Aging out

In my younger days just a thought or a gentle breeze and I was ready to go all night long. Though I still able to get it up, the little women can literally go all night. What we decided, that all the fantasies we use to ignore, became part of our new playtime. Literally almost every kink you can imagine we tried. Though it hard to find couple to play with, both because of perceptions of age as well as couples who haven’t yet expanded their limits. But trust me there are some out there and playtime is fun again.

Open your mind, expand your limits, buckle up and enjoy the ride.

We posted this in " Achieving Single Male Success" as well. Older men seem to fall into these bad habits detailed below.

Older, Real Hallpass, or Divorced Guys Guidance:

We feel compelled to write this due to several recent events. We hope it helps you guys and maybe you couples or hotwives out there.

As a guy. what should you say, or not say, to a lovely lady or a couple contemplating sharing the wife with you?

A. Ask for the business!: After an initial meet or chat online or on the phone, please propose a "date." Yes, you are dating the wife or the couple, even if you're not into the hubby or boyfriend. Propose a real-life meeting, whether it be for dinner or a quick chat ahead of a schtupp! Men of all ages are annoying the crap out of couples by constantly posting "sup?," "HRU?," "interested?" "Love dem tits." Ask her or them out to meet you, with a time, place, and be a consummate gentleman until she tells you not to be one!

B. Hallpass: If you have a hallpass and a lovely wife or girlfriend, say that early on and offer to broker the email, image, meeting, or call with your lovely S.O.! If you won't offer to set this up, 99.99% of couples assume you're creepin' on your lady.

C. Divorced: If you are divorced, please do not spend the date, meetup, or even online communications detailing how "that evil harpy screwed you out of your jorts and your '87 Corvette." After you all have built a friendship, it's probably OK to discuss past relationships gently. But don't start any date, chat, or relationship with your sordid Kramer Vs. Kramer story! This is a sex repellant spray. You must hate to bang if you bring this up.

D. Sad Sack: In the same vein as tales of divorces past, don't come in like Droopy from Hannah-Barbera. Question: You know what makes a woman head for the hills? Answer: A droning on, 'woe-is-me' guy who has no confidence. This guarantees ZERO PUSSY.

E. Have a story: Be upbeat and tell a funny or interesting story about you or your experiences. Make it short and pithy.

F. Ask about Her: Sales guys know this. If you are talking 95% of the time, and the client is talking 5%, you have screwed the pooch and that equals = NO SALE. Ask about her life, her likes, dislikes, how she learned she liked swinging, her first LS experience, how she met hubby, and so on. Pause and listen to her words. She will drop clues for you to hoard and use to please her.

G. Discuss: Chat with the lovely hotwife, or just wife, and her hubby about how they like to proceed. Are they first date freaks? Do they prefer to have a couple "dates" and then break out the Twister/Wesson Oil Kit? Express your interest in her or them and be genuine.

H. Compliment: Don't go overboard but offer a compliment to her (and them) and maybe praise a non-sexual aspect of her/them. You'll only know about the non-erotic aspects of her life if you ask her.

Hope this helps.

Harley,
Making me look forward to getting older.

I’d like to ride a nice 78yo

if i tell someone my age they a repulsed by my age 78,they dont think someyone that old can keep up with them

If the weight and pictures are anywhere near accurate from the OPs profile, it did look as though the male half is reasonably HWP. Maybe I'm wrong, but this appears to be more than just not taking reasonable care of himself.

Generally there are always more LS men than women in any venue that allows SMs. There are also a number of couples where the female half of a couple is only there so her husband can get laid and she herself has no interest in playing with others. In essence, they are NOT a LS couple. This means that even at an event that doesn't allow SMs, it's likely there will still be more men looking to play than women.

I guess this begs the question for the OP, "Are you looking for play parity or just to play at all?". If you are attending LS events and you are not getting to play at all, it could be the venue. A venue can develope a core group of regulars, and if many of the regulars are couples that are not really LS couples, then you need to find another venue/party and hopefully you are having this same conversation with your Mrs.

It's a hard thing to deal with because you don't want to limit your wife from having a good time, but it's not fair that there are guys at a party/event expecting to play while knowing full well that his wife has no intention of playing. It's one thing if she doesn't want to play with me personally vs she's not playing with ANYONE.

I do KNOW that if I had this problem and discussed it with the Mrs, the Mrs would have no problem asking a guy looking to play with her where his wife is and if she's there to play. She despises guys that play this game and has no problem calling them out on it.

Luckily, this is not a problem that I have had (yet) at the parties we attend. A number of men go to the parties we attend looking forward to playing with the Mrs. There are also a number of women that look forward to playing with me.

What we get out of the LS has as much to do with seeing each other having fun with others as it is anything that we're doing with play partners. This has been working really well for us. If it wasn't, neither of us would have a problem working to solve a problem like the OP is having, including leaving the LS if that's what it took.

Fraunhubby68 - Great info! "From a clown through the window" cracked me up. - lol! Can't believe the number of people who still eat there on the daily. We try to avoid anything with GMO's, High Fructose Corn Syrup or artificial dyes. If we don't know what it is on the label we don't put it in our bodies. I'm sure there's a pill for that right?

Ronkathy - Didn't mean to make people in their 50's out to be crypt keepers - ha! We are actually in the mid to higher end of 50's now (need to change that on our profile). Always forget that it doesn't change automatically like on some other sites. Was just saying we haven't re-engaged to the level we once were and may never. Hope not, but just being realistic as the opportunities will only continue to narrow down.

