No place for single men

@Livin - Believe it or not, R&K likely mean well. They just kind of have a harsh way of saying it ;-)

I know this is a sex site so this is not intuitive, but "classy" actually sells as good or better than "trashy" here. You'd be better off if you could just get 1 decent body shot of you wearing nice clothes than any of the pics you currently show.

When people's posts about your profile are longer than your whole profile (as is the case already at this point), it conveys a lack of effort and care about actually meeting and making friendships. It gives zero reason for anyone to take you seriously or even give you a chance.

I'd suggest at least looking through the posts in the Better Profiles thread for ideas on content for yours and beef up your profile a bit. Once done, if you're feeling particularly brave, ask for help in the Better Profiles thread. If you do so, keep in mind that the input may be harsh but it is done with the idea of helping you find what you're looking for here.

My ex and i were active in the lifestyle and I chalk many of our positive and fun experiences up to her outgoing sexiness. She has continued on and off in the lifestyle since we divorced. I in the other have found it hard to connect with others and to dispel that myth of the bluefish. In the end it wold be nice to find a like minded female or couple who realize there are still respectful single men around.

Thank you OP for giving me the hardy chuckle that men are being sexually shammed when they lead with their dick pics.

I get the frustration with being used as a piggy bank, couples/singles complaining about ghosting and then turning around doing it to you, or (insert problem). But you will never get respect or live out your fantasy if you can't establish a respectful baseline first that bedroom stuff is just that.

My advice, stick to meet in persons like parties, etc. A lot easier to weed out flakes and avoid any misconceptions in tude.

I had to step away for a while when I realized I had got used to being treated as a piece of meat or a financial target ( higher door fees etc)

I had to step away for a while when I realized I had got used to being treated as a piece of meat or a financial target ( higher door fees etc)

I know she didn't block me now, I just checked and I still have that rudely unanswered special email from her about audio visual cueing as unread.

I'm saving it for a rainy day.

:-)

~Allen

"He delete his better profile thread?"

Nope, it's just way the hell back in September, 2018 posts. And that's when Velma made the comment, so you're not blocked. Unless I missed something. ;-)

That's funny, the OP wants to be respected for his dick. Reminds of the other vet guy that thought being in the military meant free range on pussy. He's not pissing husbands off, he's isolating himself from them just like he wanted, but without the wives.

Where did Velma post, I'm not seeing it? Maybe she blocked me. lol

He delete his better profile thread?

I'm working on my taxes and watching paint dry would be more interesting (I'm always grateful I know how to use an old fashioned 10-key), so I have some impetus to keep banging my head against a wall. Not much, but some. So,, congratulate yourself for being more interesting than adding up numbers.

It's not about how you interact with women, which, hey, you're not my jam, but your body so impressed Velma that I don't think she read your profile, so you have that going for you. Before you meet those women and yank your technique out, you have already demonstrated your contempt and disrespect for a large body of couples. Again, that's fine for cuckold couples, because humiliation and disrespect can be part of what works for them, but it isn't for the vast majority. So, you're not necessarily meeting high quality folks, because those with a tight bond, standards around respect for the male half, etc. are passing you by.

Basically, you're creating the problem you're complaining about by mostly attracting those who don't have a particularly refined approach to social interactions, because those who do are likely avoiding you.

"I am shocked that some people want me to remove my dick picture..."

While having one in a private gallery to show on request is fine, leading with that shows a lack of class to a large segment of people. While you may feel otherwise, the bottom line is that you will lose with these couples and the ones that do contact you may tend to treat you with less respect. The very interactions you complain of should prove that to you.

A number of the people here are actually trying to help you, but you come across as more interested in driving your point than listening to what others have to say. If someone views you as arrogant, proclaiming "I'm not arrogant" will sway exactly zero people's opinion. You will lose, every single time. You will be much more successful trying to find out why something you did or said was viewed poorly and then possibly try to fix that. Obviously doing whatever you're doing is not working for you.

"Ah, well"- I don't give a flying fudge if I ever meet someone again.

Don't complain and ask for advice if you're not willing to amend your approach to be successful. As it has been pointed out: your approach is disrespectful to couples in general and there is a minute percentage of couples that would consider you.

Also, be sure to clean up your pics so no feminine products are in view.

@goodgollymsmolly98226, I doubt that you know that.
but here's an outline of my usual first interaction with anyone on the site.
I greet them nicely
I compliment her or female half respectfully with words like breathtaking, gorgeous or ravishing.. Nothing like sexy, hot or nice piece of ass..
then continue on saying how lucky husband must feel if it's a couple. and blah blah.
@Mayhem8, I don't think it would get better if I don't say anything either. Might as well. I am aware I'm pissing off a lot of husband with this post.. Ah well

"I want them to show respect when they contact me as I would."

