Certifications. How important are they?

Now thats funny.. as far as when.. guess its up to you on your next visit to GA when we are in town..

Hmm sounds like work trip is needed. !

Speaking of @RK...... you never left me a cert dammit! Let me know when I can come drop off the form ;)

Catchy.. sort of like having just "one" photo on your profile.. should we judge..

No didnt think so!

Catchy.. not really about Certs,, just within last couple pages here we have played with several.. TV and others just this year.. are we fake..? TV was wined and dined and danced the night then 2 days of playing.. before he left.. !

We do not trade Certs , swinging well over 20 years and never even had them or discussed them prior to SLS .. we dont care what anyone thinks and its no ones business who we do play with.. and YES we do travel all over USA.

Just for you our photos are open.. and like we have stated many times.. we know couples in Georgia who collect Certs for meeting having lunch or dinner but never play... you want to see if are are real.. check our Linkedin site we have over 600 working people who all know us.. and worked beside us.. LOL

Current certs may have a little more meaning in the Covid world. If it's a recent cert that starts with, "We met so-and-so at a party....", it would likely be a turn-off to people playing but not doing so at parties. If someone is not playing at all right now but still checking out profiles for future possible play, they may see that and just go ahead and block that person/couple.

Watching "Upload" on Amazon and they actually do ask for reviews after hook-ups. Crazy!

We do pay attention to certs as they all yield some form of information. Even the lack of them on a long-time member says something (the dog that didn't bark kind of thing) regardless of whether or not the profile says "We don't do certs". The content, the originator, the receiver, the quantity, the quality...each yields a bit of information that can guide a decision.

Don't stop at the cert itself though...dig. Follow it through the givers to the ones that gave them certs. That kind of mining can help you avoid a mishap, like when we realized the same person was giving certs to himself from fake profiles.

tl;dr Certs good, no certs bleh

When considering meeting someone we definitely look at their certs if they have any.

At least it helps weed out no shows.

I always feel weird asking for one. Almost feels like I'm asking for a Yelp review.

"Hey.... Now that we had sex, can you leave me a 5 star review on my site?"

I usually just leave them a cert, and they'll either return it, or not. And I won't leave one if they say something about not wanting them.

Is there too much emphasis placed on certs? Not for me. At its most basic, it's evidence that you played with someone and they got out alive. I mean, sure, it's nice to read that a guy knows what he's doing, but that's not really why they're important to me.

You could ask for a cert or you could write one for them and either see if they return the favor or ask if they would.

Agree with Mayhem

It's perfectly acceptable to ask for certs from folks you've played with. Be prepared for them to tell you they don't give out certs and accept that gracefully.

We also agree that certs are more important for single guys. In our area, and I'm sure others, there is an overabundance of guys who for whatever reason chat you up then ghost when it's time to meet this wasting your time.

We won't even consider chatting with a single with no certs for that reason alone.

I think that after you've met and had a good experience, it's OK to ask for a Cert so long as the people you're asking don't have something in their profile about not giving/accepting Certs.

I do think that Certs for SMs are more important than Certs for couples. Especially so if it's an SF looking for an SM.

I have read several profiles where the single woman or wife required at least 3-4 certs to even warrant getting a response. So when someone is new, what is the protocol in asking for a cert. Let's say you have had several great experiences and even had a few call backs and still no Certs...
Is too much emphasis put on the Cert? Is this something that we could ask SLS to refine? It all seems silly to me.
Then what about a person with 145 certs? :-)

Young2 - We have played with people that have asked us if we'd give them a cert, and they usually give us one before they ask. Others just gave us one without asking, but we've never actually had to ask anyone before. Not something I really think of.

I mentioned this before, but most times this is the last thing I look at (if I even look at all) when considering a couple. As noted, you will never see a negative cert, so kind of no point. About the only time I may look further is if thye got a cert from one of our other friends, I may ask our friends their take on them, but even then, we've had friends that didn't like a couple for whatever reason and we got along fine with them, so you never know unless you meet them for yourself.

