We are looking forward to connecting with new couples in our age group. Been off and on for the last two years, but hopefully this will be a better year. We hope good things can happen by patiently staying in the game.
We hope we find some down to earth couples .For some good times will have to wait for 7 weeks letting my wife get back to 100% .But looking for some fun by then.
Mayhem, if TFF is on the list for your party, let us know. We all will show them what a New Englanda party is like.
Thank everyone. We really just feel it’s the area we live in. @ DTH we have changed our settings so you can give us your opinion
Time
While I can't read your profile, I did read others who responded. I am not sure what the issue is as it appears all you've you done is spot on. I can suggest a few things though.
I have been in this lifestyle as a married person and as a single male. People assume that as a married couple it is easier, and to some degree that is true, but there is a common thread for all those who are in the lifestyle and are on SLS.
One needs to exercise patience and not be so eager to want to meet up with anyone that responds. I am sure you have your preference as do others and that means being selective, which in turn takes time (in my case it took a long time. However, once that barrier is broken down it seemed more doors opened. This was true whether it was as a married person or in my current state as a single male.
SLS is a different animal than parties, nightclubs etc..... hang in there and don't compromise your standards, thing will work out.
I don't get it Time, it's not your profile, or your looks, must be the times.
We would in a heart beat if we were local.
TFFC,
We were in Dover a few weeks ago..........would have been fun to grab a drink.
TimeForFun - I know it's not much consolation, but we would meet with you guys in a heartbeat if we lived closer. While reachable by car, it is a good days ride.
Perhaps when Covid dies down a bit and we get back to having parties, you could come up for a visit. We generally let people that travel a ways to see us spend the night and usually wind up with a couple of couples that do just that. It's a lot of fun and leaving one of our parties with no action is kind of like leaving a buffet hungry ;-)
DTH, we tried that back in December before Christmas. We traveled to OC Maryland. We did get two messages, but they wanted us to travel even farther south then we already had traveled.
Time
A simple test to see if it is the area
Make plans for a weekend get away to a nearby area (a couple of hours drive away) say the the MGM near DC or any other place where you feel comfortable spending a weekend away from family and friends.
Post a hot date ahead of time for the area you plan to be visiting and see what happens. If you get hits and people reach out, then you know without a shadow of a doubt that your profile is not the issue.
Before moving south I had that same issue when I lived on the eastern end of the island... it was the location and so I had to adjust my lifestyle a little. I increased my travel time to allow for more exposure to people in the lifestyle. That adjustment lead to meeting an awesome couple that I continued to meet on a regular basis be it vanilla and non vanilla visits.
Definitely think it is your area.. we get requests weekly while in Georgia and in Florida west coast at our other home...
One last comment then we'll keep quiet. We posted a Hot Date for Friday night. We don't get all that many free Friday nights and thought we might try to find a little fun. Just like all of our other Hot Dates not one message from anyone. We had over 40 couples check out our page, and not one message. We almost feel like there is some kind of big red flag on our profile. We know there's not, but it feels like it. Guess folks or our age in this aera aren't very active, and the younger than us couples don't play with couples our age. Sorry just had to rant a little, thanks for listening.
We are not in an area known to be a senior area either. Pre-covid, we had about 4 public parties we attended. One could be cliquey at times, but we always managed to meet people.
We are at best, average in the looks department, so I definitely think it was us just putting ourselves out there. In all fairness, if we had to start over again at this age, even in this area, it would be tougher,
We are very aware of the events on the hot dates. We have been in the L/S since 2013, we’re not newbies. Our point has been that our area at our age is not active. It’s not like we live in a senior community.
We are very aware of the events on the hot dates. We have been in the L/S since 2013, we’re not newbies. Our point has been that our area at our age is not active. It’s not like we live in a senior community.
TFFC - It's unfortunate but some clubs can be cliquey. BTW - Hot Dates also shows events at the bottom, which is what HotLuvrs was referring to saying that there are a number of them in your area.
Any party can have an off night, and if you have multiple ones to choose from, it's worth a shot checking them out. Even a so-so party allows you to meet and talk to people in person. People can be overly picky online, and you always have the risk of ghosting/no shows.
@ TomandDiane. I think we meet many years back at The Private Affair. We gave up on the club scene a few year ago because of the cliques.
Over the years all of our friends have left the L/S, and we are having a very hard time finding new L/S friends near our age.
@ TomandDiane. I think we meet many years back at The Private Affair. We gave up on the club scene a few year ago because of the cliques.
Over the years all of our friends have left the L/S, and we are having a very hard time finding new L/S friends near our age.
@ HotLuv, Please reread our post. We said we posted three times over the last two months (Nov & Dec) and never received any responses. All three were for weekends that we were free for the whole three day weekends.
Timeforfuncouple said:
“ Hotluv, Hot Dates are a joke. We posted 3 times in the last 2 months and didn’t get one response Nothing is ever listed as far as parties in our area. We live in a very dead area for people our age.”
I’m surprised to hear you say that. When I looked at the hotdates page for January, I saw 20 events listed within 50 miles of Newark, DE.
@ Time for fun couple: You are not far from several swing clubs in Philly & MD. If you're looking more for couple-to-couple meetings and/or playdates, is it because you have a limited radius you are only willing to travel to or have others travel to you?
In our area, SLS will have events posted at the bottom of the Hot Dates listings. Not all of them will have a public sign up. Some feared that they may be shunned playing at an unsafe time, so some hosts decided not to have a visible sign up.
Hotluv, Hot Dates are a joke. We posted 3 times in the last 2 months and didn’t get one response Nothing is ever listed as far as parties in our area. We live in a very dead area for people our age.
TimeforFun,
Have you checked Hotdates and Events for upcoming parties? You may also want to join local groups. Other websites have lots of parties posted.
Mayhem, where does one find said parties? We have never seen anything like that in our area.
