What are you into

RK be careful what you wish for. I’m heading down that way in March. We’ll talk…. XO

Sorillo.. be gentle as she is new on "forums" But from what we have chatted about on IM;s wish she lived closer!

Even just to go to dinner, dancing with a have some good old FUN!

Regarding puppetry: there's plenty of time to bring her over to the dark side...

You guys make me giggle.
Ms. Molly and Mayhem: Yowzah thanks for the heads up! Obviously I still have much to learn not the least of which is don’t throw a fetish out there, however absurd it may sound to you. Someone will want it. Disclaimer: I’m not being a Judgey McSmartypants. We all have our kinks.
Sorillo: Chicken costumes and Batman puppets? Be still my heart! If only you weren’t so far away…
RK: Believe me, I’d love to find folks with common outside (and inside) interests!

Thanks everyone! Merry Christmas to all!

Sorillo.. go ahead since shes new you can tell her about the "puppet".. he too is into all that kinky stuff !

Merry Xmas and Happy New Year Sorillo !

Not the French maid or the knitting needle. I had to keep tweaking my profile until some of the forcefulness was dialed down, because damned if there wasn't a weekly message from some guy who wanted some kind of pain or humiliation. Which, hey, no judgment, but I have to really, really like someone to put that much work into a sex date.

Someone asking what you're into isn't asking if you do yoga. I mean, sure, your profile can include a hobby or two, but a single/solo guy asking a solo woman is really asking you to do the work for him when he asks that question. I checked your profile and quality guys are going to respond differently depending on their personalities and interests, but they're not going to bore you from the get go. Instead, they'll tell you a little about themselves and ask you questions about you. Not if you like reverse cowgirl or anal, but about who you are as a person.

The other thing that's odd is asking a single that question. There are of course different things, but with a couple it could be watch and be watched, and same/separate room soft or full swap, to name a few. That really doesn't apply as much for a single.

Most likely, they have already used, "Hi" and "How are you?", and "What are you into?" was the next thing that popped into their head. The initial reaching out was probably done after only looking at pictures and thinking, "Yeah, I'd fuck that".

One other possible pitfall with that question is the guy (let's face it, this is mostly going to be us SMs who do this) is just going to claim that he's into whatever you're into. No matter how outlandish. "You love chicken-costume sex?!? Me too!!!".

LoveMeKnot - Be careful with some of those responses -

"Dressing you as a French maid and watching you clean my house"

We have literlly had offers from guys to do this and I have some friends that actually had a regular come to their house to do just that.

"I’m really into enlarged urethras. If yours isn’t big enough, I have some knitting needles."

Google "Sound Urban Dictionary".

OP not always so about personal hobbies.. we have had some great long time friends with benefits who we hike with, go dancing and dinner with, travel with including Costa Rica.. so it just depends.

If a single guy or woman along with a couple cannot talk about anything else.. besides sex.. well they are not for "us" we want the entire package unless at an event or party!

Xoxox talk later when we get back in town! As we also talked about in our IM;s make the "journey" what you want !

I tend to agree with you, Mayhem. I’m relatively certain that no one asking this question has any interest in my vanilla hobbies. But I like to be inclusive so I appreciate the feedback to tweak the profile slightly, which I have done.

But you’re absolutely right. Now I’ll definitely know if they read it beforehand! So if I still get the question, I need some good answers:

“What are you into?”

Covering you with honey and releasing my ant farm on your man parts.

Dressing you as a French maid and watching you clean my house

Men of the cloth. You wouldn’t happen to be a priest, would you?

I’m really into enlarged urethras. If yours isn’t big enough, I have some knitting needles.

Of course, I’m open to other suggestions…

LoveMeKnot - That question is almost always in the context of sex. If not, and I were to ask that question, I'd simply ask something like, "What kind of hobbies are you into?" or "What are you interested in besides sex". You certainly have enough info in your profile to answer the sex question.

My guess is that even after updating your profile you will still get that question, but at least now you'll know it was because they didn't read your profile rather than you misinterpreting the question.

BTW - If I were single, I'd think cooking would be a great way to spend time with someone, but that is of course because I enjoy cooking. Cooking something that others really enjoy is a very satisfying experience for most (if not all) people that enjoy cooking.

Pleasant LS memories obviously don't always have to involve sex, or at least that's the case for some of us ;-)

Thanks everyone! Some great feedback. And I honestly hadn’t thought they might be asking about outside of the LS pursuits, to gain a bit more insight. Am I already that tainted that I just assumed they were talking about sex? Ok, will give them the benefit of the doubt and update to include cooking, travel and quidditch. (Honestly I don’t know what that even is but it sounds fun).

I agree ESP, as I read her post it became clear that what she is into is fluid, constantly changing depending on the situation, person, etc.

The reality is she is spot on, our likes are constantly evolving, although some may be more like able than others

Why not say what you just said? That what you are into changes depending on a lot of things... that seems an honest way to answer and not make it about the question, but rather how you choose to react/respond to it.

I reviewed your profile and it has a lot of information, if you have some insight to lifestyles. A checklist would seem to be more appropriate, that's even if your willing to consider participating in any actives with the individuals in question.

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=64043384">LoveMeKnot144</a>,</p>

<p>I don't see anything in your profile about what you are into. So maybe the issue is the meaning of the question, "What are you into?" To me, that would be a question about your hobbies and I don't see anything about that in your profile. Are you into gardening, wood working, knitting, playing quidditch? That would be my interpretation of such a question.</p>

Here's how I answer it: Thanks for writing, but we wouldn't be a good match. Or, alternatively, if we've exchanged a message or two: Since we wouldn't be a good match, there's really no point in answering that question. Thanks for writing though.

I'm sure there are lots of reasons for asking trite questions that could be answered by reading profiles, but none of them add up to a person or couple I'd like to meet, so I don't feel any compulsion to continue the conversation. And, yeah, I know one strike and you're out is a little harsh, but there are literally thousands of people out there and there's just no reason for me to put work into a conversation that will, at best, lead to okay sex with someone whose mind doesn't interest me.

“What are you into?”
I get asked this question often and I’m not quite sure how to answer it. If only I had taken the time to write a profile….. that had all theses things listed….
Honestly, what I’m “into” depends on who I’m with and what we’re doing. And it can, and will, change with each partner. Wouldn’t it be great if you can show me something I haven’t done and then I would be into that? It’s easier to come up with things I’m not into.
So am I wrong here to think this a lazy question because they didn’t do their homework first?
Or am I totally off base and this is supposed to be a good way to start a dialogue?
How do you guys answer this? Other than, “well if you’d read my profile…”