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Depending on the woman/situation, both can be awesome. If a woman lubricates a lot, it feels darn near close fucking to a woman who just got filled by another cock. As far as orally, of-course, if you like cum (being bi, I do), it's pretty…
Mayhem8 I appreciate your feedback, however, I believe this couple would not be a good match because a they don’t want married men I’m divorced, but I do have a girlfriend, so I guess you could consider me kind of married. Secondly, from t…
Thanks mayhem8. I’m going to try it for a bit and see if it improves my odds.
Casper60: It is sure tempting. She knows I played in the past with men, but presently, she does not know I still like to play. It might be nice to go on a drag show night or something...
There are ABS' around the NNJ and NYC area, but monkey pox and various diseases turned me off to that of late. My first oral (with someone I didn't know) was at an ABS in Queens NY. It was hot as hell. I shared the experience in conversati…
LCmim: Thanks for the response. It's nice to know you would respond, although conversely, I would not approach you since you are both straight. I make a point of specifically reaching out to those who are bi, reasonable distance, around th…
@PhoebertAndWife: That's the other extreme. You will find plenty of people who think a brief response indicates you don't care and just your just firing off "knocks on the door" instead of more detailed responses....If I tossed out a bunch…
Mayhem: For the record: I look and see how long ago they were online. Often it says "today"....I wait a week or so before writing again and saying "Hi, anyone home ?"...by the third week I give up, and (usually) wish them well and move on.…
@LoveMeKnot144: I truly appreciate your response and suggestions. If we were closer, I'd love to take you out for a drink and dinner. We might have some fun. I've been looking for a bi gal so we might play as a couple. Honestly, I'm curiou…
As a divorced bi guy I thought it might be easier to find play partners than when I was in a sexless, dead marriage. I had my own apartment, total freedom, nothing to hide. I had no problem meeting men. I had no problem meeting women. Meet…
@profpres: Very true. As a divorced bi guy I thought it might be easier to find play partners than when I was in a sexless, dead marriage. I had my own apartment, total freedom, nothing to hide. I had no problem meeting men. I had no probl…
In my case, my mood changes sometimes. I am verse, so sucking or getting sucked are both options which I fully enjoy. I can hop online on various websites and easily find guys willing to blow me in a heartbeat. Me blowing: not so much. My…
There is one local bar in NJ (Feathers) that is tempting. I worry about being seen, but of-course, if someone is also there that I know, we're both busted...lol. I had the nerve once and when I went, it was closed already LOL. I do plan to…
I reached out to a couple that had reached out to me. Then a few days of nothing. I wrote back and they said "their messages go away when they log off". All my messages to and from others here are always there unless I delete them. Is this…
I called out a dude who asked if I was into playing with him. His profile said straight. When I asked what that was all about, he explained how "lots of people look down on a bi guy or won't play with a bi guy"....I basically told him that…
RonKathy; that’s a subject for another thread entirely ! Lol. I’ve had way too many men that were allegedly part of a couple but wanted to meet guy/guy first. They needed specific times to speak on the phone…hmm. All the signs of a guy pla…
"gtrguy - " Leave a voicemail, expect a return call." So if someone cold calls you trying to sell you something you don't really want and leaves you a voicemail, you'll return that call? If the answer to that is "No", how is this any diffe…
Well, I guess I will remain forever confused by this. I honestly don't feel any sense of entitlement and I've certainly have had to lower my expectations somewhat in the lifestyle. I admit, I've always had a pet peeve about being ignored.…
I played as a teen with a few guys. I got comfortable to the point of being a good oralist, deep throat, swallow and complimented on my skills. I liked getting sucked, mayn, woman, both, all good. I was introduced to swinging by an older c…
Kandkfun: not knowing me at-all, you’re making some lofty judgements. I’m far from desperate. I have enjoyed a number of multi year “relationships” in the lifestyle. When I find someone, I treat them like gold and value the friendship in a…
@BigBlackArm: It's even more bizarre when you are exactly what a couple says they want in their profile, you send pics, a brief friendly message and they either don't respond, or politely decline....hmm. Correct age range, correct sexualit…
@KandKfun: I appreciate everyone's feedback, however let me qualify things: I write ONLY people in the proper age range, proper sexual preferences, within a reasonable distance. I bought a 90 day membership. I was here before (years ago),…
@goodgollymsmolly98226 I totally get your point, but again, just write a message like "thanks for writing, but we're buried with responses and will reach out if interested". Period, done, end of story. It literally takes two seconds to kic…
i usually stay shaved. My GF likes a little hair, but her hair is really thin and whispy, so it's not an issue really, orally or for sex. If I'm not shaving, I use my Norelco beard trimmer down below to keep things close. I can't stand suc…
And, to address the OP's post: As a kid I was homophobic. My sister still is. I know many of my friends and family would be shocked. But bisexuality does exist, it's been around forever, I think we're just reaching a point where it's more…
Well, here's the thing : I've played with men, women and couples most of my adult life. I played with some guys as a teen, met a woman who was half of a lifestyle couple that made me realize I could happily play with and enjoy men, women,…
No surprise to me. I try to be friendly, courteous, and reach out to people who fit my age range, preferences, and maybe are fairly close. I sent out a bunch of introduction e-mails and always end with "please respond, even if to say no-th…
I use in-shower Dove moisturizer and a fresh, sharp, multiblade razor. After a hot shower, the hair is softer, so I do it at the end. I do my (rather large) balls and sack, and shaft etc. It cleans up well except for the problem areas down…
I played with a local married couple, and it was their first time. They were cautious and requested an STD test, so we all got tests, brought the copies to the motel we met at, and proceeded to have an amazing time, not having to worry abo…
Could not agree more. I worked as a musician on cruise ships in the past. I met plenty of people who were gunning for a good time. One woman had been taken on a trip by her girlfriends after a divorce. We hooked up a few times, she just wa…
In the gay or bi community, doing mostly everything is considered "verse" (versatile). In my case: I like kissing men, love mutual oral, body contact and nip play, rimming (if things get really hot), is cool. Anal is a coin toss. I have do…
Seems this can apparently be quite a touchy subject with swingers. I once had a dude accuse me of "your not really bi, you are just willing to suck dick to get to women". Excuse me ? lol... Nothing could be farther from the truth. Personal…
Thanks for the responses. Yes, the math adds up, and it was "pre-internet" for me, in so much as there WAS an internet, I just didn't get into actively using it till a bit after internet dating became popular and better known. I appreciate…
Honestly, I've played since my teens, and it's rarely NOT a challenge to get hooked up. I used-to reply to personal ads in the Village Voice personals, and a few NY and NJ had adult ads in them, where you sent a dollar and they forwarded y…
I've been playing since pre-internet. I used to send in a dollar or two with an envelope to a few local newspapers that had adult personals in them. Even back then, responses were less than 5%. The internet is actually worse. I even put in…