But you don't. I get there's some kind of disconnect between what you think you're doing and how it's landing with others, but you lead with some pretty comprehensive disrespect. Of the couple's relationship, of the husband's role in his wife's sex life, etc. You get what you give, you know?

Oy Vey!

I am in no way arrogant. I just know what I want and don’t want nothing else I don’t like to come with it. Also I am shocked that some people want me to remove my dick picture so I can be approached with respect. That’s like telling a girl with big voice and ass to cover up so men respect her and see past her assets. Aren’t we fighting against those medieval way of thinking? In this case I want to play the victim, not because my dick is showing doesn’t mean I want to have sex with anyone

Again I don’t want them to care about me. I want them to show respect when they contact me as I would.

Please note the OP, as his first series of posts, did indeed go to Better Profiles. I'm not being snarky when I say it used to be worse, insofar as it seemed to designed to insult every man within 25 miles. Now it's down to only half the men in 25 miles. That's a pretty significant improvement. But the OP, like every other person doing this, wants what he wants, which is solo play with women. He likes the transgressive nature of that. Nothing wrong with it, since he's pretty much exactly what some cuckold couples are looking for. The difficulty comes in trying to merge what he wants with what most couples looking for single men are looking for.

Island_vibe, I kind of get the sense that you don't understand why what you want and the approach you take to husbands is so offensive. It is, though. And because it is, you are likely only hearing from those who don't have the social skills you're asking them to demonstrate. No judgment, but other than cuckold couples, you're getting the bottom stratum, because every other guy shopping for a stunt cock for his wife or girlfriend is looking at your profile and saying, "Oh fuck no."

“Like seriously, what do I look like.”

Maybe you should hide your dick out of view in your public picture. You get kind of crowd you receive by the bait you’re using.

As far as not caring about the husband, if you’re not out to be part of their lives socially, you can expect to be a store display item. If people get mad about your profile, maybe you should have one that is not aggressively offending to others, but change it to be neutral.

All in all, your post is whiney, so expect other’s bluntness and unforgiving unsolicited advice.

Btw, you’re profile is a mess and contradicts yourself description. You don’t want to talk about sex when you advertise a picture of an outline of your package and the only certification is about your package picture not doing you justice. You also you want everything to happen on your terms with a married woman without the husband.....lol okay....

~Allen

We think you should read your profile out loud. Count the number of times you say 'I'

Then think about what that says you are conveying to others. The only thing that matters to you - based on your post and your profile - is you.

That's not respectful to anyone in our book. Let alone the husband who's wife your expecting him to trust to you for a period if time and you "don't mind" maybe meeting him.

We highly suggest you rethink your profile. Take a look through the Better Profiles forum and read some of the great advice given there.

And if you're thick skinned enough start a new thread and ask for a review. You'll get great advice that you can ignore if you choose. But, at the very least, it will give you insight into how some perceive your profile.

OP: I'm not sure what you expected to accomplish with your post but I can pretty much guarantee nothing good will come of it as written. Especially the last few sentences. You're not doing yourself any favors.

Just a friendly piece of advice, but you may want to delete your post and give yourself more time to rethink what it was you were trying to say.

We all get frustrated at times but lashing out at everyone is going to do you more harm than good. If we were a couple that played with you, based on your post here you'd be getting an email from us saying we're done.

That’s a good question.
I still respect them even though I don’t care. I have husband who’s first message is: “my wife need a BBC tonight”.
Like seriously, what do I look like.

I never cared about the husband.

Then why do you expect them to care about you?

I have been in the lifestyle since 2011.
Back then I was 21 and living in Florida. I was shocked by the lifestyle and how much crazy mind blowing actions that go on in it.
As a single men, people (couple) approach you anyway they please. It didn’t bother me then too much.
I have encountered people who are rude when they approach you or when you message them(even though they claim to be into single men). I have also encountered the ones who lie about their wife body type by sending deceiving pictures. Fast forward to 2019, still the same in the DMV. Majority couples approach single men like they’re there to serve them and they should wait on standby until they’re called upon to do so. Some will just flat out deceive you until you meet the wife which then put her in a position where her feelings can get hurt.
I believe couples need to do better towards single men. Approach single men like you would approach a unicorn you’re thing to seduce for a 3 sum. Be respectful, be truthful, be genuine. At the end of the day, you’re getting more out of the action.
Maybe we need a social monitoring rating feature on the site. Where individual get reported for not properly interact with others, flunk on a date or lie about their appearance, sending too many unwelcome messages to couples or more.
Personally, my fantasy was never to play with a couple. It was to play with a wife or someone who is already taken. I never cared about the husband. It was doing something that should not be done that drew me to the lifestyle. Over time I stared filtering the husband out of the picture. Now every husband has an attitude when they come across my page or when they message me and I mention that i only one lay with female half.