Couples Playing Solo

We both have played solo a number of times. Much like the previous poster we had played together with a male or two and also a married female that eventually ended up us playing with alone. Wife had a couple of guys she enjoyed hosting and I did enjoy a female friend alone also. We both are very secure in our love for each other and no worries about anyone replacing the other. It has been a while since we both played separately but never out of the possibility of doing it again. Just need to connect with the right ones.

Each couple navigating swinging separately, experiences it in their own way. In our experience, there has been a big double-standard in how it played out. For the few guys she's played with separately, we met them together first and had at least one mfm threesome with all attention on her. They did have at least one cert and had been on the site for some time. This gave us the feeling we needed that they'd treat her nicely and that we were on the same page. And in these few cases it worked out well.

As for me, the husband, it was a bit more challenging. Of the five women I met, four of them eventually started trash talking my wife and/or wanted me to split with her because they were actually looking for a long term relationship. So it had to be broken off with them. That wasn't a challenge with the few guys we met. They knew why they were there and it worked out well. I think it was because of the guys we considered and the approach we used. The single women I met weren't as experienced, didn't list certs, and weren't on the site as long. Single women are more rare to find.

We haven't done this in more than 8 years, however, this has been our experience. We aren't recruiting extra guys at this time; something that had to be written. However, if we met a nice, stable, experienced couple with whom we connected.. ;-)

Neil4U: One does not select the same dish every time when eating out or preparing a meal at home. Variety! Maybe seasonal preferences, sometime tea other times, coffee. Sex should include various choices. ??

We both play solo on occasion. It depends on the situation, and whether or not we know all parties involved well enough to trust that no one will cross any boundaries. That said…our preference is still to play together in the same space.

OP - We've don't play 'Solo' although we've played separate in a group depending on how the situation played out. (We weren't there to cock block each other). To us 'Solo" is different than 'Separate' but with that being said our relationship (aka marriage) has grown to the point if one wanted to play 'Solo' we could discuss it before one went off on their own decision. The main reason we got into the lifestyle was to enjoy it together, but its open to discussion.

We formerly wanted to play together all the time, with some memorable scheduled hallpass events in the past. Like many of you who revel in seeing the other partner have a good time, we still prefer to play all together. But lately we've opened up to solo play with no need to "ask permission" or "check in," except for safety reasons. This is so that if one of us finds an interesting new partner or scene, one can join in and enjoy it - with no guilt, with joy, and with minimal logistics.

We're all adults. We like and love each other. We don't deny pleasure or interesting experiences for the other. It's also hot knowing your spouse is having fun in a new, steamy way.

Speaking as a single guy, it seems like I get more interest from mature couples as I get older. Hell if I know why, but I'm pretty sure it's not that I'm more attractive

Depends on why you're in the lifestyle. We recently tried a separate room swap and it was fun, but, really, our aim, while it includes fun adventures with others, is to enhance our relationship. For us, that's best done when we're together, at least most of the time.

Maybe that kind of shared experience is something you can do without or you really, really like hearing about what your partner got up to without you. For me, the latter is a turn on that I can't get if we're playing together.

Basically, you're asking questions that can't be answered out of the context of your relationship.

Hi and welcome.. so for "us" we play solo and together well over 25 years.

Its your journey, your choice and no one else's. We have done the club scenes, some good some terrible, same with parties and events all over USA solo and together.

Now we are select in who we invite to our bed.. and only classy, sensual, fun people make it.

In fact a great SLS guy, world traveler set up this Friday night for a repeat performance 3sum! I have seen him alone several times at his place too.

We both have had solo sleep overs at ones home, hotels and its fun. When I come home we reconnect and its a special fun time!

Good luck enjoy make it what you guys want!

We have been active in the LS for 15 years and are an older couple

The last two years we have been playing solo more often. Not at parties or events so much, but seeing couples or singles that we find interesting and the other does not

Is that maturing and in the LS or signs we need to reconnect in our LS choices.

Your thoughts and experiences are welcomed.