Hotluvrs, in our case, our experience was after we had been pretty active in the "lifestyle" for 17 years, enjoying lots of different situations.
By no means was it a sly introduction for her into unfamiliar territory....the only thing unique on this occasion was the path to get there. Otherwise, I totally agree, that kind of approach has all kinds of negative ramifications if a couple is not otherwise experienced.
There used to be ads on Craigslist all the time for single men to meet an unsuspecting wife. Those always seemed pretty creepy to me. My assumption was that there was some shady husband who was too scared to talk openly and honestly to his wife about bringing in a man for a mfm, or for a cuck scenario.
For the husbands on this site doing it, I have to assume they are legit, and frankly, I can see the hotness potential of that kind of encounter.
In the Craigslist world, it was just... eww!
The setting up of the impormptu encounter by the guys feels like going behind the women's back and getting them into something unintentional. Its more exciting when it's the women who looks out for it
Yeah, I had one like that, too. I had planned it carefully, and was texting the guy on the sly. I wrote, "We're here now. come on over when you're ready." He never came.
But then, when we went to the coffee shop afterwards, he came walking up. "Oh, here you are. I couldn't find you." Ruined the whole thing.
I am reminded of a time when I thought that I had set-up a plan with a single guy from here on SLS to approach my wife while we were out at a sports bar, having a light dinner. After several conversations, I thought that we had it all set-up to appear as an impromptu approach by him to her, that after a couple of moments of light chat, I would ask him to join us, and he would gradually progress from there. He assured me that he could pull-off the "casual approach" and do his part to flow the conversation.
He was already there when we arrived. Almost immediately after we sat down, before we were totally settled, he approached our table and spoke. His first comment was something to the effect of, while looking at me, "Hello, is this what you meant for me to meet you all?" and then looked at her and said something about knowing us from SLS.
DUMBASS...…..guess I need to buy him a dictionary so that he can study the word "impromptu"!!!!!!
We were out at a local spot this past weekend. My wife spent a lot of time going back and forth to the ladies room, and the dance floor. Guys were trying to flirt with her every time. Once she told them she was there with her husband, they would jump back as if burnt. But, like a moth to the flame, they kept getting closer whenever she was alone.
It was awesome for her ego.
Having a vanilla guy relax is going to be difficult when the husband is near. Having a vanilla guy relax is easier if they think husband is just another dude.
I’ve had my wife tell a guy at the bar, “I’m married. I’m here with my friend. He’s married too.”
My approach to this is to guarantee it will happen for the male (me) to pre-arranging with a single guy (from this site, or another.) Make it a surprise for the wife. Tell the single guy where you'll be and when. Tell them what you'll be wearing. Have the guy come up and ask the woman to dance. She'll look at you and ask, "Is that okay."
"Of course it is."
As the night goes on, this guy gets more friendly. She may catch on that it's pre-arranged, or maybe not. But, you can pretend that you don't know this guy. Whether she takes him out to car, or there's a room reserved upstairs, since this single guy is in the LS, it will work out fine.
And what about if we are at Las Vegas known to be the sin city? Is it easier to be approached?
Maltafuncouple, not every man can get and maintain an erection when there's another cock in the room. Of the number that are left after that deficiency, not every man can go very long because an mfm is a little too exciting. And then there are the too big/too small outliers. So, vanilla guys are kinda like hoping lightning will strike in just the right place. Possible, but disappointment is the more likely outcome.
@goodgollymsmolly98226 - Disappointment as in no one accepts or as in the guys are no good?
@PHOENIXCOUGAR - So it would be good to tease them from afar and showing them our interest
@BILLNSUZIE Thanks for your compliments and comments
Totally agree that very few guys are going to approach an unknown couple in a bar.
As others have noted, you could sit separately and see who approaches, but don't discount the possibility of her approaching him. Most guys would love to be approached.
You guys know what you're there for and if he turns out not to be a fit then she's got backup there to get her out of it with a discrete signal.
Oh, yeah, it's pretty easy for a couple to pick up a guy in a bar - it's how my co-conspirator was introduced to swinging - and Scamp's suggestion to have her sit alone will also work, at least for the initial pickup. It's the fantasy of having a vanilla guy approach a couple that is a low percentage shot.
Depends on what you mean by "starting". Because in most places, stripping down and having group sex on the bar is going to get you kicked out. Not because people are prudish, but because customers can't get the bartender's attention to buy drinks. ;)
It is rare for any vanilla single guy to approach a couple so perhaps sit apart from each other and see if a guy will approach her? As long as she is outgoing and fun, she will get attention. Then, after she has a guy “on the hook”, she can tell him that her husband likes to share and introduce him. Many guys will spook but this at least gets the ball rolling.
Good luck and have fun!
~Scamp
The chance of a vanilla guy approaching an unknown couple is slim. Doesn't matter how cute the wife is. As long as she's with another man, some kind of bro code usually prevents the approach of anyone who isn't drunk or bent in some way.
Will more than a few say yes if you approach them? Yep. Will some of them be unable to perform with another man in the room? Also yep.
There's nothing wrong with your fantasy, but you'll have to make the approach and there is a decent chance what you end up with will be a disappointment.
Just a thought...…..what action(s) by someone else would make you comfortable approaching them? Then YOU (hubby or wife, as appropriate) be the one doing that same action to the prospect.
Ron beat me to the punch but I was about to say the same thing. You have the good looks, if someone might be interested, you certany could tempt them LOL
Hi all. We are a swinger couple. Our favourite moments are when we meet some single guy in a normal bar and he approaches us for a conversation and then things develop from there 'innocently'. However we find that many single guys are afraid to approach couples. An suggestions on how best to surpass this difficulty?
