what's happening with this like that's just that's not where I want to be at when I'm trying to enjoy a vacation that I pay a whole bunch of money for.
So I'm wearing bottoms. Yeah. So if if any if I can prevent that, I will I would indeed try. What other measures have you heard of women?
The only thing I've ever heard of it's just like the o-ring um yeah and that's the because some other people they have iud's and so they don't have to worry about that it's just you don't have a period at all so you don't have to worry about oh my gosh am i gonna something's gonna happen because you don't have your period um i'm walking on dangerous territory here okay i want y'all to accept that I am very ignorant in this, and I can do better, and I will. Isn't there a cup?
Is the O-ring the same as like a cup? Is like a cup that you put in there? It's a ring. That's what I'm saying. You said it's a ring. It's not a cup. Okay. So they're one and the same? I'm thinking of the same thing. I don't know what a cup is. Okay. All right.
And I will gladly move on move I don't know because I'm not sure I just wanted to I'm just trying to I can't remember what the more technical name of this cup that I think okay so I will move on all right but thank you for sharing that Trist and I'm like I said I'm pretty sure that there are a lot of women who are really appreciative yeah appreciative so that's kind of someone said oh sweetie thank you for saving me girl she says i have a cup thank you okay so i wonder is the diva cup that's what it's called okay yes i have been validated thank you so much ladies no but no for i don't again i i do not claim to know everything i'm just saying i've heard he knew more than i did because i didn't know i've just heard the cup thing before so i wonder is that also a method that can be used is that also something that can be used um you know on vacation like especially a vacation of this sort where you go and you're naked is that something that can be used to make you more comfortable because it's i would imagine that it's inside and it's doing its job so i don't know duchess cashmere of the cashmere room podcast checking in what's up fam uh so glad to have you here y'all please check out this sister's work man she's out here hustling she is doing fantastic things she went to some kind of dom situation i saw her all dressed up with all these sd uh bdsm uh folks she out here killing it sis i'm so glad you out here finding your voice you're expressing yourself pussy power to the fullest i'm so proud of you oh man i i want to be around you so this is like a duchess says also she uh she used to use the cup okay okay and uh sweetie says uh there's the honey pot cup also and duchess i think she was answering my question is if it's something that you can use to walk around and be comfortable and she said yes so you use this instead of a tampon that's what it sounds like right and that's what i would imagine show i'm assuming okay got it look at us we solving this shit we solving this shit live and they're saying it holds more liquid than a tampon ah look at that and dutchess also says yes again so yeah we're on to something so there are other solutions out here and again people if you're listening to this and you got uh also other solutions or um please feel free to dm us educate me like i don't know hey look this cup part and that was totally new to me because i had no there was like what's a cup yeah so feel free let's uh let's solve this together let's let's work on it let's you know now i'm gonna go look for it i want to see what it looks like i'm serious i want to see but no that's what's up trish uh again great topic i like that thank you all right thank you what's your topic all right all right so so this was the whole mini pre-game for casual swinger week okay um first i want to give a shout out to some last minute additions to this trip unbelievably it's crazy uh kate and liam of monogamous marriage they're going to be joining this trip they just jumped in the chat and was like yo we're gonna be here we are ready we booked tickets last minute and shout out to them uh we looking forward to seeing them again we haven't seen them in a while i can't remember when the last time pcap dallas dallas i think so yeah pcap dallas pcap dallas that was the last time we got there kicking with those very very smart sexy wonderful individuals and we looking forward to seeing them again so last week was um at hito we got a couple of text messages from a couple different friends um that they were at young swinger week young swingers week it used to be call young swingers week now it's called he don't swing break either way that used to be a party yeah and from the sound of it it still is a great party um you know great hosts great like um events and you know um you know little activities to keep everybody engaged and partying and having a good time and it sounds like a really good time now some of the friends that we talk to about it um we hear this a lot man uh that the party could have used a little bit more melanin a little bit more black folk right and we hear that a lot at these great events and i see it a lot right i see that we could be there right like we're missing like it i it it it breaks my heart that you know these awesome events are happening and we're not there um now we're we sometimes i feel like we have to have what i believe is like the audacity to kind of just show up yeah that's what you always say you like we just gotta show up able to have the audacity to show up at events and we not mainly just us but like we uh black folk like right when you say that you know that there's no black people at this event or there's only little black people at this event we want you there people have to be able to show up i want you to go there with me right i want you to go there with me because okay so we have black events we We don't have a lot of them or none that i'm privy to the most common one that i hear about the most one that a lot of people bring up and the one that we're really actually interested in checking out is mocha fest shout out to mocha fest they've been around a long time they made it through covid they made it you know what i'm saying mocha fest is alive and well they just did the trip at temptations dr the place that we wanted to go to and we heard it was a good event you know the uh the resort obviously working out the kinks yes all that stuff but as far as like the event the party that i heard it was a good party we heard that they take over the other temptation in Mexico.
