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When you receive direct mail marketing fliers and emails, do you respond to them to say "no thank you"? There's your answer.

On a first meet... everyone meets. Then we are off to play alone or as a 3-4 sum.. once vetted and that they fit into what we want... and all parties on same page.. we play alone.

Those that do not do this we have found out they are cheating, married, etc.. usually playing behind ones back..

Welcome to the forums - if you poke around and read very many threads you'll find that lack of replies and single gentlemen having a lower rate of success are common complaints.

Single ladies will always have much higher success rate than single gentlemen - that's just a matter of supply and demand. Single ladies are in short supply and everyone seems to want them. Single gentlemen seem to outnumber couples and not as many people desire them.

A reply rate (including the "no thanks" replies) of 10-20% is generally considered pretty good on SLS. Many people don't reply for many different reasons. You cannot change other people's behavior so it's best to celebrate the replies you do receive and not worry about anything else.

Have fun and stay safe!

"Am I wrong to expect a turn down reply?"

Yes. And putting that statement in your profile is more likely to lessen your rate of responses than increase it because it makes you seem entitled and entitled men are already a surplus quantity.

As you noted but didn't take far enough, your girlfriend has access to huge numbers of single men as potential partners while you have an anemic 2.5 pages of single women. How many of that huge number of single men have contacted most if not all of those single women? Lemme just say it's like being bombarded by seagulls.

I am not actually 96, but bumping my age out of most search ranges gives me breathing room, as does living up near the currently closed Canadian border. And I still get "hey," "hi," unsolicited dick pics, explicit fantasies as an opener, and other equally likely to be unsuccessful approaches on the regular. All from men who probably think they deserve a response too.

None of you are actually entitled to anyone's time, to any woman's time. Not the time to read your message, not the time to respond, not at all. If you get a response, great. You've found one of your people, even if the answer is no, or at least someone who has the energy to engage in that moment.

But you're reaching out to a group who likely has been fending off men by the dozens since early adolescence. Everywhere we go, regardless of what we're doing, no matter if we're looking or not.

Is it me, but i am in an ENM relationship with my fiancé. We play as couple but also separately. She has no issues finding playmates on SLS. Single guys, or guys that say they are single are a dime a dozen. She doesn’t play with attached males unless she can verify with the partner. Had a bad experience with married guy. I on the other hand have only a few to contact on SLS. She and I were talking one night about this. She had pages of prospective playmates, while I had approximately 2.5 pages. I contacted a large number of these, and rarely receive a reply. I explained this to my fiancé who now responds with a respectful ‘thanks for contacting me, but i am not interested’. Am I wrong to expect a turn down reply? It isn’t that hard to quickly respond. A simple No would suffice. I even put it in my profile. Thoughts please- Steve