Blocked for no reason?

That’s right. They can’t read or see you, but neither can you see them. ANOTHER sls programming fuckup. Or the intentional effort to condemn all. Who knows? But, it fucks up the continuity of the forums, which is NOT good.

The forums are the place where everyone, including blockers and blockees, should be able to see everything that has been posted and replied to by anyone...even those who have blocked each other or other individually. If someone doesn’t like it for one reason or the other, they can simply stay off of that topic thread.

As I said (in my opinion), it is careless, sloppy and ill-thought-out program design, I could have been fixed a long time ago. Apparently they just don’t care.

SLO

Nor will those of us he blocked. In my case, I believe it was because I didn't respond quickly enough to his Merry Christmas message, but I'll never know. ;-)

Floridabound,

I enjoyed reading your post. Excellent irony.

Just checking, but you do know that those who have blocked you will not be able to read your forum messages, right?

for the few of you people that have blocked us , its cool . most that have done this , we don't even know or want to know . but if you think your going to bully me [ you know who you are ] you better find out who your dealing with 1st . we can be the best of friends or the worst , its up to you how you want to play this .its very common when you put a group of people together that theres going to be people who disagree with one another . but those of you who think your going to make me your bitch , you got another thing coming . bottom line is if you don't like what I write . don't read it . for the rest of the sls family , we wish you the most blessed holiday season . peace and love to you

You more or less make your own rules.

Just try to be nice to people, but don't take shit from anyone...

It may have been a mistake it's near other items to open .

It may have been a mistake it's near other items to open .

Thank you everyone. I do feel better, but still curious :-). New to us and want to make sure we are following the rules, especially if we plan on attending a party. Have a nice weekend!!!

For all you know, they've blocked every profile that was invited to the party. Why? Who knows? Maybe they don't want people contacting them before the party. We've had this happen a couple of times...a couple reaches out to us a few days before the party and says they look forward to meeting us. Seems innocent enough and we always reply with a generic "looking forward to meeting you, too."...or something to that effect. Then at the party, we might not find them attractive or interesting, but they seem to be of the opinion that we should be obligated to focus our attention on them simply because they messaged us ahead of time. I guess blocking all invitees to the party would put a stop to that, but it's only happened like 2 or 3 times so I don't sweat it. But if it became a regular thing, I'd definitely consider doing it.

Also, who's to say they even showed up to the party? In my own experience going to parties, I'd say maybe 20-25% of the people who accept the invite actually show up. If they blocked you because they recognized you then they almost certainly didn't show up. So if they didn't go, then you basically just cut off your nose to spite your face.

Lastly, if they blocked you then you have no earthly idea who they are or what they look like and chances are they haven't committed you to memory either. You could meet each other at the party and neither of you would have a clue....unless you hit it off and exchanged SLS handles.

In short, don't sweat it. Life is too short to allow people you don't even know to dictate whether or not you're going to have a good time.

T

@shycouple

It's possible the couple who blocked you may have recognized you or thought they did. Some will preemptively block someone local who they think they may know from church or school or work or through mutual friends. Don't let one couple dissuade you from attending a party where you have the potential to meet a dozen others. It may have been nothing personal to begin with.

~Scamp

Shy, some of the funniest encounters we have had were at parties when on multiple occasions a couple said, "You're real?!" In every case they had blocked us on SLS or another site previously without either party ever sending a message. Don't be like slo and get upset about being blocked. Most often it is the easiest way to cull the field of people you are not interested in. Don't ever let it stop you from going to a party. If anything, show up just for fun to see who they actually are.

ShyCouple101@

Don't let shit like that weigh up down. Those types are simply not worth it. Blocking others is a power trip for a lot of SLS members. It makes them believe they’re a hot item, and that they rightly have no time for “the little people”. It’s laughable. My advice is don’t block anyone, and you just decide who to communicate with if the time comes.

SLO

with no previous contact, they probably just blocked you because they thought you weren't a match for them. don't worry about it

My husband and I are still pretty new and decided we'd visit a party last weekend. When we looked at the invite list, the second name said we were blocked. We don't think we know them and never reach out to others. I was devastated, him not so much :-). No way was I going to a party where someone blocked us, and probably had friends there. I read the comments below and they all make sense, but I'd still like to know why.

Gr8, you live in another state 100 mils away! I'm sure I'll eventually run into you at tj's, though. If you're in town for an event and i have a free night, I'll be more than happy to have dinner with you.

magjoy - This sounds exactly like something you'd expect to see in the Craigslist personals when they existed. CL definitely had some people living beyond the fringe of reality when it came to sex. The crazier part is that they may have actually found someone, but it would have been likely that prostitution was the motive, which is what got them shut down in the first place.

Ha ha, I’ve repeated it in my head several hundred times in the last yr, I wish Magjoy would let me take her to dinner. now that I’ve said it out loud 10 times this morning it does kind of sound crazy.??

“only hope my posts don't portray me as a crazy woman who'd do that!”

Magjoy,
Nothing in your profile or posts make you seem unhinged. I often wonder what makes these folks get obsessed with these crazy ideas. Maybe they just keep repeating it over and over inside their own heads. If they would just say it out loud, possibly some part of their brains would realize how crazy it sounds.

Hotluvrs, very situationally creepy. This is almost up there with the guy who wanted me to come to NYC so he could train me to be his little slut. Dress me up, take me to a bar and send me to a hotel with some random guy. He did sound kind, offering to clean me up when random dude was done.
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So, situationally creepy...?

Oh, I'll keep posting. I find it different with people active on the forums who browse my post history.

Someone who goes through posts trying to find someone to relocate 18 hours away and start life over again with a random dude, that's just creepy. I could only hope my posts don't portray me as a crazy woman who'd do that!

MagJoy, then don't post anything...

It doesn’t bother us when we can tell folks have read thru our posts before they IM us Better they know our sense of humor and positions on things before we meet. Saves time, makes for better quality contacts

I don’t block anyone.

I also don’t like being blocked.

The reason is that the SLS software is SO FUCKED UP, that if you block or ARE blocked, it fucks up what YOU or others can see in the applications.....not just the profiles. The SLS program and various apps seem to have been designed by amateurs and fixed piecemeal as they chugged along by temp hired hands and less-than-stellar company “programmers”. You see now, how the live instance of SLS continues to be full of bugs.

Don’t block one another. Disliking is fine, but this software is fucked up enough.

SLO

Ckmate, just because it's a feature doesn't mean it isn't creepy. He read through several of them. It's like reading through someone's fb page before deciding if you want to go on a date.