Same Room or Separate

prfere sperate rooms but enjoy both

Esperanza said: "That being said, if people want to have sex separately, why bother with the headache of trying to match with a couple?"

Generally I agree, NOW.
There was a time though, when it was important for us to each be occupied. At parties that was accomplished easily. In less "target rich" environments not so much.

To get there we had to go from couples swinging to being comfortable with individual dating.

Not everyone is , or will, be at that point.

This is a deep discussion for you and your husband. There's not a thing another swinger can say that ought to sway you one way or another about this.

If I tell you what I think about separate room play, that won't and shouldn't make one bit of difference for anybody. Because what y'all do with your partners is between you and your partners.

That being said, if people want to have sex separately, why bother with the headache of trying to match with a couple?

@Doorswing.. I have done both and the last rules you have with your partner the better off you will be. Always remember Rules are made to be broken and no situation will be the same. Don't forget to talk about your experience with your partner.. The Good The Bad and The Ugly. Sit back and watch people before you play with them you can usually tell if you would like to go further.. Never let your guard down and go with your gut or your womanly intuition..

Try to make good friends in and out of the bedroom it will enhance your personal relationship and will let you go forward in meeting new people.

Always do what is comfortable and enjoyable for you both. There are some men who just cannot "perform" with an audience and they would need a separate room if they did play. We both love being in busy playrooms, but have no problem accommodating another couple if we have chemistry. Everyone is wired differently and it is fine to swing in your own lane and to let others do the same. If interests align and chemistry leads to fun then it is great! If not, you still may be able to make new friends in the LS regardless of whether you play together or not. Just don't feel obligated to do something that one or both of you is uncomfortable with.

HI, I do not have much experience with this. My husband and I do not swing as a couple and he doesn't want to do it. I have given him two experiences as a cuckold that he begged for. Both times were in the presence of another couple. The first time I took my lover to the bedroom alone and shut the door. My husband was forced to listen to me. The second time he was in the room and watched me have anal sex. He was definitely more affected and turned on when I didn't allow him to watch.

I have had sex in front of others and have watched. I get turned on by being watched and I am fascinated by watching a dick penetrate a pussy and all the excitement and orgasm. If I was swapping with my husband I think I would prefer same room because I like it. I would not be mistrustful or jealous if my husband wanted to fuck in another room. I would do it the way my husband wanted. He would probably want separate room.

Do you enjoy watching your hubby fuck another woman? Is it that you want to still be bonded to him as he fucks another woman? Are you afraid the lady your hubby is fucking will make too much of a connection? I do understand that....

So for "us" we have done both but always come back and end with playing in same room. We actually prefer all in same room with the sites , sounds, and smell of pleasure with all !

Sometimes one of us will go get a water or adult beverage and just watch the other and then join in to finish with.. we always reclaim each other after all and in same room !

Make it your own journey.. not someone else's !

I would like some thoughts on same room vs. separate. My husband and I have always stuck to same room, except once when I allowed him to go separate with a woman I trusted. I look at the lifestyle as a way of enhancing our sex life, so being all in the same room makes sense to me. Yet, I know he’d like the freedom of separate rooms. He has no problem with it but I do. Thoughts on this?