[LOCKED]question for all

This last poster showed up on our "random matches" in spite of being 1,000 miles away. Bizarre.

We got very lucky with our first guy. A total gentleman and genuinely likable but it took us a few months to find one because we're careful.

Annie, what should we expect if we ever do go to a swingers club? We're not looking for another female or couple. Just a decent looking guy who is respectful and fun.

Take her to a swingers club. There is no pressure- just go and watch and see how things go.
She can see people dancing and having a good time and maybe even talk to some experienced women in the lifestyle.

Also- use the Spell Check button for your profile, it helps.

Good Luck

No photo my not knowing how. I let the computer kick my butt. Wife like i said had bad experence so is very unsure of were this goes. Said she will see as i am the alpha in the family. She has bedroom fantasy that she was wanting to do. As for me solo she nor i wanted to misrepresent our status. So as hot to let people think we are couple an her not show. That is why i need help she is gun shy about last time. The guy was to fast moving for her. We love each other an we want to make each other happy. Just need suggestions on if at all she can have her exciting fantasy's. Hope that helped explain. Still can not navigate this site. I am more hands on face to face. My son is the one started me on texting. An he put it so i talk an it prints(sometime) what i say. Just need help to get started off an show her the life style is not all that bad.

Bigfoot if you're playing as a Couple- Why do you have a Single Man's profile?
And no pictures?

Annie

Wife an i are going to get in the motor home an travel an see the slights. My wife an i are new to life style she is very shy almost school girl at first. But when she get to know you look out i am over friendly. We have had couple meetings but wife takes time wants to get to know last time we meet couple through was ok but husband rushed into things now she is afraid to even meet people as to it might happen again . help as i know she wants to meet people but how do i get her to not be total turn off. She said me go solo an tell her about my adventures HELP

Thanks, figured it it right after posting of course! ??

Total number of pictures on your profile, public and private.

What does the number in the black box on the bottom right-hand corner of a profile represent?

Kinkycouple4- you just jump in and give your two cents worth of wisdom or if you leave A question. It might get a response further down the message board. So advice to check it often. I've missed a few myself and had to play catchup.

Don't think I fully understand the concept behind these chat rooms, but I was under the impression that while in a chat room I would be involved in an on-going group conversation. Of anybody has a minute to explain me these ropes, please feel free to message me. Thanks Guys...

Hey There Long Island !!
I think I can help you out;)
Good points !! It's unique to be the SWM on this site .. clubs are the way to go .. present well and honestly.. or move on ..
Jon

Hey Everone,
Looking for a bit of help, been on the site for a few weeks, just became a paid member a few days ago. Feeling like there are a lot of real people on here, looking for suggestions to gain the interest of couples and women on here.
I've been out of the lifestyle for a few years, was on AFF years ago and had great success but that turned into fake ads, etc.
Any woman or couple I've met in the past always loved their time with me and we would meet again and again.
Just looking for a pointer or two!
Thanks!

Hey Long Island Couple....

Emails and chatting (texting) is the best way to break through to connect with a willing single guy.
Always exchange photos and as a final step before actually meeting, have a text or chat. In that format you can actually get to know someone. The SLS chat is especially great, when both turn on the video. That's exciting and kinky (if things develop in that way) but best of all you actually do get to know someone after one or two chats.
The first meeting is the gut check... or really a different body part lower... You will know after that first hello, handshake, hug or kiss. That will tell the story.
Good luck in your search and I would love to hear your story of when things finally happen.

Well hot damn! Just checked out the pics of the Mrs. and you shouldn't have any trouble. As part of the Welcoming Committee I encourage you to mingle with the fora. Flirting is optional but can help speed things up.

We are brand new as well and looking for a male or couple to be with the wife!!

Jand why does your age stop everything? We are 50 and play with couples of all ages from 30 to 60. Find a local private swingers group in which everyone plays. you will have a ball.
One thing that i noticed over the years with the younger women and couples is they want a confident man when the man is much older.

have you tried Clubs?

If everyone is so picky how does anyone get any play or meet anyone? I mean I know everyone has a preference but for real this site is like a fantasy wish game. My wife is 20 years younger than me so my age stops everything. Everyone is interested in her but not willing to give in on my age. Then she has a small preference of age herself. I am just going to give up on this and just keep my fantasies in my head because at this point nothing will ever happen on here.

As a couple where he is bi and she is straight; how do you find that elusive bi male unicorn???

How do we pick single guys? First, have a great profile. If you just say, "Looking to have some fun," well .... duh! Aren't we all. 2nd, have friendly pictures. A nice smile, and a twinkle in the eye helps a lot. 3rd, be real and be honest. As the female half, I'm not impressed by your claims to a 10" cock. I want to know that you are friendly, fun, and have a sense of humor.

Next, we need to chat. You need to be able to write a coherent sentence. "ur hot lets fuk" will get you deleted. If you say, "I don't do endless chats," well too bad. We both need to get a sense of who you are. I date single men, but I don't date assholes, bullies, crude boys, or slobs. There are a lot of them out there.

So, as a single guy, let us know that you have manners, reasonable intelligence, and a sense of humor about yourself, and about the lifestyle. Get all that right, and you'll probably receive an invitation to some kind of event.

Maya

The lovely LR deleted her profile last year.

And. LR. You make no sense.

Being a single guy has its downs too. Too many of us out there but the quality is thin. How do couples or single ladies pick out the decent ones? You might have to have ' wingmen' to help out a situation. But us guys largely get left out. Any big parties that happen have a single guys aren't invited and we can't comment either. I personally feel discriminated against. Oh please dont tell me to stop whining. Couples maybe haven't gone the singles zone problem. My tablet is crap it tries to respell my words! Juditann...used to live 7n your area and wish I knew you. Im waiting for hits to come.

Hello everyone!! we are looking for regularly hosted house parties with at least 20 people attending in the Macomb or St Clair County , MI area. Would appreciate any info you may have. Thanks, Jim and Judy