And this is something that we want to experience. We want to see this. We want to see black groups survive and thrive and do well. And black folks can come together and party. Right. And if there are more out there, I want to hear about them and I want to check them out. Right. I want to support.
But I still do want to go to go to other events yes I still want to go to other events like a PCAP right I want to go to a Hedo swing break I heard that the average age there's like 35 we're we're above that average age but still and I heard again we heard all these good things about it right think about the benefits of a PCAP where you got all the seminars and all the podcast hosts and you know you got the hedo swing break they talk about all the activities and then you got the party that we're about to go to casual swinger week where it's just quite frankly it's just people i like yeah you know mickey and mallory great hosts i'm sure they're going to have a bunch of activities a bunch of things to do where i know that we're not that we're probably the only black people going no i said probably no i'm pretty sure i'm not guaranteeing it i'm not guaranteeing it but i'm not afraid of it i'm not shy of it i every time we mention things i just want y'all to know that that's an invitation for you i'm inviting you to join me at these things like there are other things that i don't want us to feel like we are shut out of because they purport themselves to be inclusive right all these events pcap hito swing break casual swinger week sapio tours are run by Monogamous Marriage, they're going to be doing tours over in Greece.
Like, not tours, trips to Greece. Yes. Europe. All over the place. And we would have went. They're going to be all over the place. If the dates worked out. Yeah, if the dates worked out, right? We need to be there.
Yes, it's like one of those things where we can't be afraid to attend events because you don't feel like that it's going to be a mocha fest right you know and kind of like a takeover i in particular like to go to events that have like that that are inclusive right that have a lot of different people from all over because i feel like we all can learn something from each other and then, you know, and move from there, especially that people that have been, we know that in the lifestyle, it culturally, we make up a very small percentage of, of what the lifestyle looks like.
Right. But that's why you have different platforms.
You have to show to be able to explain to people how the lifestyle works, how, you know, how are these things happening and and kind of move on from there and the same thing goes for mocha fest i want to go to mocha fest so that i can see and understand that experience because they also may have something to learn as well absolutely i don't know because i haven't been but it may be something from there no don't get me wrong i didn't hear it was a perfect event yeah i heard it's a good time all of these uh all of these events that we named are not perfect right and i think sapio tours except for them they haven't had one yet their first trip is coming up this summer but every every other um every other trip or takeover you know has room to grow they got work to do.
It is not perfect. None of them are perfect. We want y'all. We just want to make sure that y'all know that we want y'all there with us. We want to be there with you. Like we need to just like us. Like I said, just have the audacity to show up. Right.
Be and be recognized you know what i'm saying if somebody's not like not i'm not going to sit here and wait for a red carpet for me i'm just gonna go i'm gonna go and if you're uncomfortable with it you got to deal with that that's your shit not mine and just go and also you know mingle and kind of you know be yourself and find where you fit and that's it you know i think that that's what most of the reason because it that doesn't mean that oh because you go to a mocha fest and this is not a shot against mocha fest um that oh that oh it's a black event that oh all of us are going to like it's going to be great and i'm gonna feel so comfortable and we're gonna all get along because that may very well not be the case so i think that's that's not my expectation at all yeah so it doesn't mean that because you go to this event that it's going to make it easier is what i'm saying as far as lifestyle wise go let's catch up with the sweet talkers sweet tea says we accidentally went to a mocha fest event we were at temptations in cancun and they just happened to be there too right how was it Thank you.
Let's catch up with the Sweet Talkers. Sweet T says, we accidentally went to a Mocha Fest event. We were at Temptations in Cancun, and they just happened to be there, too. Right. How was it? How was it? I want to know what your experience was. And then Dutchess says that Sex Down South in Atlanta is a really, it is really, oh, Swinger and Jason, but there was Sex Dungeon. In the dungeon. Okay. Nice. All right. I like that one.
Yeah, want to check that out and then uh dutchess says that we have to be yes we have to be brave to go we belong everywhere that's what that's all i'm oh that's why you are the writer dutchess that's all i'm trying to say we belong everywhere man like why why i gotta shut out my my trip to jamaica you know why like i want all of us to go i want all of us to go like it's open let's just go man like this casual swinger week is open to everybody man like i want everybody to be there i don't want to be there all alone even though you know i'm not you know what i'm saying i hope this is coming right trish you start talking all right never now sweet talking says that hi hi all we are going to mocha fest greece in june oh i didn't even know they had a trip in june is that a cruise or they just going are they doing a takeover how about that oh that's good that's what's up and then they said the same thing happened to them they just happened to be at temptation at the same place at the same time and dutch just says, yes, it's coming out.
