Does open minded mean bi?

@Sony: fake, lying and disrespectful SM like yourself will naturally be filtered out of the Lifestyle, sorta a LS Natural Selection. When that happens, good riddance

To the OP: at least for most straight SM (myself included), the term is avoided because it does indicate bi play of some sort. I also assume the same thing in couples' profiles and if contacted by those couples, the first thing I mention is I am straight. I likely don't hear back from them.

DaNile...

Not just a fiver in Africa

and thanks to the devil's lawyer

@sony

You posted this in a bi forum:
“I'm looking for couple bi and discret....here is a very good boy!!!!”

Yet you advertise yourself as straight. Do you see why some would question your honesty?

~Scamp

good morning, first I want to thank the user "ronkatty" for wasting his valuable time in meaningless information, because I'm very happy as I enjoy my sexuality ... thanks again ... hugs??

I don't jump to the conclusion that they're bi. It just means they're open to sexual experiences outside their norm and probably because the situation just hasn't presented itself. I like some women, but I'm not very open minded when it comes to a lot of different things that are common in the life style. I more consider myself a relatively vanilla swinger as there are more things I won't do than I will do.

To the original question, YES, open minded means secretly bi. Why? Because everyone thinks that it does, except for the deliberately obtuse.

"my experience with a couple was great .... she while riding on top of me ... I masturbated the husband...so hot!!!!"

That's GAY. It's a very GAY thing to do. You like doing gay things, in addition to straight things, so that means you're BI. This is no a criticism. It's not bad to be gay or bi, but you label yourself straight, which is a LIE. You are a LIAR.

Sony - ya gotta work with the categories SLS has for us - so maybe bi-curious would be the best fit for you!

Sony,

It definitely ain't the same as straight.

thanks ... i'm hetero flexifle .... it's the same as bisexual??? I don't think so

my experience with a couple was great .... she while riding on top of me ... I masturbated the husband...so hot!!!!

I think it means open to bi play. Just my opinion.

I feel as though "open minded" means something different to everyone. I think I'm more open minded than most. I'm definitely not bi but respect everyone's wishes. It's always best to give and ask for specificity. Good luck.

Looks - I think you're labeling yourself appropriately on this site. As myself, and others, have said "bi-situational" or "heteroflexible" would be good alternatives to offer but I doubt they will ever add them.

One of the problems that I've seen over and over is that men that enjoy sexual content with other men but feel no romantic interest balk as listing as Bi-anything.

The fact is, this is a site geared towards sexual hook-ups, not romantic relationships. I would agree that someone like you shouldn't list as Bi on Match or Plenty of Fish as you aren't looking for a relationship with a man. Here though, since it's just sex (for the most part) and you want some cock in the mix occasionally, you are Bi-curious at the least.

Play partners always appreciate honesty, and you're playing the game correctly.

~rabbit~

Here’s a thought for you all to think about concerning “open minded”. I list myself as bi curious, yet I have no attraction or romantic interest in men. But, I am interested in cocks and cum. The meaning of bi is a somewhat equal romantic interest in men and women, which I don’t have. So, if my only interest is in cocks, and not what they are connected to, what do I list myself as in my profile? Open minded I I guess. So bi curious it is, even though there really is no bi interest by definition. I like to play with other men’s cocks, just sex.

"Because some use it as a signal of being open to bi play, we just avoid using that phrase."

This!

I first joined this site solo over 15 years ago and being a new SM, I included "open-minded" in my profile because I thought it simply meant I was open to new experiences. A seasoned fora member emailed me and said a male who describes themselves as open-minded is using it as a euphemism for being bi.

While it may be a generalization and there will be exceptions to the rule, it is so well established amongst long time swingers, I highly recommend you avoid using it in your profile unless you are, in fact, signalling you are open to M/M play.

As an addendum, it has been our experience that males (single or coupled) who use any such phrasing on their profile are in fact bi.

~Scamp

"Open minded" can mean so many things, if you're unsure ask. We are very exact about our preferences, others should be but aren't always. We don't play with bi men, and let them know that. I'm bi, husband is straight. That doesn't mean he's afraid of incidental contact, that happens in groups. But he's just not into guys at all. We were in a group one night and a guy tried sucking his cock, he got thrown out on his ass. Be truthful, and you'll find what your looking for. Same with guys who are married, don't lie!!!

As a married couple we are straight forward on what we want in a potential partner. If the guy profile says straight but write us saying he is open minded we don't bother. Being on SLS is about sex so if your bi say it if your not then don't pretend or you will be told to leave when it comes down to sex.

It can mean totally different things to different people. I know some white couples who are open minded to select BBC but they don't put it in their profile "We like BBC" because 1. there are a lot or racist and haters in the swinging community 2. because you are open minded to BBC that doesn't mean you want to fuck every black dude on the block

Open minded could also mean she likes anal. Again I know couples where she enjoys anal or they like DPs. Those couples don't put it out there "she enjoys" anal because they don't want a flood of single writing and begging for it ect ect.......

Open minded can mean a lot of things, you just have to clarify what you DO NOT do. And I take a man or couple's word for it. If the guy's profile says he's straight but in the profile it says they are open minded I'm going to assume its no bi male activity. Straight means straight.

If you are totally straight do like I do. I can put in my profile open minded but no bi male activity.

Thanks, and same to y'all if you're on the road!

Catchy,
very well stated and so true!! we practice the same. Have a safe and fun 4th traveling.

We use "open-minded" in our profile, and it doesn't mean open to bi-play. It means we don't judge (or try not to) about people's preferences, be they sexual, political, religious, whatever. You be you, and we won't be offended. That's all.

Lots of folks walk into this nervous AF about how they and their kink are going to be perceived and if they/their kink will be accepted. We don't judge, and want to encourage those who have those anxieties to know that. We may not have 'matching luggage' so to speak, but we can still hang out and have a good time if everyone respects each other's boundaries.

Because some use it as a signal of being open to bi play, we just avoid using that phrase.