Pet Peeves

Sure it would be easier to do if this forum had the current tech but it is what it is.

Obviously, it's possible to create paragraphs though. Most users here manage to do it. The first paragraph is the hardest as you have to hit Enter 4 times to create the break, after that you only have to hit Enter twice, as one would normally do to create a paragraph break.

If people don't want to create readable posts that's fine. I just wanted to be sure they know that I can't be the only person that glosses over them.

~rabbit~

@Rabbit

Would be easier to do if the text editor was easier to use or you could enter your own <br> command.

Some of my longer posts i have to dick around and post, take a look, delete, re-edit, post etc. before it resembles anything like a paragraphed writing.

P- people that make long, rambling forum posts with no paragraph breaks, especially the kind that you actually have to scroll the writing up in the forum frame to read it,

Break that shit up people. Otherwise, at least to me, it becomes like the buzzing of bees, after a few sentences it is so hard to read and understand I lose all interest and wander off.

~rabbit~

@BT. I hear you.

I started running a dashboard camera a few years ago, mounted on my window just below the rear view mirror. Anytime that my ignition is on, it is recording. Has come in handy several times. Can be bought at WalMart and lots of other places, well below $100

NJ, I hope you'll call the closest store to where you were parked, ask for their Loss Prevention/security dept, and ask them to take a report. Just in case the car owner reaches out to them. I'm thinking they might have parking lot video too.

I hate a-holes like that.

@Pixie- Some of us truly appreciate your past support of the SM community...and that's all I have to say about that.

BT

Over the years I have honestly tried to be supportive of SM's in this lifestyle, and for the most part, even on this site. But god damnned if some of you motherfuckers don't make it difficult.

"Don't be a nuisance." Translated, "Don't be a F-U-C-K-ing nuisance!"

"We will only communicate by THIS site." KiK? "Nope." Phone number? "Let me check. Uh, no." Morse code? Smoke signals? Sock on the doorknob? "No, no, and oh, uh, doorknob? That's a new one, let me just be sure... Ah, uh no. No, almost got that one confused with shitting in my hand and writing it in Arabic on the living room wall and getting a pic of it with my Mom's old Poloroid and mailing it in, and hiring a translator to stop by with beer, pizza and a translation."

PS. That pizza better have a gluten free crust, asshole!

It was awkward, and it was the worst case of the "porno director" hubby, but not the only case I've encountered. That particular one ended with no orgasm from anyone, her sitting at the foot of the stairs saying over and over "never again" and me leaving and never returning. The husband of course texts me later that it was my fault, his wife of course disagrees. There are some nightmares scenarios out there, believe it.

BiBlk, I think (no correction, I KNOW) that at that point, I would have promptly stood up, gotten dressed while glaring at the husband, and found my way to the door. If she was not enjoying the experience, and obviously from what you say, she was not, then I would not be enjoying it.

The "porno director" hubby. As the third wheel in most threesomes, I've encountered the husband that has it in his mind EXACTLY how the fucking will go. This is the husband that never fucks during the meet, just watches, but just has to direct every action according to his vision. I've actually had a hubby stop me and his wife mid-pump, he took her into another room and talked to her, she came back in tears and climbed back underneath me. Yes, this type exists...he's out there.

she still had her teeth and was standing up by herself. So I figured alright!

That's got to be the funniest thing we saw here in a looonnngggg time...

Profiles that show the members ages as something which is impossible given the length of time their profile has been around.

Ages state they are 24 and 25, profile open since 2004. So they were 10 and 11 when they started?? Obviously not - just never updated it.

Pics look like 25 year olds. I'm sure meeting them (if that's even possible anymore) would be an interesting surprise.

Dishonesty is a big one. I had a meet with a girl a few years back. I just got back in the LS after being gone for five years, so I was 38 or 39 at the time. This lady was quite a bit older than me, but in her profile picture, she still had her teeth and was standing up by herself. So I figured alright! I got to the bar first and when she walked in and came to me, I was visibly shocked. I felt horrible, because she could tell, but it was an involuntary response. She was no where near her profile picture. I bet Ansel Adams himself took the picture, I was looking for Yosemite National Park to pop up in Memphis.

Mrs. VA is a pen-taker.

She comes to my desk when we're talking about work. During that time she will invariably take any loose pens, Sharpies or highlighters she sees laying on it. Every time she comes to my desk I find myself with nothing to write with.

I go to her desk, and sure enough there they are, in her cup holder things.

Funny thing is that I never SEE her take them. It's like she's some sort of professional pickpocket - distracting me in some way and then relieving me of them.

"But when the drinks and your personality don't change our minds, then we're back to hurt feeings again."

We once saw a profile that described what they like in people and then said "with all that said, you can't fuck a personality". Ie it doesn't matter how much we like you, if we don't find you attractive it ain't happening.

Now, with all of THAT said, we've had exceptions to this in both directions. We have had people that we found so attractive, and the sex was so good, that we continued to fuck them for a while in spite of not really liking them much at all. We also had couples that we knew through friends that we came to like so much we eventually had sex with them because we enjoyed their company, even though we didn't find them very attractive. There is one such couple like that on our radar right now- we've known them for years but we never really wanted to play, but they are so nice and friendly that we just might someday.

And with all of THAT said, these exceptions have only happened with people we met incidentally such as at a club or party. We'd never meet people from an email that we didn't think were at all attractive (or were obviously assholes).