Oh, she's talking about you. She gave you the thumbs up. Yeah. Thank you. Because I mean, sometimes, you know, you don't want to get to. It's like one of those things where we want to make sure it's coming out clear. We're not trying to like step on anybody's event or anything like that.
We just want to make sure that, you know, we hear this a not from like one person or not it comes up a lot and even in our friend circles with some of our friends and just was like you know where the where the black people at like as soon as we meet it happens sometimes with like new couples when you meet them and they're and they be in and they're a black couple and it's not all the time but it happens more often than not right they're new to the lifestyle and they're trying to meet people and they're a black couple like meaning both people are um are african-american but they say oh where are the black people at and i'm just like what does that mean right like yeah because i just met you like five minutes.
And it doesn't mean that we're going to be besties because we are the same color skin. I don't know. I don't like it. It's like where the black people and you have to go to events to just meet people in general. It's not. Would you see a black person and that gives you the open carpet to now? I know all the black people. No. OK. OK. Hold on. What I think what happens is you go for what's comfortable. Right.
You go to the person that you think is the most comfortable is going to be the most receptive that can relate to you on a certain level immediately. Just just as comfort.
It's not your responsibility to do anything or to guide or help but some people reach out because you look like me okay let me let me start here okay and i think that's okay i think it's okay to kind of start there but they can be a dick i understand you can start there and at least they can engage in a conversation it's not on you to you know to be best friends it's on i think somebody oh i see you across the room you're a beautiful brown skinned woman i'ma i said beautiful brown skinned woman i can go over to you um to ask you hey where do you get you know uh cocoa butter i'm gonna make an assumption because you know what i'm talking about you know what i need it for them for my ankles and whatnot you know what i'm saying so i'm gonna go to you first because you i have a better shot at you understanding exactly what i need you see what i'm saying i understand so that's kind of what it is they come to you first to say hey where we at you know what i'm saying where are more of us you know out here in this game and then we say okay yeah we've heard of it and we never turn people away we say they're here we know mocha fest and again i'm still trying to get more uh black events in my lexicon in my in my repertoire so i can share share them yeah but i just don't know of many but i'll say to them also hey look i know of this great event you know and if you go with me we'll be the black people there we can bring more black people here the doors are open these again these these events are all inclusive all are you know they're not excluding any of us and that's why i think it's an odd question and that's what i'm saying for me i understand this is why i feel personally that it's an odd question because it's no event is saying that we are only catering to these type of people at this event right there's nowhere that i know of that there that has been the the statue or whatever that they're doing for their event like the standard so that's why when you first meet someone and they say that it's just like i don't get it like i just met you like why why do you ask that question right because i mean have you been to other events and they say like yes okay cool then you'll meet people as you go to events you know it just depends on the Thank you.
mean have you been to other events and they say like yes okay cool then you'll meet people as you go to events you know um it just depends on the crowd that you're hanging out with and you'll start meeting people as you go to events but i feel like that's in general or maybe i'm just different experiences it's different life experiences so you're looking for different things man it's it's um we talked about this uh just between us you know um in our bedroom right like our our upbringing where we're from we've never been minorities i went to an hbcu yeah you know i went to an hbcu like i've haven't been a minority like white folk were just teachers and nuns yeah we've talked about that yeah yeah so our experience is like what do you mean we're the black people like i always see black people i'm from the dmv like i see us i see black people all the time like i said to you like every fourth of july every memorial day is a goddamn um mocha fest at home you know it's always that for me so i'm not necessarily look like i know where we are i just naturally but that's my experience but then you got people who are like dutch is from the down south man where minority is a real thing you know what i'm saying like you got people scattered all over this place where minority is a real thing and motherfuckers will make sure you remember that you are a minority so they looking for a place where they can ask for that cocoa butter comfortably you know what i'm saying and when they see you they like yo it's so good to see you brother you know what i'm saying i'm just like that means something different it means something different to people who are from different places so you got to respect that and i appreciate that and i love that about my people is that when we do see each other you know we got that in common even though somebody might be a dick but it takes a second to learn that and like okay you're a dick you're a dick you're a black man but you're a dick peace out i'm done with you good luck yeah yeah you up somewhere yeah you know what i'm saying but i guess that's just my point right and it's just getting to know people for who for who they are who they are right because it doesn't just mean that you know that we're going to get along um the sweet talker sweet tea says says that I don't know about the blacks up here, but where we are from, because the ones we've met have been weird to us.
