Same Room or Separate

When we began, we had a very strong same room preference. For us, being able to lie next to each other in a bed while playing with the other couple allowed us to look at each other, see each other pleasuring and being pleasured, hold a hand, steal a kiss, give a gentle caress with a free hand. It was the ultimate "we do this together" experience.

Then we had a chance to play with a couple in a condo where me and the other wife played on a couch in the living room while my wife and the other husband were in the bedroom upstairs. That allowed each of us to be solely focused on each of our partners. The cool part is it was an open loft, so we could hear faint sounds of each other giving and receiving pleasure.

After an hour so, we went upstairs and joined them on the bed for round two. It was the best of both worlds.

So we will play same room or separate room with equal pleasure. Depends on our partners, the situation, and the furnishings. When we travel, we always try to find a hotel with a king bed and some sort of couch or pull out in the room to keep all options open.

We were same room in the beginning and now we are fine in separate rooms. Our rule is first time with a new couple or single we watch each other for a while until we are comfortable leaving each other alone

" We like both. Just depends on the night and the company which one. "

That pretty much sums it up for us as well.

We like both. Just depends on the night and the company which one.

How can you tell the difference between someone who is straaaaaighty straight straight and someone who is not? How do I know when a woman claiming to be bisexual is not actually into women at all?

See who complains when one or both guys just want to watch.

Always same room for our voyeurism,,, and security...

Separate rooms seems to ratchet up the encounter. You are able to focus better on the verbal and non-verbal cues as well as the individual needs and desires of a unique persin deserving of passion, pleasure and satisfaction.

We also agree with 25MOre, and are open to separate rooms for this one reason. Thankfully, it doesn’t happen often for us, so we most enjoy same room, all on one big bed. It’s odd why a man who would rather just watch his wife play, would only plan a hot date where he just watches.

We would 100% agree with 25MOre. Happens a lot. We shy away from profiles saying he loves to watch his wife get fucked. Huge red flag to us as to how much he'll be paying attention to my wife.

We have done both but perfer separate rooms

I prefer separate rooms. I've had to many experiences where the husband I'm supposed to be with is to interested in watching his wife with my husband. If you're really interested in fucking me your entire attention should be on me.

Both, depending on the situation.

We're more about parties than couple dates. Sometimes we wind up all in one room and sometimes we don't.

As long as we're with people we feel comfortable with we don't need to keep an eye on each other.

Maybe it’s just the point that we’re comfortable at in the lifestyle but we prefer to watch each other with others rather than separate rooms. For now it’s very satisfying watching each other please and be pleased by others…… Now will that change in time, who knows but we won’t force it. It’s more about the spur of the moment and the vibe that is present. When we make a plan it never seems to work as planned, and when we go with the flow and in the moment we seem to have the best times.
To each their own, as long as you making great memories!

That explained absolutely nothing. Thanks, Capt Obvious.

We're fine with either. Tend to prefer separate rooms when getting to know new playmates as it's less distracting. We got a king size bed for same room as the queen was a bit tight. :D

We started out as same room only because we really didn't know what to expect. It worked out fine. Then we met a couple with a queen size bed. They suggested it gets a little crowded so we tried separate rooms. We discovered that we were able to focus on out new friend/partner much better than having 4 people on a bed. No more distractions with who is doing what right alongside us. We now prefer separate rooms.

Same here Destin. Use to be rules till there was no rules. LoL

Of course you want to establish the rules before play. What you don’t want to do is change them during play which is why I recommended having a a conversation afterwards to talk about relaxing or removing boundaries before your next play time.

~ Scamp

When we first started in the lifestyle 28 years ago we would discuss the rules before attending functions and mutually agreed to them. I went along with her wants and desires as I knew it would make her comfortable. What is so funny is my wife was always the first to break the very rules that she said were important to her. I didn't care but always reminded her that she was the one that actually set the rules.

Eventually there were no more rules and that seemed to work out even better.

Scamp. Agreed!!!

You are missing the point fishin.

Of course you want to establish the rules before play. What you don’t want to do is change them during play which is why I recommended having a a conversation afterwards to talk about relaxing or removing boundaries before your next play time.

~ Scamp

Before...After...?

After one is before the next.

During definitely a No Go

Discussing rules 'after' play seems counter intuitive. The vast majority of time. if we know play is possible, I have the rules conversation before play time.This way I and he know the do's and do the do not's. That just clears things up and we can proceed knowing what can be involved during play time and have a good time with no problems.

"A better way to make your point is to advise people to discuss their rules AFTER play to see if they are ready to relax or remove a boundary. NEVER make changes to your rules during play."

yes! changing the rules in the middle of play, when your partner may not be ready to is a very bad way to find out. if you are ready to change the rules, discuss it BEFORE or AFTER play

"Always remember Rules are made to be broken..."

Yeah, that is really bad advice, especially for newbies.

I get what you are trying to say, rules should evolve as you get more comfortable but the idea of breaking the rules in the heat of the moment is what causes a lot of drama for couples who are just starting to explore their boundaries.

A better way to make your point is to advise people to discuss their rules AFTER play to see if they are ready to relax or remove a boundary. NEVER make changes to your rules during play.

~Scamp

prfere sperate rooms but enjoy both