There is something exciting about the shared energy of a single space, the intimacy of everything unfolding right before our eyes, the sight of hands wandering freely, the sound of soft pleasure moans. It enables easy transitions between partners. We definitely prefer same room, as each have a modest level of compersion. With trusted friends, we’ve also done separate room. That can be very erotic too and lets the imagination run wild.
same room is great..........get tips and ideas from the others
"He enjoyed watching me fuck his wife and I enjoyed watching mine suck his cock, but I want the Mrs to get what I was giving."
Yeah, that's not really our dynamic. I mean, I know my partner loves seeing me get railed, but I'd rather do that in an MFM, where I don't have to share, which he finds hot. With couples, if the other guy can't get hard (and I don't often run into that for some reason), then we just play differently, with less emphasis on swapping.
GGMM - "...I want my partner there because that makes it all more fun."
I agree, and this is how it always was for us when we first started, but because of the phenomenon you noted, we do a lot more separate room play these days.
Ironically we played with a couple Tues of last week and did same room play. He couldn't get and stay hard. He enjoyed watching me fuck his wife and I enjoyed watching mine suck his cock, but I want the Mrs to get what I was giving.
We met again Tue of this week and did separate room play, and he fucked her silly. I got off on hearing her happy sounds and I'm sure the other guy enjoyed hearing his wife's happy sounds. We all had fun at both encounters, but as a whole, more fun was had at the 2nd encounter.
Unfortunately, perhaps because of our ages, the separate room play works out better. The ideal of course would be to play with a couple where the guy doesn't have this problem, but waiting for that would probably eliminate about 75% of our play time.
We love same room, watching each other receive and give pleasure. If he cant get hard then he can watch the three of us till he can
I have seen a number of guys who can't get hard if another guy is nearby. I should probably be more sympathetic about that, but I'm not. I prefer puppy piles anyway and if we're going to swap, then I want my partner there because that makes it all more fun.
I've had a lot of experience solo with couples and singles and mostly had a great time, but it's better with my partner and that's not an advantage I'd willingly give up for someone else's needs.
We are OK with either, but tend to do a lot more separate room play with experienced couples. Many times the male half of couples will have performance issues with same room play.
If there is a strong chance that the Mrs will be better served by separate room play, we'll choose that. While I do love seeing the Mrs have fun, I'd rather we do separate rooms if we think that it's more likely she'll be better served that way. We try to take the path that will lead to ALL of us having the most fun possible.
I've mentioned this before that our ideal is a couple that both get off on seeing each other play where everyone feeds off of everyone else's sexual energy. When we do separate room play at our house, we can still at least hear each other having fun. Imagining what the other is doing is very hot for both of us too.
While we both absolutely want our play partners to have a great time, the somewhat selfish but honest reality is we do what we do because it intensifies/improves OUR sex life as a couple. In our case, me getting pleasure from seeing/hearing the Mrs having a good time translates into a virtual guarantee that whoever I'm playing with is going to get well fucked.
Referring to sexual encounters as "dares" ... why do you all participate in this as though the people with whom you're having sex are not other whole humans with feelings and thoughts and lives? It's like you go to a swinger club and act surprised and embarassed when someone approaches you about sex. Are you constantly forgetting you're swingers or are you constantly afraid that someone else will know?
Always same room
First, when we started and embraced the lifestyle, we tacitly understood that it was about pleasure and to some degree, sexual exploration and diversions. The one thing we discussed directly and agreed upon was that when with a lover, there was no holding back, no jealousy, no judging. We agreed knowing we would be having sex in front of each other. Since then, we swap same room, different room, or separate place and time. For me, when I am with a lover, I am totally involved, available, and can become quite intimate and dirty. I am selfish.
Separate room we do, but it is not for us, it is for the other couple. Some feel more free and comfortable to let go and consummate with a new lover. And understand that some that swing are getting what they want in bed that their spouse is not willing to do. We are sexually and emotionally secure and not looking to trade each other in for someone else. So, we swap even separate place and time and I step out as a hotwife. My husband adores watching me screw and get off with other men. He has plenty of opportunity to do that and we are always same room for MFM or MFMM dares.
If you need a separate room, may as well simply date separately instead of trying to find a couple for a couple. It's way easier.
Separate; bedroom, Car, hotel, lunchroom, examination room, copy room, Airplane, Park Swing set, Beach blanket, elevator, Shower, Rooftop, train, hot air ball, North side of the Grand Canyon. Lol
I look at the whole lifestyle like an evolution, or the analogy crawling walking running do what’s comfortable at the time and work your way up.
We definitely prefer separate rooms. We started out same room and it was ok but the wife really needs to focus on what she is doing to have an orgasm. She learned that for herself, being in a different room removes the distraction of what the other couple is doing. I'm fine either way, but our goal is for everyone to have a good time. Separate is what she needs to have the best time, so that is what we do. We do play in the same room when in a club but that is about the only time.
i will positively enjoy it either way
It is far easier to find compatible singles if the goal is separate room play.
Why bother trying to find a compatible couple if people want to be in separate rooms?
We agree with Gotfun. I have watched others pleasure my wife and it has greatly increased my repertoire and my wife's pleasure at home with just us. So, we'll do separate if everyone agrees. but we really love seeing each other play. It's the hottest scene on late night TV.
Definitely same room for us. We both love watching the other
Giving and receiving pleasure. It's a bonus if we learn something new.
I very seldom post, hubby spends the most time online. I prefer separate rooms. No one worries about their spouse and is able to relax and give their undivided attention to their new or old playmate. Plus it make hubby hotter when I tell him about the experience.
same room as you might learn something from your partners and then swap and try it out
Same room we love to watch nothing hotter
same room so i can watch harley
Same room here, we love watching each other
both is good...........whatever everyone is happy with
We have done both same and separate but we definitely prefer separate rooms so much more, being able to concentrate on your partner without distractions is big plus.
