Pretty much the same scenario as most, wife will be having a drink alone at the bar while I am watching from a vantage point. When wife sees a hot guy she may be interested in playing with she will make a faint eye contact with him and wait for him to approach her, if he doesn’t make the first move she will go to the restroom and call me to tell me he is hot and possibly the one she would like to have and of course I will encourage her to go for it. On her way back to her seat she will walk very close to him and gently swipe her hand across his ass and continue to her seat. Usually he will approach her and it is on. She will explain to him that I am in the bar and we are interested in mfm in our room. If he is not comfortable with a threesome she will either move on to some other guy or let me know that she will be up in the room with him and I will continue with my drink until he leaves then I can go to the room for hot sloppy seconds.
starting a 3some in a normal bar
Interesting topic! I think one of two scenarios would work, or will at least put fourth effort by the couple.
Scenario1, the wife will be at the bar by herself with the husband watching close by from another seat, she flirts with the single guy she likes and vice versa, then when the moment is right the wife tells the guy that she has a husband, he’s straight, he’s very open and good with the 3some, and tell the guy you want to be with both he and husband at the same time, good time to flirt and touch the guy with foreplay, and then invite him to the room and call the husband over where he’ll reiterate everything his wife said to the guy making the single guy comfortable and he should say yes at that point.
Scenario2, Husband and Wife are both at the bar next to one another and she’s next to the single guy she likes. She flirts with the single guy, with the husband reassuring that this is ok (suttle moves like husband pointing to the wife’s ass to to single guy will help break the ice), then be honest like with scenario one, let the wife take the lead with the luring the single guy to the room and have the husband reiterate he’s definitely good with it and is straight, the single guy should get a yes at that point. I like scenario 2 myself, especially with the husband holding his wife hips pressing close to her butt and the wife grabs the single guys waist and thrust him over to her front with a passionate kiss with her whispering in the single guys ear, I want both of you! That definitely works!
Both scenarios have worked for me. Meeting the single guy while he’s alone at the bar definitely helps too, or if the single guy is with a group of friends, have the wife tell the single guy to meet her at the bar later, this should work too. Honesty and having the couple making the single guy feel comfortable with the mfm 3 some, especially with reassurance from the supportive husband definitely helps.
Maltafuncouple: I curious to how the Vegas experience went.
While it have been many years since we picked up a stray single guy.... doing it in Vegas is like shooting fish in a barrel. But I think the Woman needs to be the instigator. Why wait all night. One easy way to start a conversation…. my wife will offer to buy the cute guy a drink. If you look for my approval, I will say something like " sure... we are hear to party and have good time... this round is on us."
This way of meeting seems to work the best for us! She will find someone she's into, and once he's comfortable, it's fun time! Unfortunately, the online way isn't her thing :-(
I generally grab the husband when the wife has gone to the ladies room and give him the old wink, wink, nudge, nudge, your wife's a goer? routine
I really enjoy the scenario of meeting a couple and a bar. It's worked out a couple times over many years into a hot mfm but the odds are low. It seems like the introduction is fairly easy to sit either by yourself with open seats next to you at a bar or next to a couple and Small Talk starts happening and there's a feeling that there's an interest but taking it to the next step is always the awkward difficult part. Seems like each side is waiting for the other to make the move not wanting to embarrass themselves in case it's just friendly small talk and nothing more. What's your signal?
Her and the wife made out once. But she seems to be more into playing matchmaker
Has your bartender ever been rewarded for being so helpful? Inquiring minds want to know.
We also hang out at a hotel bar. The bare tender helps hook us up with diff guys It works out well. Tons of married businessmen guys
We did this once in Cancun on vacation. The Mrs picked up this 30-something and all of us were drinking and the Mrs asked if he wanted to join us. It was kind of funny because he kept looking at me and asking if it was OK and couldn't believe what was happening. The 2 of us took turns on her mouth and pussy and then called it a night.
The guy had a male roommate and we told him maybe do a repeat and have him join us, but we never saw him the rest of the trip. It was a big and crowded resort. I'm sure it made his vacation a VERY memorable one.
Hoping to try that with my wife some day.
We have worked several 3somes in bars. Most memorable one was a young guy who’s dad owned the bar. Wife just came out and asked he said yes. Walked 3 blocks to his house. He was a bit nervous with me there so I raided fridge came back just as he was cumming in her So hot never scene him again
We agree 100% with Mahem8 The drama just is not worth it
While it can be exciting and we have in the past picked up a guy and double teamed the Mrs, vanillas in general just kind of scare us now for this type of thing in general.
