Whatever happens to the individuals rights to choose. If people go on rating saying they are not interested, someone else wouldnt give them a time of day. You cant really judge people by their profile. We do the best we can to describe ourselves but many things change in certain situations. It is all about comfort and how you click with the couple. Each couple has their own choice of who they like, I just dont see the point in going on to rate people. If you dont like them great, then move on, no need to dwell over and say well not interested so everyone else can see. So what, then go on to find who you like without the stars. We are not graded on how many stars we obtain, but by the memories we make and the fantasies we fulfill. This is suppose to be fun...Not another job. Then again tyhat is just our opinion minus the stars. DnJ
Member Interest Levels
The 'interest' are only viewable by the member that set the interest.
It is for the sole purpose of indicating, for yourself, whether you are interested in a specific member or not.
We're using the stars in search mode only. If we haven't gotten around to putting notes on a profile, and we accidently look at it a second time, we click the lowest star setting, and viola, we do not have to worry about forgetting a note again. It saves time.
But I would NOT want anyone to be able to see the ratings, whether good or bad. If we're interested in someone, we write a short note. If we're not, we don't.
Not pointing a finger here, but the people who WANT others to be able to see their interest level, are seriously breaching swinger etiquette, IMO. Part of the joy of this lifestyle is that there are no wrongs or rights for everyone, it is an individual matter. I like the features on this site because you have the choice to use them (such as the interest stars and notes) as you see fit. Buttonholing people into all doing the same thing isn't going to work here or anywhere else within the lifestyle. S
--naw, no good. think about it. what's been provided is a way to dismiss interest in a cruel way.
Obviously you missed the fact that the interest stars are NOT visible to anyone else. You're the only ones who see the interest level you set.
You can't dismiss someone with them unless you send them an email saying "you have zero stars."
naw, no good. think about it. what's been provided is a way to dismiss interest in a cruel way.
normally that's done by not replying or saying "no thanks".
this site is so "bubblegum", it doesn't surprise us this feature was implimented.
you care to run with the bigs dogs, and have the features the big dogs have, there's only one way.
stack cheese. lots & lots of cheese.
don't insult us, it's our cheese. (money)
We should be able to view who has looked at our profiles and then we view theirs and take it from there if all are interested.
Nah, it would be more like a slap in the face, IMO. Besides, an interest level is a personal thing. What you like, we might not, and vice versa. That's why it is so important to state preferences clearly in the profiles. We know we would be insulted if a couple whose profile we're just looking at for the first time, made it clear that their interest level is "0". We can't make a judgment like that from a profile in most cases, we have to meet them in person. S&J
I think it should be visible to the person(s) on the profile, so it can be a quick expression of interest that they can consider.
very cool feature. Thanks to the techies who work so hard for us.
Thanks Swing, I hadn't noticed that, although tonight it looks like the stars are staying the way I put them. S
Oops, welcome to the virgin poster. Pines, welcome! And have fun! Susan
I am SO glad this is happening to someone else. Yesterday, I browsed and clicked. Today, I browsed and clicked (on the ratings). Half way through I realized that I just marked the same profiles as I had the day before! Please, please oh Tech God, fix this! lol S
PS to Slo - I hate winks and really thought that we were all alone in not getting replies after writing to the "winkers". After a few no replies, that's when I started to delete them. Whatever happened to a nice "hello" message to start with anyway? S
We've had the same issue as SLODoublet. We notice it especially for profiles we rate as no interest. It seems to be keeping the ratings for ones we like, but the no interest ratings seem to keep reverting back to question marks!
Fantasydreamer,
Wink Wink! Hehehe! Welcum to the forums J and C. Good to see you two sexy sweeties posting in here.
RaveN ( :~
I am on a site that has a wink feature. I find winks to be tiresome after the first one or two. Usually those winking don't live near me so meeting is most likely not gonna happen. I just delete all the winks without looking at them most of the time.
I wouldn't mind the "who has viewed your profile" feature though.
Techie said: "I don't "get" the wink feature. If you are interested in someone, send them a message. To me a wink says, "We don't have enough interest in you to actually take the time to write you a message." If someone winks at you, what do you do? Wink back at them? Then what? "
Thank you. We have a profile on AFF, which we haven't updated in God knows how long, and we're rarely on line there. It hasn't proved to be a very good site, overall. They have that damn wink feature. We get about 30 winks a week on there. If I write to those who winked, guess what? They don't answer back about half the time! And if I wink back, I feel like, wtf? You can't write a short email expressing interest? I now delete the winks as I get them, ignoring them completely. We don't want to spend time with anyone who can't write to us initially to say hello.
No No No on the being able to see interest levels, or notes, or anything else. No means no, remember? In order to get that "no", you have to write an email expressing interest, or they have to write to you! It would become a popularity contest and foster very hard feelings between people - in our small pool of swingers, that's all anyone would need to feel totally and completely isolated. Just my thoughts. Susan
HI , Not so sure about the Rating idea.. because in all of our eyes you are all 10+ stars, but it would be nice to know that if there is a couple out there interested in us, a lil wink, nudge or something... would be nice , or to know who has looked at us more then once ... some people are kinda shy and afraid to take the first step...not us :) but some are!
In regard to what 2inVT said....
Check... Phone numbers, dates we met them, things like that all go in the notes.
Check... Some people say that winks are great if you're shy... but if you're too shy to write a polite email, how are you going to reply if they respond to your wink?
Check... We look at lots of profiles. New members, forum posters, people who give certs to couples we're considering contacting... We don't want to have to deal with dozens of people writing to us and saying "why did you look at our profile?" And can you imagine the number of such hits a new couple or unicorn gets? The flood could be very intimidating... especially if that person/couple writes back to ALL of them... and gets a lot of "sorry, we're not interested" or no reply.
Check... Who really needs to see that a couple has marked you as "no interest" completely out of the blue? We don't want to see SLS turn in to a swingers version of "hot or not."
The stars are a good idea if you don't take the time to use "notes". We find notes more informative instantly. We think it would be more helpful to have a method of letting the other couple know your interest. Not necessarily a "level" of interest, but just an interest. Yes, a message is better but we don't always have the time to compose a really good one and include pics. Just the fact that someone has looked and is interested is enough to make us want to email THEM!
it nice to rate people but there a lot of flake profile out there mostly guy's saying there a clp how do you sort them out ?
Still working out bugs? I "not interested" a profile a few hours ago and didn't notice any change accept the box around my choice. There were not hidden in the "Who's on" list. Now the same profie shows no selection at all.
We can't even figure out how it works. If we check a couples profile and mark that we are interested, does that couple see that? Totally lost,lol. We think there should be a better explanation of this feature.
We would be happy just to know who viewed us and see if our profiles match to where we would like to make contact
Heh just put notes saying why you are not interested them search for "without notes" of course these change have broken that for the who's on search.
Webmaster can we get anyone with notes converted to not interested with this change, because we use notes that way since they were the only tool practical before.
I don't "get" the wink feature. If you are interested in someone, send them a message. To me a wink says, "We don't have enough interest in you to actually take the time to write you a message." If someone winks at you, what do you do? Wink back at them? Then what?
Tech Support -W
Etex, I agree with you. This is a piddling bone. Give us some real meat lol