Outed in public

Esperanza, I truly believe she was really interested in the lifestyle and seeing us in public made her even more curious about it. Her husband was way too drunk to even begin to have any legitimate conversation with her about it. Truthfully, I don't know how she even got him to the car. And yes I agree as well, people need to mind their own business as well. It just caught me off guard to be asked about it. She wasn't rude or snide about at all. I guess that's why I felt better about answering.

I don't understand why anybody would feel compelled in any way to engage in a personal discussion with a complete stranger. We don't give a f*** if random people recognize what we are doing, and we certainly don't need to be polite to strangers who think it's any of their business.

One.....I was so caught off guard, that I honestly wasn't thinking straight. I'm a smart ass by nature and normally would've said something like that back. Noted for next time, just the same.

My question back to her would have been why are you?

Holly.... we were all comfortable answering her questions together as a group. Just not used to being noticed I guess. It was our first time being called on it. We were dancing with the other partners and she was just being observant I guess. She seemed genuinely curious about the lifestyle. We all gave her input on it. We "rolled the dice" and just went with it. We all had a good time regardless.

Generally it is pretty obvious if couples are openly flirting with one another. You'll need to assume that people are going to notice and talk about you if you go that far. If you all feel super uncomfortable now after some reflection, just dial things back a bit and shift how you carry yourselves in public.

Now, with the lady coming up and asking you definitely run the risk of her just turning around and blabbing to everyone at the establishment that you all are swingers. If we were with another couple there's no way would affirm that because we are not going to answer for the other couple. They could be swingers themselves or just curious. However, we always understand that our behavior in public can have a huge impact on people that we meet. Now if both parties are fine then go ahead and roll the dice and see what happens.

I apologize now if this is already been asked. I skimmed through the topics before I started this post to make sure.

Mrs and I met new a new couple last night. We went out to dinner and hung out at a bar talking with them afterwards. Well as the night progressed and things got more relaxed as it was our first meeting. The wife of the other couple and I were dancing and a lady stranger walked up and asked if we were swingers. We initially played it off, but as the drinks got a little heavier we got more open. This same girl came up to all 4 of us together and seemed truly interested in finding out more about the lifestyle. We all answered her questions and she truly seemed interested. We explained that communication and trust are the biggest keys and that she and her husband needed to talk about it together if they were truly interested. He was way too many beers in to even begin to have a legitimate conversation about it. We carried our conversation on for a few more minutes and she seemed intrigued with the answers she got. Eventually they left and we all joked about it afterwards, as none of the 4 of us had ever been called out in public.

Just curious if this has happened to anyone else, or any type of advice for dealing with it..... thanks for your time