Thanks all for the feedback. Some great insight and it's appreciated. Everyone has their own preferences for sure. We actually really liked profiles we read with the Him/Her section . . . cheesy and all but we kind of like some cheese!
Thanks again for taking the time.
It's been our experience that people who say they don't do drama are THE drama kings/queens. It ought to be a given that nobody wants drama, diseases, etc.
I actually don't have all that much to say. I've never been a big fan of her (by him) him (by her) but whatever.
Picture wise, you are actually mostly following the DEBauCH method, that I created, but you can make a few tweeks. I opened a private gallery for you to see the kind of pictures you should have.
DEBauCH stands for DATE, EVENT, BEACH CHICK HIM.
You already have the DATE and EVENT pic. I would just add in a BEACH / POOL pic when the weather / Pandemic allows.
I'm not crazy about bathroom / gym selfies. The only time a guy's shirt should be off is when he's at the beach. Yes, I know my husband is nude doing TRX, but he started doing TRX in the nude because I was in the room and it was funny so I had to get a picture... especially because he looked like a Greek God.
Anyway, I would ditch the shirtless bathroom selfie. I cover this in my private section - the guy is doing exactly what you should't do - slouch, so it makes him look like he has a gut when he obviously doesn't. Just get a beach / pool pic of the guy shirtless or get him clothed.
Look at how Greek statues stand. It's called contrapposto and it's why Greek statues look so amazing. Take a look at my private gallery and PM me if you need help.
Hi. If you've read other threads, you know how this works and there's a smaller chance that you won't understand the reason for the bluntness. Also, a lot of what I'll be writing will sound familiar, because I've said it eleventy-dozen times, maybe more. I'll try not to be trite, in spite of the repetition.
So, an age range of young enough to be your children to 10 years older than him might be an accurate reflection of your interests, but you will not discourage a single Gen Zer if you raise your lower range so that you're a little more centered.
A tagline is meant to interest people enough to encourage them to open your profile. Yours won't do that. It's fine, because your default photo is hot and you're mostly looking for couples, but if you can come up with something interesting or clever, that would be an improvement.
In Looking For, the idea is to talk about who and what you're looking for. The purpose of doing that is to interest others in a way that lets people see themselves in your first section of text. What you've got instead is a 'cool story, bro' beginning. Start instead with the sentence that begins "We're really interested in connecting..." and then make sure you talk about your interests in Description, which is where you are meant to talk about yourself.
The part about people in love? Right there with you. It's the strength and vitality of a couple's love that attracts me to them, but I don't think it needs to be emphasized in quite this way, especially with that little stinger you've inserted. Try it just as a descriptor instead.
I actually don't think the part about things being elusive and you being patient belong in your profile. Like, yeah, great, but it's the backstory and doesn't add anything that will aid in your search. Also, if you're interested in single women, say something about them or adjust your toggles to zero interest.
In Description, you've chosen the he about her/her about him thing that I find not only annoying but completely ineffective. Couples who do it focus on things that aren't really all that intriguing to others, plus it's unconvincing. You love each other, so there's no way you're objective, the way potential playmates start out. Instead, stick to stuff that's inarguable and speak about yourselves as a couple instead of as individuals. What are you like, what are you interested in, who shows up at that first meeting.
In Fantasies, you flirt with couples. You're new enough that this is an even worse approach than it would be if your profile was a few years old. Outline a PG fantasy or two, something that others can identify with.
Don't leave Additional comments blank. The idea is that your profile is a resume and you want to use all available opportunities to charm and interest people with whom you might have a fun evening or ten. Don't waste one.
You decide what goes here, but it's helpful to end on a positive note.
Good luck.
Absolutely agree with wanting to meet and possibly play with couples that are "in love" with each other. There are many disgruntled "I am here at this table ordering drinks because my spouse drug me here" couples in the LS. It is definitely a recipe for potential disaster. Keep that there.
As mentioned, the use of "relationship" in the first paragraph may be confusing to a few people out there. You can just substitute something else indicating play. If you all do want fwb's then put that in the following sentence.
In her description you have a couple flags: "not pretentious" and "drama." You don't need them in there and many will see it as an indicator that drama will indeed happen or possibly has happened in the past. Most often the one who mentions drama first is the cause of it. You may just be seeking to insulate yourselves, but you just don't need those two things there.
You all do a pretty good job with letting others get a decent idea of who you are. Again you really want to fill out the fantasy section with some specifics. Most are looking for specific types of play and this will help you connect with who you are exactly looking for.
Some people get pretty uptight about using the word "professional" in a profile. If you are definitely looking for white collar/ upscale-esque types of interactions then leave it there. There is nothing wrong with being super specific and picky about who you are looking for.
Your pictures are good. Generally not a fan of selfies, but you all have done well.
Welcome to the forums and hope your journey into the LS has been good so far (despite being in the middle of a pandemic)! My first thought from reading your profile is it isn’t clear what you are seeking. Are you looking for a poly relationship with another couple? The word “relationship”, and needing another couple to be “IN LOVE” seem to point to developing relationships before any play can happen. If that’s not what you seek, just be more specific, and add more info in the Fantasies section. You may want to give info about the type of play you seek. Are you looking for FMF, MFMF? Your lady lists as bi, but you don’t mention any type of FF play. Remember, the more info you give about what you like (both in and out of the bedroom), the more people will see common interests to want to contact you.
I’m sure others will be along shortly to add in more advice- good luck!
~ Kira
Oh my goodness it's fun reading the reviews. We're pretty new and thought it'd be interesting to get rated by the pros. Review-away!
