What Phoebert said,
We have two homes. My sweeties primary home is within 50 miles of 3 million people. My primary home is in a county of 43,000 that's roughly the size of Connecticut. Pretty much visitors or nothing where I live. On the other side it's not unusual to find a couple interesting enough to have a drink with. Finding a bar with capacity to accommodate us at the moment on the other hand...
Local is best for us. Like everyone, we have a full vanilla life. We/she loves her fun and pleasure - drinks, flirt, tease, play and then sleep and wake up home (or at least local hotel or his place) and get on with the next day's vanilla stuff. Her best playmates are literally fifteen minutes away and receptive to texts like "play? NOW?!"). Traveling requires too much time and planning for us.
Although, we almost always post a hotdate if we are traveling and already going to be on the road.
Both!
Having lifestyle friends nearby is very nice for logistics. My experience is that friends in the same Zipcode usually fast forward to very good vanilla friends. For exceptional partners, I set my search criteria to 150 miles- in my area that’s roughly a 2+ hour drive.
I have a home in NY and in VA, so I travel back and forth. Traveling allows me to visit on premise clubs and groups just beyond my normal search range.
Haven't really searched in awhile on SLS (with a decent coterie of friends and multiple clubs nearby, it isn't necessary).
With that said our preference is closer. It just makes planning and logistics much easier, and spontaneous play more likely.
Travellers - Hopefully that changes for you when you retire. Would kind of suck that when your travelling days are done, so would your LS fun.
We do not travel specifically just to play, but almost all of our play is when we are traveling. Locally at our primary home, we need to remain discreet for a multitude of reasons.
Oh my dear Trampy. I’d stop the world and melt with you any time.
~rabbit~
Locally I try to stay within the 50 mile radius, but have traveled, and will travel for the right couple or LS friends.
Florida is on my radar, but 1st is Vegas for my brother's 60th.
IKR?
(I know that gal is married and all, but I sure would like to think that the two of us us could become one for, say...30 mins or so!).
Just me thinking out loud, that’s all.
Tramp
Tramp/ betcha me and you could start a fire without a match on my front porch ;-)
~rabbit~
“ We don’t go too far away for people...”
Hell, gal. With you and Bourbon St in the same town...my guess is that you don’t have to go any further than your front door!
Tramp
We don't travel.
Like NOLA, everyone shows up in San Diego eventually...
We live within 15 minutes of downtown Manchester, which puts us next to the biggest city in NH population wise. We are less than 30 mins to the Mass border, 40 mins to the Maine border, and about 55 miles to Boston. We have good highay access and not a huge amount of traffic, so will usually consider up to 50 miles. We've done more, but it's very rare to do that for anyone new.
Being that we can host and a lot of people can't, many prefer to come to us and we are certainly OK with that. We have traveled a ways to go to parties in RI, but we have LS friends in RI and we usually stay with them and go to parties together. They likewise stay with us to attend one of the big house parties near us.
We'd like to play close by, but are in such a small area (Pop 63,000 in a county a tiny bit bigger than Rhode Island) if we don't travel 25+ miles there are few options that fit our preferences. We're going to a house party next month that's over 150 miles and three hours away. We've been offered a room, but it may not work out, and had planned to get a hotel and Uber for the night.
Near or far is highly dependent on where you are - city or country makes all the difference.
When we lived in Orlando a long-time gentleman friend lived 15 miles away but travel time was often 45 minutes or more. Our definition of near was less than 10 miles and we had numerous options. Far away was anything over 25 miles.
Now we live 10 miles outside Fort Payne and in 45 minutes we can be over 35 miles away. Our definition of near is now within 50 miles and there are far fewer options. Far away is anything over 100 miles.
But until we figure out respite care we don't have much opportunity to play so it's essentially a moot point.
We stopped meeting brand new (to us) people two-on-two many years ago. We would only meeting new partners at events or parties.
However, we would, and have, traveled a good distance to spend time with people we already know.
We don’t go too far away for people we don’t already know because of fakes and flakes.
We don’t really need to though because everyone comes to NOLA sooner or later.
~rabbit~
We prefer near and generally look out to about 25(ish) miles.
We do both.. play while traveling and also like FWB we can depend on routinely near our homes and travel with !
This long weekend we are traveling to Charleston SC / Mount Pleasant area and have plans to party with some new people.
We prefer to stay close but have met some couples from further away also. It all depends on the overall interest and attraction. We live close to a big city by Tn standards and also Pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg which are tourist areas.
Open ended topic but what is your preference when playing? Do you search near your current location or search for fun 50-100 miles out to broaden your choices?
