Massages

With an attitude like that, I can't possibly think of how things could go wrong.

Thought it would be something she would really enjoy. After all we are on sls. I guess I'll just take her out to dinner and buy her some jewelry. YYYaaawwwnnn. Then next year for her b'day we can go to counseling where she can complain that I am boring and never want to do anything exciting with her.

As a woman? Even if I didn't freak out, I would never, ever trust anyone who set me up like that. And I would feel used, a vehicle for your fantasies, and unloved as well as uncared for.

If I consented, this would be hot. Without my consent, this is some fucked up shit.

"If she freaks out she will never trust me again."

Red flag right there.

Do you really want your partner to lose trust in you based on the possibility to fulfill your fantasy?

I am a trained massage therapist who has done just what you desire. Except everyone was honest with each other.

No way I would get into this situation.

I respect your opinion although it is given with out any knowledge of me, my girlfriend, our situation, our relationship, our desires and fantasies or why we are on sls. You are a single male looking to have sex with someone else's wife or girlfriend but pretend to be an expert on relationships and respect. I finds that to be ironic.

Y'know, you could both just try respecting your wives' wishes and not try to deceive them into having sex with another man.

Just a thought.

William,
I am looking for exactly the same thing for my girlfriend of 7 years. I found someone in the Boston area that does just what we are looking for. We are traveling there this week to visit family and he has agreed to come to our hotel room and give her this massage which hopefully will turn into an erotic massage if she let's it play out. He told me he has done this before and can make the transition in a way that she will enjoy and accept the heightened pleasure.
My issue with this is if I tell her it could turn into an erotic massage with the goal of multiple Os she may get cold feet. But if just tell her it's a massage for her b'day she will gladly accept and enjoy the massage.
What happens when the masseur starts to touch her vag or breasts and she freaks out instead of enjoying the feeling? If she enjoys it we are all in for a treat. If she freaks out she will never trust me again. What to do?