Also in our case, there isn't likely to be someone new at our party that we haven't already met and seen in action at another LS party. If we did take a chance, it will be one new person among a number of our friends. Our friends look out for us because they know we do what we do as much for their enjoyment as ours. We would do the same for our friends should they have a party.
MAYHEM8
Definite advantages to having parties in the home.
We always get 2 bedroom suites in a hotel. That way we have a full sized refrigerator and a stove for food.
To help offset expenses, we set out a plastic box with a slot on the top, and a stack of those little manilla coin envelopes that are about 3 1/2 inches long. Everyone who attends knows that they are to write their contact email on the outside, put a donation inside, and drop it in the box. No discussion, no confirmation. After the party is over, the expense offset donations are counted.
Someone made an earlier comment about the female guests of honor feeling obligated to take on any and all cummers and maybe not getting a break. At our parties, everybody there knows the girls are in charge, if they need a break the action stops, and no means no. Over the years, I think there have only been 2 people that we had to ask to leave. We have a pretty thorough vetting process.
In our case, we don't even put out a tip jar. There really aren't that many expenses when you have it in your home.
Over the past 15 years, I have belonged to a few gangbang groups, and have personally seen the good and the bad, with much more bad than good.
Some of the baddest of the bad, is the attempt to monetize it. That is, for a profit. When money becomes the motivating factor, everything else suffers.
Also, there is a fine line between accepting donations, and asking for donations. Accepting donations will help to cover expenses, and allow you to sleep in your own bed after the party. ASKING for donations now makes the event prostitution, which could have you spending the night in the gray bar motel.
I can understand how the gangbang term could turn some people off, but the gangbangs we’ve hosted always Included a lot socializing, not unlike most house parties. Totally not like 99% of the PornHub videos.
"In the case of a gangbang, the thought is that "guys are lined up to go one after the other". While that could be the case, I think gangbang implies there are no breaks in between and/or the woman has less/no control..."
I actually do think of gangbangs exactly as guys lining up, etc., plus no foreplay. Which is why I'm not interested in them, even though I could easily manage gangbang type numbers in an evening.
Definitely something to keep in mind when I finally start having these and send out invites. The word "gangbang" can sound a lot scariier. In the case of a gangbang, the thought is that "guys are lined up to go one after the other". While that could be the case, I think gangbang implies there are no breaks in between and/or the woman has less/no control, and that is never going to be the case.
The whole point in doing ANY party is that people have fun. While the guys attending would no doubt have fun, the main focus of these parties would be on the women attending having fun. It wouldn't be fun for a woman if she wanted to take a break or stop and felt she couldn't.
"Multi men party"
"Greedy Girls party"
"Women's Choice party"
All variations of the same theme. Definitely not a Gangbang, but the ratio is typically 3 or 4 to 1 on average.
It's funny, because it would be the same party, but I probably wouldn't be attracted to a gangbang party, but would be super interested in something called a multiple men party.
DesertPleasure - Even a lot of the parties we've call "gangbang" parties were more "multiple men" parties. The ones we had been to, the Mrs might play with 2 or 3 guys, then take a break, then another guy or 2, and another break, then perhaps another round. In some rare cases she has done 4 or 5 guys straight, but again, this is very rare.
What's really hot is when she looked like she was done and a couple guys would play with her and get her worked up, and next thing I knew she was starting round X.
Mayhem8.
I like the term “Multiple Male” party. Some women (and men) do not want to be in a Gangbang. It is more a problem of the wording than the action. Our Mrs. might play with 2 or more at a party..... just not all at once.
I see two different party vibes. Being invited to a Gangbang is still on my wishlist. The Mrs wants nothing to do with a Gangbang, but loves a house party with Single Men around.
Letting people know you have a donation jar seems to work well for friends of ours. Just heating the hot tub and washing sheets costs a few dollars. Charging can create a sense of entitlement and expectations that always seem to create problems.
Mr.
"I've been to parties where a woman that knows me has grabbed my package and lead me like a pull-toy to a room to play,"
I love it when that happens to me. The only 'problem' happens when more than one hand wants to pull in different directions. Lol
Hotluvrs - I am starting this group with SMs that have already been to our big parties and that I have an email address for. That was 14 guys right there. When we do add new guys, it will likely be ones that we meet at parties (post-vaccine) and others we already know that I don't have email addresses for, yet.
We've played with people that would feel uncomfortable at one of our big parties, simply because they don't know anyone. We would have smaller parties for ones that wanted to work up to a larger party and will likely do the same for new guys coming to a gangbang party. This way they'll know people and have been to our house before.
Many of the women we know that would be interested in a gangbang party are already part of a couple. So if we had 4 woman and say, 8 SMs that showed, we'd actually have 12 guys, including the women's SOs. That's assuming one or more of the women aren't some of the SFs we know.
Most of the SMs we know can easily play with 3 or more women in an evening, so with those kinds of numbers (i.e. 12/4), it's likely that a woman could play with at least 10 guys if she wanted to. Some of those guys are capable of 3 or 4 rounds as well.
