Not a math problem /////but?

Only needs to be one if they are the right person, but if you are taking about non-regular play partners, the answer is "more."

You need more leads.

I host formal dinner parties in a formal setting in my home. It’s invitation only and advertised as a vanilla with an extremely sexy undertone. This is a great way to find out who’s comfortable and what type of setting. I suggest just throwing a bunch of parties and weeding out the people that don’t mingle and interact. I find it to be about two out of ten couples will be cool enough to invite back.

do you supply the wine? That’s gonna make a big difference in the equation??

hotluvrs-
Only if you calculate in base 13, or would that be base d...?

First, don't panic.

Mayhem is right, the answer is 42

"It's like solving for X when you only have one of the other 2 variables."

It's more like solving for X when you only have one of the other 38 variables or 75 variables or 24 variables or however many variables you think are involved.

But it's usually many more than two variables. ;-)

As mentioned, the answer is variable depending on the people involved. It's like solving for X when you only have one of the other 2 variables. Even if you could come up with an average availability # it's not going to give you your answer if the couple/s you find fall way outside of that average.

With that in mind I'm going to say 42, which is the "Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything" in The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy ;-)

I understand what everyone is saying, so maybe I asked the question wrong. This is more of an opinion question than one with a correct answer. We could, and have gone to clubs but only available to areas away from the ole homestead. I also understand life happens, so not everyone is available at all times...might be more fun if they were, but nope. So with all of the reasons one is not available out there, how many people do you have to know in order for another couple to be available on the same night your available?

So..the number of times a month one wants to play, with the number of days in the month. The number of life activities and probably a constant. So the equation might look like Life Activities/ number of times x days in the month. Just something to noodle on.

That's a super-fun outlook: "Come on, we have to leave and go fuck people". One of the most surreal moments we had was when we connected with two other couples at the same time at a hotel party (in our room) and after everyone left, we gave each other a high-five. Weird, funny, but fuck it- we had just got done playing for almost two hours ;-)

"If you have the chance to add to that # over time, why not do that?"

This might have more to do with me than anything more general, but years ago, when I was a regular at a club, I had a lot of consistently available playmates and that sometimes meant more interpersonal juggling than I enjoyed, plus, while I generally have more stamina than an ultra-marathoner, there was a limit to how many people I could fuck in one evening.

So, that's one vote for not. ;)

I agree with @thn. If you could find a local club/party, that would be the way to go. Especially if you like the idea of variety. Clubs/parties allow you to meet a number of people a lot quicker than just trying to meet online.

Even if you're looking for a closer knit circle, pretty much every club/party will has it's regulars. One of the best parts is that it makes scheduling play time a ton easier. You or a couple can easily have something come up last minute, but unless something drastic occurs, a party will always happen at the planned time/date.

We're at a point where it's pretty much guaranteed we're going to play at the parties we go to. In fact, there are people that would be very disappointed if we didn't play for some reason ;-) Our standing joke when getting heading out is, "Come on, we have to leave and go fuck people".

Another thought is, "Why place a limit on LS friends?". If you find a club/party and wind up clicking with a dozen or so couples, then that's your number. I'd certainly not restrict it to just that # though. If you have the chance to add to that # over time, why not do that?

It might be better to join a local club or recurring house party group. That way when you go, you go and meet the crowd that's there that night. It would feel disingenuous to be on someone else's perpetual "maybe" list.

"People are always the variable."

Ain't that the truth - even with the same half dozen single gentlemen that we regularly play with it's feast or famine. Sometimes we can coordinate schedules easily & play every week and sometimes nothing lines up for weeks on end.

People are always the variable. I created my account with the goal of having sex with others twice a week. For me, it took between two and three people/couples max, because those I met and liked enough to keep seeing were reliably available.

Pretty sure the answer to your question is a moving target.

We are a couple that would enjoy playing probably 2x a month or so. Sometimes real vanilla, sometimes more wild. How many couples should we have in our quiver so that when we want to take a shot at playing, we have a great shot of connecting. I'm thinking it has to be north of ten, but I'm sure someone who is great with statistics has already figured this out.