I have several times read profiles that I found attractive or intriguing but that I did not meet the stated preference of the post. I have sent an outreach anyway but have been honest about how I do not meet the profile request. Being honest seems to work as I have gotten together with 2 amazing couples and have had both lots of fun and some good ongoing friendship.

Pixie,

1000% agree. Dishonesty is an automatic turn off and earns a no from us too... we're in this to be honest, open and transparent.

AnJ... you are correct. And don't get me wrong, there have been times when someone's personality has made the difference, and we ended up playing with people that we probably would not have otherwise been attracted to.

But if a couple is dishonest about their photos hoping that personality is going to make up for it, that is on them because that is a big risk. I would have to say that has worked out maybe 2% of the time it has been tried.

Just sayin'

Funly, at your request, will do...…….

" first I don't wish your plight on anyone. that being said it is not you, the guy that has to go in and sit down and take a reasonable amount of time to be a stall to take care of his business. my post was for the guys that go into the stall when there are several urinals available, are in there for about 1 minute, piss on the seat, and won't clean it up. I read your entire email, you put a lot of thought into a light subject. take your time in the stall I don't think anyone is concerned about what you are doing in there especially if you aren't standing taking a piss. "

Phoenix, feel free to post my reply as well.

We get it pixie. Physical attraction is the main component. Not shallow at all. You get what you need emotionally somewhere else.

We've had the experience where a couple walks in to the bar to meet us and our gut reaction is "nope." But then over drinks and conversations they become a lot more attractive. I'd blame the alcohol but we haven't played on the first date yet so we have a chance to sober up and think about it and still went back.

My point is that yes, physical attraction is the main factor, but personality can make someone more attractive than they look in a pic. Our experience anyway.

J

They look like fun people and often it's "We're fine just hanging out and having a few drinks."

Right. But when the drinks and your personality don't change our minds, then we're back to hurt feeings again. Maybe I come across as shallow, but the more you are lacking in the looks and fitness areas, the more I'm going to need you to make up for it in personality.

Sorry. Not looking for lifemates, just fuckmates.

maybe they think you will change your mind, lol, but most likely they just don't read

Some things never change.

PP: People who do not read the profile. We prefer not to hurt other's feelings. That's why it is clearly stated in the profile that we prefer prospective playmates be in at least reasonably good shape, preferably HWP.

So how exactly does 300 lbs+ and almost 200 lbs get anywhere near our stated preferences?

Uuuuuggggghhhhh.

On further contemplation, I am going to post my email to Funlyfriend here for all to read, not to embarrass Funly in any manner, but rather to hopefully educate.

"""I saw your comment "Men who go into a stall to piss instead of using the urinal." in the Pet Peeve forum.

I don't want to open a public discussion of the situation, but I would like to "explain" why I prefer to go into a stall, even if "just to piss". In full disclosure, when I do go into a stall "just to piss", I do do the full routine of dropping the pants, briefs, etc and sitting, as I will explain in a moment. Perhaps you were only referring to those men who step into a stall and stand pissing into the toilet just as they would at a urinal, but your comment does not make that distinction.

So, allow me to explain why I enter a stall "just to piss".

I had a bout with prostate cancer in 2012, which required surgical removal of the prostate gland and 33 follow-up treatments of radiation. I have thought since then that the cancer was eliminated, but have recently begun seeing an indication that there may still be issues; time will tell on that point.

The urethra (piss tube) passes through the prostate gland, allowing the prostate gland to act as a final valve to control urinary flow. Did you ever wonder why you cant piss in the midst of sexual play?? Without that final valve in place, I have had incontinence problems now for six years, and unless some miracle happens, will for my remaining lifetime.

So, given that I have the incontinence issues, I have two choices. Either saturate my slacks with visible piss, or wear an incontinence pad. Incontinence pads are virtually identical to women's sanitary pads, held in place against the briefs with adhesive on the backing of the pad, directly in front of the penis. It works best when held snug to the body, which means that boxers are not an option. Rather, briefs are the only option.

Now, imagine when the urge hits to urinate, I would have to "slide" that whole section of briefs and pad to the side sufficiently to allow me to pull my penis out the zipper opening of my slacks/jeans/shorts and be aligned up sufficiently to have a full release of piss. I don't know if you have tried that, but it just doesn't work very well. And then it is necessary to "slide" the pad back into its proper place to catch the next leakage that is inevitably going to happen.

So, I don't mean to be overly "woe is me", but
(1) having had the erectile nerve irreparably severed,
(2) having an inflatable apparatus implanted to have any hope of having any kind of erection,
(3) having totally no ability to produce semen (cum fluid),
(4) the incontinence issue, which becomes a MAJOR problem when otherwise sexually aroused (the more aroused, the more uncontrolled, there have been times when I have saturated hand towels in one sexual experience,
(5) having to wear a product primarily made for women's menstruation issues (some brands even have the outline of a vagina imprinted on them),
(6) the ever-present concern about the cancer re-appearing elsewhere in the body, and
(7) the hassle of going into a stall rather than using the more convenient urinal anytime that I need to piss,

I guess I now have to also think about what the other guys are thinking as they see me enter the stall "just to piss". Maybe you haven't thought much about it, but those seven factors, now with an eighth factor added, tend to do a number on a guy's male ego, all for an origin over which he had no control. Perhaps you will be fortunate enough to never be one of the one-in-six men who are affected by prostate cancer.

Again, not said in anger, just trying to educate a bit."""