So long as a woman doesn't mind being with some of the same guys multiple times, she could potential fuck well over a dozen times, depending on how aggressive the women are. I've been to parties where a woman that knows me has grabbed my package and lead me like a pull-toy to a room to play, not that I minded in the least. The Mrs tends to think it's funny when that happens, but again, these are people we know well.
Mayhem,
I’m surprised that I didn’t see this post earlier. I love the GB group idea. I hope it works well for you as an ongoing event.
I’ve mentioned this idea before, but I really like the idea of getting everyone on a common chat app. Giving the women a chance to flirt with the all the guys is a huge plus. Also having the guys being able to connect with the women, couples, and even the other single guys helps to take the edge off. As a single guy it’s hard to knock on the door of a house or hotel room not knowing what you will find on the other side.
Maybe these were semenars ;-)
Maybe bring a UV light if you're concerned? ;-)
It made for some weird photos. Like not exactly super sexy to have stacked chairs in the background. I don't know what else to say about that except apparently the tables were pretty sturdy.
A conference room???
I'll never attend another trade show seminar again....
Yeah, your post has changed some since you first put it up. I didn't know that was possible. I have no interest in gangbangs - two at a time is my limit - but a couple holding a party with a large number of solo guys would totally work for me and women like me who don't have an off button and are looking for the next opportunity the moment the current one ends. That plethora of guys is why the only two times I've gone to a club in the last few years has been on gangbang nights.
I actually think monetization is part of the reason gangbang groups don't usually last long, at least not in western Washington. The dynamic of paying or knowing some guy paid to fuck could create tension (it certainly skeeves me out)and then there's making a profit on it. I do get making sure the hotel is paid for (there was one group in the Seattle area that used conference rooms, complete with tables and chairs, rather than hotel suites), but as a business model it's shaky.
@Holly - We have already done a number of regular parties (couples/singles) at our house with up to 60+ people. These are all people we know personally. We don't charge for those parties and have no intention of charging for the gangbang ones either. It will also only be people that we know personally. Aside from performance critera, we also have to feel that they have good social skills, are polite, and would respect our house/property.
Once things get to a point where we feel it's safe enough to have parties, we will also start attending them again. This is where we meet 99% of the SMs we know and like. It lets us meet and sort of test drive new guys that we can then consider adding to our list, assuming they are also interested.
The mention of monetizing it was because it could be done fairly easily and it's why I'm surprised others haven't done this for that reason alone. Then again, we see people that have successful hotel room parties, but very few people do those even though those can be fairly easy to pull off as well and give one lots of play opportunities and the ability to make a few bucks,
One of the reasons that we don't charge for our parties is because we DO want to play. Having people we know personally allows us to do that and not feel overly obligated to stay in host/hostess mode.
Sounds like you want to monetize it. Keep in mind that putting a successful party together takes a ton of work and you cannot expect to play if you go large scale. Now if you and another couple are just looking for 3-10 extra men then it is a different story. Keep in mind that if anything goes wrong it will be your fault. Don't let in random single men. There is a reason that most clubs want references and certs from them. Inexperienced sm's can wreak havok on a party simply because they don't understand LS dynamics. It may sound easy, however, there are more things that can go wrong than go right. You will need to find a way to focus on the couples that you want to come. If there are no couples then you just have some bored men standing around. Take some time and plan ahead. Start small with a few people and see if you want to scale up. If you want to go big then take some time and talk to people who do organize large scale hotel parties and clubs.
Hmmm, somehow I think I accidentally deleted and replaced the base post. Oh well. Filled most of it back in.
Curious if any others may have already done something like this. Kind of surprised it's not more common. Though I don't plan to monitize it, I can see where someone could. An SM doing this could get laid AND make a buck.
Any other thoughts/ideas/comments?
Took the first step and emailed some of the SMs that we already know and like, and it wound up being 14 SMs. These are just the ones I already had email addresses for, but there are a lot more. I actually didn't realize that we knew so many SMs. It may well be that I never need to create the SLS group I was considering for this. That could be more work than it's worth, and it's not like it will be difficult to find guys interested in doing this. If anything, screen out the ones we DON'T want will be more effort if I made an SLS group for this.
Once I get the distribution list created, I'll probably ask each for a picture. In most cases for these parties I will probably just send out invitations through an app using the distribution list. I can also see though where it would be cool when dealing with a potentially new GB girl to have her and her hubby/BF come over and be able to look through and select guys from the pics.
Kind of excited to actually be pulling this together. I can see us maybe doing one of these types of parties every month or so at some point in 2021. Was chatting with the female half of a close couple we play with and half jokingly told her that her and the Mrs could test drive any potential new recruits. I think she was more excited about it than I was ;-)
I'm really kind of surprised more SMs across the country haven't already done something like this. It's not a lot of effort. It could take what is likely seen as an overabundant LS commodity and turn it into one that is in a lot higher demand. Anyone else reading this that has considered doing it?
Even amongst GB groups that may already exist, I'm probably unique in that I'm not looking to monetize it. I'm sure the opportunity exists to do that as well for an SM on the ball that wanted to get laid AND make a buck. It probably has more cred and perhaps less scary though if organized by a couple versus an SM. Especially where the Mrs will be sampling and able to speak first hand about the results of our effort ;-)
