If you get consent based on a lie, that is coercion. It is SA. If you lie about your sexual orientation to gain consent, that is coercion. What are y'all not understanding about the ETHICAL part of ethical non-monogamy?
Lying in order to gain access to sexual intimacy is coercion. Coercion is SA.
“Esperanza911
Him: Straight ,61
Her: Bi ,56
Lying in order to gain access to sexual intimacy is COERCION.”
I don’t think this rises to level of coercion. If so lots of guys and women would be arrested for lying about length, weight - ability to last .., yada yada - coercion usually involves a threat or retaliation
"Assault"
ROTFLMAO
Lying in order to gain access to sexual intimacy is COERCION.
I keep telling my adult niece that men who are harmful tell on themselves. Here you are telling on yourself. COERCION IS SEXUAL ASSAULT. Denying that is a HUGE red flag. There should be a way to warn your potential partners that you are laughing at a FACT about assualt.
"It is sexual assault."
LMFAO! GTFO.
Lying about your sexual proclivities in order to get a yes is called coercion. It is sexual assault.
I haven't been here since my last post.... Esperanza said...?
Must be a new name on my blocked list, but since he always says the same things in every post he's ever made on a given topic, I can pretty much guess what he said about any female (yeah, he can't see that I used that word or he'd go into a frenzy) who identifies as Bi-curious.
As Molly said, sorry for your loss and congratulations on the marriage RnJ. I meant no disrespect but I was a bit confused by your post.
RogerNJess - I've mentioned this elsewhere, but a truly straight woman may get upset if another woman asked if she could touch her. My Mrs likes breasts, but she prefers men over women. What the "bi curious" setting means to us is further defined by our profile text, but some people don't read profiles and just apply their own meaning to a preference setting.
There is also the fact that a woman being bi doesn't translate to wanting to play with every other bi woman. I have noticed that there are women the Mrs is much more receptive to touching and being touched by than others. Past experience with the OP tends to gloss over that fact, but could explain some of the "I thought you/she said she was bi" dilemma they appear to experience.
Esperanza said, "In the swinging community, it is a catch all for "I don't mind if women touch me, but I am actually only into men"
That is the way it seemed with couples we met.
Sometimes I think the husband wrote the profile and stated his wife was 'B-Curios' because it would make them appeal to more couples.
And instead of being a jerk, Goodenough, all of you could learn and DO BETTER.
In the swinging community, it is a catch all for "I don't mind if women touch me, but I am actually only into men"
The majority of people in this community don't actually understand LGBTQIA+ at all.
Nothing wrong with questioning your sexual orientiation, but to go on a site specifically for people to hook up and lie about it to get a hookup with her husband is some major fuckery
"And what men find attractive can be very different than what women are looking for."
HA! Now you know why I deal with all our online interactions. Phoebert would search and suggest we contact certain single gentlemen and I'd barely get done reading the profile before shaking my head and muttering "nope, no way, not happening" or some such nonsense without ever seeing the pictures. He understands it's the attitude that attracts or repulses me, not what they look like or promise in bed - and it's just easier for him to let me read between the profile lines.
Bi curious to me means, they are willing to consider it and maybe try it. But you can't expect it to happen.
Straight means they will never consider it.
Some bi people only want bi, not straight or curious. Some straight people only want straight and not bi curious or bi.
There is no guarantee that a fully bi woman is going to play with your wife. This isn't a porn movie.
I'm sorry for your loss and congratulations on your marriage.
As to your underlying question, neither bi-curious nor bi means "I am interested in every same sex person." And what men find attractive can be very different than what women are looking for.
The women in the last two couples we were with read as straight to me and while I found them both attractive, they really did read as straight, which isn't what I'm into, and there was no way I was going to make a move, so there's that too.
This has also recently been discussed in the Website › WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS forum, if interested.
I've remarried.
It means whatever the person using it thinks it means.
As many have noted in many forum threads the SLS sexual orientation labels are less than adequate.
Some people really are curious and still exploring their orientation. But most use the label to indicate what sort of sexual activities they will participate in - they might not be bisexual but will indulge in some same sex play. As always communication is essential - if you're lucky then their profile will indicate what they mean, if not then even more communication is required.
Sorry to hear of your loss (gah - that seems so inadequate!). As for why no one indicated any interest in you late wife - if she was listed as straight then they probably respected that.
"So what's the deal with 'Bi-Curious'?"
You used the "B" term 3 times. That usually summons the resident, outspoken Forum participant on the subject. They should be along to discuss that with you- soon.
In the meantime- "late wife"? Perhaps you should contact the administrators to change your profile from a couple to a SM if you're no longer a couple
" My question. On this website one of the options for partner preference is 'Bi-Curious'. Do any of you know what that means? "
The Bi-curious selection is supposed to be for the orientation for the user/s of the profile, not the partners you are looking for.
Also, not sure if you have a new wife/partner, but you should change your profile to single if not. Condolences on your loss as well.
I know, I know, this is a Women's forum and I am a man. The way I see it is if you want to know what a woman thinks you should ask a woman. The is no way any man would know what a woman thinks!
My question. On this website one of the options for partner preference is 'Bi-Curious'. Do any of you know what that means?
Before my late wife passed away and we were quite active in the lifestyle we played with lots of couples where the wife was listed a 'Bi-Curious'. My observation was that if they we 'Bi-Curious' that curiosity did not extend to my wife and she was a VERY attractive woman and they didn't seem to be curious. Only 1 of many women showed any interest at all!
So what's the deal with 'Bi-Curious'?