Young2ginger. Of course there are no negative certs! Why would anyone post a negative cert? Regardless, if that were to happen one has the right to not accept it. I am confused by certs given if folks just meet at a party and no play or interaction occurred; or if they have merely chatted through whatever medium.

I was curious about certs, as we don't have any. We don't want to ask for references, because that seems a bit contrived.
And no, I've never seen a negative cert; who would post that?! How do we get them without feeling schemy?

and that is exactly my point on Certs! has anyone... anyone ….seen a bad Cert,. Heck we had a blow up with the owner at NOLA about his BS swinger party that was only an expensive and I mean expensive meet and greet at an upstairs bar on Bourbon St.. many knew his scam prior but they were all locals.. All the out of towners were pissed.. He gave us a CERT.. is he nuts!

xoxox

We recently had a house party with mostly couples. We wanted to invite some single guys, as well. Because we are new to the area we don’t really know many reliable single guys, so relied on certs.

We ended up inviting, and getting an RSVP from four men, all of whom had at least 10 glowing certs.

Result: one showed up on time, one showed up after midnight and clearly didn’t come to fuck, and two never showed up at all.

In this case, certs didn’t work for us. By the way, the one guy who showed up was the only guy that I met in person before the party.

and that's why we talk and meet.. we can tell pretty quickly if its a go or no go! We play often on first meets. Others we tell them we are not a match thanks for meeting us... it was a couple hours out and some drinks.

If it works for you great and we do understand both sides.. but to say one "must have Certs".. not buying it after 23 plus years swinging. Sort of like FB some just cant get enough.. for us , we are not on FB and only LinkedIn for professional purposes. Like we stated prior we can have hundreds of Certs for just breathing, meeting and talking on SLS as many local Georgia people do.. we have turned down many.

Our swinger friends from all over USA know us and we have the xxx photos to share our experiences. The one we do have is only on to show its a joke.. we thought we were going to well advertised SLS event in NOLA a couple years ago.. a swinger event.. It was nothing more than an expensive meet and greet and everyone who PAID was given a CERT,, we even called out the owner for his BS advertising meet and greet as people came from all over USA.. they still gave us a CERT.. total joke!

For single men, it sure is. I can't count how many people will post "no certs, don't even bother messaging." They are hard as hell to get, as most don't want the world knowing every single person they fuck on here. And then when you get one, you're judged on that too... They'll take time to visit the person who left the cert, and judge them, hence judging you for sleeping with them.

To everyone who says they aren't really important. How hard would it be to pick partners if this site had zero way of verifying profiles

We like to see a few certs to help us feel the couple is real, but we also take them with a grain of salt. We've never read a negative cert, so we know that the certs will all say nice things about the couple. It's not like Yelp (thankfully)...........

Certs can be useful in determining the credibility of a profile. That being said, we have a few Lifestyle couples who are friends who prefer not to give or receive certs. When we first were contacted by them they were willing to speak with us via a phone call soon after to verify they were for real.

Our profile is our cover letter for swing lifestyle fun. Certifications are our references for someone to see that we are who we say we are. Would you have a contractor come to your house without any references ?
Everybody that joined this website has swinging aspirations. Not everybody that joins the website is suitable for the lifestyle. The certification process is there to provide useful information regarding a possible playmate. While there are those that say
"We do not give or receive certs", and that is their right.
Good luck with that in your search.
"Not everyone that owns a hammer and tape measure is a carpenter"

Were with AandJ. Certs are a part of our decision making process, we’ve had far better experiences with more seasoned swingers, so we do look for positive ratings from other members.

Certs don’t make the decision for us, but they can certainly tip the scales one way or another.

RonKathy. Certs for meeting? Whoa?! Perhaps I put to much value in them then. I'm not currently playing with couples because i can't find any in my area but I do back-check the single men's certs. In other words: check his certs against the next cert on back , etc. 'You pays yer nickle You takes yer chances', as the old saying goes. P.S. ROLL TIDE!!!!!!!! Big game today. A.

For us certs are part of the info we use to decide if we should meet.

No certs are a major negative for folks who have been on the site for a while - a year or so. If you're new to the site we don't consider certs as highly.