That's not to say a LS person wouldn't cheat on their partner, but if they did they wouldn't be freaked out about it afterwards. We would feel horrible if we were the cause of a relationship to be broken up. Even worse if/when the cheated on partner somehow finds out about you and decides to be vengeful. We put it right in our profile that we would never intentionally play with a cheater.
We have seen this happen to friends and what they say about a women's scorn is very true. In this case she found the people on Facebook and posted stuff there and also where he worked and literally posted something on a work type bulletin board. He was called into his bosses office about it. It was a nightmare people can do without and no sex is worth that.
The wife and I were talking of this topic last week and she reminded me of one negative experience we had picking up a vanilla SM (at least we thought was single). We were at a business conference where I had given a presentation and were down in the hotel bar that evening. We were sitting at the bar and got to talking with a younger guy (early/mid 30s). This was purely a vanilla conversation with no intent to "pick up" him or anyone else that evening.
Someone from the conference in the bar recognizes me and asks a question, so I end up going over to a table of people with him to "talk shop" for a bit. Much drinking and conversation ensued, but whenever I would glance back over toward the wife, she seemed to be happily having an animated, friendly conversation, drinking with the young man, so I did not get in a hurry to get back.
Probably an hour went by before I returned to her at the bar. When I sat down, she leans over and whispers in my ear "I found a puppy I really like, can I take him home with us".
Long story short, she invited him up to the room and he was absolutely fascinated by the chance to be with her. He and I double teamed her, and a great time was had by all, until things were wrapping up and he was starting to get dressed. Then he started to get freaked out!!!
"I've never before cheated on my wife. What is she finds out? I've gotta call her a fess up! Oh fuk, oh fuk, oh fuk, what am I gonna do?". This young man was practically in tears.
We coached him and calmed him as much as possible in the circumstances, but it was a huge downer at the end of a fun evening. I sincerely hope he went home, forgot all about it, and did not cause any drama for his wife and family about his indiscretion while on his business trip.
The wife has gone into nice bars before and has been picked up by men. When I join them after a half hour or so, the guy doesn't know what to make of it. When we invite him back to the room for a drink, he gets it. I usually leave him to have his way with the wife because sometimes, a guy can't get it up after a few drinks with another cock in the room. She pays him a lot of attention and that usually does it. It's fun. Sometimes hard to find the right guy....
@malta... In Vegas you don't have to go out to either a nice or seedy bar to pick up men. All you need do is stay in a nice hotel with a large bar/lounge. There will be plenty of men and couples there looking to hook up. The bonus is that you can choose whether to go to their room or your own room !
I a M.W.M. I have ben Hit on in a bar lots of times Its the man that ask if I want to join he and his lady for Talk and drinks. I just say yes and go talk with then hoping it lead to play. Some time it don't some time it douse not. when it dose it is Great
Well thanks for all the feedback friends. We'll be in Las Vegas over the Christmas period. Any suggestions on best possible pick up bars there (not swinger clubs I mean, just normal bars were this fantasy can maybe materialize)
In a normal bar. I can,t see many guys just coming over and starting up a chat. Maybe if sitting at the bar as a cpl may be a good chance a sgl guy shows up, engage in small talk, have a few cocktails and see where it leads you.
Hunter,
The robbery fear is something I haven’t thought about in quite a while, but you are right. A heightened sense of caution is prudent in those situations.
Musical,
I KNOW my wife would love the fun surprise (as long as the guy wasn’t an asshat)
Aside from the obvious potential issues, trying to find playmates in a bar that you frequent and know people in could have other problems. One such problem is having an acquaintance come up to you some day and say, "How can you let another man fuck your wife?"
No guarantees either way, but at least with LS folks you're less likely to have someone that's going to brag to others about their exploits with you. If they did, that would pretty much be a HUGE hit on their future LS success. People love to talk and it goes both ways.
Hotluvrs the Craigslist ads always screamed set up for a robbery to me. But, in Memphis you have to expect everything is a set up.
The only way I would play that scenario out is from a connection on here. The very first couple I ever played with was a surprise for me and the wife. I didn’t know that she and were in the dark, until a couple weeks later. Worked out fine though.
Phoenix Cougar, you are correct. This would not be the way to introduce an unsuspecting wife to swinging. It's just another role-play game for a couple who is used to the Lifestyle. In this case, the wife would appreciate the fun surprise.