As usual RonKathy, among others, are correct.

There are some things one cannot control as we age, like disease. But almost everyone can work on fitness and weight.

Keeping weight down to the norm for one's height has gotten easier with medical help. Most people not in dire circumstances can watch what they eat, walk/run, lift weights, and do cardio. Healthy folks can perform better in bed - fact.

I'd start with a full medical physical with labs.

See a nutritionist. But we can save you this trip: If it comes in a crinkly package, don't eat it. If it comes from a clown through a window, don't eat it. Eat real food: meat, veggies, real starches (rice, potatoes, cauliflower, quality fresh breads).

Start today with 5 pushups. Tomorrow do 7. And so on. Better yet, find a workout buddy and do it three times a week.

Perk up your wardrobe and tailor your clothes.

Add a personality and one's chances of temporary love go way up. Cheers!

A lot of it is mental … I have never considered myself “old” (and still don’t), partly I suppose because I never had kids and didn’t have to “act” or play the role of a parent, which I would expect magnifies the “old” mentality as the kids grow older … always a kid at heart. Staying in shape and taking care of the body, as RonKathy, alluded to also helps. I do HIIT workouts 4 days a week in addition to dancing, pickleball and bicycling. Being “bionic” downstairs also helps with the self confidence in allowing me to continue acting and thinking “young”, knowing I can play anytime just like the younger guys. Hopefully will end up like the 100 year old uncle :-).

As we've gotten older things have changed but not really slowed down. We're as active as ever.

It's more travelling to organized hotel events and house parties now than doing couple dates with new people.

Hang in there, im alway open to older men

FUN.. just wondering at the age in 50's were a prime time for "our" swinging.. kids out of house , plenty of free time, and well just great time and parties. what you are saying fits more our age now 71 and 68.

Yes since "covid" we also have seen many changes for the worse. Seems many newbies of people who think they come on SLS and its instant sex without putting any effort into it. We get weekly requests to play with people who do not fit what we are looking for. Some well known parties we attended in another state disappeared.

We have actually met more swingers now at our gym and the regular SLS ones we thank you!

OP - Pretty much a fact of life we'll all have to deal with eventually. We were very active pre world bug, but lost some good years due to it and haven't really re-engaged to the level we were before then. Resulting age women issues for the wifey and men issues for the hubby also put a damper on things. Always try to find the positives and enjoy life. On a lifestyle cruise we went on a decade ago the majority of the cpls were a good 15 plus years older than we were. We both found it stimulating that they were still enjoying life together. Now in the same position (30+ together) we hold on to the memories we created and the possibilities that may still come.

Someonescoming- when I first stopped drinking soda, I felt like a dug addict going through withdraw. I had to cut back slowly. Now , I can't touch the stuff. It tastes like Sugar . Like I'm eating a bag of sugar.

@SexyCpl722 - You both look great at your age (our age-ish). Will you be attractive to the 25 yo super model? Probably not, but do you even have an interest in someone your kids age? Also probably not.

Be friendly, open, honest, and most importantly be confident. Be proud you made it to this age without offing yourself early on some of the dumb shit we all did when we were young. We are no longer young and I can't cum 5 or 6 times a night like I could back then, but like Toby Kieth said "I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once, as I ever was". Maturing is a fact of life, but "aging out" is a choice you can choose to avoid for a while longer I believe.

I learned late in life that sugar is a poison.
Avoid it. You can cut back slowly and use natural substitutes like stevia.

well said 6Z !

It happens. Just like ageism in the workplace. If you're going enough, then start by taking care of yourself now. If you're older already, start taking care as much as possible now. The reality is that many people forgo their health and how it impacts their looks when they're younger and they pay for it when they're older.

OP you guys are a great looking couple.. use it to your advantage. Couples and woman love a confidant good looking guy. By no means do I think I am good looking, just average but always dress up meeting new folks and other woman.. it has worked .

For "us" we dont ever look at swinging like you mentioned.. one is 71 one is 68 and yes photos in white dress and black dress were recent from our playtimes.. couple photos are from this year.

We BOTH work hard daily at working out with heavy weights and cardio, , playing sports 3 days a week at least, dress for success always when out and meeting new people, fun positive attitude, go dancing monthly, traveling, etc etc.. we live a very active positive life and neither one will sit on sidelines and allow age to take us down.. seems we do attract the same people and meet them out and about, at our gym , yes swingers and from fellow SLS folks .. we thank you!

WE both take 10-12 vitamins, pre pro biotics daily with a start every morning with a pure lemon grinded up in water.. I take testosterone shots weekly , amazing difference, collagen daily in our coffee, and it just works.

One had a 100 year old uncle who was a swinger and talked about until his last breath how he loved the touch of a woman and the scents associated with them.. enjoyed just touching and holding them also very positive lived too 103 years old.

We have NO plans to wave any white flag soon..yes bodies take longer to heal after workouts , but we also add red light therapy and we swear the saunas work wonders too at ONE LIFE .

Yes, depressing....

I'll say it's the same for singles too and possibly a little tougher. Sometimes the decision to step away isn't made by you

So how do us older guys deal with the fact that we are no longer attractive to most women, while our wives / partners can literally fuck at will?
Should we retire from the lifestyle? One can only watch so much of their significant other getting fucked or hearing about it before it gets plain old depressing…. Comments?