So we don't necessarily gravitate. Exactly. Exactly. And then once you cross that, like, OK, we got this in common. Oh, but you're an asshole. That's it. Yeah. Just like I'm just like anybody else.
You know, for sure and then uh that just says that last year i noticed at naughty all the black folks was at the pool okay i heard quite a few said that they did not they did not go to the playroom area at all but why not you know exactly like go and they have your experience right and that's one thing like we can't say you know, they don't have black people at these events.
But then you go to the event and then you don't participate or you don't even try to see push your boundaries, like what all of it means. Yeah. And what all it means at an event. Right. That's all I'm saying.
If you're going to go, go, you know, participate, mingle, meet people, ask questions, because my experience in lifestyle, like people, you're going to find somebody is going to answer your questions or and then and then they're going to open the door and introduce you to their friend and this friend and that friend and and all of that. And it's going to be more comfortable.
But you have to also be to to be able to have a conversation with somebody and to break that ice uh-huh and try something different and try something different try something new this is why you're here this is like that you said earlier um experience all of the lifestyle you want to try to experience all of it everything you know you go at your pace you go at your pace yeah but you get to see you get to at least hear the stories you talk to different people you get different experiences from those different perspectives and that's what matters man that's what this is all about you can't be afraid to have those conversations with people that you don't necessarily maybe in your regular life you have a conversation like but that's why we're all here we're all in the same place gotta have the audacity to show up man show up show and i don't mean just physically showing up right that's the that's the easy part i love it it's showing up also just participating in the event right um then uh sweet tea says that we met a lot of dicks oh that look like us yes this is true i have too but sweet tea did something so nice she's so sweet she um asterix the the rest of dicks out like she put the d but then put a little asterisk sweet tea you can cuss here you're still a lady you're a lady you can you can cuss on the show you know you're still sweet you're still a lady go ahead dutchess says that was weird to me i think she's talking about like the pool situation where people didn't participate because they were just people that are not you know they're a little bit afraid to kind of be great sweetie say lol she says that we have no problem talking to people and going in where it may seem we don't belong i enjoy talking to different people and explore different experiences i don't like to limit myself same this is this is true i think we can go ahead and wrap on that yeah i think that that's that's very true man people they just gotta show up that's it if you don't show up you you can never learn something new you know you can't put yourself in a position to meet some dope ass people and um you know yeah and we've met some dope people throughout the years you know not just because of the show but just in general like before we even started doing the show just walking in the room yeah man gotta show up but listen man this has been fun thank y'all for indulging us in this conversation um yeah shout out to to all the Sweet Talkers, man.
Y'all participated in this one. Y'all made this a lively discussion on both sides of tonight's topics. And we really enjoyed it. I enjoyed this one, Trish. I did, too. I can't wait, you know, to do some of the live feeds, like, next week. Oh, check me out. And I forgot to talk about all that stuff. See? See? Actually, I told him we was already there. Talking all that shit, and I forgot. Yeah.
You're stuff and i forgot yeah you're gonna wait yeah man you took it anyway so yeah um we plan on doing a bunch of how you feelings we gotta um promote that a little bit more in the uh the chat group we're gonna get some live how you feelings from people hopefully they participate find out what their favorite event was for the day um what they're looking forward to um what kind of new experiences have they had on the trip we just kind of want to get the feeling we want you guys to have an a real feeling of what this trip was not just from our perspective but from the other participants so hopefully we can put that together and um i don't want to over promise but so you know we'll see what we can get and we're not going to be super appreciate like hey look no hell no we're going to have office hours we can put it that way if y'all I want to over-promise, so, you know, we'll see what we can get.
And we're not going to be super appreciative, like, hey, look, you want to talk in my mic. We're going to have office hours. Put it that way. If y'all want to come through to the bedroom and, you know, do a little recording, feel free. And that's pretty much what it's going to be. And we can't wait to come back and tell y'all how it goes. Sweet T says what?
When we come to the sneaker ball in September, Miss Triss, I have a request go sweet tea sweet tea gonna come sweet tea gonna come to the party i can't wait dm me oh yeah hold on do you want to do the request now sweet tea or you want to hit us on the side come on sis hit us now do it now no we got a filibuster on the spot she can dm me i know she ain't even do cuss words dm me yeah dm her dutchess says look at that smile i tell you when that's like when something's about to happen i'm like oh she said you gotta wait oh i can't wait yes all right well anticipation builds from here on now sweetie thank you so much we look forward to meeting you dutchess love you so much sis man we appreciate all the participation again trist this was fun baby all right guys we'll see y'all next time later bye again we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us to everyone who couldn't't join us live in the suite, check out our podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify, Google Play, and iHeartRadio.
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