Pet Peeves

Was meant to be a response to "Oh, and you reply needs work. try again". Lame attempt at snarkiness.
Google wouldn't be much help.

Funly, maybe I missed something in your post, were you complaining about straight people being offended with you asking if they were bi-curious, or men listed as bi-curious getting offended when you ask them if they were bi-curious?

If the profile you are complaining about has their preferences as straight then I stand by my reply, if they list their preference as bi-curious then I have no idea why you would ask if they were bi-curious, but I agree that it would be off-putting that they would be offended by the question. I'm guilty of making an assumption and replying based on it.

PP: I haven't the foggiest idea as to what "I'll try to ostrich green elevator" means.

Googling isn't helping.

Well, since you were so kind as to simply repeat your opinion, I'll try to ostrich green elevator, mkay?

DNLB, I read your profile you state you are straight. so bi men should know the realm described in your profile. For guys that state "will try anything once" like I said in the original post and do not say they are straight in their profile should not be offended by a simple question.

Oh, and you reply needs work. try again

Or maybe they meant "will try anything once within the realm and boundaries described in our profile"?

For guys like myself that aren't bi-curious whatsoever being approached by bi men in a sexual manner isn't remotely welcome. I don't think that guys that accept things going bump in the night or sucking a cock in the heat of the moment are straight in any sense of the word and describing themselves as such is intentionally dishonest. I don't care why.

profiles that say "will try anything once" then when you ask if he is bi curious they are insulted. just got an answer back "what the fuck would make you think he is bi?" Ummm, first bi-curious and second you said will try anything once.

"People, like me, that had to Google the word pejorative. Haha"

I'm right there with you lol

"better yet block those who offend you so easily.. "

Guess I offended them easily. Been blocked for a long time.

But then, I've got friends in low places...

People, like me, that had to Google the word pejorative. Haha

SB

njny knows that, RandK. She also made her own post on the topic. It's right there above mine, for those paying attention. Also, I've been off my flight for nearly seven hours.

Anything else?

Oh we see she has arrived: so NJ

Hey NJ that was GG post and that's why we said what we did.. and yes we will keep this one so please get it right.. I am sure she will chime in when she gets off her flight today so please be sure what you are talking about but it was Good Gooly.. again!

You don't get to use the "but I have x friends so I can't be y" defense. That just doubles down on the ignorance. Don't expose yourselves like that.

As for what drag queens call themselves when performing in front of an audience of mostly straight people who are there to be entertained, it's not germane.

I listen to a lot of hip-hop, and guess what word I hear a lot from black performers? Guess what word I don't use?

I'd suggest dropping this one and moving along

Really.. okay so we attend LIPS ATL for dinner and shows frequently, they are great and we have made several friends at LIPS.. at the shows they refer to themselves as what you mentioned.. yeah... ignorant wow! Sorry we have Gay, Lesbian, Black you name it we have friends in all and also party with all including travel.. so get off your high and mighty self and if that bothers you get over it or better yet block those who offend you so easily.. wow !
and we quote.. bet you forget you referred to them as same on one of your prior posts too and not this one.. you just abbreviated it. "PP: People referring to trans folks as trannies. Since it's just like dyke, faggot, and any racial slur you've ever heard, it's ignorant as well as really fucking annoying."

PP: People referring to trans folks as trannies.

Since it's just like dyke, faggot, and any racial slur you've ever heard, it's ignorant as well as really fucking annoying.

We never hear the neighbors. No matter where we go. But, we do our best to be heard. That way, the neighbors have some idea of what they're missing out on.

The hit rate on IMs is so small, that even people that do use IM don't want to invest any time in an initial message. More often than not, people do not see/react to it in real time, so you might as well be writing emails.

Would be different if they had a Notification tone of some kind like they used to have when you received an IM. Even then, some just aren't interested in IMing, so the "Hi" message kind of makes sense.

Sounds like a classic "head in the sand" approach, as in "Hey, they just went away". In actuality they had there head somewhere else it sounds ;-)

And apparently the "no-show" has blocked us, the conversations have vanished and they no longer appear in a search, so I assume that's what happens. Or maybe they deleted the profile?

There are some strange people in this world.

If we get a good feeling about a couple we'll consider just having them over the house. They KNOW we'll be there and, if they don't show, we have not gone out of the way. Likewise, if we plan to meet at a party we're already going to no biggie if they're no-shows.

Only problem with the parties lately is we know soooo many people that every time we turn around we wind up bumping into someone we know and talking, but spend much of the night just doing that. Just feels like we can't get out of our own way sometimes.

DNLB - my guess is that couple reacted defensively because they knew that a quick text would have been the right thing to do. But a child in an accident can cause you to forget everything but the child.

Still better than the single guy that stood us up and when asked the next day said he decided to stay home and watch the game with his buddies! He was coming to us but we did rearrange our schedule to accommodate the meeting. We just try to make sure we have a backup plan of sorts if they don't show (so meeting at a restaurant that we enjoy anyhow is ideal).

~Phoebert's Wife

I agree we had that happen once. We did not question them enough, did not speak with the female on the phone. We agree with the man that they would both meet us. No one showed. I know it is not nice to front people out to others but these people should have their user names posted and what they did. No one likes to spend all this time, effort, planning, putting other couples aside, spending money maybe for a hotel, travel, and heartache.

PP: People who message, email, kik and text for weeks, exchange pics, likes & dislikes, plan a meet & greet and then, after a thorough courtship...... simply vanish. They literally texted "we'll see y'all tonight" on the day of, and never showed, no response, don't answer & mailbox hasn't been set up yet. I'm completely baffled, WTF could possibly be the point?

One couple that did the same thing a while back, messaged us again later and when I reminded them of the no-show date replied that their daughter had been in a serious accident that day and we were insensitive about it by calling them out on it. I pointed out that a simple text or 30 second phone call would have prevented an issue and loss of trust. We had traveled over an hour to their favorite spot, and yes we still had a nice meal & enjoyed our own company, but that's beside the point.

WTF is wrong with people? The wifey says they're either crazy or simply some mental deviant who gets off on the control game, the more you try to elicit a response the better they like it. It's happened several times, is it just our area?

Another thought, just because someone is free here doesn't mean they aren't on another site. We are on multiple sites and it's a lot of the same faces. We are lifetime here, we've paid periodically on another and we're free on the other. Different sites have more activity than others depending on where you live. I don't know how it is now, but years ago Kasidie, I think it was, wasn't active in the LA area. It was useless for us so we deleted our account.

AFAIK, free members cannot post in the forums. They are blocked from signing up for some parties, and they cannot send emails.

We were free members at one point. We felt no different about the LS then than we do now. The issue is more in how you're perceived than how you feel as a free member. Knowing that has allowed us to meet and make some wonderful friends in the past by giving people a chance. Many times you can tell from the profile (or lack of it) if someone is worth the effort or not. Of course now they have no way to contact you so kind of a moot point.

Also, I've seen quite a few free members signed up for parties. In our area some places allow free members. They can also be getting party info off the site and contacting hosts off site.